MYHA BOARD OF DIRECTORS

2016-2017

Brian Stavenger

President

Executive Committee - Facilities

Mike Simonich

Vice President

Facilities - Equipment Co-Chair

Executive Committee

Anne Norris

Gaming Manager

Rob Gramer

Executive Director

Board Secretary, Office Manager

Dennis Bushy

Arena Manager, Scheduler

Rachel Alderson

Membership

Sara Owen

Fundraising

Josh Krieg

Membership

Mark Hendrickson

Fundraising

Chad Marsden

Executive Committee

Treasurer - Facilities

Equipment Co-Chair

Tim Kolehmainen

Corey Delorme

Tournament Co-Directors

Jeremy Gregoire

Hockey Director

Jon Ammerman

Hockey Committee

Emily Sell

Hockey Committee

Creating a Winning Culture!

I had the good fortune of attending two of our Positive Coach-ing Alliance workshops this past month. I was very impressed with the workshops last year and was interested to see how the PCA would build on that for MYHA in year 2. I was not dis-appointed. The message from both the PCA presenter, Andy Shriver, and our local organizational culture and leadership development guru, Jess Almlie of Discovery Benefits, resonat-ed in similar ways and in new ways. We were given fantastic reminders to keep our focus and emphasis on the ELM tree of mastery, where Effort, Learning, and not only a tolerance but an environment that encourages Mistakes. This will foster a culture that empowers our kids to challenge themselves, try their very best, learn, grow, and improve. The confidence gained from the realization that their value is not measured in goals, saves, assists wins, losses, etc, but rather measured in effort, discipline, and progress will have them coming back for more...eagerly with a smile on their face. And, we were also given the message that this does not mean a compromise in expectations or desired results. In fact, it is critical that we ad-here to striving for excellence. But, the path to results is clear-ly laid through the continued development of a culture, the Winning Culture, that focuses on the process of discipline, ef-fort, and learning. Thank you to all of our parents and coaches for attending the workshops, and for your ongoing commitment to making MYHA a great place for our young kids!

Rob Gramer

Executive Director

Office Hours 8:00 a.m.– 3:00 p.m.

Monday-Friday. Phone: 218.233.5021

Fax: 218.233.4504

The Official Scorecard of Moorhead Youth Hockey

Volume XIV • Issue 2 • October, 2016

RECYCLING NOTICE: You are welcome to bring your aluminum

cans to Minnkota Recycling and tell them

they are for Moorhead Youth Hockey.

Moorhead Youth Hockey will receive the

rebate check back from the cans.

Thank you!!

DON’T THROW THOSE DEAD

INK CARTRIDGES! Please turn in your used printer ink cartridges to the drop off box in the MYHA lobby. We earn cash for each one we turn in for recycling/refilling so it's an easy way for us to make money for our organiza-tion! Accepting small and large cartridges! (sorry, no toner tubes or tanks) Lisa Schmidt

Ink Recycling Coordinator

Mark your Calendar:

Check our website for exact

practice/game times and

more info!

Nov 16 …………....MYHA Board Meeting

Nov 19-20…....Rookie In House Jamboree

Nov 25-27….Squirt A Thanksgiving Mashup

Nov 24-25……………………..….Office Closed

Dec 2-4………. 12UA Hot Potato Tournament

Dec 9-11..12UB Tater Tot Classic Tournament

Dec 16-18….Bantam B Potato Classic Tourney

www.moorheadyouthhockey.com Click on Association Events on the left

for the yearly MYHA calendar

Parents!

Out for a relaxing evening? Stop by one

of the MYHA supporters and have fun playing

bingo or pull tabs!

Gaming is a vital component to reducing costs of youth hockey for the members of

Moorhead Youth Hockey Association.

