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Dear Families,We began publishing this guide 15 years ago, and wow, how the world has changed in that time.My girls have become young women, the awe and wonder in their eyes giving way to a firmdetermination to forge their own ways in this new world. Yes, costs have risen, we have to drivemore cautiously and take our shoes off in airports. Music, clothing, technology, the political andeconomic landscape all have changed, but some things have not. Those people and things nearand dear to us, our way of life and, as Tevye the milkman says, “Tradition”, tend to anchor us in asolid foundation of home, family and community. For these reasons, our milestone celebrationsare especially sweet, reminding us that although the world turns faster and faster, some thingsremain quite the same. It’s not just a catchphrase that family and friends are what is most important in life. Wanda Hope Carter wrote: "Family and Friends are hidden treasures, seek themand enjoy their riches." We all want to enjoy, savor, and remember milestone events like births, bar/bat mitzvahs andweddings. Special events give us a chance to see distant relatives and friends in a happy settingand to celebrate with them. And those people are also able to meet and/or visit with one another. This experience also creates an example for and an impression on our children. Familyand friends are important to us and we honor those relationships by including them in our celebrations. And even as clothing, music and the technology of celebrations change, the essenceof the milestone events and the reason we celebrate, does not change.So, as you are planning your upcoming celebration, keep in mind the importance of the memoriesyou are creating and the heritage you are helping to continue. Mazel Tov to you and your family!

FeaturesThe Significance of the Day! . . . . . . . . . . . . . .8What is a Bar/Bat Mitzvah? . . . . . . . . . . . . . .8Reception Ideas . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .10Honors & Alliyot . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .12The Bar/Bat Mitzvah Booklet . . . . . . . . . . . .13“Pinterest” Ideas for Party Planning . . . . . .20Stay Involved After the Bar/Bat Mitzvah . .23Sample Budget Form . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .24Jewish Food, a History & Tradition . . . . . . .26Selecting A Catering Company . . . . . . . . . .28Your Son’s Bar Mitzvah Suit... . . . . . . . . . . . .33Candle Lighting Ceremony . . . . . . . . . . . . . .35Jewish Weddings Section . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .36The Chuppah . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .39The Wedding Program . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .40Popular Party Themes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .41Place Card Ideas . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .46Frequently Asked Questions . . . . . . . . . . . . .49Mitzvah Project Resources . . . . . . . . . . . . . .49Jewish Community Events . . . . . . . . . . . . . .52Hebrew 101-Important Terms . . . . . . . . . . .54Bar/Bat Mitzvah Planning Timetable . . . . .55Mitzvah Project Ideas . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .55Our Synagogues & Organizations . . . . . . . .61Honeymoon Planning . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .62Out of Towners Guide . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .62

Directory of ServicesBanquet Facilities / Hotels . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .9Beauty . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .22Cakes & Pastries . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .23Catering / Wait Staff / Bartenders . . . . . . . .25Clothing . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .32Decorations / Theme Design . . . . . . . . . . . .42Invitations / Calligraphy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .44Music / Entertainment . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .47Novelties / Favors . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .50Guest Care / Senior Care . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .54Photography / Videography . . . . . . . . . . . . .56Transportation . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .60Directory of Resources . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .63

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Milestones Party & Event PlanningGuide™ is the area’s most completeplanning and resource guide. Use thisguide to spend less time planning yourevent and more time enjoying the experi-ence. We help you understand and enjoythe religious experience and traditions ofBar/Bat Mitzvah and Jewish Weddingsand to plan a memorable celebration!

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Celebration has historically been anintegral part of the important rite ofpassage of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah.In the past, and again recently, the extent of somecelebrations has raised questions about the appro-priateness and dignity of the simcha. This is espe-cially marked when there appears to be no connec-tion between the spiritual side of the event and theparty. Debate, of course, has always been an integral part of the American experience, includingAmerican Judaism. We understand that celebrationshould be at the same time meaningful to the family, respectful of Jewish law and tradition, andreflective of synagogue and community values. This is sometimes a difficult task to accomplish,especially after the events of September 11th andthe current violence in Iraq, Israel, Afghanistan andelsewhere. We do not propose the answers here,except to emphasize that personal choice is also animportant American and Jewish dimension.How important a party celebration is to one familywe cannot say. But the Bar/Bat Mitzvah only passesonce on the way to becoming a teenager, and therite of passage is undeniably sacred and important.After all, the celebration is not only for the act ofreading the Torah, leading the congregation inprayer and giving a speech. There has been deter-mined studying, learning and practicing. There hasbeen intellectual and spiritual growth. There havebeen mitzvot (good deeds), tzedakah (charity) andgemilut chasadim (non-financial giving) that helpbuild self-esteem and mold character. The Bar/BatMitzvah has earned the right to be part of a min-yan, be called for alliyot, or wear the tefillin. Thatthis should be celebrated in some way is undeni-able, but the intensity and extent of that celebra-tion, while ever debatable, is probably a matter ofindividual taste and preference. Whatever yourchoice may be, Mazel Tov to you and your family!

A Word About theBar/Bat MitzvahCelebration

The Significance of the Day!

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believes that all families should recog-nize the religious importance of theBar/Bat Mitzvah, the rite of passage, andthe whole Jewishness of the child. This

life-cycle event will have long lasting meaning to thefamily, relatives, friends and especially the honored child.Becoming a Bar/Bat Mitzvah symbolizes the child’s reli-gious coming of age and the beginning of life as a fullyparticipating Jewish adult. He/she will now accept reli-gious responsibilities and can perform the importantduties of Jewish life.The celebration of the event is an important componentbecause it honors the child’s accomplishments and givesloved ones and others the opportunity to show greatpride and joy for the child. This publication focuses onplanning the reception or celebration, but we recom-mend that you, as parents, participate fully in the wholeMitzvah and understanding the significance and mean-ing of the day. Remember, the party would be meaning-less without the ceremony. On our website is a partiallist of resources that helps the reader learn more aboutthe Torah, Judaism, and the spiritual meaning of theBar/Bat Mitzvah. Your Synagogue, local library, book-stores, stores in this guide that carry religious items andour online bookstore at www.milestonesmagazine.commay have these as well as other resources.

