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Negotiation Skills

This course involves participants working on processes and procedures that result in successfulnegotiation through the use of group and individual activities, exercises and formal inputs.

Objectives

At the end of this course, delegates will be able to

•  Distinguish between bargaining, influencing and negotiating

•  Identify the key stages in negotiating

•  Explain the key stages of negotiating

•  Identify value added in negotiations

•  Distinguish between compromise, agreement and consensus

•  Practise the skills necessary for good negotiation

•  Establishing rapport

•  Active listening

•  Choice of language and

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Perspectives

•  Practise negotiating to YES

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What is Negotiation?

Definition negotiate –

to confer with another with a view to compromise or agreement; to arrange or

bring about a desired object; to clear, get over, dispose of an

obstacle or difficulty

Oxford English Dictionary

Negotiation is the mutual act of coordinating areas of interest.

Negotiation is ….

Finding a way for all parties to gain something they value from the resolution of a position of

conflict.

You negotiate when you want to resolve something and both parties have something to gain from

the interaction and exchange. You influence when you have more to gain than the other party

Finding a way that enables both parties to work together in the future

Dictating, that is telling someone to do something, only works for a short time or when there is

an extreme emergency. If you want a long term relationship you need to negotiate.

Generally used in circumstances where each party has a similar power level

If you have the power then you don’t negotiate, you dictate !

What is Influencing? ….

Where one party has power over another party

A child can influence its parents to buy it an ice cream but it has little power to negotiate. When

a child throws a tantrum it is ‘negotiating’ with its emotions !

Where one party may have nothing to gain from the agreed action

Buying an ice-cream for a child has little impact on the parent, the person who gains the most

pleasure is the child. In fact the parent ‘loses’ the money of the ice-cream. If one party loses and

the other gains it is not negotiating that you are practising, but influencing.

Sometime where only one party makes the final decision

However much they scream, a child does not make the final decision, the parent does. In

negotiating both parties make a decision, and stick to it.

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What is Bargaining? ..

Where there is give and take from both sides

Bargaining is a form of barter, a knocking down of the price from unrealistic high level and up

from an unrealistic low level. Everyone knows in bargaining that the first offers are ‘ridiculous’

but they are ritual stakes in the ground

Where neither party may appear to gain from the exchange

You sometimes bargain to spread the misery – for instance sharing the chore of washing up or

ironing.

Normally done on specifics such as price

Bargaining is about the detail, the specifics, not about the big picture.

Is a sub-set of negotiation

Once the basic principles have been agreed we bargain on the details, the nitty-gritty. If the

original negotiation is shaky the deal can fall apart at the detailed bargaining stage.

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What Makes a Good Negotiator?

Behavioural Criteria

High observation skills

Able to listen, observe and record activities of others; dealing with a number of individuals at

once. Able to pick up the nuances in the room and to note body language.

Planning and Organising

The ability to set out in detail what they expect from the negotiations and to know their own

limits.

Able to move blockages

Able to choose the appropriate tool or statement to move on from a block rather than ‘throw in

the towel’. Able to notice when arguments are going round in circles and to identify barriers and

to work systematically through these barriers.

Develop rapport and empathy

Able to quickly establish and maintain rapport. Able to see the others’ points of view and

appreciate others’ feelings whilst holding onto their own view and desired outcome

Flexible attitude

Able to accept others viewpoints and arguments without giving in on all points. Ability to see

the broader picture.

Creativity

Able to think round or through a problem and to try something different to help solve the issue.  

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Exercise OneAssess your Current Skills as a Negotiator

In the questions below, rank yourself from 1 poor to 5 highly skilled in terms of your current 

negotiating ability. Then, bearing in mind the type of deals you will be negotiating, rank yourself

how you wish to be.

Statement Rank

now

Want

to be

1 I find it easy to establish rapport

2 I find it easy to set outcomes in advance of discussions

3 I find it easy to obtain authority for negotiations

4 I find it easy to observe interactions

5 I find it easy to analyse offers

6 I find it easy to determine other party’s value add

7 I find it easy to determine other party’s negotiation limits

8 I find it easy to determine other party’s ‘point of no return’

9 I find it easy to change language to match that of other

party10 I find it easy to help a discussion to progress when it is

blocked

11 I find it easy to give effective feedback to individuals

12 I find it easy to maintain my own integrity whilst negotiating

Time: Questionnaire 10 minutes

Discussion 10 minutes

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Six Stages of Negotiation

In essence there are six main stages of negotiation and the book and course will follow thesethrough. These six stages are :-

♦  Preparation

♦  Discussions for information gathering

♦  Regroup

♦  Negotiating for resolution

♦  Reaching consensus

♦ 

Close

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Stage 1: Preparation…

Identify the key issues

♦  What is the main problem?

