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Organizational Spirituality: Taking the Corporate High Road
Module 3:
Threats to Interconnectedness:Managing UnintentionalAggression
Copyright TransTalent
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Introduction to Module 3
In this module we will examine threats to a sense of community that are caused by
subtle, but unintentional aggression and we will consider the use of coaching as a
management strategy for this particular challenge.
Information for this module has been taken directly, adapted, and/or
synthesized/integrated from the books Coaching for Performance, In SheepsClothing, Emotional Vampires, and Crucial Confrontations: Tools for Resolving
Broken Promises, Violated Expectations and Bad Behavior (see References page for
full citations).
NOTE: NOTHING IN THIS MODULE IS A SUBSTITUTE FOR APPROPRIATE LEGAL
ADVICE AND/OR THERAPY
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Module Objectives
By the end of this module you should be able to:
Define
Overt aggression
Subtle aggression
Passive aggression
Unconscious acts
List some characteristics of passive aggression
Differentiate coachingfrom therapy
Describe how a coaching approach might be used to manage unintentional
aggression and why it has the potential to be effective
List major caveats relevant to managing unintentional aggression Describe two crucial elements necessary for delivering criticism
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Aggression
Aggression is
a hostile action or behavior. (Davies, 1976)
Overt aggression is
aggression that is obvious and direct. This includes, but is not limited to physical aggression
and assault, throwing and destroying objects, and verbal threats and profanity. (Ivancevich
et. al., 2008)
Subtle aggression is
less obvious than overt aggression. It is hidden beneath the surface of everyday activities
and is sometimes difficult to recognize, especially to people who think the best of others.
(Simon, 1996).
Passive aggression is
A form of aggression characterized by what the aggressor does NOT do rather than whathe/she actually does, for example, the aggressor forgets to deliver what was promised.
(Simon, 1996; Bernstein, 2002).
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Characteristics of Passive Aggression
Forgetting/omitting
Forgetting to complete an assignment; or
Leaving out critical details in a written or verbal report
Procrastinating
Tardiness, including
Lateness to meetings; and
Missing deadlines
Being sick on critical days
Making excuses for the above (including blaming others)
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The Victims of Passive Aggression
are those supervisors, coworkers and clients who were counting on having work by aspecific deadline, or were counting on having the person present for a meeting or an
event.
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Consequences of Passive Aggression
primarily the stress placed on coworkers who may have to
Complete the aggressors uncompleted work on short notice
Review the aggressors last minute submission
Submit an inadequately reviewed or unreviewed product (because the aggressors
portion was turned in at the last minute) Ethics challenges that can arise from errors in inadequately reviewed work.
Miss a deadline
Scramble to reallocate work when the aggressor doesnt show
Waste time (which could be put to constructive use) waiting for the aggressor to show
up at meetings
Wing itwhen the aggressor does not show up for an event (particularly when he/she
has not shared his/her plan)
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The Challenge of Passive Aggression
It is generally believed that passive aggression is an unconscious expression of
hostility/anger/frustration. The aggressor is unaware of his/her motivation. This is
why we call it unintentional aggression. (Simon, 1996).
Unless you are walking in someones shoes, you really cannot know the persons true
motivation for being tardy, absent, or missing deadlines. In passive aggression, the
aggressor actually does NOT seem to know it either! (If they do know, then it is not
passive aggression, but is something else).
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Caveats
Just because an employee exhibits the characteristics of passive aggression does not
mean that is what is going on. There are other reasons that a person might be
exhibiting these characteristics, including, but not limited to
medical reasons
intentional aggression
they lack work flow management skills or need more feedback
they lack task support they need or the are encountering other barriers tosuccess.
other reasons
Avoid labeling people. The characteristics of passive aggression described in the module
are meant to help a manager select a workplace intervention that might help
someone with a specific set of characteristics become more engaged, productive andmore positively connected with coworkers. It is not intended to be used a diagnosis
or label.
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What Does Unintentional Aggression Have to Do With
Organizational Spirituality?
It destroys teamwork/sense of interconnectedness.
The stress it causes has a negative effect on quality of work life for all parties involved
(including the aggressor).
An optimal solution is one that manages the situation so the aggressor has an opportunityto better channel his/her efforts (in a conscious way, rather than unconsciously) and
improve relationships with others.
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Management Intervention
Employees who forget, procrastinate, are tardy/absent might seem to need more
structure and feedback, such as intermediate deadlines and frequent reminders
Micromanaging employees, however, is a great way to kill motivation. Also, as will be
shown, micromanagement can actually backfire in passive aggression.
Ideally it is the employee who should come up with the structure, and using a coaching
management strategyis one approach for doing this.
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Coaching vs. Therapy
A coach is not a therapist and coaching is not therapy.
Coaching has as its focus, facilitating the improvement of performance or enhancing
performance.
