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  • Resolving ConflictsHow to friendsBy Cara Baldree

  • You Will LearnWhat a conflict isWhy it happensIf anger is badHow to resolve conflictCommunication SkillsHow to have healthy relationships with others

  • Why Is This Important?So you can be HAPPY!So you can have a lot of friends.So you can learn to compromise.So you can have healthy, lasting relationships.So you dont get into trouble.

  • What Is A Conflict?a fight, battle, or struggle a collision between ideasa disagreement between peoplea quarrel

  • Why Does Conflict Happen?There are MANY reasons!!! Some examples are:1. Someone takes something from you that is yours.2. Someone teases you.3. A misunderstanding happens.4. Plans change.5. Someone was dishonest.6. Feelings were hurt.7. Talk to your table about a conflict you remember.

  • Is Anger Bad?No, no, no.unless it is inappropriately acted out (i.e. angry words or touch, etc.)It is NORMAL to feel angry.What makes YOU angry?I feel angry when

  • How Do You Resolve Conflict?Resolve means to fix or find a solution for something.COMMUNICATE!!Negotiate (bargaining with someone)Compromise Walk Away/ Find help

  • CommunicateBe assertive (speak up respectfully about your feelings!) DONT be aggressive!No name calling.Take turns talking. Dont interrupt.Use I messages. Whats this??Examples:*You never let me play basketball at recess!I feel hurt when you dont let me play basketball at recess.*Stop teasing me about my weight, or Ill bust your face!I feel embarrassed when you tease me about my body.

  • Role Play I Messages!!The teacher needs to assign each table one conflict to act out in front of the class. (e.g. Someone butts you in the line, or someone left you out from playing.)Pick someone from each group to play the bully/bullies.Take turns practicing saying the I message.PRACTICE and look the bully in the eye. Use a calm voice, but be firm.

  • NegotiateThis is like making a bargain.For this to happen, you must come up with a plan.Example: You borrow a book from the library and put it on your desk. The person next to you grabs it and begins to read it. You try to be assertive and say, I would like to have my book back. Please get your own book to read, but the person refuses.You need a plan!!! Talk about a negotiation with your table.

  • The PlanExamples you might say to him/ her:Ill let you read it when I have finished.Read it first and then give it back.

    * The other person might agree with your plan, ending the negotiation. If they disagree, keep negotiating. Sometimes, the other person comes up with a plan. You can agree or disagree with this. You may be able to go to the next step: compromise.

  • CompromiseThis is like giving something up in order to both get at least part of what you wish to have.A good compromise will leave both students feeling that the solution was fair, even if they didnt completely get what they wanted.Compromise is a part of growing up.

  • PROBLEM!!!What do you do if a compromise isnt made??Sometimes people wont compromise. What now???

  • Walk Away/ Find HelpWalk away and find something new.Ignore bad behavior from others.Find help if there is a big problem, but it is best to learn to use your words to solve conflicts.ALWAYS SHOW SELF-CONTROL.