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Module 1 - Hypnotherapy Now · 2018. 1. 2. · Freud's early rejection of hypnosis delayed the...
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MODULE1HypnotherapyTraining
AbstractThistrainingisdesignedforyoutolearnsomeofthekeytherapeutictechniquesenablingyoutoachievethebestpossibleresultswithyourclientsofthefuture,startingfromtheapplicationsandhistoryofclinicalhypnotherapy,andhowtobringaboutahypnotictrance,throughtoavarietyoftherapeutictoolsthatyoucanalmostmixandmatchtohelpwithavarietyofissues.
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INTRODUCTIONThistrainingisdesignedforyoutolearnsomeofthekeytherapeutictechniquesenablingyoutoachievethebestpossibleresultswithyourclientsofthefuture,startingfromtheapplicationsandhistoryofclinicalhypnotherapy,andhowtobringaboutahypnotictrance,throughtoavarietyoftherapeutictoolsthatyoucanalmostmixandmatchtohelpwithavarietyofissues.Ihaverunafull-timepracticeforthepastsevenyearsusingonlyamixofthesetechniqueswithprofoundresults,andI’msurethatyoucandothesame.ApplicationsforHypnosis:Hypnotherapycanchangelives.Itisaremarkableforceforchange.IknowthisbecauseIhaveseenithappenwithmanypeopleanditsapplicationsintherealworldisendless.Takeamomenttothinkaboutallthedifferentissueshypnotherapymaybeabletohelpwith.So-whathasHypnotherapythepotentialtohelpwith?FamousUsersofHypnosis:Mozart(1756-91)composedthefamousoperaCosiFanTuttewhilsthypnotised.ThomasEdison(1847-1931)inventor.HenryFord(1863-1947)carmanufacturer.
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AlbertEinstein(1879-1955)physicist.SirWinstonChurchill(1874-1965)politician,countedbackwardsin3’sinordertostayawakeallnightandavoidtirednessduringWorldWarII.KevinCostnerflewhispersonalhypnotisttoHawaiitocurehisseasicknessduringthefilmingofWaterworld.AndyBryant,haircareconsultant,hittheheadlineswhenheunderwentavasectomyunderhypnosiswithoutanaestheticand,immediatelyaftertheoperation,wentbacktowork.Andyou,ofcourse.TheHistoryofHypnosis:(AnexcerptfromTheHypnoticWorldofPaulMcKenna-FaberandFaberLtd1993).“TheearliestreferencestohypnosisdatebacktoancientEgyptandGreece.Indeed,'hypnos'istheGreekwordforsleep,thoughactualstateofhypnosisisverydifferentfromthatofsleep.Bothcultureshadreligiouscentreswherepeoplecameforhelpwiththeirproblems.Hypnosiswasusedtoinducedreams,whichwerethenanalysedtogettotherootofthetrouble.Therearemanyreferencestotranceandhypnosisinearlywritings.In2600BCthefatherofChinesemedicine,WongTai,wroteabouttechniquesthatinvolvedincantationsandpassesofthehands.TheHinduVedaswrittenabout1500BCmentionhypnoticprocedures.Trancelikestatesoccurinmanyshamanistic,druidic,voodoo,yogicandreligiouspractices.”HypnoticPioneers:ThemodernfatherofhypnosiswasanAustrianphysician,FranzMesmer(1734-1815),fromwhosenametheword'mesmerism'isderived.Thoughmuch-malignedbythemedicalworldofhisday,Mesmerwasneverthelessabrilliantman.Hedevelopedthetheoryof'animalmagnetism'-theideathatdiseasesaretheresultofblockagesintheflowofmagneticforcesinthebody.Hebelievedhecouldstorehisanimalmagnetisminbathsofironfilingsandtransferittopatientswithrodsorby'mesmericpasses'.Themesmericpassmustsurelygodowninhistoryasoneofthemostinteresting,andundoubtedlythemostlong-winded,waysofputtingsomeoneintoatrance.Mesmerwouldstandhissubjectsquitestillwhileheswepthisarmsacrosstheirbody,sometimesforhoursonend.Isuspectthatthisprobablyhadtheeffectofboringpatientsintoatrance,butitwascertainly
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quiteeffective.Mesmerhimselfwasverymuchashowman,conveyingbyhismannerthatsomethingwasgoingtohappentothepatient.Initselfthisformofindirectsuggestionwasverypowerful.Mesmerwasalsoresponsibleforthepopularimageofthehypnotistasamanwithmagneticeyes,capeangoateebeard.Hissuccessfuelledjealousyamongmanyofhiscolleaguesandthiseventuallyledtohispublichumiliation.Lookingback,itisquiteincrediblethathypnosissurvivedtheseearlyyears,becausethemedicalworldwasdeadagainstit.AnotherforwardthinkerwasJohnElliotson(1791-1868),aprofessoratLondonUniversity,whoisfamousforintroducingthestethoscopeintoEngland.Healsotriedtochampionthecauseofmesmerism,butwasforcedtoresign.Hecontinuedtogivedemonstrationsofmesmerisminhisownhometoanyinterestedparties,andthisledtoasteadyincreaseinliteratureonthesubject.ThenextrealpioneerofhypnosisinBritainappearedinthemidnineteenthcenturywithJamesBraid(1795-1860).PrimarilyaScottisheyedoctor,hedevelopedaninterestinmesmerismquitebychance.Oneday,whenhewaslateforanappointment,hefoundhispatientinthewaitingroomstaringintoanoldlamp,hiseyesglazed.Fascinated,Braidgavethepatientsomecommands,tellinghimtoclosehiseyesandgotosleep.ThepatientcompliedandBraid'sinterestgrew.Hediscoveredthatgettingapatienttofixateuponsomethingwasoneofthemostimportantcomponentsofputtingthemintoatrance.Theswingingwatch,whichmanypeopleassociatewithhypnosis,waspopularintheearlydaysasanobjectoffixation.Followinghisdiscoverythatitwasnotnecessarytogothroughallthepalaverofmesmericpasses,Braidpublishedabookinwhichheproposedthatthephenomenonnowbecalledhypnotism.Meanwhile,aBritishsurgeoninIndia,JamesEsdaile(1808-1859),recognisedtheenormousbenefitsofhypnotismforpainreliefandperformedhundredsofmajoroperationsusinghypnosisashisonlyanaesthetic.WhenhereturnedtoEnglandhetriedtoconvincethemedicalestablishmentofhisfindings,buttheylaughedathimanddeclaredthatpainwascharacterbuilding(althoughtheywerebiasedinfavourofthenewchemical
