Parenting and work

Parenting and Workfor Leadership and Life

Meeta SenguptaSeptember 26, 2013

Saturday, 28 September 13

Meet Anne Marie Slaughter..

• President and CEO, New America Foundation

• Former Director of Public Policy at the State Department

• Professor Emerita, Princeton

• Mother of 2 teenage boys

• “Having it All” to “Movement for Men”

• From Competition to Care


Meet Sheryl Sandberg..


Meet KC...

• Global Leader

• MNC career

• Three children

• Hectic Travelling schedule

• Parental Support

• Routines

• Holidays

• Is there any which way to win?


I wonder how she does it?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bn_OrhwIidA


What do we have in Common?

• The desire to do the best by our education, for our children’s education

• The ability to be organised

• But also, the inspirat...pressure to be... Multi tasker!

Problem Solver!

Multiple Roles!

Perfectly Turned out!

Have perfect Relationships!

Calm and in Control!

Always Victorious!

Have perfect high achieving children!


It really is about..

•Quality Childcare

•Reliable Support Service

•Enabled Men and Women

•Good Advice Organisation


Leadership, Parenting and ECCE

• “Parental Engagement enhances student performance”/(More senior time makes a better project)

• “The mother is the first teacher”/ (The project manager has to show the way)

• “I don’t want my children to learn from them”/ (Let us not outsource, even if we don’t have resources)

• “See how clever X’s child is! Reciting English poetry and only three years old!!”/ (Look at that other project! Their excel sheet is better than ours!)

• “What do you do at home all day?”/ (Oh, you are on the probono project and still work so many hours?)

• If you heard statements like this in your team, what would you do?


Role of Parents in Early Years

• To not be ‘guilt-tripped’

• To base decisions on evidence, aptitude and resources

• To trust yourself

• To share resources, not ‘comparisons’

• To invest in happiness


Harried Parent Do’s and Don’ts

• Do smile and Hug a lot

• Do Tell stories

• Do Lead by example

• Do Set structures and boundary conditions

• Do Listen. Listen. Listen.

• Don’t get stressed

• Don’t reward what you dislike e.g. tantrums

• Don’t micro-compare

• Don’t limit education to schoolroom demands

• Don’t take over (e.g.privacy,

achievements, looks)

• Don’t Give up


Remember..

And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, “Speak to us of Children.” And he said: Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.

They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts.

For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth. The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far. Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness; For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.

- Khalil Gibran


So ... Don’t Worry, Be Happy? Nyaah.. never that easy.

Put the Child at the Centre

Weekends are Work

Share your work

Parent Networks

Team Teach

Holidays and Learning

Be Hyper Organised


Which means..

Put the Child at the Centre

Weekends are Work

Share your work

Parent Networks

Build Your own

Traditions and Rituals

Holidays and Learning

Be Hyper Organised

(i) Plan Themed Holidays in Line with

curriculum(ii) Learn a new skill every

holiday

A Place for Everything, Everything in its

Place

With your children too!

(Let them join in!)

“Tell me the story of your Day”

“I’ll always come back”

It takes a Village to grow a Child...

Take all the help you can get

Enlist and organise your resource-persons

Schedule the weekend

Remember to Schedule fun and rest too!

(i) Timetables and Lists(ii) Be FlexiFirm

(iii) Have a plan, have a back-up

A Stitch in time, saves nine

Freedom is the freedom to do good


Everyday EducationRoutine Task Embedded Education Enhancements

Getting Ready for School Goal Setting, Task focus, Planning Share the work, make it a race, gamify!

Have you reached home? Reporting, Safety checks, Emotional safety net, reassurance Set up rituals

Have you had your evening milk? Reporting, Food Awareness, Touch base, Communication channel Listen. To the words said or not said

Do your homework. I’m coming. Independence. Responsibility. The Daily Homework News Telecast!

I have a call. Be quiet. I’m here. Postponement. Awareness. Sharing. Plan a task for a scheduled call time. Or a movie.

Shall we play? Edutainment. Scheduling. Flexifirm Have a plan for the quarter. Build a range of skills and attitudes.

Let me check your homework Hmmm.. Do we want to??? Randomly or routinely?

Play games based on school work standards, not tasks.

Time for Bed Routines, structures, Planning for the next days, Priorities

Build personal traditions that build values and memories

Reading Together (when travelling?) Builds security. Facetime, skype, phone, recording?

Play word games. Choose fun books. Let morals be embedded, not explicit


Thank You!

( (C) Meeta Sengupta / [email protected])


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