Please consider patronizing one of our MYHA gaming sites:

Mainline

Red Hen Tap House

Dave’s Southside

Tap

Moorhead Billiards

OFFICE HOURS

8:00 am to 3:00 pm

Monday through Friday

Closed November 24 & 25

(Thanksgiving)

MEETING NOTICE

The Board of Directors of Moorhead Youth

Hockey meets on the third Wednesday of each

month. At each meeting the financial records of

the association and its gaming subsidiary are

available to review by the members of the associ-

ation. All members are invited to attend. The

next scheduled meeting will be held on Wednes-

day, November 16th at 7:00 pm in the MYHA

Board Room. If you would like to be added to

the agenda please contact Elli Laurila at 233-

5021 or email adin@moorheadyouthhockey.com

at least one week prior to the meeting.

Coaching at the Kitchen Table By Michael Rand - Special to USA Hockey

It’s been a busy day. After a full day at school, the kids had hockey practice afterward. You had meet-ings. Deadlines. Maybe you even had to cut out early to help coach that practice, and more work awaits after everyone else goes to bed.

But you always try to make time for a family dinner – the one time of day everyone sits down in the same place. Sometimes it’s hard, but you do it because you believe it’s important. And so you sit down, after the long day, after the practice, and the first thing you think about doing is … talking hockey?

Sure. When else are you going to squeeze in valuable lessons or share your passion for the sport? But maybe in your approach you’re not thinking about the real message you might be sending, says Adam Naylor, a faculty member at Boston University and a sports psychologist who has worked with hockey families for more than 15 years.

If your temptation and natural inclination is to coach your kids at the dinner table, Naylor has some tips and thoughts to help navigate the process.

Know your role—Whether you’re an official coach of your son or daughter’s team or just one of the many unofficial ones, it’s important to know that, to your child, you are also “mom” or “dad.”

“Sometimes we have multiple roles and as parents we’re also coaches,” Naylor said. “And at the end of the day, at the dinner table we should perform the role we think is most important to serve our family the best – and that’s mom or dad.”

If you’re in full-on coach mode, you might not even realize it – and your child almost certainly will not.

“The kid doesn’t know what role you’re in,” Naylor said. “So if you’re going to err on a side, err on the side of shutting down the coach side.”

Know your tone—At the same time, Naylor isn’t saying you should never talk about hockey at the dinner table. It’s more a matter of how you do it. As such, it’s not a “black or white” issue, Naylor says, recognizing that if there’s a shared passion for hockey those dinner conversations “are the stuff we remember about growing up.”

So, while many parents realize that trying to talk about hockey on the car ride home from a game is often a bad idea, the nuance of the dinner table – often hours or even days removed from a practice or game – is different.

“The dinner table is more challenging. We tend to talk about what we’re enthusiastic about,” Naylor said. “But we can be enthusiastic about hockey without talking Xs and Os – and navigating that difference is the art of it, as is deciding if you’re capable of doing that.”

And even if you can do it in what seems to be a positive way, it’s important to keep yourself in check and make sure the message is being positively received by your child.

“It’s easy to say that if you love hockey you should talk about it also. But it can be smothering,” said Naylor. “Sometimes it’s enthusiasm run amok. We’re excited about our kids, about hockey, and we go down that road.”

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Coaching at the Kitchen Table

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Know your child—When that enthusiasm transforms into a form of dinner table coaching, it changes the message, Naylor says.

“There is that message that we care about hockey but it adds some accidental pressure – that it’s so important we need to do Xs and Os now,” he said.

And if you’re raising good children, they’re probably going to listen to you no matter what – especially at that 10U age. That’s normally a blessing, but in this case they might actually be better off tuning you out.

“Kids will listen even if they shouldn’t and then accidentally carry it into the rink stressed,” Naylor said. “You want to be careful because if they’re good kids they’re going to listen. Later on, kids can learn to separate and the best athletes become self-regulating.”

Know it’s going to be OK—The temptation to coach a child at the dinner table in the first place likely comes from a good place: you’re trying to help them achieve at a higher level or you’re seeing them struggle and trying to enhance their experience.

And let’s face it: parenting can be stressful, particularly when it comes to athletics. But again, Naylor says, it’s good to recognize our own stress because “we don’t want to put it on our kids by accident.”

As such, it’s fine to let the process play out. Try to relax a little and let your kids figure out the game on their own. It might lead to a better lesson than anything you could tell them.