♦  Who is concerned with it?

♦  What would happen if it did not exist?

♦  What happens now that it does exist?

♦  Who currently gains from it?

♦  Who currently loses from it?

♦ 

Get a very precise statement if the issues

Set outcomes : best and realistic

♦  What is the best we can hope for?

♦  What is the worst?

♦  At what point do we back off (BATNA 1)?

♦  Can we phase any of our outcomes?

♦  What about the other party (ies) ?

Set negotiation range (see overleaf)

Establish your BATNA2 and your FEP3 (see overleaf)

Obtain levels of negotiating authority

1

 See below2 Best Alternative To Negotiated Agreement 

3  Final Exit Point 

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Outcomes

It is worth spending time working out the answers to all the points below. Some are the

negatives of the others but it is good to define outcomes precisely so that you can recognize when

a negotiation is taking you to the correct path and when it is going off-course.

♦  What do we want?

♦  What do we not want?

♦  How do we want it?

♦  How don’t we want it ?

♦  Where do we want it?

♦  Where do we not want it?

♦  When do we want it?

♦  When don’t we want it?

♦ 

What will it be like?♦  What will it be unlike?

♦  How will we know when we have got it?

♦  How will we know if we haven’t got it?

Negotiation Range

This is simply the difference between the minimum that we will accept and the maximum we

want. For instance if we have two groups negotiating, Group A and Group B we would hope

that they could come to an agreement. Where there is an overlap in the negotiation range then

there can be agreement.

Group A Group B

Lowest price £1,200 Highest price £4,500

Highest price £3,000 Lowest price £2,500

There is a negotiation range overlap from £2,500 to £3,000

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BATNA = Best Alternative To Negotiated Agreement

Defined by Roger Fry and William Ury in “Getting to ‘YES’”

If we cannot find a negotiated settlement – then what?

It is always good to ask this question – especially when faced with the best possible contract or

sale that your company has seen for several months. At what point would you walk away

because the prospective customer was making excessive demands?

In most circumstances there is an option we can take if we cannot reach agreement. If you ask

your manager for a pay rise and are refused then your BATNA may be to resign and look for a

better paid job elsewhere. It is not necessarily a pleasant option, but it is an option.

In some war and conflict situations the BATNA can be further hostilities.

If there is no alternative then we need to negotiate, negotiate, and negotiate !

So, set a BATNA and get agreement from your hierarchy on the BATNA. Then you will be able

to negotiate in confidence.

Final Exit Point

Given a BATNA when do you exit proceedings?

What is your ‘last stand’ position?

Is this backed up in your hierarchy? – there is nothing worse than reaching what you believe to

be your FEP, walking out of the meeting and then finding that people in your hierarchy take a

different position.

Think back to childhood, how often will a child ‘set’ parents against each other and having

reached a block from one parent ask the other and find the block overturned? The effect this has

on the authority of the parents is marked.

Negotiating Authority

♦  How much leeway do you have?

♦  How long will it take to go to a higher level?

♦  How do you keep higher levels informed of situation?

♦  When do you pull out of the discussions and send in a higher authority?

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Communications

Research into the effects of communications has shown that the effects of body language or non-verbal communication is very high. This means that for the Negotiator you need to be able to

interpret body language and understand what the individual is ‘saying’ with their arms, eyes and

posture. One word of warning - be careful to take a cluster of movements into account, not just

one single gesture.

Mehrabian (1969)

This research found that:-

Message impact:

Verbal 7%

Vocal 38%

Non-verbal 55%

100%

Birdwhistell (1971)

Birdwhistell found that the average person speaks words for a total of 11 minutes a day. An

average sentence lasts only 2.5 seconds and most communication (65%) is non-verbal. Like

Mehrabian he found that the verbal component of face-to-face conversations is less than 35% andthat over 65% of communication is done non-verbally. He contends that a well-trained person

can tell what a person is saying by the gestures they are making and that by looking at gestures,

Birdwhistell could tell what language people were talking!

Verbal communication is used for conveying information; non-verbal for feelings and showing

attitudes.

You will do an exercise on the words chosen and how they indicate what senses an individual

chooses to process information with most of the time. Be sure that as a Negotiator you use a

range of words so that everyone in the room can understand your meaning.

