Raise Your Child’s Social IQ
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Transcript of Raise Your Child’s Social IQ
Cathi Cohen, LCSW www.insteppc.comDirector of In Step 703-876-8480
www.insteppc.com
Happiness is …. Friendship
MOST KIDS have skills
Super Social SkillsDeveloping Social Skills
Good Social Skills
Peer Group and Social Status
Accepted• Friendly• Cheerful• Helpful• Follow the rules
• Cooperate in groups• Competent• Sense of humor• Go with the flow
Rejected• Aggressive• Attention seeking• Easily angered• Overly sensitive• Inconsiderate• Rule breaking• Silly
• Join groups impulsively
• Reactive to perceived threats
• Interpret behavior inaccurately
• Exhibit enduring traits that elicit rejection
Neglect• Withdrawn• Shy• Insecure• Anxious
• Traits that elicit neglect are not automatically enduring• Remain on the
periphery
Which Came First? The Chicken or the Egg
Self-awareness
Effortless problem solving
Excellent eye contact
Good listening skills Reads social
signals
Manages emotions
Self-confidence
Goes with the flow
Child with a
High Social IQ
Obstacles to Friendship
Getting Started
Joining In
Communicating and Conversing
Reading Social Signals
Raising Self-Esteem
Coping with Teasing
Managing Stress
Solving Social Problems
Resolving Conflicts
Managing Anger
Putting It All Together
You are your child’s
Friendship Coach
Parental Influence on Social Functioning
Let’s Start at the Very Beginning
Friendship Skill #1
Good Eye Contact
Eyes are the Window to the Soul
Eyes are the Window to the Soul
Friendship Skill #2
Communication and Conversation
The strongest oak of the forest is not the one that is protected from the storm and hidden from the sun. It’s the one that stands in the open where it is compelled to struggle for its existence against the winds and rains and the scorching sun. –Napoleon Hill
Conversation is like a game of catch…
Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest form of flattery. Dr. Joyce Brothers
Friendship Skill #3
Reading Social Signals
People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.Bonnie Jean Wasmund
Get Help When……
You can’t make a friend without being a friend.