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anaesthetics,whichtheycouldcontroland,ofcourse,chargemoremoneyfor).So,hypnosisbecame,andremainstothisday,an'alternative'formofmedicine.TheFrenchwerealsotakinganinterestinthesubjectofhypnosis,andmanybreakthroughsweremadebysuchmenasAmbroseLiebeault(1823-1904),J.M.Charcot(1825-1893)andCharlesRichet(1850-1935).TheworkofanotherFrenchman,EmileCoué(1857-1926),wasveryinteresting.Hemovedawayfromconventionalapproachesandpioneeredtheuseofauto-suggestion.Heismostfamousforthephrase'DaybydayineverywayIamgettingbetterandbetter'.Histechniquewasoneofaffirmationandithasbeenchampionedincountlessmodernbooks.Amanofenormouscompassion,Couébelievedthathedidnothealpeoplehimselfbutmerelyfacilitatedtheirownselfhealing.Heunderstoodtheimportanceofthesubject'sparticipationinhypnosis,andwasaforerunnerofthosemodernpractitionerswhoclaim,'Thereisnosuchthingashypnosis,onlyself-hypnosis.'Perhapshismostfamousideawasthattheimaginationisalwaysmorepowerfulthanthewill.Forexample,ifyouasksomeonetowalkacrossaplankofwoodonthefloor,theycanusuallydoitwithoutwobbling.However,ifyoutellthemtoclosetheireyesandimaginetheplankissuspendedbetweentwobuildingshundredsoffeetabovetheground,theywillalwaysstarttosway.InasenseCouéalsoanticipatedtheplaceboeffect-treatmentofnointrinsicvaluethepowerofwhichliesinsuggestion:patientsaretoldthattheyarebeinggivenadrugthatwillcurethem.Recentresearchintoplacebosisquitestartling.Insomecases,statisticsindicatethatplaceboscanworkbetterthanmanyofmodernmedicine'smostpopulardrugs.Itseemsthatwhiledrugsarenotalwaysnecessaryforrecoveryfromillness,beliefinrecoveryisSigmundFreud(1856-1939)wasalsointerestedinhypnosis,initiallyusingitextensivelyinhiswork.Heeventuallyabandonedthepractice-forseveralreasons,notleastthathewasn'tanygoodatit!Hefavouredpsychoanalysis,whichinvolvesthepatientlyingonacouchandtheanalystdoingalotoflistening.Hebelievedthattheevolutionoftheselfwasadifficultprocessofworkingthroughstagesofsexualdevelopment,withrepressedmemoriesoftraumaticincidentsthemaincauseofpsychologicalproblems.Thisisan
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interestingideathathasyettobeproved.Freud'searlyrejectionofhypnosisdelayedthedevelopmentofhypnotherapy,turningthefocusofpsychologyawayfromhypnosisandtowardspsychoanalysis.However,thingspickedupinthe1930'sinAmericawiththepublicationwiththepublicationofClarkHull'sbook,HypnosisandSuggestibility.Inmorerecenttimes,therecognisedleadingauthorityonclinicalhypnosiswasMiltonHErickson,MD(1901-1980),aremarkableman,andahighlyeffectivepsychotherapist.Asateenager,hewasstrickenwithpolioandparalysed,butheremobilisedhimself.Itwaswhileparalysedthathehadanunusualopportunitytoobservepeople,andhenoticethatwhatpeoplesaidandwhattheydidwereoftenverydifferent.Hebecamefascinatedbyhumanpsychologyanddevisedcountlessinnovativeandcreativewaystohelppeople.Hehealedthroughmetaphor,surprise,confusionandhumour,aswellashypnosis.Amasterof'indirecthypnosis',hecouldputapersonintoatrancewithoutevenmentioningthewordhypnosis.Itisbecomingmoreandmoreacceptedthatanunderstandingofhypnosisisessentialfortheefficientpracticeofeverytypeofpsychotherapy.Erickson'sapproachanditsderivativesarewithoutquestionthemosteffectivetechniques.Overtheyear’shypnosishasgainedgroundandrespectabilitywithinthemedicalprofession.Althoughhypnosisandmedicinearenotthesame,theyarenowacknowledgedasbeingrelated,anditisonlyamatteroftimebeforehypnosisbecomesamainstreampractice,asacceptabletothepublicasavisittothedentist.LawsofAttraction:
Whilemany‘laws’canbe,andareappliedtohypnosis,threemajorlawsaregeneraltonearlyeveryformofhypnosisandhypnotherapy,includingself-hypnosisandconversationalhypnosis.
TheLawofFocus/ConcentratedAttention
Thislawhasgainedsomeattentionlately,thankstoafewbooksandfilms.Ithasbeencalledthe‘secret,’andthe‘lawofattraction,’amongothers.Inthesimplestterms,thislawstatesthatwhatwefocusonbecomesourreality.This
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isduetohowthesubconsciousmindworks.Whateverwefocusonthemost,oursubconsciouspropelsustoward.Ifwearealwaysanxiousandthinkingaboutfailure,wesabotageourselves.If,ontheotherhand,wefocusonthebestpossibleoutcomeinanyscenario,wesetourselvesupforsuccess.
Itreferstotheprincipleofrepetitionofsuggestions.Whenweconcentrateattentionrepeatedlyonagoaloridea,ittendstoberealised.Inotherwordsifwefocusonsomething,thatthingbecomesareality.(Aclassicprincipleinformulatinghypnoticsuggestionsistorepeatthemseveraltimes.)
TheLawofReversedEffort
Theprincipleofreversedeffortprimarilyappliestomakingsuggestionstoproducephysiologicaleffects.This‘law’referstothefactthattheharderyouconsciouslyendeavourtodosomething,themoredifficultitbecomestosucceed.
Haveyouevertriedtonotthinkaboutsomething?
Forexample,trynowtonotthinkaboutapinkelephant.What’sinyourmindrightnow?Ifyou’relikemost,it’sabigpinkelephant,whileyou’restrugglingwithallyoumighttoimagineitaway.
Thisisasimple,classicyetpowerfuldemonstrationofthelawofreversedeffort.Whenwetrynottofocusonsomething,ourmindscan’tdoit.Thisisbecausethesubconsciousis,insomeways,notverysmart.Itdoesnotprocessnegativestatements.Whenyouthink“Iwon’tthinkaboutapinkelephant,”itonlyprocesses“I...thinkaboutapinkelephant.”
Thelawofdominanteffect/emotion
Thisprinciplestatesthatstrongeremotionstendtotakeprecedenceoverweakerones.Thus,onceagain,ratherthanappealingtotheconsciouswill,youwillfinditmoreeffectivetoconnectyoursuggestionstoadominantemotion.Inotherwords,asuggestionlinkedtoanemotionwilloverrideanyothersuggestionintheperson’smindatthetime.
Forexample,let’simaginethatyouwishtoquitsmoking.Youcouldremindyourself(orbetoldbyahypnotherapist)howbadsmokingisforyourhealth,usingcold,hardfacts.Youcouldalsopicture(orhaveahypnotherapist
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describetoyou)howdevastatedyourfamilywouldbeifyousuccumbedtolungcancer.Youmightpictureyourownfuneral,pictureyourspouseandchildrentryingtogetbywithoutyou,picturethelonelinessandangertheywouldfeelatyourpassing.
Whichscenariohasmoreemotionattachedtoit?Obviously,thesecondexample,andthisiswhystrongemotionalscenariosandstatementsaremorepowerfulinhypnosis(andineverydaylife,forthatmatter).
Mostofthegeneralpublichaveamisconceptionofwhathypnosisreallyis.Thismisconceptionislargelyduetothecomedyhypnotiststhey’veperhapsseenonthetelevision.Theybelievehypnotistscancontrolormanipulatepeople.
Itisimportanttoexplaintoeveryclientwhathypnosisisandalleviatetheirpossiblemisconceptions,andtosetthesceneastowhattheclientcanexpectornotexpecttohappen.