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Exercise TwoCommunication Questionnaire

You have ten minutes to complete the following questionnaire. Please answer every question. For

each of the following statements, please place a number next to every phase. Use the following

numbering system to indicate your preference.

4 = closest to describing you

3 = next best description

2 = next best

1 = least descriptive of you

1. I make important decisions based on:

•  how I picture it working  V

•  how I feel about the person K

•  which answer sounds most convincing  A

•  a detailed analysis of all the issues D

2. During an argument, I am most likely to be influenced by:

•  how the other party sounds  A

•  how I feel they are feeling about the topic K

• 

whether I can see the other party’s viewpoint  V•  the precision of the other party’s argument D

3. I most easily demonstrate my state of mind by:

•  stating my feelings K

•  the colours and clothes I wear  V

•  the words I choose D

•  my tone of voice  A

4. It is easiest for me to:

• 

select attractive colour combinations  V•  identify the key rational points of an argument D

•  tune in a radio setting  A

•  pick the most comfortable piece of furniture K

5.

•  I am quick to make sense of new facts and information D

•  I am in harmony with my surroundings  A

•  I am constantly aware of how my clothes feel on my body K

•  I have a strong sense of colours and how they blend together  V

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Scoring: Add the numbers associated with each letter. There are five entries for each letter.

V K A D

1

23

4

5

 TOTAL

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NLP4 Communication Indicators

Visual

V

Auditory (Tonal)

A

Kinaesthetic

K

Auditory Digital

DMemorise by seeing pictures.

Often have trouble

remembering verbal

instructions.

Less distracted by noise.

Can be bored by long verbal

sentences, because their

minds tend to wander.

Can repeat things back to

you easily.

Often distracted by noise.

Learn by listening.

Like music and to talk on

the telephone.

 Tone of voice and words

used are important.

Respond to physical

rewards and touching.

Often talk very slowly and

breathy.

Memorise by doing or

walking through

something.

Go by ‘gut feel’

Spend some time talking

to themselves

Memorise steps,

procedures and sequences

Want to know if

something makes sense.

see hear feel sense

look listen touch experience

appear sound(s) grasp understand

view make music get hold of think

show harmonise slop through learn

dawn tune in/out catch on process

reveal be all ears tap into decide

envision ring bells make contact motivate

illuminate silence throw out consider

twinkle be heard hard change

clear resonate unfeeling perceive

foggy deaf (ear) concrete insensitive

hazy dissonance scrape distinct

focused overtones get a hold conceive

crystal clear unhearing solid know

Flash attune suffer question

Imagine outspoken unbudging be conscious

Picture tell impression analyse

Sparkling announce touch base communicate

I see what you mean

looking forward to..

A dark cloud on the horizon

 Taking a dim view

Lighten up a bit

on the same wavelength

speak your mind

word for word

loud and clear

what do you say?

get a grip on the idea

hold on a moment

a cool customer

put my finger on it

heated argument

a smooth operator

what are the facts?

lets get down to basics

the bottom line is...

what precisely does this

mean?

4 NLP = Neuro Linguistic Programming

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Exercise ThreePractising Different Communication Styles

•  Pair up with someone on the course whose highest score is in a dimension that you score

low in. For instance if you are low on Visual but high on Auditory Digital; then pair with

someone who is high in Visual and low in Auditory Digital.

•  Spend five minutes describing your house to the other person in your lowest style- try to

use words from that dimension.

•  If you are listening, try to help if they slip into a different style - if they try giving you

facts ask for pictures; if they tell you about sounds ask them for feelings and so on.

•  After five minutes reverse roles.

•  As a pair, consider the implications of this information for good Negotiation

Timing: 20 minutes

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Language - Recovering Choices

Gathering Information

People use a kind of shorthand when speaking. We generalise and delete information. This

exercise helps you to be able to recognise this and ask the appropriate questions to recover the

missing information.

General and Specifics

General

♦  May present things in random order

♦  Have overviews and summaries

♦  Use concepts and abstracts

♦  Use simpler sentences with few modifiers or details

♦  Appear to be extremely vague and woolly (to a Specific)

Specifics

♦  Speak in step-by-step sequences

♦  Use a great deal of modifiers, adverbs, adjectives

♦  Use proper names for people and places

♦  Only seem aware of the step before and the step after

♦  Appear to use exceptional details (to a General person)

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Generalisation Examples

SITUATION HEAR ASK MEANING

Universal words Every, all, never,always, etc.

Every?All?

Always?

(Do you really meanthat) you always…..? ?

Restriction of Possibility  Can't, impossible,unable

"What stops you?"

"What would happenif you did?"

What barriers do youperceive?