Here are some other ways tobring meaning to the day:• Attend synagogue with your children regularly, even if

they sit with their friends. Discuss the service and theRabbi’s sermon afterwards.

• Encourage your child to give to tzedakah (charity), asit is a responsibility for Jewish adults. Giving from thechild’s own funds is even more meaningful, even if itis a dollar or two.

• Encourage the Bar/Bat Mitzvah to practice his/herparasha (Torah portion) and perhaps haftarah portionfrequently. Even if it is awkward, listen to their practic-ing, as your child becomes a young adult.

• Meet with the Rabbi as a family, if this is the customat your synagogue, and allow your child to speakfreely.

• Discuss the Torah portion being read, both the Hebrewand the English translation. Relate the message inthat portion to events today in the world, in your owncommunity, or in your family.

• Participate in the service, if your synagogue allowsthis, by reading prayers, lighting candles, recitingblessings, or helping with the ark and the Torah.

• Perform a mitzvah with your child and/or encouragea Mitzvah Project. There are many worthwhile ideas.

What is a Bar/Bat Mitzvah?

Translated as “Son/daughter of the commandments”, one becomes a Bar orBat Mitzvah at age 13 (12 for girls in mostOrthodox congregations) independent of aceremony marking the occasion.

By tradition, because a Bar/Bat Mitzvah ceremony is acustom not a commandment, age 13 is when a childbecomes obligated to the ritual responsibilities of Jewishlife. This is referred to as the “commandment age”, the“age of majority”, or a “religious coming of age”. At thispoint in the young adult’s life, he or she is presumed tobe responsible for those religious obligationsindependent of the parents.Those obligations might include mitzvot, being part of aminyan (religious prayer quorum), fasting on Yom Kippur,

leading the congregation in prayer or wearing tefillin.Therefore, becoming a Bar/Bat Mitzvah is certainly animportant life-cycle event. In secular terms, this point ina teen’s life, often marks enormous growth and maturityreflected by several years of study and practice before thespecial day. Combined with the responsibility of Jewishadulthood, this event often brings an overwhelmingwave of emotion to parents and close relatives.This event is marked by participation in services, readingthe Torah and leading the congregation in prayer. Afterthe service, it is customary to celebrate with a specialmeal to commemorate the mitzvah. Over time, theparty, or simcha, has evolved. This is a way for familiesto celebrate a rite of passage, as well as bring extendedfamilies together to reunite for a joyous celebration.Ph

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Sean Peterfreund,Amherst, Massachusetts in his Bar Mitzvah talk.

Contributed By:Rabbi Marc D. RudolphCongregation Beth ShalomNaperville, Illinois

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You may want to ask the followingquestions when inquiring about facilities:1. How much do you charge for children’s meals and what is the age range?2. What is the price of limited bar versus open bar and the price for

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such as a gazebo, garden, or patio?6. What colors are available for table linens and chair covers?

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Reception IdeasYour choice of reception style, location, and time will depend upon personal preference, family needs,local customs, budget and availability. Do not worry too much about pleasing others - you and yourfamily must be comfortable with the arrangements. Here are just a few variants and ideas to discuss:

Kiddush Luncheonat the Synagogue: This is probably the least expensive way to offer a cele-bratory meal away from home. It can be catered, or bringin platters prepared by you or some helpers (Note: Thiswill not be allowed in facilities where kashrut isobserved) . This can also be offered in addition to a moreformal evening affair or a kids-only party.

Reception at the Synagogue: Check to see if your Synagogue has adequate facilitiesand staff to accommodate your needs. Some Synagoguesalso have rules regarding kashrut, caterers, entertain-ment, photography, flowers and more. Consult with theSynagogue staff.

Non-Traditional Reception Sites:- Community Center or Conference Center- Social hall or Historic mansion- Country club (even if you don’t belong)- Boats and yachts- Museum or Zoo- Elegant restaurants- Theme restaurants

Kiddush Luncheon at a Restaurant:Can be very reasonably priced, particularly if it iscustomary to invite all congregants to a Kiddushluncheon at the synagogue.

Reception at a Hotel: This is often desirable, afternoon or evening, when manyguests from out-of-town are expected. Ask about roomrates and room blocks to reserve. Remember, too, thein-town guests who have to find the hotel and park,so make the location accessible.

Home Reception: Yes, it’s less expensive. But remember the extra work, theclean-up, the wear and tear - and you can’t walk awayfrom it after the party! Still, lovely home receptions havebeen done. Consider services such as a caterer, partyplanner, entertainers, coat check and clean-up help soyou can be a guest at your own party.

Kids-Only Party: Usually held in conjunction with a Kiddush luncheon,this can be held anywhere your Bar/Bat Mitzvah and youagree upon. Arcades, zoos, pools, amusement parks,kids’ museums, theme restaurants, bowling alleys, sportscenters, and skating rinks all are appropriate locations.Some have food, some you’ll need to bring. A D.J.,entertainer, or inflatable attraction can add to the funand please everyone.

Reception at a Catering Hall: These are often beautifully decorated and well-run,because that is their only business. Ask about packagesthat include other services (flowers, decorations,videography, etc.) that you may want or need.

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• Alliyot is the plural of alliyah. One person is assigned one alliyah. The family of theBar/Bat Mitzvah (or the groom, at an Ufruf) may get to assign several alliyot. It meansto come to the Torah and recite the blessings before and after a section of the Torah isread (b’rachot). An honor is a non-speaking part. The chosen person performs thehonor, for example, they may open or close the Ark or dress the Torah.

• Ask the Rabbi or Cantor how many alliyot you will be allowed. Consult with yourrabbi or cantor regarding participation of non-Jewish friends and relatives.

• Ask about any restrictions or limitations before you approach anyone to perform anhonor or alliyah.

• Attend other Bar/Bat Mitzvah services at your synagogue to see how others do it.• Always ask relatives and friends if they would like to participate, but let them know it’s

okay to say no. Those who say yes will be truly honored, and the others will avoid whatthey may feel is uncomfortable.

