Presentation to

Primary School SEAL Co-ordinatorsTitle (if relevant)

Workshop 1: Getting On and Falling Out/Say No to BullyingPresented by

Children’s Services SEAL Team

THEME 2

Getting on and falling out

Assembly - Friendship

Friendship

Token

Discord – “I will be your friend”

Getting on and Falling out This theme focuses on

developing children's knowledge, understanding and skills in three key social and emotional aspects of learning:

• Managing feelings (with a focus on anger)

• Empathy• Social skills

Getting on and Falling out

Notice and celebrate children (and adults) who are:

• Working co-operatively to help a group• Being a really good friend• Keeping calm and overcoming feelings of

anger• Solving a difficult problem with a friend

Getting on and Falling out

The theme is structured around the following key strands:

Friendship

Working together in groups/co-operation

Seeing things from another point of view

Understanding and managing feelings- anger

Resolving conflict

Foundation Stage – key vocabulary

FeelingsHappyScared/Worried Angry/CrossComfortable/UncomfortableCalm Down Fair Belong

Early Foundation Stage Learning Opportunities

Circle games and Rounds:

Co-operation Games, Name Games and Activities, Rounds

1. Co-operation

2. Friendship

3. Understanding feelings

4. Resolving conflict

Activity• Puzzle game: drawing: puppet show:

Later Foundation Stage Learning Opportunities

Circle games and Rounds:

Co-operation Games, all change Games file

1. Conflict resolution

2. Co-operation

3. Friendship

4. Managing feelings

Activity

• Story: puzzle game: clapping game:

Photocards

Feeling Fans

Resources – Foundation stagePoster: Feelings detectiveFeeling FansFeelings identikitMusic for different moods

(CDROM)

Photocards: angry/conflict/friendship

identikit.exe

Key vocabulary – Year 1 and 2compliment friend fall out

trigger angry peaceful

co-operation conflict make up

problem solving apologise

point of view solution

Learning opportunities Years 1Circle games: where are you? sharks, the hello and welcome

game, keeper, rounds

1. Friendship and working together

2. Listening well

3. Friendship, getting angry and falling out

4. Friendship and making up• Activity - Wanted-a friend. Falling out and

making up. Dino+Dot• Story - (falling out and making up)

Poster – Are we ready for circle time

Feelings detective Peaceful problem solving

Working together self-review checklistsEmotional barometerWays to calm downMusic for different moods (CDROM)Photocards – angry/conflict/friendship

Learning opportunities Year 2Circle Games

Thank you: back to back: free fall: rounds:

1. Friendships and compliments

2. Seeing another point of view

3. Managing anger

4. Working together• Activity – What can you see? Point of view (role

play). Make a game

Resources – Year 2Poster – Are we ready for circle time?

Feelings detective

Peaceful problem solving

Working together self-review checklists

Emotional barometer

Ways to calm down

Photocards – angry/conflict

Fireworks picture

Friendship

• I can play with other children and say sorry when I’ve been unkind

• I can make someone feel good by giving them a compliment

• I can be a good listener and tell you lots of ways to give friendship tokens

Key vocabulary – Years 3 and 4resolve a conflict leader

reporter scribe

timekeeper co-operation

anger win-win solution

“losing it”

Learning opportunities - Year 3

Circle games: The tangled web, co-operation jigsaws, round1. Revisiting the skills of friendship2. Making up3. Revisiting anger• Activity :• Co-operation puzzles: seeing another point of

view: Rap (Rap connected)

Resources – Year 3

Posters – Are we ready for circle time? Feelings detective Peaceful problem-solving

Working together self-review checklistsPhotocards – friendship/friendlyFireworks pictureEmotional barometer

Learning opportunitiesCircle Games and roundsStatues: the firework model: Year 41.Key qualities in a friend2.Understanding anger3.Working together• Activity – Poems (Literacy- Best

friends. Since Hanna moved away.)

Posters – Are we ready for circle time? Feelings

detective Peaceful problem-solving

Working together self-review checklists

Photocards – friendship angry conflict

Fireworks picture

Emotional barometer

Ways to calm down

Working together, what’s the problem?

Picture (CDROM)

Resources – Year 4

Resolving conflict • I know how to make up with a friend when we have fallen out

• I can use peaceful problem solving to sort out difficulties

• I can say and do things that are likely to make a difficult situation better

Working together/co-operation

• I can work in a group with other children

• I can discuss in a group how well we are working together

• I can explain to people why I agree/don’t agree with them

Understanding and managing feelings - Anger

I know when I am starting to feel angry (triggers)

I know how our bodies change when we start

to get angry

I know some ways to calm down

Key vocabulary – Years 5 + 6Short-term/long-term consequences

‘I message’ prejudice

‘reframing a situation’ responsibility

Resources Year 5Posters – Are we ready for circle time?,

Feelings Detective, Peaceful problem solving

Photocards – conflict

Emotional barometer

Working together self-review checklists

Fireworks picture

Ways to calm down

Learning opportunities Year 5 Circle games: Thunderstorm, Feeling lines,

Rounds

Friends magazine challenge.

Levels of friendship Working together in groups

Managing conflict

Making up

Revisiting anger

Taking responsibility

Learning opportunities Year 6Circle games: Thunderstorm, Feeling lines, Rounds • Working in groups• Conflict resolution• Revisiting anger• Activity - Difference–a barrier to friendship?

Using “I” messages. Standing in my shoes. Reframing situations

Learning opportunities – Year 6

Posters – Are we ready for circle time?

Feelings Detective, Peaceful problem solving

Working together self-review checklists

Fireworks picture

Ways to calm down

Feelings, thoughts and behaviour

Seeing things from another point of view – developing empathy

Staff activities

• Focus on working together• Giving and receiving compliments• Conflict management• Exploring anger• Working together as a group

Family activities

Key ideas• It is important to understand

the thoughts and feelings of other people

• It is important to recognise when your child is getting worked up

• It is important to try and keep calm when your child is getting worked up

• Listening to your child is important

• Children can be taught to solve their own problems peacefully

Empathy?

What do you think he is thinking and feeling?

What would you say?

Children learn by watching and listening!

One of our most important responsibilities

as parents is to listen to our

children, hearing not only the words,

but the feelings behind the words…...

Anyone can become angry - that is easy. But to be angry, with the right

person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way - this is not easy..

Aristotle

It is important to use your thinking brain when you

are angry!Laura Aged 8

What annoys you?

Recap on key ideas

• It is important to understand the thoughts and feelings of other people

• It is important to recognise when your child is getting worked up

• It is important to try and keep calm when your child is getting worked up

• Listening to your child is important• Children can be taught to solve

their own problems peacefully

Ideas to try out

• Use your good listening skills• Help your child to practice their calming down

approaches (when your child is calm)• Practice Peaceful Problem Solving with your

child

Relaxation