Restriction ofNecessity:

Have to, Necessary,must

"Or, (what wouldhappen?")

"What would happenif we didn't?"

What consequencesdo you perceive?

Nominalisations

Words which describe aprocess, that exist in nameonly 

communication,transportation etc.

“Who’s not?” “Howwould you like to?”“What does … meanto you?”

How does the broadcategory affect yourspecifically?

Unspecified nouns andverbs

Costs are rising,work is harder, life ismore stressed

“which costs/workin particular?”“Whose life?”

What does thiscategory representspecifically for you?

Simple negatives Not sure, not happy, “about what inparticular?”

Extract beyond thenegative to find outwhere the

apprehension arisesLack of reference  They aren’t happy;

He doesn’t like this

“Who specifically?”“Why is that personaffected?”

 Try to encourageidentification of theindividual or groupconcerned

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Exercise FourLanguage - Generalisations

In pairs and using the following examples, make up examples from your day to day work for

each of the categories, and assign an appropriate information recovery question

Universal words 

Words which include the whole world, all time and space, such as all , ever, never, every, no

one, always, nothing etc.

Example

"We never give discounts"

•  Your partner asks: "Never?" "What would happen if you did?"

My example

Recovery question

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Restriction of Possibility

Words which claim that something is possible / impossible and can or can't be done.

Think of something which for you is 'impossible', or something at work you can't do

Example

I can't ask for a pay rise

•  Your partner asks: "What stops you?"

•  Your partner asks: "What would happen if you did?"

My example

Recovery question

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Restriction of Necessity

Words which claim that something must occur, is necessary

Example

“I have to seek authority for that”

Have to, Necessary, must

•  Your partner asks: "Or what would happen?"

•  Your partner asks: "What would happen if we didn't?"

My example

Recovery question

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Unspecified nouns and verbs

Example

"Costs are rising"

•  Your partner asks: "Which costs?"

•  Your partner asks: "Rising in what way", "Compared with what?"

•  Your partner asks: "How specifically are they rising?"

My example

Recovery question

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Simple Negatives

Example

"I am not sure"

•  Your partner asks: "About what specifically?"

My example

Recovery question

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Lack of reference

Words which indicate a third party such as they, others

Example

"They won’t like it"

•  Your partner asks: "Who specifically won’t like it?"

My example

Recovery question

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Stage 2: Discussions

♦ 

Meet to discover

♦  Practise active listening

♦  Avoid commitment

♦  Establish rapport

•  Identify language patterns

•  Identify interests and needs

• Separate the people from the problem

•  Focus on interests not positions

Meet to discover

The original meeting is to find out what the other party wants and needs and to express your

wants and needs as well. It is an opportunity to share information and to start to create rapport

with the people. If you make it clear that this is what you want from the first meeting then

neither side will be disappointed with the meeting.

Active listening

This is a major topic and a vital skill in negotiating. It is covered in depth overleaf.

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Active Listening

Introduction

We spend up to 80 per cent of our conscious hours using four basic communication skills:

♦  writing

♦  reading

♦  speaking and

♦  listening

Listening accounts for more than 50 per cent of that time, so we're actually spending 40 per cent

of our conscious time just listening. We tend to give little attention to the listening part of the of

the communication process, which is amazing considering the facts stated here.

On average, people retain only 25 per cent of what they hear. There are many reasons why this is

the case:

♦  We perceive listening as a passive activity and find the prolonged concentration required

impossible to maintain

♦  The average person speaks at about 130 words per minute, whereas our thinking speed is

about 500 words per minute. Consequently, we are continually jumping ahead of what is

actually being said. We often, therefore, go on 'mental walk-about', thinking of other things

♦  We don't clear our minds beforehand so the 'noise in our system' shuts out or distorts what is

being said

♦  The listener is tense with emotion so that his or her ability to listen is seriously impaired

♦  We are concerned with our reply so that the concentration is on this rather than what is being

said to us

♦ 

The perception of the listener may so differ from the perception of the talker that a totallydifferent interpretation of the information may occur

How can we improve our listening?

Quite simply by getting the sender of the message involved with the receiver to create a two-

way communication. The technique of making the process of communication two-way is

called 'ACTIVE LISTENING', which as the name suggests is an active not a passive process.

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Active Listening Steps

The steps in active listening are:

 A receives a message

B receives a message. This involves concentrating fully on what is being said

B states what s(he) has understood but makes no evaluations

 A either agrees with B's interpretation or, if not, sends the message again

This process is continually repeated until understanding by both parties has been achieved

Active Listening Techniques

Two techniques that can help us become more competent at active listening are Summarising andReflecting.

