BE PROACTIVEI AM T HE FORCE

Personal Growth and Development

Introduction

Teenagers are the product of their environment, upbringing, and choices. Are their choices proactive or reactive? They

need to choose how they act. They need to take responsibility for their choices

and their life.

ReactiveSometimes things go wrong, and we

feel shaken up. As a result, we might

EXPLODE on someone or something.

This is called being REACTIVE. Has

this ever happened to you? Explain

what happened and why. Was this a

good way to let go of all of your

feelings? Why or why not?

Proactive

When you are PROACTIVE, you make a choice about how you react to the things that happen in your life. You act like a water bottle. You might get shaken up or mad, but you stay calm and don’t explode!

Listen to Your Language

Reactive languageI’ll tryThat’s just the way I

amThere’s nothing I can

doI have to

Proactive languageI’ll do itI can do better than

thatLet’s look at all our

option I choose to

The Victimitis Virus

Reactive peopleAre easily

offendedBlame otherGet angry

Proactive peopleAre not easily offendedTake responsibility for

choicesThink before they act

What We Can and Cannot Control

CIRCLE OF NO CONTROL

Birthplace

Weather

Parents

What other people say

and do

CIRCLE OF CONTROL

Ourselves Attitudes

Choices & Responses

• We cannot control EVERYTHING that happens to us

• One thing we can control…how we respond to what happens to us!!!

Turning Setbacks Into Triumphs

Life often deals us a bad hand and it is up to us

to control how we respond. Every time we have

a setback, it’s an opportunity for us to turn into

a triumph.

Can-Do

• Being PROACTIVE really means two things—

1. You take responsibility for your life2. You have a “can-do” attitude

Take initiativeto make it

happen

Think aboutsolutions and

options

Act

Wait forsomething

to happen tothem

Think aboutproblems and

barriers

Are actedupon

Can-Do

Non-Can-Do

Just Push Pause

• When someone is rude to you, where do you get the power to resist being rude back?

• Suggestion…JUST HIT PAUSE!!!

• Sometimes life moves so fast that we INSTANTLY react to everything out of shear habit

• Learn to pause-you will make smarter decisions

Power Tools

• SELF-AWARENESS: I can stand apart frommyself and observe my thoughts and actions

• CONSCIENCE: I can listen to my inner voice toknow right from wrong (the one we tend to ignore)

• IMAGINATION: I can envision newpossibilities

• WILLPOWER: I have the power to choose

Conclusion

Be Proactive with your studyBe Proactive with physical healthBe Proactive with mental healthBe Proactive with your timeBe Proactive with workBe Proactive with wordsBe Proactive with friendsBe always ready for everything you do!!!

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THANKS!

BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND

C O N T R O L Y O U R O W N D E S T I N Y O R S O M E O N E E L S E W I L L

Instructor: Dr. Kol Pheng

Personal Growth and Development

Begin with the End in Mind

Control your own destinyOr it means developing a clear picture of where you want to go with your life. Or it means deciding what your values are and setting goals.

Is a powerful way to help turn your dreams in to realities ,so you should set your own blueprint before doing something all the time

The Crossroads of Life

What about friends? Take your choice friends that need to be

accepted and be part of a group is powerful. Wrong group of friends: it lead you down all

kinds of paths you really don’t want to be on. Right group of friends : lead you go on the right way.

The Crossroads of Life

What about Sex? We are free to choose our paths, but we can’t

choose the consequences that come with them. The path you chose will affect your health, your

reputation, your future children, and so much more.

Who’s in the lead?

Make you own decision don’t led someone else

will do it for you, and you have to control your

own destiny.

Don’t have in the moment part: Look for ahead or

future.

A Personal Mission Statement ( PMS)

A Personal Mission Statement ( PMS)

Is like a personal credo or motto that motivate

yourself what your life is about, it is like the blueprint

You should write your PMS and read it every day to

inspire yourself.

Three things to watch for Negative Labels “it’s all over” syndrome Wrong direction

GO FOR THE GOAL

Go for the goal If you have mission, then you set goals Key to set goals

Count the cost Put it in pen Just do it Use momentous moment Rape up

Conclusion

Develop a clear picture of where you want to go in your life.

Help to think beyond today and take charge of your life.

Set reachable goals.

Believe in yourself and your faith, you can accomplish anything you desire.

Avoid the Law of Self-Fulfilling Prophecy.

Conclusion

Never loose sight of these goals.Strive each day to reach interdependence.Have a confidence in yourself and everyone

else around you.Read your goals daily.You are the master of your own destiny.