• Check with the Rabbi for written instructions, Hebrew and English transliteration, andeven English prayers.

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The Jewish calendar has many festivals, holi-days, and observances which are shared bythe entire community. Bar or Bat Mitzvahs,weddings and celebrations attending thebirth of a baby are also celebrated. These areall personal milestones in the lives of Jewishindividuals. Every festival has a special signifi-cance, which is accompanied by its own sto-ries, songs, music, activities, prayers, and letus not forget, foods.The Jewish year follows the 354-5 day lunarcalendar, as opposed to the 365-6 day solaryear, so while each Jewish festival falls onexactly the same date in each year of theJewish calendar, the dates will differ on aGregorian calendar. For synchronicity, andalso to keep the months in their appropriateseason, a thirteenth month is added to theJewish calendar every two or three years.Therefore, in the northern hemisphere, RoshHashanah will always be celebrated betweensummer and autumn, while Chanukkahalways welcomes winter and Pesach brings inthe spring, no matter how different the actualdates will be on Christian calendars.The Jewish holidays always begin at sun-down on the day before. The year of celebra-tions starts around the month of September,with the Jewish New Year, Rosh Hashanah,and continues on through Yom Kippur, whichis marked nine days later. Sukkot, the harvestfestival of thanksgiving, follows, ending with

Simchat Torah. This is the great festival of theTorah. Then, around December comesChanukkah, the festival of lights. This is thetime of the year when traditionally gifts areexchanged. Tu b'Shevat, or the holiday of thetrees, comes next, around the month ofFebruary, and then is followed by Purim. Thisis the very flamboyant festival where peopledress in colorful costumes. This is often com-pared to the Mardi Gras Festivals orCarnivales.Pesach marks Israel's deliverance from Egypt.During this festival, which lasts for eight days,Jewish people eat certain foods and drinks,excluding those called "hametz". Shavuot cel-ebrates the Giving of the Torah, while Tish b'Avis a day of fasting.Many Jewish communities also observe YomHatsmaut, or Israeli Independence Day. Thisday is celebrated on May 14th with differentfestivities, including outdoor activities wherefalafel is eaten. Yom Ha Shoa, or theHolocaust Remembrance Day, is usuallyobserved not too long after Pesach. The mostimportant festival of them all however, is theSabbath or Shabbat. This festival is celebratedevery week, and forms the model of all theother holidays. This day is for not doing work,setting yourself free from all the hectic andhurriedness of the work week. This is a timewhen one concentrates on the spiritual, recognizes nature, and enjoys their families.

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That’s right - no misprint. The above usage of thewords “Bar/Bat Mitzvah” is incorrect. The title appliesto the child, not the ceremony. A Bar/Bat Mitzvah is

a child who has reached the age of maturity in Jewishlaw. He/she is now permitted to take place more fully inthe life of the Jewish community - and there’s the rub! You see, Bar/Bat Mitzvah is all about community. And for the last two thousand years, com-munity has begun and continues to begin in the synagogue. So why should youseek out a synagogue celebration of your child becomingBar/Bat Mitzvah? For… Community - celebrate with the people and the institu-tions in which your child is now ready to take a place; theinstitutions to which he/she will bring unique gifts overthe years and from which he/she will draw support andcompanionship in times of passage as well as in the dailyflow of life. Context - the meaning of becoming Bar/Bat Mitzvah ispart of that flow. In a fragmented world, celebrating sosignificant an event as part of a holistic journey of life iswhat renders it meaningful. The synagogue and the rela-tionships upon which it is built are the framework of thatjourney.Content - Becoming a Bar/Bat Mitzvah is about more

than just a set of skills. It is about a body of knowl-edge which renders one literate and capable of par-ticipating in the community’s life. The synagogue isthe place where that body can be acquired and devel-oped. Connection - Celebrating becoming a Bar/Bat Mitzvahin the synagogue creates an opportunity for forging rela-tionships between the individual, the family, and thepeople who can be there for you throughout the lifejourney described above. Lifelong relationships withRabbis and Cantors can bless all of us at the time of thecelebration and later life events at which those relation-ships can make all the difference. Core values - The entire approach of the synagogueand the tradition it teaches is values-driven. The mes-sage of a communal celebration provides a key balancein values. In a culture which is increasingly “Me”- ori-ented, the child learns that the greatest value of his/herbeing lies in becoming a contributing member of agreater community. We celebrate your child by cele-brating his/her place among us. Talk to the local synagogue representatives today.Choose a path of meaning upon which to celebratethe sacred meaning of your child’s life and special day.

The Rabbi’s Corner: View from the BimahWhy You Want a Synagogue Bar/Bat Mitzvah for Your Child (with apologies for misusing the title!)By Rabbi Rex Perlmeter, on behalf of the Reform Jewish Community of Baltimore

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With chocolate fountains and themed plat-ters as a staple at many B’nai Mitzvah par-ties, many parents find differentiation withfood selections to be difficult. Whileteenagers will forever love chicken tenders,pizza, pigs in a blanket, and hamburgers,the bigger food hits are those with brandnames and a personal connection.Local favorites such as a well-known icecream store, bakery, or even burrito jointare possibilities for using sources beyondthe caterer. When the reception is in a non-exclusivesetting and the caterer is coming to yourvenue, you have more leeway with cre-ativity. For example, your catering contractcan consist of solely appetizers andentrees, leaving room for you to provideand decide on the dessert.In either situation, considering seasonalitems is worthwhile. If you happen to havea late summer party for instance, localfresh fruit is a welcome change. Sure,caterers offer fresh-cut fruit, but nothingbeats in-season late-summer watermelonor once-a-year sweet Seckel pears (a very

sweet pear in season August-September).With a growing trend in local organic food,seasonal items could be a big hit for afruit-loving teen. The local food may nothave a brand-name, but the food can bejust as memorable. Buying from a farmer’s market is the bestway to purchase local foods and find dis-counts. Local purchases eliminate the costsof shipping, packaging and marketing. If the party is small, you have even moreroom to personalize the food. For close-knit families, consider the B’nai Mitzvah’sfavorite family dish. Using family recipesoften makes the food more memorable. Despite numerous options, remember tounderstand your limitations. For larger par-ties, keep it simple and let the caterer dotheir job. Do not go overboard with thetasks you assign to yourself. In all cases, letthe teenager have a say in the food selec-tion. While there may be a differencebetween food for adults and friends, ensurethat the food selection is personal to theB’nai Mitzvah. Selecting a special food itemwill give more meaning to the party.