“We’re so quick to throw parents under the bus, but this all starts at a place of caring and wanting what’s best for their kids,” Naylor said. “However, when we’re always telling kids what to do, we cre-ate a lack of problem-solving. We forget that sometimes being average and struggling is the best place for kids.”

Jeremy Gregoire Hockey Director

Save the Date: Spud Buddies are back!

The Moorhead Girl's Varsity Hockey Team and the Youth Girls are teaming up again for Spud

Buddies. As a Spud Buddy, each youth player gets FREE admission to a designated Girls Varsity home game (you will be notified of the exact game), go out on the ice with the varsity team

(after their warm-ups), skate out and be introduced with the varsity players for starting line-up and the National Anthem and participate in the huddle cheer around the net.

We encourage you to stay for the game and cheer on the Spuds!

Schedule: 12U: Tuesday, November 22

8U: Tuesday, November 29 8U: Tuesday, December 6

10U: Thursday, December 15 12U: Saturday, December 17

Rookie Girls: Tuesday, December 20 10 U: Tuesday, January 3 8U: Saturday, January 7

Rookie Girls: Saturday, January 21

More details to come!

MYHA Tournament Worker Requirements Policy 2016-2017 Season

*This policy replaces the former Volunteer Policy and any volunteer hours*

Hosted Tournaments profited over $100,000 over 13 events last season. This season we will host even more tournaments, a total of 16. We host tournaments as a way to keep your registration fees down, as well as providing a weekend at home without travel expenses. Because tournaments are essential to our association, working our tournaments is now a requirement. There are no exempt positions from this requirement. If you have a child playing in Moorhead Youth Hockey, you will work your assigned tourna-ment, or tournaments if you have children on multiple teams. A deposit of $400 will be collected at registration as your commitment to working your assigned

tournament shifts. Your deposit check will be held by Moorhead Youth Hockey (not cashed) until after you have worked your assigned shifts.

The Tournament Director(s) will ASSIGN team member families to adequately cover the shifts required for that tournament. Families can expect to work about 4 shifts, but this will vary based on the roster size of the teams assigned and the needs of that particular tournament.

If you are unable to work your assigned shift, it is YOUR responsibility to find a replacement. If you, or your replacement, does not show up to work your shift, or if you do not fulfill your job

duties, your $400 deposit check will be cashed immediately.

It is not the intention of Moorhead Youth Hockey to cash deposit checks. We would rather have everyone work together to provide a fun and exciting tournament atmosphere for the players. If questions, contact Corey Delorme at corey@technologypros.us Tournament Dates and Team assignments are BELOW!

Mark Your Calendars!!

These are the

dates for

MYHA

tournaments

for the

2016-2017 year.

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DATES TOURNAMENT – LEVEL TEAMS ASSIGNED

Oct 28-30 Big Pumpkin – PeeWee AA PWAA, ALL Squirts

Nov 11-13 Spud Shootout – PeeWee B PWB, Mite 1

Nov 25-27 Thanksgiving Mashup – Squirt A/B Mite 2, Mite 3, Mite 4, Mite 5

Dec 2-4 Hot Potato – Girls 12UA 12UA, 8U1, Rookie 1

Dec 9-11 Tater Tot Classic – Girls 12UB 12UB, 8U2, Rookie 2

Dec 16-18 Potato Classic – Bantam B BB, Rookie 3

Dec 30-Jan 1 Golden Potato – Jr Gold 18 B JG18B, Rookie 4, Rookie 5

Jan 6-8 Sweet Potato Classic – Girls 15UA 15UA, Rookie 6, Rookie 7

Jan 13-15 Spud Classic – Bantam B2 BB2, Rookie 8

Jan 20-22 Potato ‘Chip Invite – Girls 10UB 10UB, Mite 6

Jan 27-29 Curly Fry Classic – Girls 10UA 10UA, Mite 7

Feb 3-5 SpudTacular – Bantam AA BAA, Rookie 9

Feb 10-12 Golden Spud Invite – Jr Gold 16 JG16, Rookie 10

Feb 17-19 February French Fry – PeeWee B2 PWB2, Rookie 11

Mar 17-19 Metro Championship – Squirt B2 Mite 8, Rookie 12

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