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Relationship building in therapy:
helpful and unhelpful experiences of
female survivors of interpersonal trauma
Researcher: Maria Leahy, Doctorate in Counselling [email protected]
Research Supervisors:Ms. Felicity Kennedy, The Women’s Therapy
CentreDr. Mary Creaner, Trinity College Dublin
Overview
1. Introduction
2. Current Study
3. Methodology
4. Findings
5. Key Findings and Implications for Practice
Introduction/Brief Literature Review
Research over the past 50 years has consistently shown that ‘it is the relationship that counts’
(e.g. Smith & Glass, 1977; Wampold et al., 1997; Wampold, 2001)
The therapeutic relationship has been found to predict outcome, whilst the differences due to treatment type are modest
(Hovarth & Bedi, 2002)
While the influence of the therapeutic alliance is well established, “little is known about the alliances true function in a therapeutic setting or about how it develops”
(De Roten, et al., 2004, p. 324).
Clients evaluation of the quality of the alliance that predicts outcome
(Horvath et al., 2010)
Significant events studies: what is helpful and unhelpful in therapy
No studies on relationship-building in therapy: helpful and unhelpful experiences
Literature consistently points towards relational needs of survivors of IPT
(Herman, 1997; Sanderson, 2010)
Need for relationally-oriented therapies (Banks, 2006)
Few studies conducted on helpful and unhelpful aspects of therapy
No studies on relationship-development: helpful and unhelpful experiences
Female survivors of IPT- more likely to be exposed to IPT forms of
trauma, than men (Lilly & Valdez, 2010)
- higher rates of PTSD than men, and increased risk of PTSD when trauma is interpersonal in nature
(Lilly & Valdez, 2010)
Survivors have so often been denied a voice – this study aims to give voice to these women’s experiences
The Current Study: Research Questions
1. What is experienced as helpful in building the therapeutic relationship?
2. What is experienced as unhelpful in building the therapeutic relationship?
- as experienced by female survivors of interpersonal trauma -
Interpersonal Trauma (IPT)
“the prolonged and repeated exposure to chronic, multiple, and repeated abuse within relationships, which give rise to complex PTS
symptoms. Such abuse is commonly committed by someone who is in a position of trust, or to
whom the individual is attached, or upon whom the individual is dependent. Ubiquitous to IPT is the abuse of power, use of coercion and control, the distortion of reality, and the
dehumanisation of the victim”
(Sanderson, 2010, p. 23)
Ethical Considerations Inclusion and Exclusion criteria
Ensure Informed Consent
Anonymity
Confidentiality and limits to confidentiality
Focus on relationship-building and not trauma
Ongoing support/continuity
Research Design
Qualitative, exploratory research design
Method of Data Collection: Semi-structured interviews
(60 mins approx)
Method of Data Analysis:Interpretative Phenomenological Analysis (IPA)
Data Collection Nomination of two helpful and two unhelpful experiences prior to
interview
1. Q. 1: What have you experienced as the most helpful in building a relationship with your therapist?. (Please identify two of the most helpful experiences)
2. Q. 2: What have you experienced as the most unhelpful in building a relationship with your therapist?. (Please identify two of the most unhelpful experiences)
Interview (60 minutes approx) Audio recorded and transcribed verbatim
Demographics Sheet
Debrief
Motivation for participating in the research
Understanding of the therapeutic ‘relationship’
Helpful and Unhelpful experiences of therapy (with current and/or previous therapists)
Guiding questions for each of the helpful and unhelpful experiences (IPR – Kagan, 1980)
o Could you tell me how did this come about? o What was it about this that was significant for you?o What impact did this have on your relationship with your therapist?o What impact did this moment have on you?o Were there any thoughts going through your mind at the time?o Were you aware of any feelings you had at this time?o Does any image or metaphor come to mind, that expresses the
significance of this experience for you?