Thereisabsolutelynoquestionofbeingcontrolledormanipulated,oreveninducedintoahypnoticstateagainstyourwill.Peopleinhypnosisarenot“asleep”.Onthecontrary,theyareoftenmoreawarethanusualofwhatistakingplaceandtheirsensesfunctionfarmoreefficientlythannormal.Peoplecannotbemadetodoanythingthattheydonotwanttodo,andtheywillonlyacceptsuggestionsthatconformtotheirownattitudesandbeliefs.Thestateofhypnosis,whichisatotallynaturalphenomenon,isastatethatwegointonaturallyupto120timesaday.
ExplanationofHypnosis
Thedefinitionofhypnosisis“Astateofrelaxationandconcentrationatonewithastateofheightenedawarenessinducedbysuggestion”.
It’simportanttorememberthatallhypnosisisself-hypnosisandasahypnotherapistyouaremerelyafacilitatortohelpyourclientintoself-hypnosis.
Whocanbehypnotised?
Everylivinghumanbeingcanbehypnotisediftheywanttobe,andofcoursefullco-operationisrequired.
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Itisanaturalstatewegointoashumanbeingsupto120timesaday.Itformspartofthesleepcycle,wegointohypnosiseverynightbeforewegotosleep,andagaineverymorningbeforewebecomefullyawake.
Examplesofhowwegointohypnosiseveryday:
Driving:Youmayhaveexperiencedthiswhenyouaredrivingonalongroute,oronafamiliarrouteyoutakeeveryday.Suddenlyyouthinktoyourself,"Ican'trememberpassingacertainbridge,"or"Idon'tremembergoingthroughthosetrafficlights”.
Readingabook
Whenyoureadfictionoranovel,youloseallawarenessofthepeopleand
theroomaroundyou.Youbecomesoengrossedthatyouare“inthere”withthepeopleinthestory.Watchingtelevision
Youmayhavebeenlookingatthetelevisionscreenforthepast20minutes,yetyouhavenoideaofwhatwasgoingon.Yourmindhasdriftedawaytosomewhereelse.Allofasuddenyouthink“Imissedthatbit",yetallthetimeyouwereactuallylookingatthescreen.
Whocan’tbehypnotised?
•Childrenunderfivebecausetheydon’tunderstandthelanguagethatyouareusing.
•Peoplewithseriousmentalhealthissues.
•Peoplewhosimplydon’twanttobe.
Thisisthelittlevoiceinsideyourhead,theonethatrightnowissaying"Ohyes,thatlittlevoice".Itisthepartyouusetothinkwith,alldaylong.Itisverylimitedasitcanonlyholdalimitednumberofthoughtsorideasatanyonetime.Thisiswhy,forexample,manypeoplecanonlymemorisenumbersinsmallchunks.1943609315iseasiertorememberas194(firstchunk),360(secondchunk)and9315(thirdchunk).Onaveragetheconsciousmindcanretainonlybetweenfiveandnineunitsofinformationatanyonetime.The
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consciousmindalwaysanalysesandsometimescriticiseswhatithears.Itthenactsaccordingly.
TheConsciousMind:
Theconsciousmindislikeawatchmanandthesubconsciousmindislikeastoreroom.Thewatchmanhasnointelligenceonhisown.Hebehavesontheinformationinthestore.
Supposeyoutellyourself“youaregoodatstudy”.Andthestorehasstoredotherpeople’scommentssuchas“youarestupid,youcannotsucceed”.Thewatchmanseesyoursentencesandcomparesitwiththeknowledgeinitsstoreandsays,“Thisinformationiswrong”.Thewatchmanthrowsthisnewinformationaway.Hedoesnotputthenewpositiveinformationinthestore.Thisisthefundamentaldifficultyinchangingbeliefsandbehaviourofaperson.
TheSubconsciousMind:
Thesubconsciousmindisthepartofyourmindthatisresponsibleforkeepingeverythingwithinyourbodyincontrol.Whetheryouareconsciouswideawakeorevensleeping,yoursubconsciousmindisalwaysworking,seeingtoityou’reyourheartisalwaysbeating,thatyourlungsareworkingproperlyandbreathing.Itisthepartofyourmindthatmakessurethatbloodispumpingtoyourentiresystem.Itisevenresponsibleforthegrowthofyourfingernails.Everyfunctionofyourbodyiscontrolledbyyoursubconsciousmind.
Oursubconsciousmindtakeseverythingthatissaidliterally.
Thesubconsciousmind:
• Cannotanalyseandcriticise• Takeseverypieceofinformationliterallyfromtheconsciousmind• Cannotdistinguishbetweenwhatisrealandwhatispretend• Doesnothaveasenseofhumour• Doesnotunderstandsarcasmornegative• Itslanguageistheimagination• Itistheretoprotecttheowner• Itwillrunallprogrammesitconsidersprotective• Itneverforgets
Asallourpresenthabits,mannerisms,andthoughtpatternsaretheresultofpastsubconscious‘programming’fromparents,teachers,
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peers,co-workers,television,avarietyofsources.Thisprogrammingcaneitherpropelusintosuccess,orkeepusfromit,despiteourbestefforts.
Logicworkswiththeconsciousmind,butoftennotwiththesubconscious.Hypnosishelpsthesubconscious.
Whilstapersonisinhypnosis,thehypnotherapistcancommunicatedirectlywiththesubconsciouspartofhisorhermind.Sincethesubconsciousminddoesnotanalysenorcriticiseanythingthatissaidtoit,itwillacceptasliteralalmostanythingthatissaidandwilldothisautomaticallywithoutthepersonevenknowing.
Agoodexampleoftheconsciousandsubconsciousmindisasfollows.Whenyouarelearningtodosomething,forexampledriveacar,youareusingyourconsciousmind.Youmaythink"I'llneverrememberallthis",butonceyouhavetakenyourexaminationorpassedyourdrivingtest,thenallofasuddenthingsseemtocomemoreeasily.Youseemtogoonto"autopilot".Well,thisisbecausealltheinformationhasbeenpassedontothesubconsciousmind,sothatyounolongerhavetothinkaboutwhatyouaredoing.
Rememberhowdifficultitwaswhenyouwerelearningtodrive,andcomparethiswithhoweasyitisnow.
Howdoeshypnosiswork?
WhyDoesHypnosisWork?
Theanswerinonewordissuggestion.
Hypnosisworksonthepowerofsuggestion.
Asababy,wearebornacompletelyblankcanvaswithnofearsorhangups.Butaswegrowupandwebecomeinfluencedbyourparents,teachersandpeers,wearebombardedwithsuggestionsastohowlifeshouldbe.Wetakeonboardthesesuggestionsandmakethemourreality.
Howmanytimesinlifehaveyounotdonesomething,becausesomeonesuggestedtoyouthatitwouldbeabadidea?Thatpersonhasalteredandinfluencedyourlifepath.
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So,whatyouaretodayisaresultofallyouraccumulatedexperiencesfromthedayyouwerebornrightuptothisveryminute.
Pre-suppositionsofHumanBehaviour:
The10presuppositionsbelowarecentralprinciples.Theyformasetofethicalprinciplesforlife.
