MODULE 7

TEAMWORK

Paul’s advice to Titus:“But avoid foolish controversies and

genealogies and arguments and quarrels about the law, because these are

unprofitable and useless.” Titus 3:10

Paul’s advice to Titus:“But avoid foolish controversies and

genealogies and arguments and quarrels about the law, because these

are unprofitable and useless.” Titus 3:10

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Paul’s advice to Titus:

“But avoid foolish controversies and genealogies and arguments and quarrels about the law, because these are unprofitable and useless.”

Titus 3:10

Objectives

You will learn that successful teamwork is based on focusing on common goals, values and expectations.

You will discover that positive relationships enable more effective working partnerships in a team, and likewise,, you will discover that open communication likewise results in effective working relationships.

You will learn to respect each other’s differences in areas of conflict.

You will learn to maintain trust in each other by practicsing responsibility for one’syour actions.

Learning Outcome s

Paul’s advice to Titus:“But avoid foolish controversies and

genealogies and arguments and quarrels about the law, because these

are unprofitable and useless.” Titus 3:10

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At the end of the session, Boys you will:

1. Learn to appreciate your team members by listening and respecting their different perspectives.

2. Communicate trust by taking responsibility for their your own actions, in order to have win/-win relationships.

3. Reflect on the importance of positive communications in their your relationships with friends, parents, teachers and the community.

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COMMUNICATION

Based on the listening exercise :

How do you feel when the other person was listening to you as you were talking?_____________________________________________________________

What do you think is the purpose of this exercise?

The purpose of the exercise is to help me realise that

I should Rr _ _ _ _ _ _ing the speaker’s individuality.

Most people don’t feel that they are really being heard.

If youI take the time to really understand what myour partner is, you I will be able to explain it back to him.

You can choose to Can you ttell your partner what was said to you or you can choose to write it down below:

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Keep thiese communication tips in mind when communicating in a team.: (communication tips)

Listen to the other person first and he/she may be more open to listening to you.

Understand the message from the other person’s perspective.

Be flexible.

Look at the whole picture.

Based on the goal setting activity, how dido you think your group fared in the communication? Dido you think everyone had a fair share of listening to each other?

Did the above communication tips help you to understand the group better?

If yes, which points helped?

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Problems within a group are inevitable. Rather than see ithis as a obstacle, look at it as an opportunity to grow.

But first, you need to be aware of the following:

Check if you agree with them

Do Nnot to walk away abruptly in a discussion. Stay calm and open. The more you become hostile, angry or withdrawn, the harder it is to get the other person to listen to you.

Say what you need to but try to be honest and not hurtful.

Be forgiving because everyone, like you, may have a different opinion and hence different expectations.

See the other person’s perspective and offer alternative choices.

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COMMUNICATION Learning Opportunities at

BB:

Case Study 1

Soon Kiat is a squad leader and has been trying hard to get his squad members to work together. The immediate problem he is facing is that two younger members, Nathan and Alan, have been at each other’s throats for the longest time. Their ongoing dispute, which has spilled over from class matters, is affecting the squad’s unity and cohesion.

Soon Kiat did has tryied to talk to them, but they have argued with him and they claimed that Soon Kiat is only interested in solving the dispute because he is the squad leader. They claimed that he wanted them to stop bickering so that he would win this year’s Inter-squad competition. Right now, the rest of the squad are looking to Soon Kiat to solve the problem. If he does not solve the problem, then it becomes clear that they will be frustrated with him as well.

What canwould you do, if you were Soon Kiat? Apply what you have learnt about communication to this case. Discuss your suggestions as in a group.

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COMMUNICATIONOn a personal level, if you need to talk to the other person individually about a particular matter or conflict, you need to

Think in advance about what you want to say. Write down three or four key points and stick with them until you have expressed them clearly

Write the other person a letter. Tell them how you feel about not being listened to and what you need from them. It gives you the opportunity to get your thoughts together and to express yourself clearly without interruption.

Note down some experiences or incidents that have affected your relationship with someone in your life. You might want to spend the next five minutes planning with your partner as to what to say or write to mend the relationship. Then think about putting those points into action after this class.

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TEAMWORK :

IT IS WITHIN YOUR CONTROL

As a team member, you want to make sure you are effective in the group. Taking responsibility means knowing your role in the team and playing your part to enable the team to achieve a successful team experience.

Check if you think the pointers given are good ideas.

When in a relationship or friendship, you are only responsible for 50% of it and the other person is responsible for the other 50%. Take full responsibility for your 50%. Don’t blame other people.

Take responsibility for what are is given or expected. You are not a victim. You can assert yourself and change your circumstances whenever you choose. Match your behaviour to your goals.

Do whatever you can to produce the results that your group has agreed on.

Accept responsibility for communicating with your group. Situations are not entirely up to you, but you can take responsibility for your part in them.

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Discuss this quote :

“ I can give you lots of advice and lots of wonderful ideas, but you are in control.

You can accept them or not. You have the power.”

Louise Hay

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Teamwork means going for WIN/-WIN RELATIONSHIPS

Check if you think the pointers are good ideas.

Let go of wanting to win arguments or make your points. Let the other person know how you feel, but remember there are/ may not be a winner even s if there is a loser.

Even Iif one is winning and the other is losing, then you may still end up with have two losers. This is because the loser will be bitter and resentful and may sabotage you and your relationship with others.

People who seek Wwin/-win relationships see life as cooperation not competition. They go for the best possible outcome for both parties. Compromise will be needed for win/-win relationships.

Let go of being right. Look at what you really want to achieve with thate other person and go for the goal.

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Your Choices With Win/-Win Relaaltionships

: Take note of the following types of relationships.

You Win/-They Win

Win/-Win is where two parties look for a mutually beneficial outcome, and where the parties talk things through, listen to each other and compromise with each other.

You Win/-They Lose

Win/-Lose is an ‘I get my way, you don’t get yours.’ attitude. This is about competition and about one person winning and the other person losing. Win/-Lose only works on the sports ground or in competitions.

You Lose/-They Win

Lose/-Win is when someone is programmed the other way around and puts himself down in his relationship with others so that he can bebecomes a victim.

You Lose/-They Lose

Lose/-Lose means a ‘if I can’t have it you can’t have it either’ attitude. This is about ‘getting even’ or ‘getting back’. Some people are so focused about getting even with others that at the end of the day they suffer alongside the other person.

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Learning Opportunities at BB:

Case Study 2

Mark is not a well-liked squad leader. He treats his squad members harshly because that was the way his NCOs treated him. While he has set a consistently high standard for himself, he expects the rest to follow without question.The rest of the squad are beginning to get nervous since the Company’s Inter-squad drill competition is approaching. and they are concerned that Mark will get even more dictatorial induring the preparation for the competition.

(1) What kind of relationships exists in the squad now? Can you change them to a Win/-Win relationship?

(2) Think about what kind of relationship do you want in a team.

(3) What can you do as a squad member? What can you do if you are the squad leader?

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