How important is the therapeutic relationship
Development of relationship with therapist
Other
Experience of the interview
Interview Schedule Themes:
Participants9 participants
Age Range: 26 – 64
Length of time in current therapy: 1 week – 17 months
Length of time in previous therapy: 0 – 18 months (7participants), and on/off for 8 - 32 years approx (2 participants)
Nature of IPT:physical, emotional, and sexual abuse within relationship(s)
across avariety of occurrences
Relationship Status: Single (x 5); Unmarried (x 1); Married (x 1); Separated (x
2)
Client nominated helpful relationship-building experiences
Vera: The room where therapy takes place is bright and
comfortable – there is colour in the room and I can see the sky from the window
The therapist is completely non-threatening both in the spoken word and body language. I feel comfortable in her presence
I feel the therapist is very experienced in dealing with survivors of domestic abuse. She does not force issues, and I feel she is very at ease with herself – there is no ego evident, which I found was a problem with therapists in the past .. I am easily brought back to fear through loud voices or threatening body language. My therapist has a soft voice and emanates a peacefulness that immediately puts me at ease
Client nominated unhelpful relationship-building experiences
Nuala: When a therapist pushes too far, too fast, and wants to make you
talk about something you don’t want/aren’t ready to talk about. Especially when you get the impression they’re excited by it. Traumatic difficult events, as opposed to mundane, everyday anxiety OR when they prompt/put words in your mouth to hurry you along
First impressions – young therapists – hard to get going with them
Jackie: I found at the start of my therapy that my therapist introduced
the role play too soon. I wasn’t fully ready to confront that kind of situation and it made me feel quite uncomfortable for the rest of that session. I didn’t bring up anymore for that one session because I did not want her to suggest role play again
Superordinate themes Subordinate themes
1. The Fearful
Protector: Seeking
Safety
Feeling safe enough to be seen
Feeling trust enough to disclose
2. The Vulnerability of
Engaging in the
Unequal Therapeutic
Relationship: “it can
go one of two ways”
Needing to be seen, heard, and understood
Needing to be believed, and not blamed, shamed
or judged
Feeling safe enough to be seen
“I had to keep thinking ahead to try and second guess what was going to happen when he’d get
home. So I lived like that for years and years and years and em even though the home was nice, I
created it, it felt like a prison all the time” (Vera)
“I was only there, only in the door two minutes .. and she said .. did you ever feel like you were the most
important person in somebody’s life and I was like .. that was a bit much .. I didn’t .. that’s why I’m here
and that’s why I’m crying now but it’s too, she was a complete stranger .. I mean there was no, this was
the very first hour, there was no relationship building, there was no trust established, and to come
out with a question like that” (Nuala)
Feeling trusting enough to disclose
“I would put forward say the smaller things first .. for the first six or seven weeks that’s what I did
present [therapists name] with .. and then when I knew that she understood me because she had
helped me so much to deal with the smaller things then I knew ok she understands I can trust her, ya
know, tell her more” (Cora)
“I think in her attempt .. to come across as experienced, she actually came across as quite
amateur, so I left maybe thinking to myself I don’t know how she’s going to be able to help .. I don’t
know if she’ll be able to speak to me about something that would help me in my life and
where I am right now .. that was what has kind of caused that, that eh that rupture” (Melissa)
The unequal therapeutic relationship
“I see therapy as .. you’re taking particular events from your life and putting them under a microscope, and you and the
therapist look together at something, or you’re down there holding up what event has happened in your life and presenting
it and the therapist is looking down at you, so .. ya know, it can go one of two
ways” (Melissa)
Needing to be seen, heard, and understood
“it’s just all about someone not just sitting there and being completely flat and monotone and not reacting .. just being this therapist who listens or asks you things but never shows
any kind of reaction” (Martha)
“like I’d be talking about certain things and she’d explain them to me as to why they happened and I’d be kind of
sitting there going oh my god, ya know, like I never thought of that, I never understood that but .. for her to be able to
turn around and give me an explanation for it was a massive thing .. I was kinda shocked I remember sitting there ya know going oh my god she’s right and then I knew in my
heart that she understands” (Jackie)
“I needed her to just listen, just to listen .. and not be comparing me to others .. cos I hadn’t spoken about it ..
