PRE MARITAL COUNSELLING

TANIYA THOMASI.MSC.PSY. 2013.19

EVEN MASLOW SAID………..

It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune, must be in want of a wife.” 

― Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice

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“There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.”

— Martin Luther

MARRIAGE the state of being united

to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law 

the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage (same-sex marriage)

RELIGIOUS VIEWS Hindu marriage is a socially approved union

of man and a woman aiming at dharma, procreation, sexual pleasure and observance of certain social obligations.

Islam views it as a strong bond, a challenging commitment in the fullest sense of the word. It is a commitment to life itself, to society, and to the dignified, meaningful survival of the human race

Christianity views marriage with three major principles including, it involves a man and women, it should last forever and finally the principle of monogamy

WHY A COUNSELLER IN BETWEEN?

PRE- MARITAL COUNSELLING Premarital counselling is a type of

therapy that helps couples prepare for marriage. Premarital counselling can help ensure that you and your partner have a strong, healthy relationship — giving you a better chance for a stable and satisfying marriage. 

Short term conscious focused issues Approaches can be behavioral,

emotional or interpersonal

TYPES OF PRE MARITAL COUNSELLING

Couple counselling Family counselling Religion based counselling Tailored programs

Commitment to the marriage Communication Attitudes/beliefs toward marriage and Conflict

resolution The importance of spending time with one's partner Parenting and children Adjusting to married life and the sexual relationship Compatibility of values. Problem-solving Religion Coping skills. Gender roles/Household tasks Emotional management Family finances Romance Personality characteristics Friendships and Social Support. Careers Fun and leisure

ASSESSMENTS FOR BETTER UNDERSTANDING

Premarital assessments are not used to predict relationship success, but rather as a guide to inform couples which areas of the relationship need work.

3 major assessments

PREPARE- PREMARITAL PREPARATION AND RELATIONSHIP ENHANCEMENT QUESTIONNAIRE-FOURNIER (1979)

195 items in 20 scales 4 personality

15 relationship 1 idealistic distortion scale

Idealistic distortion is used to correct social desirability

Four types of premarital couples:VitalizedHarmoniousTraditionalConflicted

strengths weakness

Short Extensive analysis Easy to administer

and interpret Multiple languages “Has multiple

measures of reliability and validity”

Does not measure three factors that predict marital satisfaction: Parental mental

illness Similarity of

intelligence Similarity of

absolute status

Most expensive of the three tests

FOCCUS- FACILITATING OPEN COUPLE COMMUNICATION, UNDERSTANDING AND STUDY QUESTIONNAIRE(SRI RESEARCH CENTER,2000) 156 items Optional 33 items for interfaith couples,

cohabiting couples, and couples in which one or both partners are remarrying

Widely used by Catholics and Protestant churches as well as nondenominational counseling services

The questions focus on communication issues, finances, sexuality, interfaith relationships, and cohabitation consequence.

strengths weakness Contains several different

versions for those who do not speak English or have problems reading

Can be scored 3 different ways Computer Hand PC program

Problem areas are all on one scale

user-friendly, affordable, and couple centered.

Does not measure the three factors that predict marital satisfaction

Validity for preferred response is unknown

RELATE-RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION QUESTIONNAIRE ( MARRIAGE STUDY CONSORTIUM ,BRIGHAM YOUNG UNIVERSITY)

271 items Internet version used for both premarital education and

also for marriage enrichment. communication, conflict management,

consensus building, family-of-origin, personality traits, and more.

strengths weakness

Easiest of the three to interpret and to use in a large group setting

Cheapest and most comprehensive

Only test available on the internet

Wont bring couple together

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