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Psychology of Human Relations and Adjustment
DMACC, Summer, 2006Jim Wilwerding, M.Div., M.A., LMHC, CADC, NCC
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Personal Growth and Change
Being your own “best person” Who Am I? How much of myself do I share with
others? How much am I interested in other
people’s stories?
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Life is a journey, not a destination
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“The unexamined life is not worth living”--
Socrates
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A Model of Personal Growth
Common Characteristics of healthy, happy, more fully-functioning individuals An ability to accept oneself and others An efficient perception of reality Close, caring interpersonal relationships Autonomy and Independence A strong ethical sense Willingness to continue to grow as a person
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Feedback and Disclosure
In order to understand ourselves more fully, we need feedback from other people
In order to get effective feedback, we must allow other people to know us
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Self-Disclosure Revealing the inner-self The more I know about you and you
know about me, the more effective our relationship can become
Self-disclosure involves a set of skills—knowing what, to whom, when etc. is important
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Why Self-Disclose?
Self-disclosure allows me to define myself rather than be defined by the other person’s assumptions
As I choose to self-disclose, I learn information and gain insights about myself
As a step in relationship building, self-disclosure allows me to get acquainted with you and for us to build trust within our relationship
As that trust grows, closeness and intimacy can develop
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Risks “If I tell you who I am, you may not like
who I am, and that is all that I have” –John Powell
To share who I am, I am choosing to risk rejection
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Benefits However, disclosure builds trust with and by
the other person Self-disclosure promotes mental health—the
more I know and can share myself, the less likely I am to hold onto shame
We can gain self-validation through our disclosure
Self-disclosure can also allow us more social control and impression management
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The Johari Window
Developed in 1969 by Joseph Luft (Jo) and Harry Ingram (hari)
A model to explore the “total you” and to increase your openness and self knowledge.
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Johari Window (Joe Luft and Harry Ingham)
Greater FeedbackKnown to Self Unknown to Self
Known to Others
Open/Public Self Blind Self
Unknown to Others
Private Self Unknown SelfGre
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First Day of Class
Greater FeedbackKnown to Self Unknown to Self
Known to Others
Open/Public Self
Blind Self
Unknown to Others
Private Self Unknown Self
Gre
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"The Listener"
Greater FeedbackKnown to Self Unknown to Self
Known to Others
Open/Public Self Blind Self
Unknown to Others
Private SelfUnknown
Self
Gre
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"I Don't Want to Hear It!"
Greater FeedbackKnown to Self Unknown to Self
Known to Others
Open/ Public
SelfBlind Self
Unknown to Others
Private Self
Unknown SelfGre
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Dis
clos
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Moving Toward Trust and Intimacy
Greater FeedbackKnown to Self Unknown to Self
Known to Others
Open/ Public Self Blind Self
Unknown to Others
Private SelfUnknown
SelfGre
ater
Dis
clos
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Loneliness Loneliness occurs when a person has
fewer interpersonal relationships than desired or when the relationships are not as satisfying as desired.
Loneliness is a feeling of longing and emptiness that is caused by a lack of emotional attachment or social ties.
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Loneliness Most prevalent among:
Teenagers Unmarried young adults The Divorced The Widowed
Also related to societal emphasis on self-fulfillment, instability in relationships and commitment to others.
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Relationships Healthy relationships provide:
1. Emotional attachments—knowledge that no matter what happens, there will be someone around to care for and help us.
Sources of emotional attachments include: Parents A best friend or significant other A confidant Inanimate objects (teddy bears, dolls, blankets) Belief systems
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Relationships Social Ties—a feeling of belonging—that
we are part of a group and have an identity We find these ties first through our
belonging to a family, clan, etc. Later, we choose social ties by joining
other groups (i.e., Scouts, sports, clubs, etc.) and possibly through forming a new family
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Shyness The tendency to withdraw from people
particularly unfamiliar people. This includes feelings, physical reactions and thoughts
Consequences of shyness include: Becoming self-conscious Difficulty becoming acquainted to new people Keeps one from experiencing new situations Prevents a person from expressing
him/herself
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Perceptions PERCEPTION IS REALITY Perception is our own interpretation and
organization of the information we have gathered from the situation
Our perception of people affects our impressions, understanding and interaction with others
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Stereotyping and Prejudice
Stereotype—a preconceived set of beliefs about individuals or groups
Prejudice—prejudging a person or group of people prior to having all known information.
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Inaccurate Social Perceptions
Stereotyping First Impressions Categorizing Attribution Error
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Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
When a person’s expectations of an event make the outcome more likely to happen
Much of how we operate is based upon the expectations we convey—people will generally live up to or down to our expectations for them
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Expectations Positive or negative, our expectations
generally become our reality through Confirmation Bias
Confirmation Bias—Our current thoughts or beliefs about ourselves get continuously reinforced. We tend to accept information that confirms our beliefs and reject information that disproves or goes against what we already believe to be true.
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Argue for your limitations and sure
enough, they’re yours
--Richard Bach
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Image—how others perceive me
Impression Management—our conscious effort to present ourselves in socially desirable ways. Behavioral modeling—matching our behaviors to
the person’s with whom we are interacting Positive non-verbal cues—smile, direct eye
contact, etc. Present favorable self-image Conform to situational norms Show appreciation of others and flatter them Be consistent Be creative
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Developing New Relationships
Four steps to initiate new relationships Communication—make contact, conversation
that invites a response, etc. Exposing yourself—let yourself be seen and
known by the other person Social Skills—remember that relationships
involve a set of skills Classes—communication, human relations,
assertiveness, etc. are skills that can assist you in making new relationships.
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Cultural Differences
“When I meet someone from another culture, I behave in the way that is natural to me, while the other behaves in the way that is natural to him or her. The only problem is that our ‘natural’ ways to not coincide.” --Raymonde Carroll