Summarising

This is concerned with the factual side of the message and involves stating back to the speaker

the listener's understanding of the information. This paraphrasing should take place at regular

intervals and has the advantage of:

♦  checking understanding

♦  offering opportunities for clarification

♦  showing the speaker that you have been listening to what has been said, thus demonstrating

your interest

♦  giving the speaker feedback on how well the message has been expressed

Useful phrases are:

“As I understand it, what you are saying is ....”

“So your point is that ....”

Reflecting

This is like holding a mirror in front of the speaker, reflecting back phrases as you hear them.

This increases clarity and lets the speaker know that you are hearing accurately. You may be

reflecting back data or feelings. In the case of the latter, recognition of the speaker's feelings

builds empathy between you.

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Non-verbal communication

Active listening is greatly enhanced by the judicious use of non-verbal communication, which

includes:

•  the receiver making eye contact with the speaker 60 - 80 per cent of the time

•  nodding and shaking the head when appropriate

•  mirroring the speaker's body language, although it is important not to 'mimic' the

speaker's posture

Research has shown that we take in 7% by words, 38% by tone of voice and 55% from body

language. That means that HOW something is said, and HOW they hold themselves reveals

more than WHAT  they say.

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How to Improve your Listening Skills

ACTION REASONING

 You must care enough to want to improve. Without this motivation, it will be too mucheffort

 Try to find an uninterrupted area in which toconverse.

Keeping your train of thought is difficultwhen there are obstructions toconcentration

Be mindful of your own biases and prejudices… …so that they don't unduly influence yourlistening

Pay careful attention to what's being said. Do not stop listening in order to plan arebuttal to a particular point

Be aware of 'red flag' words that might trigger

an overreaction or a stereotyped reaction.

Examples of this are 'Women's Libber' and

'Male Chauvinist'

Don't allow yourself to get too far ahead of thespeaker

Avoid trying to understand things too soon

At intervals, try to paraphrase what peoplehave been saying.

Give them the opportunity to learn what youthink you've been saying

Watch for key or 'buzz' words if you've lostthe train of the conversation.

 This happens particularly when the speaker islong-winded or has a tendency to ramble

Don't interrupt to demand clarification ofinsignificant or irrelevant details

 You can ask for these details at the end oftheir talk time

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Avoiding commitment

At the first meeting ensure that you take all suggestions ‘without prejudice’. This enables you to

listen to everything to put a number of proposals forward but without either side committing

themselves irrevocably.

This is best prefaced by “What if…” or “How would it be if we …” or “As a suggestion, if we..”

Establishing rapport

Rapport arises in many different ways. The key factors to establishing rapport are:

•  Recognising the other party as an individual

•  Recognising the person, not the issue 

• 

Sharing your own feelings

•  Speaking in their language

•  Trusting the other party’s competence

•  Matching voice tone and speed

•  Eye contact

•  Finding out the other’s interests

•  Listening well

Identifying language patterns

NLP suggests that there are certain patterns of language that individuals prefer

♦  Visual  – look, see, scenario, illustrate, brilliant

♦ 

Sound  – hear, listen, sounds like, in harmony

♦  Feeling   - grasp, get to grips with, concrete proposals

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You have already

Included in language patterns are the use of filters.

Filters affect our decision-making ability and actions. They include:

♦ 

Towards – away from

♦  Global – specific

♦  Match – mismatch

Towards – away from

This filter determines whether we are motivated by a desire to try something different or to avoid

something unpleasant from the past. When you hear people talking about “boldly going” they

are Towards people; when they talk about “from poverty to riches” they are Away From people.

In negotiating a pay rise you will appeal to a Towards person by saying that with more pay youwill be able to focus on the future and the challenges it provides; you will gain more attention

from an Away From person by saying that the pay rise will prevent you from looking elsewhere

for another job and saving them from having to find someone else to do your work.

Global – specific

This filter explains how we approach the world. Global people see the whole planet and the

world of work – they find it hard to concentrate for long on minute details. Specific people see

the world as linear, one task at a time and sometimes fail to take in the whole picture.

In negotiating there is room for both approaches. However the better approach is to settle andagree the global picture first then focus in on the details. Otherwise both parties will be

unsatisfied with the outcome. Some warring factions cannot even agree at very high levels of

globalisation (human life is sacred) which makes negotiation nigh on impossible.