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WeddingEvening Hours (5 hours shown here)6:30 - 7:30 PMHors d’oeuvres, cocktails, backgroundmusic, greeting arriving guests. Weddingpictures are taken, if they weren't beforethe ceremony. Guest book is signed,and table cards picked up, if any.7:30 - 8:00 PMThe Master of Ceremonies formallywelcomes guests, introduction of theWedding Party, blessing over the wineand challah.8:00 - 9:00 PMDinner, light music. Toasts and speechesfrom the Best Man, Maid of Honor,Parents. Dinner ends with blessings or areprise of the sheva b'rachot.9:00 - 9:45 PMBride and groom have the first dance,cake cutting ceremony, more toasts. Horadance, traditional Jewish music.9:45 - 11:30 PMThe night continues with dancing. Bridethrows bouquet. Groom throws garter.Bride and groom change into goingaway clothes and dance the final dance.Mezinke Tanz–a dance that honors

parents who have married off the last oftheir children. Parents thank guests andsay goodnight.

Bar/Bat MitzvahEvening Hours (4 hours shown here)7:30 - 8:15 PMHors d’oeuvres, cocktails, backgroundmusic, greeting arriving guests. Youngerguests entertained in another room withgames (Coke-Pepsi, scavenger hunt,etc.), caricatures, dance music, etc. 8:15 - 8:30 PMThe Master of Ceremonies formally welcomes guests, introduction of theBar/Bat Mitzvah family, blessing over thewine and challah.8:30 - 9:30 PMDinner, light music.9:30 - 9:45 PMCandle-lighting ceremony, Hora dance,traditional Jewish music.9:45 - 11:30 PMThe night continues with dancing.Videographer records family and friendsin a quiet location saying Mazel Tov tothe Bar/Bat Mitzvah.

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Words of Wisdom From ParentsWho Have “Been There”• Taste the food first before signing

a contract with the caterer.• Take the time to prepare lists for the

DJ/band, photographer/videographer,and caterer (i.e. Alliyot honorees,which guests to photograph, candlelighting sayings, agenda etc.)

• Include in your contract the DJ/bandsand photographer’s arrival time for the reception. You could have a bigproblem if these key people are late.

• Design a travel packet for your out-of-town guests with directions, rental carinformation, sights to see, etc.

• Consider not serving liquor. Children may try to sneak it, guests will be driving home, and it can be expensive.

• Be prepared for “no shows,” it always happens.

• The dance floor size is very important.People need lots of room to dance the“Horah” and other popular favorites.

• Have a family discussion about thetype of party you will have. Choosethe kind of affair that suits yourbudget and taste and not others’.

• Don’t forget to book a block of roomsfor out-of-town guests. The worstthing would be unavailability ofrooms on your weekend due to a holi-day or big conference/weddingplanned for the same time.

• You could arrange to have welcomebaskets delivered to the hotel roomsof your out-of-town guests.

• Slouch socks are nice to offer to thegirls, they like to kick off their shoesand dance comfortably.

• Be sure to check accessibility of hotelor reception choice for your disabledor elderly guests.

• Start checking the post office forstamps that could match envelopesfor color or theme.

• Order extra invitations for welcomeboard, memory books, and framing.

• Order Thank You notes at the sametime you order invitations.

• Place toiletries in restroom of thereception hall for your guests to use(Please check with the facilityowner/manager before you do this).

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Some questions and ideas for aRehearsal Dinner:A rehearsal dinner is usually a informal meal after a wed-ding rehearsal, taking place the night before the actualwedding. It's a chance for the wedding party to getacquainted and most importantly, it's a chance for thebride and groom to thank all the people who havehelped them out with their wedding plans and tothank the out of town guests who have traveled toattend. You don't necessarily need to invite the out oftown guests (other than the bridal party) but it is anice way of showing your appreciation to everyonethat traveled to attend your event. It also helps yourout of town guests share in the celebration and get toknow your new family, while also providing anotheractivity for them, during the event weekend. It can bea formal dinner or very casual.

Is a rehearsal dinner required andwho traditionally is responsible? A wedding rehearsal is usually required to make surethat the ceremony runs smoothly and everyoneknows their part in the ceremony and timing. Thedinner after is not required but is a nice gesture to getthe families and bridal party together and to thankeveryone for their participation and support.

Who pays?Traditionally the groom's parents pay but today, you'lloften see couples include the cost in their overall wedding planning budget or sometimes both sets of par-ents may host it together. If there is no money in the eventbudget, your wedding rehearsal can take place at the hotel

etc. and then invite guests back to your house for some-thing homemade or plan for casual catering.

Who plans it? Traditionally, it is the Mother of the Groom that arrangesthe rehearsal dinner. It gives her a chance to plan part ofthe wedding and welcome her new daughter-in-law to

their family. There are traditional toasts and sometimesa "roast" to the bride and groom, by the couple's bridalparty, family and friends, sharing some funny stories ordetails that others may not know about the bridal cou-ple. The bridal couple may also share some writtenpoems or special stories about each of the rehearsaldinner guests, to add a personal touch and show theirgratitude.

How do I invite my guests?Typically, printed invitations are sent a few days afteryou send the wedding invitation. These don't need to beelegant and expensive. The rehearsal dinner can be away of breaking the ice and taking some of the pressure off for everyone before the wedding. It is a nicetradition and a great way to extend the celebration! You will have more time to socialize andspend time with these close friends and family.