Coaching can be differentiated from therapy.
Therapyis a medical treatment, involves diagnoses, and can only be performed
by a licensed mental health professional. It is important for legal reasons that
coaching activities not violate this boundary.
NOTE: NOTHING IN THIS MODULE IS A SUBSTITUTE FOR APPROPRIATE LEGAL
ADVICE AND/OR THERAPY
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Coaching Strategy for Managing Passive Aggression
Determine if the behaviors (lateness, procrastination, absence, etc) are isolated incidences or if they
constitute a pattern. If there is a pattern coach the employee, through the use of open-ended
questions (avoiding leading questions and yes/no questions)
Coach/facilitate the employee into recognizing the behaviors that are an issue
Coach/facilitate the employee into linking the behaviors to the impact these behaviors have on
other people Coach/empower the employee into being the one to design an intermediate feedback/deadline
structure
Document goals and progress
Unless you are certain that the employee is reliable, it is generally best to plan accordingly for
high stakes situations.
Note: Whitmores Chapter 4 addresses the use of questioning in detail. In addition, there are a number of trainingaides and books available to assist managers in developing an effective questioning strategy including (Bianco-
Mathis, 2006) The Dialogue Card Deck.
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The Role of Frustration
Since frustration can play a role in unintentional passive aggression, the employee should
be encouraged to see the manager as a resource some one who can be called
upon when the employee is spinning his/her wheels as a result of some stumbling
block.
Coaching the employee through the identification of stumbling blocks and possible
solutions can be constructive.
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Revisiting Feedback
In Module 2, we discussed that feedbackis a critical component of Csikszentmihalyis
flowin the workplace. Crowley & Elster (2006, p. 171-172) stress the importance of
consistent feedback when dealing with passive aggression.
Coaching can provide a specific type of feedback. It fosters awareness and self-
monitoring.
Structured feedback tools can be used, as well. Feedback tools can also provide
documentation of improvement (or lack thereof).
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Role of Disagreement Skills
Some unintentional passive aggression may occur because an employee agrees in a
meeting to something he/she really does not want to do. If this is happening, the
manager may want to explore the need to coach the employee on the skills of
disagreement
This is a key consideration because if the employee does not really agree with the
structure he/she creates, he/she will not buy in and it will not work.
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Delivering Criticism
The convention for delivering criticism has been the criticism sandwich in
which the one delivering the criticism would: Begin with something positive
Deliver the criticism, and
End with something positive.
Patterson, et. al. (2002, 2005) suggest that in difficult conversations, such as those
involving criticism and confrontation, there is a better approach, involving two criticalelements:
Making the person you are confronting feel safe, and this can mean different things
depending on the context; and
Finding a way to demonstrate a shared sense of purpose, and this can be a challenge when
you perceive a chasm in basic values (often a key factor in the conversation to begin with),
but the authors insist it can be done and is critical to success.
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Summary
Passive aggression is characterized by forgetting, omitting, tardiness and absences, andis particularly challenging because it is unintentional on the part of the aggressor. Acoaching approach can be used to enable the employee if guided into providinghis/her own feedback as well as participating in crafting the plans designed toimprove his/her performance.
An employee who needs feedback & deadline structures is less likely to passively rebelagainst these structures if he/she created and believes in the structures.
There is no guarantee that a coaching approach will work, but it has the potential toengage the employee in the design and implementation of a constructive solution.
When criticism must be delivered, two critical elements include 1) making the person feel
safe, and 2) finding a way to demonstrate a shared sense of purpose.
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Module 3 Discussion Questions
When an employee is habitually tardy, forgetful, etc., it can be wearing on the goodwill of
the employees who are victimized by the poor behavior. They can develop
understandable resentment, which can complicate the efforts of the employee trying
to change. Forgiveness has been identified as a quality of the human spirit. To what
extent is it realistic or even appropriate to think that forgiveness can be modeled by
leadership and incentivized in the workplace?
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References
Bernstein, A. (2002). Emotional Vampires: Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry. New York: McGraw-Hill.
Bianco-Mathis. (2006). The Dialogue Card Deck. www.strategicperformance.net/products.
Crowly & Elster . (2006). Working with You is Killing Me: Freeing Yourself from Emotional Traps at Work. New York:
Time-Warner Book Group.
Davies, P., Ed. (1976). The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language. New York: Dell.
Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, Switzler. (2005). Crucial Confrontations: Tools for Resolving Broken Promises, Violated
Expectations, and Bad Behavior. New York: McGraw Hill.
Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, Switzler. (2002). Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes are High. NewYork: McGraw Hill.
Simon, G. (1996). In Sheeps Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People. Lafayette: A.J.
Christopher & Company.
Whitmore, J. (2004). Coaching for Performance. London: Nicolas Brealey.