Match – mismatch

The human brain is designed to look for similarities to try to form some patterns of the world and

to reduce the ‘confusion’ of all the millions of messages hitting the brain every second. For some

people they seek patterns too readily and can match a great many items and situations. For

others things are all different, unique and there is no room for matching and therefore

categorizing and generalities.

In negotiating you may wish to ,match a current situation with a past one and then try for the

same resolution. With matchers this will work; mis-matchers will not recognize even some

similarities.

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Observing and Recording

It is important to develop skills in observing and recording  as a Negotiator. You will need to doboth these at speed, and unobtrusively, when you are working with a group. You may in some

circumstances wish to ask another member of the group to record for you, but be aware that this

will take them out of the group situation and they may find re-entry difficult.

Observing

This skill involves seeing without judging what happens. Within a group, interactions occur

between various members; people react to statements; body language gives a clue to feelings. Itis very important to watch for non-spoken communication: gestures, facial expressions and the

like and also to listen to the tone of the spoken words which can also convey strong messages.

The task of observing is to watch what happens : who says what; who does what; who sits beside

whom; is this always consistent; who avoids whom.

Recording

It is important that you devise a method of recording the group interactions - verbal and non-verbal and practise doing this accurately and quickly. This means that you can recall precise

words and gestures where necessary at group review or when there is some problem with your

group. Records should be accurate and precise. 

Try not to summarise but to record precisely and to work out your own shorthand to help with

speed. As the group process is important you cannot be interrupting them to get them to slow

down while you write.

If you are recording body language then draw stick people; use initials and also use some of the

methods suggested below.

You will need to use your discretion when to write/record and when to observe.

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Tools for Observing and Recording

Plus/Minus Sheets

A plus/minus sheet is a way of recording ‘good’ and ‘bad’ actions and words. It is used wherethere can be some concerns over the group process and where the group seems to be fighting -

perhaps at the storming stage of group dynamics.

A sheet of paper is divided into two columns, + and -, and you record what takes place in the

columns. Note that this involves an element of subjective judgement by the Negotiator so you

need to establish what good and bad means in your terms - probably helping or hindering the

group attain its purpose.

+ -

KV Let’s reconsider the problem again RA No we all know what it is, thestupid accounts system

KV That’s your opinion - I think it couldbe a wider issue

MS The orders keep arriving late atcustomer sites

 JV Sales keep promising the earthand do not consider theproblems in dispatch

Action/Say Sheets

This is similar to a plus/minus sheet except that here, rather than getting the Negotiator to make judgements as they record the differences in body language and words are recorded. This will

include eye contact; table thumping; moving in/out from the group; arm movements; facial

expressions.

Again it is of value in review where you are interested in getting opinions from all members of

the group, not just the vocal ones. You can introduce a review by saying “Sue, I noticed that you

were frowning when Ray said “ we all know what (the problem) is, the stupid accounts

system” - what were you thinking?”

A say/action sheet is also a two column sheet where you record spoken words and also body

language of speaker and others.  This is important. Often groups need Negotiation because the

members are poor at recognising non-verbal communication from others, or will notacknowledge it.

Again you need to develop some shorthand - pictures, phrases, and so on to capture all the

nuances of non-verbal actions.

Note: It is easier to record actions than  the words - they stay longer in your

mind.

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Spoken Actions

RA we all know what the problem is, thestupid accounts system

SJ frowns;

MS raises eyes

KL sits forward

Group Observation Sheet

We have prepared some Group Observation Sheets that will help you observe a group closely

and focus on behaviours. This sheet asks some questions and allows space for initials of

individuals. It can combine with a ‘plan’ of seating which you can also use to note how many

times individuals speak or are spoken to.

Do this by using either your own notation or the following:-

S = Speaker

R = Receiver

Quickly you will see a pattern starting to emerge in any group with ‘speakers’ and ‘receivers’.

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Exercise FiveGroup Observation Checklist

Find a situation where you have the opportunity to observe a group in action. This may have to

be watching your course colleagues discuss some topic or you may think about a recent group or

team meeting that you attended. If using memory, then make sure that the meeting was in the

past five days since our memories are notoriously bad at remembering details.

Complete the checklist below:-

 Who talks to whom?

•  Sketch the seating plan and put initials of each person in their appropriate places.

• 

Is there any ‘ranking’ order of seating? Do people sit next to ‘friends’?

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•  Remember S and R notation.

Checklist questions Initials

Who talks the most?

 To whom do they talk ?

Who talks to them ?

When people are talking, where do they look?

Who interrupts whom?

Who is the leader of the group?

Who talks the least?

How are silent people treated?

Are some people listened to more than others?

Do they also do most of the talking?