there was nowhere I could talk about it .. I couldn’t tell my own family .. I couldn’t tell them what my [ex-partner’s
name] done to me .. I couldn’t tell my children so there was nobody .. it’s a very alone feeling” (Cora)
“that point in time kind of slowed down the dynamic maybe more than anything else
but I haven’t had long term effects” (Sarah)
“to believe that they have your best interests at heart .. that .. they’re not just
prodding you like a lab rat .. [and] that they haven’t forgotten that you’re a
person” (Nuala)
“you could say to your therapist .. that you were having suicidal ideation or intrusive thoughts .. you can tell your deepest fears or whatever, whereas if you said that to
your own mother .. she’d be in an absolute panic .. because .. you’re too
close to them .. you often need someone who doesn’t care that much .. who’s a professional .. they won’t feel like all
those spikes of emotion that you would if .. it was somebody very close to you, like your own sister or mother or your
child” (Nuala)
Needing to be believed, and not blamed, shamed or
judged “it was one of many experiences that I came across over the course of those 14 years [in therapy] .. of men and women .. I’m not just talking about therapists now, would blame me now, blame me for the whole thing .. I always thought [that
this was] because I didn’t have an arm hanging off or an eye .. that I still managed to look [good]” (Vera)
“I felt dismissed .. I felt god .. you’ve earned your hours money .. I felt she was clocking up the hours of all the
patients and I was just the next one. . I was the 5 o clock and now it was 6 so out .. I felt insignificant, I felt like I didn’t
matter.. even though it was huge to me, and I just walked out feeling very small and very insignificant and quite sad and
lonely and unimportant and unlistened to .. I felt like an orphan actually (laughs) .. (eyes welled up)” (Jade)
“she probably just wanted to be able to get me to say it again, to talk about it again .. probably she just wanted me to talk
about it again but it just kinda wasn’t clear” (Martha)
“I couldn’t say no, I learned that it was ok to say no, I didn’t have to say yes to
everything and be exhausted all of the time and that people will actually take it and accept it and that sometimes it was ok to stand up for myself even if people
didn’t like what they heard, if I felt I was right, and I didn’t have to backtrack and apologise constantly, apologising for my
existence in life .. I got a lot of confidence to do that, even with small things” (Jade)
Key Findings The importance of emotional safety/emotional regulation
Trust in therapist’s intentions as well as competency
Client deference, lack of verbalisation of discontent, and abdication of power
Needing to be seen, heard, and understood
Needing to be believed, and not blamed, shamed or judged
The unequal therapeutic relationship: some pro’s and con’s
A variety of types of unhelpful relationship-building experiences
The Truly Caring Relationship sustains unhelpful relationship-building experiences
Implications for Practice
Be aware of clients context (IPT and client)
Clients self-protective strategies - respect, encourage, and validate
Therapists role in increasing emotional safety (prioritising emotional regulation)
Variety of types of unhelpful relationship-building experiences
Remain hopeful and committed to repairing ruptures when they occur
Watch for signs of rupture (covert communication)
Encourage client to verbalise ruptures, validate when they do, and respond professionally
Clarify misunderstandings, acknowledge errors, and commit to learning from them with the clients guidance
Rupture and repair training
Use of the word ‘uncomfortable’ or ‘irritating’ rather than unhelpful
Caution: addressing rupture may further the rupture
Offer a truly caring therapeutic relationship
Behave, relate and intervene in ways which increase
the clients emotional safety the clients trust in the therapists intentions the clients trust in the therapists competency
the clients feeling of being seen, heard, and understood the clients feeling of being believed, and not blamed,
shamed or judged
the clients positive feelings towards self the clients feeling of being truly cared about the clients sense of empowerment within the
therapeutic relationship
Individual for each client
Tailor the therapeutic relationship to the individual client
• Trust in therapists intentions: congruence and transparency (as the norm, and especially when therapists behaviour is inconsistent)
• Trust in therapists competence: when the client experiences positive change as a result of therapy
• Be conscious of and monitor for negative transference (e.g. age, gender, physical size, tone, quality of voice, therapists behaviours that remind client of abusive other in their lives)
• Seek supervision when feeling blaming, judging, or feeling negatively towards the client
Be aware of power imbalances in the therapeutic relationship Negative: be aware of potential for re-
enactments and repetitions of abusive others in the clients lives
Positive: clients expectations of professional role (increase trust in therapists competency)
Offer an empowering therapeutic relationship that is experienced as helpful rather than unhelpful Continuum of empowerment within the
therapeutic relationship
Offer a truly caring relationship (can sustain unhelpful relationship building experiences, and prevent premature termination)
See, hear, and show understanding to the client
Don’t blame, judge, or disbelieve the client
Treat the client ‘as a person’ rather than a service user
Need for specialist services for survivors of IPT
Whereby practitioners are:
knowledgeable and informed about the dynamics of IPT
can informed about and cautious of the potential for repetition and re-enactments of negative others in the clients lives
provide information to clients to help them to understand their experiences as well as feel validated and understood
This leads to positive changes in the survivors relationship with self as well as relationship with
others