Parent as CoachParent as Coach

Coaching Kids to be the Best They Coaching Kids to be the Best They Can BeCan Be

In Their Sport, Social Life, and In Their Sport, Social Life, and AcademicsAcademics

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CoachingCoachingWhat makes an effective coach?What makes an effective coach?– GameplanGameplan– Short and long term goalsShort and long term goals– Help athletes form own gameplan Help athletes form own gameplan – Help athletes buy in to team planHelp athletes buy in to team plan– MotivatingMotivating– Build strengthBuild strength– Good communicationGood communication– Practice, practice, practicePractice, practice, practice

Warm UpWarm Up

What do you want?What do you want?

Guiding Principles/Subjective goalsGuiding Principles/Subjective goals– Gameplan for you and your Gameplan for you and your

child/adolescentchild/adolescent– Short and long termShort and long term– Individual and teamIndividual and team– For sport, social life, academicsFor sport, social life, academics

Warm Up cont’dWarm Up cont’d

Guiding PrinciplesGuiding Principles– Cohesive familyCohesive family– TeamworkTeamwork– Do your bestDo your best– Show respectShow respect– Sport is valuable, fitness and characterSport is valuable, fitness and character– Abstain from high risk behaviorAbstain from high risk behavior– Education is importantEducation is important

Warm Up cont’dWarm Up cont’d

Create a MapCreate a Map– Goals: process vs. outcome, comboGoals: process vs. outcome, combo– SMARTS SMARTS – Goals for self, child, “team”Goals for self, child, “team”– Facilitate vs. imposeFacilitate vs. impose– Ink it, don’t think itInk it, don’t think it

Coaching CornerCoaching CornerPrinciples of behavior changePrinciples of behavior change– Foster motivationFoster motivation– 80-90% of reinforcement positive80-90% of reinforcement positive– Issue of punishmentIssue of punishment– Avoid Don’tsAvoid Don’ts– 5:1 ratio positive to negative5:1 ratio positive to negative– Sandwich techniqueSandwich technique– Does not work: criticism, intimidation, sarcasm, Does not work: criticism, intimidation, sarcasm,

guilt, physical punishment (sprints in 90 guilt, physical punishment (sprints in 90 degrees)degrees)

Coaching Corner cont’dCoaching Corner cont’d

MotivationMotivation– Direction and intensity of effortDirection and intensity of effort– Motivational climateMotivational climate

Task/MasteryTask/Mastery

OutcomeOutcome

Coaching Corner cont’dCoaching Corner cont’d

Focusing on StrengthsFocusing on Strengths– ConfidenceConfidence– CompetenceCompetence– Builds motivationBuilds motivation– Behavior changeBehavior change– Strengthens relationshipsStrengthens relationships

ScrimmageScrimmage

Strength ExercisesStrength Exercises– Pick irritating behavior, reframe as Pick irritating behavior, reframe as

strengthstrength– What are your strengths as a parent (list What are your strengths as a parent (list

3)?3)?– What are the strengths of your What are the strengths of your

child/adolescent (list 3)?child/adolescent (list 3)?

ScrimmageScrimmage

Mental Skill: FocusMental Skill: Focus– How many times in a day can you notice How many times in a day can you notice

your own strengths/ child’s strengths your own strengths/ child’s strengths and make a comment about it?and make a comment about it?

DrillDrill

Resolving ConflictsResolving Conflicts– Say something is important, but not Say something is important, but not

showing itshowing it– Conflict=stressConflict=stress– Communication skillsCommunication skills

Sandwich techniqueSandwich technique

Take out the mouth guardTake out the mouth guard

Take off the helmetTake off the helmet

Cool DownCool Down

Good self care as a parent “coach”Good self care as a parent “coach”

Mindful of your own goalsMindful of your own goals

Care of your relationshipsCare of your relationships

Care of your physical needsCare of your physical needs

Riding the waves- process not Riding the waves- process not outcomeoutcome

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