Many congregations allow, evenencourage, creation of a Bar/BatMitzvah booklet or program for theservice. This is compiled and produced by the family for distributionto congregants and guests by the ush-ers, or inserted into prayer books. Itcan have a variety of unique featuresaimed at relatives and friends, guests,congregants, non-Jewish guests, andso on. Here are some examples: • A short description of the worship

service as conducted at your synagogue,• A brief explanation of the meaning of a

Bar/Bat Mitzvah, event or an essay by theBar/Bat Mitzvah on the meaning of theday to him/her,

• Poems or special readings,• A discussion of the current parasha,

or Torah portions,• A list or description of the mitzvot

performed by the Bar/Bat Mitzvah,• Comments from close relatives,• Photographs of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah.

Be creative, but check with your Rabbi firstbefore making copies to distribute.

• Deborah Burman Carasso, of UniqueInvitations, (1-877-837-9122) explains

how a program was used for a Havdalah/Hanukkah Bar Mitzvah: “[The program]explained to guests the order of the service, the Haftarah portion, what itmeans, honors given, page numbers tofollow, explanations of the Mitzvah Project,what Hanukkah and Havdalah service isalong with what the spice bags are for,thanks to people who have made this dayhappen...On the back had the directionsfor the dreidel game. It made non-Jewishguests feel much more comfortable nowthat they knew what was going on.”And itserves as a wonderful keepsake of the special day!

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Hair Care Tips to Remember forYour Special Day

• All hair care products don’t alwayswork well on all hair types (dry, oily,permed, colored, normal). Chancesare what works for your best friendmay not work for you. Products real-ly do help style hair, hold a setlonger, give lift and protect your hair.It is important to read labels!

• Try several brands to determine theproduct that makes your hair shineand feel great!

• Did you know that bangs are in styleagain? To ensure picture-perfectbangs, try these suggestions:

• For large features, have bangs cutwider. For delicate features, narrowor wide bangs will work. To style,mist bangs with a volumizing hair-spray and blow smooth with a pad-dle brush.

• A few weeks before the big day, youshould try styling your hair severaldifferent ways to determine whatmakes you look the most beautiful.This will also give you practice insetting your hair to the desired styleso you will be less stressed for thebig event!

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By Brie Mazz of Brie Aarin Makeup

Brie Aarin Makeup Tips for the Bat Mitzvah Girl:1. Establish a good skincare routine at least 2 months before your Bat Mitzvah day.1. Cleanse, Tone, Moisturize in the morning and before bed time.2. Also, exfoliate your skin with a gentile exfoliator, once a week, to get rid of yourdead skin cells and keep your skin looking fresh and clean.2. Drink lots and lots of water to keep your skin properly hydrated.3. Wear age appropriate makeup.4. you don't want the makeup to wear you, instead have the makeup enhance yourlooks

Emergency Beauty Kit for the Bride on her Wedding Day:1. Lip liner, Lip stick, Lip Gloss;2. Blotting papers or powder;3. Concealer;4. Blush;5. If wearing false lashes, be sure to include adhesive and a tooth pick incase your lash-es become loose

Finding The Right Makeup Artist1. First ask the artist, if they are available on your wedding day2. Tell the artist what look you have in mind

-Bring pictures of yourself, and possibly of your wedding dress too-Find pictures of makeup looks you love from bridal magazines

3. Ask to set up a bridal trial-During the Bridal Trial, discuss with her:-the types of makeup looks you like; natural, or more dramatic looks-shiny or matte finishes on eyes-bold or natural lip color

4. Ensure that you and the makeup artist are on the same page and are achieving thatvery special look you want

5. Take a photo of the makeup application so that you can be confident that you willsparkle with the perfect look on your wedding day.

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Bakers usually offer a wide selection of stylesfor weddings and Bar/Bat Mitzvahs.You will also choose cake's flavor (white, chocolate, carrot, spice, etc.), type of frosting(butter cream, whipped cream, fondant, royal), filling (mousse, cream, fruit), number oftiers (for weddings), and cake topper. The cake could be plain or fancy, but always makeit fun, a real reflection of your event theme and personality. Room decor, ceiling height,temperature, lighting, linens, and wedding colors all will influence your choice of cake.Also, don’t forget to order what you like. Always ask to sample cake (or pastries) beforeordering–you want appearance and taste! Cake is usually priced by the slice. Always order more slices than you expect to serve–youdon’t want to run out of cake. Ask the baker if they will deliver the cake or if you will haveto arrange to pick it up. They may charge a fee, but it is well worth it. Your hotel, hall orcaterer may provide cakes as well. Also, some stores offer mini pastries and desserts forthe Kiddush, Oneg Shabbat, or the next day’s brunch.

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Cupcakes & Mini DessertsThey make a beautiful presentation and is single serving at it's finest. Lessmess on the sweet table and less food handling. It is pure genius! These may be decorated right along with your theme and can be turned up anotch in elegance enough for your black tie-wedding or special event. Mostbakers can design tiered cupcake trees for elegant presentations, some thateven resemble full cakes.

Stay Involved: After the Bar/Bat MitzvahB’nai B’rith Youth OrganizationThis organization is a youth-led, worldwide organizationwhich provides opportunities for Jewish youth to developtheir leadership potential, a positive Jewish identity andcommitment to their personal development. Under theguidance of adult advisorsand professional staff, youthsparticipate in democratic-functioning small groups.Great MidwestRegion BBYO1700 Weiland RoadBuffalo Grove, IL847-947-4358E- gmr@bbyo.orgActivities include monthly TeenConnection Events, such as dayin the City of Chicago, a trip upto the Wisconsin Dells, and muchmore!

Teen Programs atthe JCCChi Town ConnectionJCC's extraordinary year-round program for teens. There’snothing like it. It’s not your typical youth group.What you’ll love about Chi Town Connection is that youcan be as involved as you’d like. Be part of the advisoryboard and help plan CTC events. Or just show up whenyou want. You pick the activities that interest you. CTC is

always up to something good and into something funlike monthly outings into the city, sporting events,socials, camping, travel, education, leadership, volunteer-ing or just hanging out.

