Resolving Conflict Conflict ~ "Sound the Battle Cry!"

Resolving ConflictResolving Conflict

Conflict ~ "Sound the Conflict ~ "Sound the Battle Cry!"Battle Cry!"


Conflict is: to disagree to be opposed, to Conflict is: to disagree to be opposed, to be contrary, clash, collide, be be contrary, clash, collide, be

inharmoniousinharmoniousMost people do not deal with conflicts Most people do not deal with conflicts

openly because no one has ever taught openly because no one has ever taught them effective ways of dealing with it.them effective ways of dealing with it.


Five ways to deal with Five ways to deal with conflict are:conflict are:WITHDRAW:WITHDRAW:

If you have a tendency to view conflict If you have a tendency to view conflict as a hopeless inevitability which you as a hopeless inevitability which you can do little to control, you may not can do little to control, you may not even try. You may withdraw physically even try. You may withdraw physically by leaving the scene or you may leave by leaving the scene or you may leave psychologically.psychologically.


Five ways to deal with Five ways to deal with conflict are:conflict are:WIN:WIN:

If you feel that you must always look after If you feel that you must always look after your own interests or your self-concept is your own interests or your self-concept is threatened in a conflict.threatened in a conflict.

You must win no matter what the cost, You must win no matter what the cost, you must win! you must win!


Five ways to deal with Five ways to deal with conflict are:conflict are:YIELD:YIELD:

This is giving in to get along, it's This is giving in to get along, it's another style. another style. You don't like it, but rather than risk a You don't like it, but rather than risk a confrontation you choose this path.confrontation you choose this path.

You "Give Way" or in other words Yield!You "Give Way" or in other words Yield!

Resolving ConflictResolving ConflictFive ways to deal with Five ways to deal with conflict are:conflict are:COMPROMISE:COMPROMISE:

"Give a little to get a little" is called "Give a little to get a little" is called compromise.compromise.

You may find that it is important to let up on You may find that it is important to let up on some of your demands or ideas in order to some of your demands or ideas in order to help the other person give a little.help the other person give a little.

You don't want to win all the time nor do you You don't want to win all the time nor do you want the other person to win all the time.want the other person to win all the time.

Resolving ConflictResolving ConflictFive ways to deal with Five ways to deal with conflict are:conflict are:RESOLVE:RESOLVE:

A person may choose to resolve A person may choose to resolve conflicts.conflicts.

In dealing with conflicts in this style, a In dealing with conflicts in this style, a situation, attitude, or behaviour is changed situation, attitude, or behaviour is changed

by open & direct communication.by open & direct communication.

So, which style do you use in dealing So, which style do you use in dealing with CONFLICT?with CONFLICT?


When we look at how conflict was When we look at how conflict was handle in the Bible we see all of the handle in the Bible we see all of the different styles.different styles.Cain displayed Cain displayed WINWIN at all cost! at all cost!

Resolving Resolving ConflictConflict

Pilate wanted Pilate wanted COMPROMISECOMPROMISE

He washed his hands but it didn't solve He washed his hands but it didn't solve the conflict.the conflict.


Jesus the master of all situation brought Jesus the master of all situation brought RESOLVERESOLVE ! !


Reconciliation means that the conflict is Reconciliation means that the conflict is resolved but the issue is still there.resolved but the issue is still there.

Reconciliation's is when the Reconciliation's is when the relationship is in harmony or unity.relationship is in harmony or unity.Where as Resolution is when the Where as Resolution is when the issue is finally Resolved. issue is finally Resolved.

This is where we need forbearance This is where we need forbearance with each other.with each other.

Which is making allowances for Which is making allowances for weakness without judgment.weakness without judgment.


Resolving conflict has to come this Resolving conflict has to come this way;way;

Eph 4:15 But speaking the truth in love, may grow Eph 4:15 But speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, [even] up into him in all things, which is the head, [even] Christ: 16 From whom the whole body fitly joined Christ: 16 From whom the whole body fitly joined together and compacted by that which every joint together and compacted by that which every joint supplieth, according to the effectual working in the supplieth, according to the effectual working in the measure of every part, maketh increase of the body measure of every part, maketh increase of the body unto the edifying of itself in love. unto the edifying of itself in love.

1. Speaking in Love1. Speaking in Love

2. Grow up into him in all 2. Grow up into him in all thingsthings3. Edifying in Love3. Edifying in Love

Resolving ConflictResolving ConflictEph 4:27 Neither give place to the Eph 4:27 Neither give place to the

devil.devil.Strong's Greek Lexicon 5117 top’-os AV-place, room, Strong's Greek Lexicon 5117 top’-os AV-place, room, quarter, licence, coast, where, plainquarter, licence, coast, where, plain1)1)place, any portion or space marked off, as it were place, any portion or space marked off, as it were from surrounding space from surrounding space

a) an inhabited place, as a city, village, a) an inhabited place, as a city, village, district district

b) a place (passage) in a book b) a place (passage) in a book 2) metaphor. 2) metaphor.

a) the condition or station held by one in any a) the condition or station held by one in any company company or assemblyor assembly b) opportunity, power, occasion for actingb) opportunity, power, occasion for acting

Resolving ConflictResolving ConflictEph 4:27 Neither give place to the Eph 4:27 Neither give place to the

devil.devil.

We surrender ground and Satan builds a We surrender ground and Satan builds a StrongholdStronghold

and sends out tormentors!and sends out tormentors!