Is there evidence of competition? Between whom? What is it?

Are decisions made by the few or everyone?

Who listens the most?

How do you know they are listening?

Who is telling others their ideas?

Who is selling their ideas?

How are ideas handled?

Who summarises?

Who keeps the group on target?

Who keeps time?

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Key Quotes

In the table below capture some of the positive and negative quotes said at the meeting and the

initials of the person saying them. If you have time, write in brackets the reaction of the group to

these statements.

Positive quotes by Negative quotes by

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Meeting topic

Did the topic of the meeting affect the way in which the meeting ran? Were people’s behaviours

different from what you normally expect?

General atmosphere

What is your impression of the general atmosphere in the meeting? Is it friendly? hostile?

resigned? competitive? enthusiastic?

What gives you this impression? - state words used; gestures; asides; body language

Leaving the meeting

Did the meeting end with a feeling of accomplishment? Were people positive about the meeting?

Was it productive in the views of the attendees? What evidence do you have for these views?

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Stage 3: Regroup

♦ 

Time out for thought – evaluating the meeting

♦  Identify and categorise findings about other parties

♦  Revisit

•  outcomes,

•  Range, and

•  Value Adds

Meeting Evaluation

Effective meetings occur when Negotiators and participants work to find a better way to get the

 job done. Participants come to a meeting with ideas, skills, knowledge and experience. The

Negotiator’s job is to create an environment where ‘evaluation’ becomes a normal part of the

process.

Sources of Evaluation

There are three potential sources for evaluating meetings:

♦  Self-evaluation by the Negotiator

♦  Evaluation by a trained observer

♦  Evaluation by participants

All should contribute to improving a meeting. However, evaluations by trained observers and

participants tend to be broader in scope and more objective.

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Self-Evaluation by the Negotiator

After a meeting is over, a Negotiator should ask,

“How did I do?”

“Where did things go well, and why?”

“Where did I have problems, and why?”

“What would I do differently next time?”

This is the minimum evaluation to be considered. A Negotiator will have impressions about

things that went well and problem areas that were encountered. A few minutes reflections on

these experiences can be helpful.

Evaluation by a Trained Observer

A trained observer should be familiar with the ingredients of an effective meeting, skilled in

making objective evaluation and accomplished at giving feedback. It is difficult to find

someone with all these qualifications.

A meeting observer usually sits at the back of the room and records notes on an evaluation

form. Notes that follow a ‘timeline’ of the meeting are most helpful.

Following the meeting, the observer may either report to the group and invite discussion

about how to improve the effectiveness of future meetings, or the trained observer may

choose to report privately to the meeting Negotiator to discuss improvement needs.

Evaluation by Participants

Participants are an excellent resource for evaluation. They have feelings and reactions to

meetings, events and leadership styles that others may not choose to acknowledge. An open

discussion is usually the best way to get feedback from participants.

After the Meeting

If you do not have time at the end of the meeting, these evaluation techniques are available:

•  Distribute evaluation forms to participants asking them to complete and return them to

you

•  Telephone a cross-section of the group and request a verbal evaluation of the meeting

•  Visit members of the meeting and ask them to evaluate in a face-to-face situation

•  Check with the meeting ‘owner’ against the objective agreed beforehand

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Benefits of Evaluation

The benefits of an evaluation will be worthwhile if the following conditions exist:

• 

You want to improve future meetings

•  You receive honest input from evaluators

•  Evaluators are candid in their assessment

•  You receive feedback in a positive way

•  You incorporate improvements into future meetings

Value Added

♦  What can you give other parties that adds value to them but involves negligible cost or

expense on your part?

♦  What else would you like from the other parties that is outside current scope of negotiation?

♦  Is your extra demand easy to fulfil?

♦  Is your ‘gift’ easy to fulfil?

When deciding on a Value Add you must think of something that would benefit the other party,

that is in your gift to offer and that will not cost you much in terms of money or resources. It

may be something such as a help line phone number for 30 days after purchase; allowing them to

use your company’s name as a customer on their literature; making the product in their

company colours; whatever.

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Power

♦  Power is given as well as taken

♦  Power comes from

•  The individual

•  Their title

•  The situation

•  Individual abilities

♦  Ensure you have maximum power before negotiating – but don’t expect necessarily to use it !

It is the perception others hold about your power that gives you the ability to induce compliance

or to influence their behaviour. Therefore, power is like money in the bank. The person trying to

cash a cheque not only has to have funds available they also have to give the impression of

affluence to prevent checks being made on their signature for confirmation.