Connect with CTC and we’ll connectyou with cool people, great experiencesand your Jewish community. Everyoneis invited. All you need to do is showup. Call for more information at 847-412-5570.Mitzvah Corps (Gr. 6-12)Mitzvah Corps is a community serviceprogram developed by the JewishCommunity Centers of Chicago. Thepurpose of the program is to give mid-dle school and high school students anopportunity to contribute to the localcommunity, gain new experiences, andmeet new friends.All Mitzvah Corps programs aredesigned to get kids involved in hands-on activities that contribute to the

overall welfare of the community. The activity could beserving food at a homeless shelter, cleaning up a park,reading books to children or visiting with the elderly.Activities vary depending on the project, but we guaran-tee everyone will have a great time and feel good abouttheir contributions.

Camp Chi Teen AdventuresHike a canyon. Bike a mountain. See America andbeyond. Camp Chi summer adventures put your body andmind in total discovery mode.You'll experience some of the most majestic, historic andentertaining spots in America, Canada and Israel.Whether a rugged adventure or a sightseeing tour, CampChi teen trips offer incredible opportunities to buildfriendships, discover leadership skills and learn to workand live as part of a community of peers.Camp Chi Teen Adventures are led by a staff of specialistswho are experts in wilderness adventure. For the summer of a lifetime, call 847.272.2301.Interviews are required for all trips. Visitwww.campchi.com for more information!JCC Maccabi GamesEach year, JCC Maccabi Chicago fields a delegation ofteens ages 13-16 to compete in the annual JCC MaccabiGames. This Olympic-style competition brings togethermore than 6,000 Jewish teens from around the world tocompete in various individual and team sports includingbaseball, softball, basketball, bowling, golf, in-line hock-ey, table tennis, soccer, swimming, track and field, tennisand volleyball. An offspring of the World MaccabiahGames held in Israel every four years, JCC MaccabiChicago is a fantastic opportunity for teen athletes to taketheir game to the next level, meet new friends, and enjoya once-in-a-lifetime experience. For more informationabout the JCC Maccabi Games, please visit our website atwww.jccmaccabi.org.

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It’s a Matter ofDollars and SenseNeed to stay within budget? Here are sometips to help stretch your dollars:

Sample Budget FormNote: Include tax and tips in all expenses

Bar/Bat Mitzvah Cost Cutting Tips1. Use more traditional style invitations, which tend to be more economical.

Ask your invitation professional to suggest more cost-cutting tips that areappropriate for your situation.

2. Explore the possibility of using package plans for the entertainment,photography, and other services.

3. You can decorate and personalize the welcome board and guest bookby using glitter pens and markers.

4. Generally, Saturday is the most expensive day to hold the Simcha. Consider yourchild becoming a Bar/Bat Mitzvah on another day when the Torah is read.

5. Favors can be bought at gift or toy stores. Personalize them with labels createdon your computer or they can be personalized/monogrammed where purchased.

6. Consider an afternoon Kiddush luncheon which may be less expensivethan an evening reception.

7. Chicken dishes are usually less costly than beef dishes. 8. Balloons are usually less costly than flowers.

Wedding Cost Cutting Tips1. Use more traditional style invitations, which tend to be more economical.

Ask your invitation professional to suggest more cost-cutting tips that areappropriate for your situation.

2. Avoid serving liquor at the reception, or only serve for limited times. Alternatively, fea-ture beer, wine, and a champagne fountain. These all cost less than a full open bar.

3. Shop around for the best deal on flowers. Some florists mark up arrangementsthat are designated for weddings, a so-called “wedding mark-up”.Avoid exotic flowers, opting instead for seasonal and regional (local) flowers.

4. Looking for bridal gown bargains? Borrow from a friend or relative, buy one at aconsignment shop, purchase a sample gown, or look at shops further from themetropolitan area.

5. Avoid wedding dates near holidays when florists, hotels, limousines,and other services charge a premium.

6. Avoid oversized invitations and lots of inserts that require extra postage,and make the response card a post card, which costs less to send.

7. DJ’s are often less expensive than live music. If you are planning several typesof live music, look for a Klezmer band that also plays pop. oldies, swing, etc.You get two bands for the price of one!

8. Consider a Sunday afternoon luncheon that may be less expensive than an eveningreception.

9. Chicken dishes are usually less costly than beef dishes. Do not assume thata buffet is cheaper than a served meal–ask for prices on both.

10. Order a small tier cake for photographs and sheet cakes, which cost less, to feed guests dessert.

All-Around Best Advice1. Shop well in advance for most service to get the best price. Book as early as you

can, since most professionals are forced to raise prices from time to time, you willlock in a lower price, and some professionals will even offer discounts to book wellin advance.

2. Especially when money is tight, stay with professionals who KNOW and WANTyour Jewish event business, such as the advertisers in this guide. These are folkswho know all about these events and won’t let you down, and who will cover allthe bases. Pros who otherwise handle only a few Jewish events, or who are doingyou a “favor” may very well forget to include an important, or expensive, extra thata Jewish event specialist may be throwing in for free, or be able to arrange at anominal cost. And then there is the stress factor resulting from coordinating services that are unfamiliar with your type of event. Don’t be “penny wise andpound foolish”.

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When Choosing a Caterer...If you would like to hold your reception at the Synagogue or a hall, you will likely hire aprofessional catering company. Catering at your site offers maximum flexibility(casual, elegant, plated, stations, etc.) and includes silverware, set-up and clean-up. Ask about specialty diets such as Kosher, vegetarian, diabetic, etc. Is there a separatechildren's’menu? What about leftovers? How does the staff dress? Is gratuity included?When is the final count and final payment due? Look for both great food andpresentation–visually appealing dishes are an elegant part of the decor. Get a writtencontract that lists all the details, including menu, services provided, equipment to be used, financial information, dates, times and personnel to be included. It should have a guarantee and cancellation policy.Check our web site for more tips on Catering and Kosher Food:www.milestonesmagazine.com.