Tear Down The Tear Down The StrongholdStronghold

Surrendered Ground - Wrong Mind Sets or Surrendered Ground - Wrong Mind Sets or Wrong IdeasWrong Ideas

Lust of the Lust of the FleshFlesh

Which Which ProducesProducesWrong IdeasWrong Ideas(Stronghold(Strongholds)s)

Which Which ProducesProducesWrong Wrong ActionsActions(Iniquity)(Iniquity)

Which Which ProducesProducesWrong Wrong ResultsResults(Tormentor(Tormentors)s)

Lust of the Lust of the EyeEyePride of LifePride of Life

Solution: Deal With The StrongholdsSolution: Deal With The Strongholds

2. Claim The Power Of The Blood2. Claim The Power Of The Blood1Jo 1:7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we 1Jo 1:7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his SonSoncleanseth us from all sin.cleanseth us from all sin.

"Strongholds" Are False "Strongholds" Are False IdeasIdeas

Become "Mind Sets"Become "Mind Sets"

1. Confess Your Sins - Be Specific About Them - True Repentance1. Confess Your Sins - Be Specific About Them - True Repentance1Jo 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us 1Jo 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us [our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.[our] sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

3. Ask God To Re-claim The Ground You Lost - 3. Ask God To Re-claim The Ground You Lost - Piece By PiecePiece By PieceEph 4:27 Neither give place to the devil. Eph 4:27 Neither give place to the devil. Ps 23:3 He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the Ps 23:3 He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.

4. Tear Down Strongholds With Truth - Wrong Ideas4. Tear Down Strongholds With Truth - Wrong Ideas2Co 10:4 (For the weapons of our warfare [are] not 2Co 10:4 (For the weapons of our warfare [are] not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) 5 Casting down imaginations, and of strong holds;) 5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;thought to the obedience of Christ;

"Strongholds" Are False Ideas"Strongholds" Are False IdeasBecome "Mind Sets"Become "Mind Sets"

5. Build A Fortresses Of Truth5. Build A Fortresses Of TruthPr 4:23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for Pr 4:23 Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it [are] the issues of life. 24 Put away out of it [are] the issues of life. 24 Put away from thee a froward mouth, and perverse lips from thee a froward mouth, and perverse lips put far from thee. 25 Let thine eyes look right put far from thee. 25 Let thine eyes look right on, and let thine eyelids look straight before on, and let thine eyelids look straight before thee. 26 Ponder the path of thy feet, and let thee. 26 Ponder the path of thy feet, and let all thy ways be established. 27 Turn not to the all thy ways be established. 27 Turn not to the right hand nor to the left: remove thy foot right hand nor to the left: remove thy foot from evil.from evil.

"Strongholds" Are False Ideas"Strongholds" Are False IdeasBecome "Mind Sets"Become "Mind Sets"


E-22 CONFLICT.BETWEEN.GOD.AND.SATAN E-22 CONFLICT.BETWEEN.GOD.AND.SATAN 1962 1962 Now, seeing there was going to be a conflict, Now, seeing there was going to be a conflict, and there was going to be a battle, God and there was going to be a battle, God equipped His children with the right kind of equipped His children with the right kind of ammunition, the right kind of attack, the right ammunition, the right kind of attack, the right kind of everything that they had need of that kind of everything that they had need of that would sweep them all the way from Eden to would sweep them all the way from Eden to the rapture. What was it? The Word. The the rapture. What was it? The Word. The Word. That's what defeats Satan is the Word. Word. That's what defeats Satan is the Word. It'll defeat him anywhere, any place. It'll defeat him anywhere, any place.


WithdrawWithdraw WinWin

YieldinYieldingg

CompromisCompromisee

ResolveResolve

Low Concern For Low Concern For RelationshipRelationship

Low In Low In AchieveAchieved Needs d Needs & Goals& Goals

High Concern For High Concern For RelationshipRelationship

High In High In AchieveAchieved Needs d Needs & Goals& Goals


How then can we resolve conflicts?How then can we resolve conflicts?

1) When a conflict arises, instead of demanding 1) When a conflict arises, instead of demanding that you be heard, listen carefully to the other that you be heard, listen carefully to the other

person.person.2) Selecting an appropriate time is an important 2) Selecting an appropriate time is an important factor factor according to this scripture.according to this scripture.

3) Define the problem. 3) Define the problem.

How do you define the problem & How do you define the problem & how does the other person?how does the other person?


4) Define the areas of agreement and 4) Define the areas of agreement and disagreement in the conflict.disagreement in the conflict.

5) Identify your own contribution to the 5) Identify your own contribution to the problem.problem.6) The next step is to state positively what 6) The next step is to state positively what behavior on your part would probably help, behavior on your part would probably help, and to be willing to ask for their opinion.and to be willing to ask for their opinion.

Watch out for Watch out for defensiveness!defensiveness!


Finally Four Don'tsFinally Four Don'ts

1) Don't wait for the other one to come, you 1) Don't wait for the other one to come, you be first.be first.

2) Don't keep bring up the conflict once it 2) Don't keep bring up the conflict once it has been discussed.has been discussed.

3) Don't attack the person but the issue.3) Don't attack the person but the issue.

4) Don't kill the conflict right in its prime by 4) Don't kill the conflict right in its prime by walking out.walking out.


How will you Resolve the How will you Resolve the Conflict?Conflict?

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