1.Themindmapisnotaterritory
Peoplerepresenttheworldinternallytocreatetheirownpersonalandsubjectiverealities.Werespondmainlytoourinternalexperience(mapofreality),nottotheexternalrealityitself.Howwerepresentthingsinourmindareourinterpretations.Interpretationsmayormaynotbeaccurate.Inanycase,theseinterpretationsdeterminehowweexperienceeachmoment,andthereforelaythefoundationforourexperienceofrealityinthefuturetoo.
Havingchoicesabouthowtointerpretyourrealitynow,changesyourexperienceofit.Andhavingmorechoicesavailabletoyoubeginsbychoosingtointerpreteachexperienceinawaythatfreesyourthinkingtoexploredifferentpointsofview.So,howelsecanyoulookatyoursituation,andhowelse,andhowelse?...Inthisway,yourmapofrealityexpands.
2.Peoplemakethebestchoiceavailabletothem
Apersonalwaysmakesthebestchoicetheycan,giventheirmapofrealityatthetime.Thechoicemaybeself-defeating,bizarreorevil,butforthem,itseemsthebestwayforward.Givethemabetterchoiceintheirmapofrealityandtheywilltakeit.Evenbetter–helpthemupgradetheirmaptoonewithmorechoicesinit.
Anotherwayofputtingthisis:Weallactaccordingtothelevelofawarenessthat’savailabletousinthatmoment.Thereasonwhypeopleregretcertainpastactionsisbecausetheyhavegreaterawarenessnow,andbecauseofthisphenomenon,theyeventuallyovercometheircurrentregrettoo.
Basedonthepremiseofthispresupposition,whoevercauseduspaininthepast,didsobasedontheirlevelofawarenessatthattime.Theyweretryingtofulfilacertainvalueintheiroldmapofrealityandneverknewhowelsetogoaboutitbackthen.Lookingbackonthatpasthurtfromabroaderand
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resourcefulperspectiveinthepresentcanenablehealingandreleaseofstuckemotions.
Therefore,thebroaderourperspectivesnow,themorechoiceswehave–inthepast,presentandfuture...
3.Allbehaviourhasstructure
Peoplefunctionperfectlyevenifwhattheyaredoingisruiningtheirlife.Allbehaviourhasastructure.Whenyouunderstandthestructure,youcanchangethebehaviourintosomethingmoredesirable.Peoplecarryouttheirbehaviouralstrategiesperfectly,butthestrategiesmaybepoorlydesignedandineffective.Findingouthowyouorothersdowhatyouortheydo,enablesyouorthemtochangetheineffectivestrategytoonethatismoresuitedtoachievingusefulanddesirableresults.
4.Allactionshaveapositiveintent
Ouractionsarenotrandom;wearealwaystryingtoachievesomething,althoughwemaynotbeawareofwhatthatis.Behindeachbehaviourthereisapositiveintention.Thismaybetheanticipationofpleasureoravoidanceofpain.Peoplewanttoachievesomethingthattheyvalueandwhichbenefitsthem.
Apersonisnottheirbehaviour.Whenapersonhasabetterchoiceof
behaviourthatalsoachievestheirpositiveintention,theywilltakeit.Whenthebehaviourisundesired,findalternatewaystoachievethebehaviour’spositiveintent.Seektoaddchoicesandresources.Whenyoutakeawaychoices,othercompensatingbehaviourscanoccur.Internalconflicts,indecision,procrastinationandlackofmotivationareoftentheresultofconflictingvaluesinourunconsciousawareness.Establishingthehighestintentionorpurposeofeachconflictingvalueenablesintegrationandinneralignmentwhichresultsingreaterchoiceandfreedom.Tochangeunwantedbehaviours,startbyelicitingthehighestpositiveintentionwhichdrivesthatbehaviour,thenseektosatisfythatintentionthroughmoreappropriatemeans.
Inordertobemoreunderstandingandcompassionatetowardsothers,seektoestablishwhattheirhighestpositiveintentionsare.
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Weactaccordingyouourcurrentlevelofawareness.Bybringingtheunderlyingpurposeofparticularactionsintoawareness,wecreatemorepossibilitiesforourselvesandourclients.
5.Youcannotnotcommunicate
Resistanceinothersindicatesalackofrapport,orthattheotherpersondoesn’tgetyourmeaning.Weallresistwhenwedon’tunderstand.Yourintendedcommunicationisnotalwayswhatisperceived.
Youcannotnotcommunicate.Wearealwayscommunicatingeitherverballyornon-verbally.Eventheabsenceofaresponseisinformation.Eachpersondeletes,distortsandgeneralisespuresensoryinformation(inputthroughthesenses).Ournervoussystemisconditionedtofilterinformationinthisway.
Thesefiltersaretriggeredbybothverbalandnon-verbalbehavioursinothers.
Whichismoreimportant:Whatyouintendtocommunicate,orwhatyouactuallycommunicate?Flexiblecommunicatorschangewhatthey’resaying(andhowthey’resayingit,aswellastheirbodylanguage)untiltheirdesiredresultsareobtained.
6.Weallhavetheresourcesweneed
Everythingapersonneedstoeffectapositivechangeisalreadyinthem.Theymay,however,notbeconsciouslyawareofit.Oftenpeoplehaveresourcesthattheyhaven’tconsideredorareavailableinothercontexts.Resourcesmeantheinternalresponsesandexternalbehavioursneededtogetdesiredresults.Ourmostbasicresourceisourabilitytolearn.
Therearenoun-resourcefulpeople,onlyun-resourcefulstatesofmind.Asresponse-ablepeople,wecanrunourownmindandthereforemovetowardgettingtheresultsthatwewant.Thekeytoachievingthisisthroughknowinghowtochangeyourstate,asspecificresourcesareaccessedonlythroughbeingintheappropriatestate.Statesarethekeysthateitheropenorlockthedoortotheinfinitereservoirofresourcesinsideyou.
Appropriatestatesarethosethatmatchthekindofresourcesthatyouwouldliketogainaccessto.Forexample,tobeinaconfidentstateshiftyourbodyposture,breathandinternaldialoguetothatwhichmatchesconfidence.Youwillimmediatelybegintofeelmoreconfident.
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Intheabovewayyoucan,throughchangingyoubodyposture,breathandinternaldialogue,assumeanystate.Throughassumingappropriatestates,yourthinkingbecomesclear,newcreativechoicesariseintoawareness,andempoweredactionsaretheresult.
Conversely,we’veallhadtheexperienceofbeinginamiserablestate,andyouknowhowresourcefulyoufeltthen!
Thehypnoticstateishighlyversatilestate,sinceit’softenreferredtoasthe“masterkey”toyourinnerresources.Hypnosisenablespeopletohavedirectcontactwiththeleveloftheirawarenessthat’susuallyunconscious.
Hypnotherapyusesthehypnoticstateforthepurposeofhealing.So,whicheverwayyouchoosetogoaboutit,statesarethewayinwhichyoutapyourinnerwisdomandproductivelevelsofthoughttodealeffectivelywithanysituation.
7.Mindandbodyarethesamesystem
It’sclearhowthemind-and-bodyaffecteachother:Prolongedstressorheavyemotionalspellsoftenresultinphysicalsickness.Likewise,positiveattitudes,joyandlaughterarenotonlyhealingforthebody,butalsohelppreventsickness.