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There has always been a history and a tradition when it comes to Jewish food. Food on theJewish table has long been associated with the strong history of it's people. Since thebeginning of the first exile, Jews have taken the flavors of the land in which they lived andhave made it a part of their lives. Whenever the Jewish people were forced out of a coun-try and forced to start over in a new land, they always integrated foods that they foundthere and along with Jewish laws and traditions, added them to their long history.Holidays are true symbols of these traditions and rituals: from the matzos of Pesach, to themany fried dishes of Chanukkah, and the sweet and delectable foods associated with RoshHashanah. The laws of Kashrut have also applied to these new foods. Kashrut is the set of ritual dietarylaws that are set out in Jewish religious laws. Food that conforms to these standards isdescribed as kosher. Kosher, meaning "fit" or "proper" describes the foods that the OldTestament declares appropriate to consume. Although Kosher laws may seem difficult tounderstand at first, they actually follow an understandable logic. Kosher foods are dividedinto three classifications: meat, dairy, and pareve. Meat must never be eaten with dairy, butpareve foods can be eaten with either meat or dairy. As said, "Thou shall not seethe a kid inhis mother's milk." The ways that foods are classified and prepared are very often indicatedon the packaging that they come in. For instance, the labeling on a package can immedi-ately show not only the kosher contents of the package, but also the methods and equip-ment on how that item was produced. Though the basic principles of Kashrut are outlined in the Bible, they have been ruled uponand commented upon by rabbis in many books, such as the Shulhan Aruch, the code ofJewish law. There is no reason given for the laws of Kashrut, though many have suggestedthat hygiene, food safety and health might be contributory factors. The rabbis state, how-ever, that no reason or rationale is needed; obeying the laws of Kashrut is a commandmentfrom God. To start out, one must keep a truly Kosher kitchen. This requires that a personmust have at least three sets of dishes, pots, and utensils. Milk and meat products cannever be prepared in the same pot or served in the same plate. (Kosher cooks even use dif-ferent soap for washing each set.) Kosher households must also have an additional set ofdishes and utensils that are used only for Passover (Pesach) (for meat and dairy).

Some more basic understanding of the classifications include:Meat kitchen : Only certain meats are allowed, based on the text Leviticus ,whichstates: "Whatsoever parted the hoof, and is clovenfooted, and cheweth the cud...that shallye eat.” No birds or animals of prey are allowed, nor are scavengers, creeping insects orreptiles. For a Kosher animal to become Kosher meat, it must be slaughtered ritually andhumanely by Shechita. Animals that die from natural causes or are killed by another ani-mal is forbidden. Certain types of injury also render the animal unkosher. Kashering themeat, a term used to describe the removal of blood from an animal immediately afterslaughter, is used, because blood is forbidden to be consumed by the laws of Kashrut. Allmeat must be soaked in salt water, grilled, or broiled, so that no blood remains. This isusually done by the butcher. Even a spot of blood in an egg renders it unkosher.Dairy: Foods in this group are milk and milk by-products such as cheese, cream, yogurt,

and ice cream. Yogurt is one example of a kosher dairy product that should be eaten onlywith the symbol of Kashrut because to produce, sometimes gelatin is used and gelatin ismade from the bones of animals (and the concern is that bones may be used from a non-kosher animal). Kosher yogurt is made from gelatin that is vegetable based seaweed, orcarrageen, as it is commonly known. Even after eating a meat meal, a certain amount oftime must elapse before dairy food can be consumed. Some communities wait six hours,while others wait only two. While eating dairy, meat is appropriately consumed within fif-teen minutes to a two hours after. Pareve: A term meaning neutral foods that are neither meat nor dairy .They do not havethe same restrictions imposed upon them and can be eaten with either meat or dairyfoods. All fresh fruits and vegetables and grains, nuts, as well as eggs are pareve. Thesecan be served with either dairy or meat. Fish falls under the pareve category too, however,only fish with fins and detachable scales are Kosher. Shellfish, as well as eel, monkfish,catfish, and frogfish, are not considered Kosher. Despite the fact that fish have blood, nospecial kashering process is needed. Just keep in mind that even though fish are pareve, itcannot be cooked with meat. Some communities do not cook in milk as well. One shouldtake a fifteen minute break after eating fish before consuming meat.

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When choosing a catering company for your Mitzvah or Wedding, it’s important toremember that the catering staff becomes your home team on the day of your event. It’s a given that your caterer will provide the food and beverage service at your event, butoften times your caterer is involved with many additional aspects of your event, both inthe planning stages and behind the scenes on the “day of” your event. It’s the cateringstaff setting up the rental equipment and linens, and working diligently with the enter-tainers, designers and planners in making your vision a reality. The catering company isusually the first one on site and the last to leave.Be sure to choose a licensed and insured catering company, and one that you feel comfortable with. The caterer should always be willing and able to provide references, andshould also have an informative and substantive website which lends credibility to theircompany. Once you have done your due diligence in checking references or narrowingyour selection, you might want to consider choosing the caterer who will confidently offera customized menu that meets your criteria, but also allows for the freshness and season-ality of ingredients. Ask your caterer to offer options within their proposals to allow for anybudget concerns. Often menus for weddings and mitzvahs are determined many monthsor more in advance, in order to facilitate a contract. However, your caterer should be willing to revisit your menu within 60 days of your event and offer either new or seasonalitems based upon new food trends and interesting items that may have been recentlyadded to their menu. Many times these accommodations are not more expensive, justmore fun and interesting.Remember that there are many great caterers all over the country. Look for resourcesonline, ask your friends or the venue where you are hosting your event who they recommend, find out who catered an event at which you were a guest and loved thefood, it doesn’t matter how you create your initial list. What does matter is selecting thecatering company that will bring creativity, talent and professionalism to the table andpeace of mind for you.

Selecting a Catering Company:It’s about much more than the menuBy Jody Birnbaum, Caterconsult, Inc. Business Consultant to the Hospitality Industry - www.caterconsulting.com

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Chocolate FountainsWhat a way to treat your guests like royalty- and give themwhat they really want, mouth-watering flowing chocolate. Yourguests are able to dip a variety of items that you choose likestrawberries, brownies, marshmallows, Rice Krispies Treats, pretzels and more. You can make it an appetizer fountain or adessert temptation. A small, elegant addition to your event thatleaves a big, tasteful impression on your guests!

