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2008 John Cunningham

The Center for Nonviolent CommunicationFor further information on the work of Marshall Rosenberg,

visit the website at www.cnvc.org

To contact JohnPO Box 2011

Nevada City, CA 95959

phones: (home) 530.274.2356 (cell) 541.210.1553email: john@empathy-conexus.com web: www.empathy-conexus.com

ANACKNOWLEDGMENT

I want to acknowledge Linda Wemhoff. She gave me

support in 2002 when I first thought to do a booklet. Sheproofread, offered suggestions, simplified all of my heady stuff,

and helped keep the layout open and light. Six years later, when

I set about this revision, once again she generously gave

support. I shower her with heartfelt thanks.

If you appreciate this booklet, kindly go express it by visiting

her website: www.RecipeForPeace.com.

As always, I close with gratitude.

ByJohn Cunningham

COMP SSION TEMP SSION TEMP SSION TECOMMUNIC TIONMMUNIC TIONMMUNIC TION

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AggravatedAgitated

AngryAnnoyedAppalled

CrankyDisgusted

ExasperatedFrustrated

FuriousImpatientIndignantInfuriatedIrritated

ResentfulUpset

ANGER &FRUSTRATION SADNESS &GRIEFBored

DepressedDisappointedDiscouragedDisheartened

DismayedDespairingExhaustedHelplessHopeless

HurtLonely

MelancholicSad

TiredTroubled

AbandonedAbused

AttackedBetrayed

BulliedCheated

IgnoredIntimidated

InvisibleLet Down

ManipulatedMisunderstood

NeglectedPut UponRejectedRushed

UnappreciatedUsed

FAUX FEELINGS Interpretationsmasquerading as feelings

FEAR ANXIETY

JOY CONTENTMENTAdventurousAffectionate

AliveAmazedAmused

AstonishedCalmConfidentContent

GiddyGlad

GratefulHappy

Hopeful

InspiredIntriguedInvigorated

Joyful

CuriousDelighted

DeterminedEager

Ecstatic

EncouragedExcitedFascinated

Friendly

LovingMoved

OverjoyedPeacefulPleased

ProudRefreshedRelaxedRelieved

SatisfiedStimulatedSurprisedThankfulThrilled

TouchedTranquilTrustingUpbeat

COREFAMILIESOFFEELINGS

AfraidAlarmedAnxious

ApprehensiveBewildered

CautiousConcernedConfused

DisconcertedDisturbedDubious

EmbarrassedImpatientNervous

OverwhelmedPanicky

Perplexed

PuzzledReluctantRestlessScared

ShockedStressedTerrifiedWorried

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NEEDS: A VOCABULARYOFBECOMINGAFFECTION

CompanionshipIntimacyKindnessTo Matter to SomeoneIDENTITY/MEANINGAcknowledgementAppreciationChallengesClarityIntegrityLearning New SkillsPrivacySelf-DevelopmentShared RealityTo Be Seen For Ones StrivingTo Be Seen For Ones IntentionsTo Be Seen In Ones BiographyTo Be Someone

To Make Sense of Ones WorldLEISURECelebrationComfort & EasePlay & FunRecreationFREEDOMAutonomyChoicesTo Speak Ones MindUNDERSTANDINGConsideration

EmpathyPeace of MindTo Be HeardTRANSCENDENCEBeautyLovePeaceRhythm

SUBSISTENCEClean Air & WaterFoodRestShelterPROTECTION/SECURITYFairnessHonestyJusticeHonoring AgreementsNurturanceOpennessOrderSafetyStabilityTrustPARTICIPATIONAccomplishmentAction

BelongingCapacityCommunityCompetenceConnectionDependabilityEncouragementHarmonyMutualityOpportunities to Help OthersPower Within Ones WorldRecognition

RespectSupportTo Enrich LifeTo Serve LifeCREATIONCreativityExpressionInspiration