Sincephysiologicalcuesreflectthefunctioningofyourmind,bychangingphysiologicalcuesyoucanaffectthefunctioningofyourmind.Forexample,slumpinginyourchaircanmakeyoufeeltired,ortakingawalkcanupliftyourthoughts.
Mindandbodyinteractandmutuallyinfluenceeachother.Itisnotpossibletomakeachangeinonewithouttheotherbeingaffected.Whenwethinkdifferently,ourbodieschange.Whenweactdifferentlywechangeourthoughtsandfeelings.
Treatingonlymental/emotionalorphysicalsymptomswithouttakingresponsibilityfortheunderlyingreasonswhysuchsymptomshavemanifested,maydisruptthemind/bodysystem.Ignoringthesubtlecausesofunwantedsymptomscanresultinmorecomplexcomplicationslater.
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Forexample,regularlytakingsleepingtabletstogetenoughsleepatnight,withoutaddressingthemental/emotionalcauses(likestressordissatisfaction)ofnotbeingabletosleep,mayleadtoburnoutand/ordisease.
Consciousnessexpressesitselfthroughthesystemofyourmindandbody.Mindandbodyarethereforeintimatelylinked,andultimately,they’retwoaspectsofthesamesource.Anyhealingprogrammustaimtooptimisetheflowandbalanceofconsciousnessinboththemindandbodyinorderforhealingtobeeffectiveandcomplete.
8.Thereisnosuchthingasfailure,thereisonlyfeedback
LegendhasitthatpriortoThomasEdisoninventingthelightbulb,hewasinterrogatedbyaprobingjournalistwhodemandedtoknowwhyEdisonhadfailedsomethinglike200timestoinventthelightbulbthatEdisonclaimedwasanimminentreality.Edisonsreplywentalongthelinesthathehadn’tfailedtoinventthelightbulb200times,instead,he’ddiscovered200waysnottoinventit.
Withthatkindofattitude,Edisonwasquitelikelyabletomaintainaresourcefulstateandbepositivelymotivatedtopersevereuntilhisgoalwasreached.
Theattitudethatwebringtoasituationdeterminesourresponsetothatsituation.
Everyresultgivesyoufeedback,maybeinformationabouthowtodo
somethingdifferentlynexttime.Feedbackishelpfulandsetsdirection.Thiskindofattitudetoward“failure”producesresultsthatallowyoutoimprove.Resultsarethemeansbywhichyoumeasureyourprogressandadjustyourbehaviourinordertoachieveyourdesiredoutcomes.
Everyexperienceoffersapositivelearning,onefromwhichwecangrowintellectuallyorintermsofemotionalintelligence.Livingislearning,evenifyouloose,youdon’tloosethelearning.
9.Ifonepersoncandosomething,anyonecanlearntodoit
Nomatterhowyoudefinesuccess,manysuccessfulpeoplehavegottowheretheyarethroughmodellingthesuccessfulperformanceofothers.Modellingisnotcopying.Copyinghowsomeonebecamesuccessfulinthe80sisunlikely
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goingtomakeyousuccessfultoday.ModellinginNLPistheprocessofidentifyingandreplicatingboththeconsciousandunconsciouscompetenceinanother,whichresultsinthatperson’sexcellence.Unconsciouscompetence(whatwedoeffortlessly,withoutconsciousawareness)canbeidentifiedthroughcarefulobservation,questioningandstrategyelicitation.Onceyouknowthethoughts,beliefs,valuesandbehavioursthatresultinexcellence,youcantestthemodelandrefineittofitwithyou.Onceyou’reabletoreplicatethesamedegreeofsuccessinaspecificcontext,you’vegotthatmodel.
Ifit’spossibleforsomeoneelse,it’spossibleforyou,andteachabletoothers(providedtheydon’thaveseverephysiologicalorneurologicaldamage).Inthiswaymostpeoplecanlearntogetbetterresultsintheirownway,youdonotbecomeacloneofthemodel–youlearnfromthem.
Findamodelofexcellenceinafieldthatyou’reinterestedin.Identifythesequenceofcomponents(thoughts,beliefs,valuesandbehaviours)thatarenecessarytoachievethedesiredresult.Applythatmodelinawaythatenablesyoutogetthesamekindsofresults,andsuccessisyours.
10.Ifyouwanttounderstand-Act
Reallearningisinthedoing.Throughapplicationyouwillsoondiscoverwhatworksandwhatdoesn’twork.Keepdoing(andrefining)thethingsthatgetyoutheresultsthatyouwant.Remember,thereisnofailure,onlyfeedback.
SensorySystems
Wetakeininformationabouttheworldweliveinthroughourfivesenses.TheuseofthesefivesensesiscalledtheVAKOGsystem.
V=
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VISUAL
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AUDITORY
KINAESTHETIC
OLFACTORY
GUSTATORY
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TOHEAR
TOFEEL
TOSMELL
TOTASTE
Wealsousethreeofthesesensorysystemstoinducehypnosis.
Rapport
Establishingarelationshipwiththeclientmustalwaysbeconsideredthefirstandmostvitallyimportantprerequisiteforsuggestionstobeeffective.Becausehypnosisisacooperativeventure,ratherthansomethingwedotothepatient,itiscruciallyimportanttodevotetimetothehumanrelationshipdimensionandnottosimplyconcentrateontechnicalexpertiseinhypnosisalone.
Therapportbuildingskillsweareabouttoteachyouareallnaturaltechniquesthatallhumanbeingsuseonadailybasis.Wenormallydothisselectively.Wewillbeinrapportwiththepeoplethatwelikeandoutofrapportwiththosewedon'tlike.Whenweunderstandthebasicdynamicsofrapport,wecanusetheseskillstocommunicateeffectivelywithalmostanyone.
Createpositiveexpectancy
Experiencedhypnotherapistsareprobablymoreeffectivethannewstudents,atleastinpartbecausetheyactutterlyexpectantandconfidentthattheirsuggestionswilloccur.Thisinspiresconfidenceinclients,Actandspeakconfidently.
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Salesmenuserapportbuildingtechniquesallthetime.Inordertoturnapotentialcustomerintoanactualcustomertheyneedtohavesomekindofrapportwiththeirclient.Youcouldhavetheworld’sbestproduct,butifthecustomerdoesnotlikeyou,itisunlikelythathewillbuyfromyou.Ontheotherhand,youcouldbesellingtheworld’sworstproduct,andifyourcustomerisinrapportwithyou,hewilllikeyousomuchthathefindsithardtosay“no”.
Weneedrapportinorderto–
Asahypnotherapistwealsoneedtogainrapportwithourclients,thiswaytheclientwilltrustyouandworkwithyou.Overthecomingmonths,wewillbeteachingyouthebasicsofrapportbuilding,andthentakingitastepfurther,wherewecanusevarioustechniquestogain“rapidrapport”.
Rapport,eitheronaconsciousorunconsciouslevel,isthemainingredientofallcommunicationandchange.Itsdefinitionisafeelingofoneness,harmonyandagreement.Toestablishrapportwithanotherindividualwemustpayattentiontotheirbodylanguage,bothnon-verbalandverballanguage.Oncewehaveelicitedtheseareas,ourtaskistomatch,mirror,crossmirrorandpacethatindividual.