Thus a person’s power base has to be known to others before it can be used effectively. If you are

to increase the probability of influencing others you need information about how others perceive

you and what sources of power they most respect.

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Stage 4: Negotiate for Resolution

♦ 

Negotiate the big picture first

♦  Cover all the issues under consideration

♦  Shift between big picture and details

♦  Trade concessions

♦  Bargain value adds

The Big Picture First

♦  Start with broad principles

♦  Consider the intention of the negotiation

♦  “agree on the wood then the trees then the leaves” i.e. from the general to the specific

♦  Chunk up to agreement on big scale

♦  Then go down into the details

Where you are unable to get agreement at even a metaphysical level (“nature” or “the planet”)

then there are major problems

Concessions

These are where each side starts to move further along their range of negotiation towards the

other party. Concessions are rarely made without something comparable from the other side.

It is a case of “if we….., then will you….?”

Compromise

This is where each party ‘gives in’ to the other party. It can result in neither party getting what

they want.

How often have you been unable to decide with a partner about the film you want to see and

ending up going to see something that neither of you wanted particularly to see but was a

compromise solution? Perhaps the correct negotiated solution in this case would have been to go

one night to the film that A wanted to see and another night to the film that B wanted to see?

This way both of you gain something rather than an unsatisfactory compromise.

Generally speaking, compromise is not a satisfactory outcome from negotiation.

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Stage 5: Reach Consensus

♦ 

Restate final conclusions

♦  Check that everyone has authority to agree the deal

♦  Check with each party individually that they agree

Restate final conclusions

It is important to restate all the stages of the agreement thoroughly and to get everyone to agree

on them –preferably by signing – before a break. Otherwise people will forget details or will only

remember the final points of the discussion. Try to construct the final agreement in words that

you can understand – if later it has to go to lawyers then so be it, but he general wording should

be readily comprehensible by all.

Check on authority to sign

This is vital. If someone does not have this authority then until they get it you have not reached

an agreement, just and understanding!

Check individually with each person

By going round the table, restating the agreement and asking a simple

“Do you agree with ………………………….?” And requiring a simple Yes or No you can judge

whether everyone is really with you or not.

Where people hesitate on Yes, or stutter, or say OK or I suppose so or whatever then you will

know that they are not fully behind the agreement. A straight YES is needed (or even NO). It isthe time to come off the fence and ‘put up or shut up’.

Assuming that you get a straight YES then you can move to the close

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Stage 6: Close

♦ 

Check that all parties are happy

♦  Shake hands or sign

♦  Inform all interested internal parties

♦  Keep promises

This is fairly self-explanatory. Some form of formal agreement is useful – a ritual such as signing

or shaking hands helps and then the necessity of ensuring that everyone informs the other

interested parties in their interest groups. If they have the authority to make the agreement then

this is not the time for others to disagree, it is for them to work with the negotiated agreement.

The final point – Keep Promises – may look obvious but there are some widely publicised

negotiations where on return one party or another fails to keep its promises. If made in good

faith they either have to be kept or a meeting convened to find out why they cannot be worked

and a solution found.

Congratulations! You have now finished learning about Negotiation Skills.

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Exercise SixReassess your Current Skills as a Negotiator

In the questions below, rank yourself from 1 poor to 5 highly skilled in terms of your current 

negotiating ability. Then, bearing in mind the type of deals you will be negotiating, rank yourself

how you wish to be.

Statement Rank

now

Want

to be

1 I find it easy to establish rapport

2 I find it easy to set outcomes in advance of discussions

3 I find it easy to obtain authority for negotiations

4 I find it easy to observe interactions

5 I find it easy to analyse offers

6 I find it easy to determine other party’s value add

7 I find it easy to determine other party’s negotiation limits

8 I find it easy to determine other party’s ‘point of no return’

9 I find it easy to change language to match that of otherparty

10 I find it easy to help a discussion to progress when it isblocked

11 I find it easy to give effective feedback to individuals

12 I find it easy to maintain my own integrity whilst negotiating

Time: Questionnaire 10 minutes

Discussion 10 minutes

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Exercise SevenAction Plan

•  Using the results of your self-assessment questionnaire (Exercise ), complete this Action

Plan. You should aim to put in at least 3 actions that you will complete within a specific

time frame

You may need to ask for help from someone in the group, or the trainer, or your manager, or

a colleague to complete the activity. If that person is here on the course, get their

commitment now before you both leave.

ACTION By

when?

With

whom?

Date

completed

1

2

3

Timing : 20 minutes individual work

15 minutes negotiation and discussion