RelationshipsRelationships

Lets here what Lets here what Vince Vaughn has to say has to say about relationships!about relationships!

Relationships= bond or connection you Relationships= bond or connection you have with another personhave with another person

Friendship-Significant relationship Friendship-Significant relationship between two people that is built on trust, between two people that is built on trust, caring , and considerationcaring , and consideration

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YAGNvvd2FAA

Intimacy- Closeness between two Intimacy- Closeness between two people that develops over timepeople that develops over time

Infatuation- Exaggerated feelings for Infatuation- Exaggerated feelings for or toward a person or toward a person

What is the end goal of What is the end goal of relationships???relationships???

Marriage???Marriage??? http://www.youtube.com/watch?http://www.youtube.com/watch?

v=eSDmfdiiT94v=eSDmfdiiT94 The EngagementThe Engagement

https://www.youtube.com/watch?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UtPkxzHKLpkv=UtPkxzHKLpk

The WeddingThe Wedding https://www.youtube.com/watch?https://www.youtube.com/watch?

v=HrWBjF9zAq0v=HrWBjF9zAq0

Food for thought…Food for thought…

95% of all 95% of all Americans marry Americans marry at least onceat least once

The average The average marriage lasts marriage lasts 9.4 years9.4 years

Most remarry Most remarry againagain

Think, Pair, ShareThink, Pair, Share

What are some traits or qualities of a What are some traits or qualities of a healthy relationship (same sex or healthy relationship (same sex or opposite sex)?opposite sex)?

Think, Pair, ShareThink, Pair, Share

What are some traits or qualities of What are some traits or qualities of an unhealthy relationship (same sex an unhealthy relationship (same sex or opposite sex)?or opposite sex)?

Some traits to look for…Some traits to look for…Healthy RelationshipsHealthy Relationships

Mutual respectMutual respect CareCare HonestyHonesty CommitmentCommitment TrustTrust BoundariesBoundaries

Priorities- goals, tasks, values Priorities- goals, tasks, values Setting limits- deliberate decision to avoid Setting limits- deliberate decision to avoid

certain behaviors (sexual activity, drugs, certain behaviors (sexual activity, drugs, alcohol)alcohol)

Skills for Building Healthy Skills for Building Healthy RelationshipsRelationships

CommunicationCommunication CooperationCooperation CompromiseCompromise

3 Types of Communication 3 Types of Communication StyleStyle

1. Passive- Unwilling or unable to 1. Passive- Unwilling or unable to express thoughts and feelings in a express thoughts and feelings in a direct mannerdirect manner

Ex: I guess you can do that, just Ex: I guess you can do that, just don’t tell anyonedon’t tell anyone

3 Types of Communication 3 Types of Communication StyleStyle

Aggressive- Being overly forceful, Aggressive- Being overly forceful, pushy or hostilepushy or hostile

3 Types of Communication 3 Types of Communication StyleStyle

Assertive- Expressing your views Assertive- Expressing your views clearly and respectfullyclearly and respectfully

* The best and most effective way to * The best and most effective way to communicate. communicate. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o6LcPfnwGec

QuestionQuestion

How important do you think How important do you think communication is in relationships?communication is in relationships?

Question Question

What do you think is the most What do you think is the most important quality in a relationship?important quality in a relationship?

Guy/girlGuy/girl Guy/guyGuy/guy Girl/girlGirl/girl

Can you have a relationship with Can you have a relationship with someone you do not trust?someone you do not trust?

What is a clique? What is a clique? Do you think having cliques is helpful Do you think having cliques is helpful

or harmful regarding relationships?or harmful regarding relationships? https://www.youtube.com/watch?https://www.youtube.com/watch?

v=yBAYiBoy43Mv=yBAYiBoy43M

Have you ever been envious or Have you ever been envious or jealous of a friend?jealous of a friend?

How do you feel?How do you feel? How do you handle the situation?How do you handle the situation?

You come back next school year from You come back next school year from summer break. You notice your best summer break. You notice your best friend has changed…a lot. You’re friend has changed…a lot. You’re not clicking like you used to.not clicking like you used to.

What do you say to him/her?What do you say to him/her? How do you handle the situation?How do you handle the situation?

You are in a dating relationship. Your You are in a dating relationship. Your significant other is consuming all significant other is consuming all your time. Your grades are suffering your time. Your grades are suffering and your other friends are and your other friends are complaining you never hang out with complaining you never hang out with them. them.

How do you balance this???How do you balance this???

You have been dating your You have been dating your significant other for almost a year significant other for almost a year now. Other peers are picking on you now. Other peers are picking on you because of the fact you are still a because of the fact you are still a “virgin.” You are proud of your “virgin.” You are proud of your decisions thus far, yet your friends decisions thus far, yet your friends don’t seem to be supportive. don’t seem to be supportive.

What would you do?What would you do?