Eyecontact
Appropriateeyecontactisusuallythemostimportantwayofcommunicatingone'sfullandundividedattention.Itcaneasilybeachievedbydoingthefollowing.
1.Focusyoureyesontheotherpersonandgentlyshiftyourgazefromhisorherfacetoanotherpartofthebody,suchasagesturinghandoratappingfoot,thenbacktothefaceandtotheeyes.Occasionallymovingyourgazeawayfromthepersonwillreducethechanceofstaringorofcausinghimorhertofeelanxietyorsuspicion.Letyourselfbenatural.
2.Avoidstaringatthepersonorfeigningeyecontactbyfixingyoureyesontheperson’sforehead.Thesebehaviourscanbemistakenfordoubt,hostilityorinsincerity.
3.Avoidlookingawayfromyourclientforlongperiods.Ifyouaredistracted
byturningyourgazetoothersastheywalkby,orbynoisesintheenvironment,theotherpersonmayinterpretthisaslackofinterest.
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Non-verbalprompts
Thesedemonstratelistening,andencouragethepersontocontinuespeaking.
1.AffirmativeheadnoddingTheseheadnodsshouldbeusedoccasionallyandpairedwitheyecontact.
2.AppropriatefacialexpressionsGenerally,yourfacialexpressionsshouldreflectthenatureandintensityoftheperson’sexpressedfeelings,ratherthanyourownreactionstothem.Afrownisappropriateifyoudonotfolloworunderstandaperson’spoint.
3.TheuseofsilenceSilenceonthepartofthetherapistcancommunicatepatience,andprompttheclienttostartspeakinginordertobreakthesilence.
Openbodyposture
Relaxingyourownbodywillusuallyencouragetheclienttorelaxalso.Whenyourbodyshowsopennessandreceptivity,theotherpersonislikelytotalkfreelyandbelessdefensive.Youcanachieveopenbodypostureinthefollowingways.
1.Facetheperson,ratherthansittingorstandingathisorherside.
2.Uncrossyourarmsandlegs.Crossedarmscancommunicatesuperiorityordefensiveness,aswellasservingasabarrier.
3.Leanslightlyforward.Thiscommunicatesinterest.BreathingMatchtheclientsrateofbreathingwithyourownbreathingrate.RepetitivePhrasingHearandutilisetherepeatedphrasesoftheotherperson.
Matching
Matchingistheprocesswherebyyouadjustthesameaspectsofyourownexternalbehaviourtoapproximatethosesameaspectsoftheotherperson’sexternalbehaviour.TheongoingprocessofmatchingisreferredtoasPACING.Masteringtheartofmatchingwillgiveyoutheability,andchoices,toestablishrapportwithanyoneyouchoose.Agoodwayto“match”peopleinitiallyistheuseofbodylanguage.Thisinvolvesmatchingtheclient’sbodyposture.It’sa
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well-knownfactthatwhenpeoplearetogether,particularlycouplesinasocialsituation,theymirrorandmatchoneanother.Theydothisunconsciously,butitmakesthemfeelateasewitheachother.Handmovementsandfacialexpressionswhenmatchedalsohelpwithrapportbuilding.
MatchingandMirroring
Matchingistheduplicationofaclient'smovements.Mirroringissimplythemirroringoftheirposture.
Howtomatchandmirrortocreaterapport
1. Thinkofsomeoneyouhavenotseeneyetoeyewith-whereabetter
relationshipwouldbegoodforyouboth.Imaginemeetingthisperson.
2. Noticetheirpostureandbodylanguage,andmatchormirrorit.Youdon’tneedtotalprecisionwhenmatching.Arethearmsfolded?Isthebreathingfast,shallowordeep?Arethelegscrossed?Noticethegesturesusedandusethesamegestureswhenyouarespeaking.Raiseorloweryourvoicetoneandpacetomatch.Whenyouspeak
usethesamewordsastheydo.Itisgivingtheotherpersonastrong
messagethatyoulikethemalot.
YourHypnoticVoice
Newstudentsofhypnotherapyneedtodeveloptheirhypnoticvoice.Thiscanonlydevelopwithpractice.Itmeansslowingdownyourspeechtoabouthalfitsnormalspeed,deepeningthetonalityandspeakingquietly.
SignsofHypnosis
Astheclientstartstorelax,thetherapistshouldbeabletoseethedifferenceinbreathingrate.Othersignstolookforareflutteringeyelids,closingoftheeyes,signsofprofoundrelaxation,thesmoothingoffacialmuscles,andexcessivesalivationorswallowing.Youwillbeabletoseefacialexpressionsrelevanttothesuggestionsbeingmade.Yourclientmayturnpaleduetoadropinbloodpressure.Headmovementsandmotorsignalswillbeveryslight.
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TranceInduction
I'dlikeyoutofindasmallspotormarkonthewall,thatyoucanreallylookatandstareat,thenjustfocusallofyourattention,justlooking,staring,gazing,concentratingonthatspot......checkoutthesizeofit...theshapeofit,andinaminuteI'mgoingtocountfromonetothree,andwhenIgettothreeyoucanallowyoureyestoclose,butI'dlikeyoutoimaginethatyoucanstillseethatspot,itwon'tmatterifyoucan't,justimaginethatyoucan.......butfornowjustcontinue,looking,gazingatthatspot,itmightbecomealittleblurred,abitoutoffocus,ormaybenothinghappens,justcontinue,lookingandgazing,soI'mgoingtocountfromonetothreeandwhenIgettothreeyoucanallowyoureyestoclose,butjustimaginingthatyoucanstillseethatspot.......soherewego......one.......two.........three
Sojustimaginingthatyoucanstillseethatspot......doesn'tmatterifyoucan't,justimaginethatyoucan,thenyoucanjustbeawareofyoursurroundings,thetemperatureintheroom,howyourbackfeelsagainstthatchair,andsoundsnoisesthatyoucanhere,eitherinthisroomoroutsideofthisroom.
ThenI'dlikeyoutonoticehowyourfeetfeel,justrestingthere.....youcannoticethetemperatureofyourfeet,oranytinysensations,justnoticinghowyourfeetfeel.Andyourbreathinghasjuststartedtoslowdown,that'swhathappenswhenyoustarttorelax.....themoreyourelaxthemoreyourbreathingstartstoslowdown.......themoreyourbreathingslowsdown.......themoreyourelax.
Thenjustnoticinghowyourhandsfeel.......justrestingthere......noticethetemperatureofyourhands......noticeanytinysensations......maybeinyourhandsorfingers.......justnoticinghowyourhandsfeel
Thennoticingyourarmsandhowtheyfeel..........maybeit'syourleftarmthat
feelsheavierthanyourrightarm........ormaybeit'syourrightarmthatfeelsheavierthanyourleftarm........justnoticingwhicharmfeelsheaviest.....andallthewhilejustbeingawareofyoursurroundings....thetemperatureintheroom......howyourbackfeelsagainstthatchair....andanysounds......noisesthatyoucanhear....eitherinthisroomoroutsideofthisroom.
SoI'mgoingtostartcountingfromonetoten.....andbythetimeIgettotenyoucanfeelcalm.....comfortable......peaceful...andI'dlikeyoutousethepowerofyourimagination,youwerebornwiththis
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reallypowerfulimagination.....andI'dlikeyoutoimagine.....pretend.......makebelieve.....thatchairthatyoursittinginislikeahydraulicchair,ahydraulicchairthatcantakeyoudown.......tenlevelsofrelaxation,tenlevelsofcomfort...,,tenlevelsofpeace..,,,justwitheverynumberthatIcount......andI'dlikeyoutoimaginethatlikeitsreal.
SoI'mgoingtobeginthatcountforyounow........
Sonumberone.........justallowingyourselftodriftdowntothatfirstlevel,justtothatfirstlevel.Two..............justdrifting.....goingdeeperanddeeper......just,allowinganythoughtstocomeintoyourmind....andjustdisappearagain.
Three..........justdrifting.....feelingheavy,tired.......gladtojustdrift........Four........,,,noticingthemusclesinyourneckandshoulders......andimaginingthosemusclesunwinding....unfolding.....relaxingFive....noticingeverybreaththatyoutakenow.....everyinwardbreath.....everyoutwardbreath.....everybreaththatyoutakejustrelaxesyouevenmore.......,Six...........deeperanddeeper........findingthatmostcomfortableplace.....deepinside.....thatmostcomfortableplace
Andseven.......justsinking......downanddownanddown.....nobodywanting
anything.....nobodyneedsanything........nobodydemandinganythingAndeight.....justdrifting,justallowinganythoughtstocomeanddisappearagain.....Andnine........justdrifting......feelingcalm......comfortable......peacefulAndten........,,justdrifting.......Iwonderifinyourmind.....youcanimagineafeather......youknowthisfeathersjusttwirlingandwhirlingaround......,Iwonderifyoucanimaginethatfeather......Iwonderwhatbirdthatfeathercamefrom.....Iwonderwherethebirdisnow.....probablyjustglidingaround.....Iwonderifyoucanimaginethatbirdasitglidesaround.....peaceful.....free
Beach-Deepeningthetrance
(Firstitisimportanttofindoutifyourclientlikesbeaches.Ifnot,youwillneedtochangethisscript,perhapstoabeautifulgardenormaybethecountryside).
Nowthatyou’resodeeplyrelaxed,feelingsogoodandsocalm,Icantalktothepartof(client’sname)thatknowsallabout(client’sname).......thepart
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that’sbeenlookingafter(client’sname)alltheseyears.......Andfromnowon(client’sname)youdon'thavetolistentomeanymore.Youcanjustallowanythoughtstocometoyourmind,andthendisappearagain.Iamnowspeakingtothepartof(client’sname)that’salwayslistening.......thepartthat’sdeepinside(client’sname).
Youwasbornwithaverypowerfulimagination,andIwouldlikeyoutouse
thepowerofyourimaginationandsimplyimaginethatyouarestandingatthe
topoffivesolid,concretesteps.Thesestepsleaddowntoabeautiful
beach.......Awarm,hot,sunnybeach.......perhapsabeachthatyouhavebeentobefore.......OrmaybeseenonTVorinabook.......Theskyisblue.......Thesunisshining.......It’sabeautiful,hotdayinthiswarmandbeautifulplace.Youcanfeelcomfortableandrelaxed.
Andwhenyouarestandingthereatthetopofthesesteps.......IwantyoutogentlynodyourheadsothatIknowyouarethere.
Good.......NowIamgoingtocountasyougodownthesestepsandwitheverystepyouwillgodeeperanddeeperintorelaxation.......Andwhenyougettothebottom,youcanimaginesteppingontothishot,sunnybeachinthisbeautifulplace.......soheregoes.......Godownontothefirststep.......Downevendeeperontothesecondstep.......deeperstillontothethirdstep.......Thebeachisbecomingclearerandmorecolourfulasyoustepdownontothefourthstepandfinally.......Sodeeponthefifthstep.......Andthereyouareonthisbeautifulbeachinthisbeautifulplace.......thesunisshining.......Theskyisblueandyouaresohappytobehere.
Andnowyoucangoforawanderdownonthisbeach.......Takeagentlestrollanddragyourbarefeetthroughthewarmsand.......andfeelthewarmsandtricklethroughyourtoesasyougentlywanderdownthebeach.......Maybeyoucanhearthesea.......maybeifyoulookoverthereyoucanseethesea.......perhapsyoucanevensmellthesea.
Perhapsthereareotherpeoplearound.......maybeothernoises.......listen.......listentowhatyoucanhear.......andasyouarewanderingdown
thisbeautifulbeachinthislovelyplace.......Perhapsyoucanfeelorsense
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thewarmsunonyourface.......perhapsyoucanfeelthatwarm,gentlebreeze.......Haveagoodlookroundandseewhat'shappeningonthisbeautifulbeach.
Andifyoujustlookoverthere.......Justinthedistanceyouwillnoticealovelysunlounger.......that’syoursunlounger.......Speciallyforyou.......Iwantyoutowalkovertowardsthatsunloungerandwhenyougettoit.......youcantakeanicedeepbreathandrelax100timesdeeperasyougentlyliedownonthatsunlounger.......
Waitforresponse.......
Ok.......nowthatyou’resorelaxedinthisbeautifulplace.......Onthisbeautifulbeach.......thesunfeelssowarmasitshinesdownonyourface.......andyoufeelsocalmandpeaceful.......Ineedtoaskyouasimplequestion.
Ifyoulike,youcouldstayherealittlelonger.Ifyouwouldliketostayherealittlelonger,simplynodyourheadtoindicate“yes”.
Ifclientindicates“yes”,simplysaythatyouaregoingtoleavehim/herinsilenceforafewmoments,andtothinkaboutanythinginhis/herlifethats/hemaywanttochange,ortothinkaboutanydecisionsthatneedtobemade,becauseanydecisionsmadeherearealwaystherightones.
Wakingyourclient
Ok,nowit’stimetowakeyou,soI’mgoingtocountfromfivetooneand,whenIgettoone,youcanopenyoureyesandyouwillbewideawakeandfullyalert,feelinggoodinside,feelingbetterthanyouhavefeltforalong,longtime.......Havingenjoyedthisexperienceofhypnosis,feelingfar,farbetterthanyoufeltforalonglongtime.......feelingsogood.......
Soherewegothen.......I'mgoingtocountfromfivetooneand,whenIgettoone,youcanopenyoureyesandyouwillbewideawakeandfullyalert,feelinggoodinside,feelingbetterthanyouhavefeltforalong,longtime.......Soheregoes.......5.......slowlywaking,waking,waking.......4.......Wakingalittlebitmore.......3.......Feelinggoodinside.......2.......And1!
Changeyourtoneandincreasethevolumeofyourvoiceonthenumber“1”.
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SpecialPlace
Oneofthefirstthingsweusuallydowithourclientsistohelpthemtofinda“specialplace”.Thisissothat,iftheclientbecomesalittledistressedwhiledealingwithanemotionalproblemlateron,wecantakeourclientbacktothespecialplacetofeelgoodagain.
TIP.Nevertellyourclienttogotoa“safe”place.Thisisthekindofscriptyoumightuse.FIRST–GuideyourclientintohypnosisFirstIwouldlikeyoutofindasmallspotonthewallorceiling.
Nowstareatthatspotanddon'tmoveyourattentionorgazefromit.Reallyconcentrateonthatspot.Checkoutthesize.......Shape.......Colour.......Reallyfocusallyourattentiononthatspot.......Lookatit,stareatituntilyoureyesfeeltired.Continuelooking,gazingandconcentrating.Maybeitmightgoblurred,orchangeshapeorcolour...Idon’treallyknow,butfornowjuststareatitandconcentrateonit.Youmaystarttoblinkalittle,that’sok.Justcontinuetolookatthatspot.......
NowwhenIcounttothree,Iwouldlikeyoutocloseyoureyesandimaginethatyoucanstillseethatspot,butitwon’tmatterifyoucan'tseeit,justimaginethatyoucan.
1......2.......3..........
Keeptellingtheclienthowwells/heisdoing.Pauseforathreeseconds.......
Nowuseyourearsandlisten.Listentoallthetinysoundsaroundyou.
Pauseforathreeseconds..........
NowIwouldlikeyoutofeelhowyourhandsfeelastheyarerestingonyourknees.
Pauseforathreeseconds..........
NowIwouldlikeyoutofeelhowyourfeetfeelastheyarerestingonthefloor.Maybetheyfeelheavyorperhapstheyfeellight.......Idon'tknow,onlyyouknowexactlyhowtheyfeel.
Pauseforathreeseconds..........
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NowIwouldlikeyoutofocusonyourbackrestingagainstthechair.......
Pauseforathreeseconds..........
Iwonderifyou’venoticedhowyourbreathinghasalreadystartedtoslowdown.......Thisiswhathappenswhenyoustarttorelax.......yourbreathing
startstoslowdown,andthemoreitslowsdown,themoreyourelax.......
andthemoreyourelax,themoreyourbreathingslowsdown.
Pauseforathreeseconds..........
Nowwithyourpermission,Iamjustgoingtoplacemyhandonyourshoulderandbegincountingfrom1downtoten,andwitheverynumber,Iwouldlikeyoutotakeyourselffurtheranddeeperintothiswonderfulrelaxedstate.
Herewegothen....
(placehandonshoulder)(pacethenumberswitheachoutwardbreath)One......relaxingdeeperanddeeperTwo.....FeelingmoreandmoreateaseThree...JustdriftingdownanddownFour...SimplyenjoythiswonderfulfeelingofdeeprelaxationFive....NobodywantsanythingfromyounowSix....Thisisyoutimeno,youspecialtimeSeven...Goingdeeperanddeeper
Eight....DriftingmoreandmoreNine....Driftingawaynow,niceandeasyAndten.....Pause....
Nowthatyou’resodeeplyrelaxed,feelingsogoodandsocalm,Icantalktothepartof(client’sname)thatknowsallabout(client’sname).......thepartthat’sbeenlookingafter(client’sname)alltheseyears.......Andfromnowon(client’sname)youdon'thavetolistentomeanymore.Youcanjustallowanythoughtstocometoyourmind,andthendisappearagain.Iamnowspeakingtothepartof(client’sname)that’salwayslistening.......thepartthat’sdeepinside(client’sname).
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Iwantyoutousethepowerofyourmindandthinkofatimeandaplacewhereyoufeltgood.
Aplacewhenyoufeltconfident.Atimewhenyouwereincontrol.Sometimeinyourlifewhenyouweretotallyatpeacewithyourself.
Andwhenyouhavefoundthattimeandplace,Iwouldlikeyoutogentlynod
yourheadsothatIknowyou’vefoundit.Bepatientandallowtimeforaresponse.Good.Pause.
Nowreallyfeelthisplace,thisveryspecialplace.Thisisasecretplace,only(client’sname)knowsaboutthisveryspecial,secretplace.Thisisaplacewhereyouwillalwaysbesafe.Thisisaplacewhereyouwillalwaysfeelcalm.
Thisis(client’sname)veryspecialplace.Thisisaplacewhereyoucanfeelcalmandrelaxed.Thisisyourspecialplace,wheretheonlysensationsyoucanexperiencearepleasant.Thisisamagicalplace,wheremagicalthingshappen.......
Youcanhaveanythingyouwanthereinthisveryspecialplace.......Youcanhavecolours.......Peace.......Possessions.......
Love.......Happiness.......Anythingyouwant,simplyputithere.......
Andeverytimeyoucomeheretothisveryspecialplace,youwillfeel10timesmorerelaxedand10timesmorepeaceful.
Reallyfeelthisplace,thisveryspecialplace.Thisisasecretplace,only(client’sname)knowsaboutthisveryspecialsecretplace.Thisisaplacewhereyouwillalwaysbesafe.Thisisaplacewhereyouwillalwaysfeelcalm.
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Thisis(client’sname)veryspecialplace.Thisisyourspecialplace,wheretheonlysensationsyoucanexperiencearepleasant.
Thisisyourspecialplace.Thisisamagicalplace,wheremagicalthingshappen.......Youcanhaveanythingyouwanthereinthisveryspecialplace.......Youcanhavecolours.......Peace.......Possessions.......Love.......Happiness.......Anythingyouwant,simplyputithere.......Andeverytimeyoucomeheretothisveryspecialplace,youwillfeel10timesmorerelaxedand10timesmorepeaceful.
NowIamnowgoingstoptalkingtoyouforawhilesothatyoucanenjoyandreallyexploreyourveryspecialplace..................................
WhileIamsilent,Iwouldlikeyoutothinkaboutanychangesyouwouldlike
tomakeinyourlifebecausethisisthetimeandplacetodoso.......SonowI’mgoingtogoquietforawhile,sothatyoucanthinkaboutthesechanges.......
Pause.
Ok....Nowthatyou’resorelaxedinthisbeautifulplace.......inthiswonderfulspecialplace.......andyoufeelsocalmandpeaceful.......Ineedtoaskyouasimplequestion.
Ifyoulike,youcouldstayherealittlelonger.Ifyouwouldliketostayherealittlelonger,simplynodyourheadtoindicate“yes”.
Ifclientindicates“yes”,simplysaythatyouaregoingtoleavehim/herinsilenceforafewmoments,andtothinkaboutanythinginhis/herlifethats/hemaywanttochange,ortothinkaboutanydecisionsthatneedtobemade,becauseanydecisionsmadeherearealwaystherightones.
WAKINGYOURCLIENT
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Ok,nowitstimetowakeyou,soI’mgoingtocountfromfivetooneand,whenIgettoone,youcanopenyoureyesandyouwillbewideawakeandfullyalert,feelinggoodinside,feelingbetterthanyouhavefeltforalong,longtime.......Havingenjoyedthisexperienceofhypnosis,feelingfar,farbetterthanyouhavefeltforalong,longtime.......feelingsogood.......Soherewego.......I'mgoingtocountfromfivetooneand,whenIgettoone,youcanopenyoureyesandyouwillbewideawakeandfullyalert,feelinggood
inside,feelingbetterthanyouhavefeltforalong,longtime.......Andyouwillfindthatwheneveryoucometothisspecialplaceanytimeinthefuture,themorerealitwillfeel,andthemorerelaxedyouwillfeel.
Heregoes.......5.......slowlywaking,waking,waking.......4.......wakingalittlebitmore.......3.......Feelinggoodinside.......2.......And1.
Usethispagetotakeanynotes