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What to Expect from aBrunch CatererBy David Model, Mr. Omelette Catererswww.mromelettemd.com

Brunch is one of the best meals to havecatered, as it is a special meal thatreplaces both breakfast and lunch and istypically more relaxed and fun. Dependingon the event for which you contact abrunch caterer, there are many options toensure your guests have the best possibleexperience at your event. A brunchoptions can be successfully used atBar/Bat Mitzvahs, weddings andrehearsals, small gatherings or largeevents. Because the use of stations is soflexible, you can expect to have moreoptions than traditional served meals, andyour guests will enjoy that flexibility as

well.The typical Brunch event can be excitingand fun and great at any time of the dayor evening. So many brunch menu optionsand other foods can be incorporated intoyour foundation menu like omelettes,waffles, blintzes, fresh Salads, crepes,pasta stations. A good brunch caterer pro-vides all of these elements. Having a pro-fessionally catered brunch should not be afinancial burden on your pocket. Withcareful planning an experienced brunchcaterer will provide you with hot off thegrill ideas while you get to enjoy yourparty and friends stress free. I always say

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Hot Dogs...Give your guests what they crave. For casual Bar/Bat Mitzvahcatering options or kids meals, for those picky kids who won’teat what's on the menu. Also makes a great late night weddingsnack, delivered from a hot dog cart, Rehearsal Dinners,Bachelor/ Bachelorette parties and all pre-post gatherings inbetween! There are so many types of hot dogs to try from theChicago-style hot dog to the Carolina style hot dog to the NewYork hot dog and so many more for those hot dog lovers.

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Tipping the caterer may be thelast thought at the end of aparty, but consider the time

and effort of the workers. If the caterergoes above andbeyond the nor-mal duties of theirjob, giving a tip isa respectable act.Remember, theworkers are pres-ent at the partyway before theclient, and theworkers often staylater.

Catering compa-nies tend to shyaway from ques-tions on tipping. Classic Catering, acatering company based out ofBaltimore, says tipping is entirely up tothe client. An administrator at thecompany suggests that around 30-40% of their clients tip, and just like

restaurants, 15-20% is the standardrate. Similar to restaurants, clients havethe ability to tip more, less, or none. Other catering companies have a serv-

ice fee built intothe contract, sothe best thing todo is ask thesalespersonbefore making adecision. Somecatering compa-nies ask the clientto add the tip ontop of the bill,while othersrequire the tip toremain entirelyseparate. Tippingcaterers is less

common than in restaurants, but isgenerally accepted. Evaluate the situa-tion and decide accordingly, but moreimportantly, know the company’s poli-cy on tipping before the event.

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Ice Cream...We all scream for Ice Cream... give your guests a fun, yummy anddelicious catered ice cream dessert station. Sundae Bars and top-pings your guests will love to create themselves. Did you knowyour local Dairy Queen can cater to your event with their "Makeyour Own Sundae Bar" with nine great toppings to choose from,or you can also add their Famous Blizzards, too. A cool treat andlovely addition to any sweet table!Check out Dairy Queen’s ad above.

Candy Bars...Ask your caterer about candy bars, the latest dessert trend forBar/Bat Mitzvah celebrations. Not to be confused with a chocolate bar at the checkout counter, or even the PersonalizedBars given out as favors, this is an entire table display of delicious candies, artfully arranged and ready to be enjoyed! Thesemake beautiful set pieces because they are colorful, enticing andfun, a focal point for other desserts, and a great way to pleasenearly everyone. Guests typically grab a bag and fill it with candyfrom a wide variety on the table, selecting the exact mix that willmake them remember the evening. Great for dessert or take-home favors, a favorite of kids, adults love them every bit asmuch!

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Mens’ & Boys’For mens’ and boys’ suits, start shopping twelve weeksfrom the event, leaving several weeks for alterations,which are usually necessary. Choose your clothing withcomfort in mind. Select a style and fabric that may beworn on different occasions. Color changes are madewith shirt and tie combos. Tuxedo rental should also bemade 3 months in advance, especially if an entire partyneeds the same style/color. Differences in shirts/ties/cummerbunds can distinguish party members.

Women’s & Girls’Start shopping at least six months before the event incase you need to order something or alter your selec-tion. Also, choose your clothing with comfort in mind.Let your Bat Mitzvah girl choose her own outfit,keeping appropriateness in mind andSynagogue policy. You may need to set aprice limit, but she should feel com-fortable, beautiful and special thatday. Don’t forget to bring an extrapair of hosiery for you and yourchildren that day.

Finding the Right Bat Mitzvah Dress

Young ladies often require three outfits- one forFriday night services, one for their actual BatMitzvah, and a third for their party. This is their day

to shine. Outfits for the Bat Mitzvah Girl should be special tothem - something that they adore and feel beautiful in; how-ever, this doesn't mean that you have to "pay a fortune."Many unique outfits are available "off the rack" at local bou-tiques. Don't be shy about telling a store if you have a budg-et. Stores that specialize in Bat Mitzvah fashions can helpguide your selections in all of the above areas. Avoid largedepartment stores if possible- other girls may be wearing thesame "special dress" as your child! Also, beware of onlinesites that you are not familiar with. Their "too good to betrue" pricing often hides that outfits may be "knock-offs" ordamaged goods. In addition, outfits usually look very dif-ferent on your child then they do online, and are usually finalsale. Check a store's reputation and return policy beforemaking a purchase.Try not to purchase or alter her outfits more than 3 monthsprior to the event, since sizes can change rapidly for girls thisage. If you do buy sooner, make certain to buy a full size larg-er than needed and wait until closer to your event date tohave outfits altered.Comfort and Synagogue policies are essential in your choiceof clothing. Most Synagogues require that shoulders be cov-ered and that skirts/dresses are an "appropriate length"-

this length varies based on the Synagogue, so docheck. Avoid scarves and pashmina-style wraps tocover her shoulders if she will be wearing a Tallit -bolero style jackets or light sweaters are muchmore comfortable. Also, this is not the time foryour daughter to wear "high heels." Make surethat her shoes truly fit well, and that she can com-fortably walk in them. "Ballerina flats" or lowheels with ankle supports can be fashionable andvery comfortable.For the reception, parents often buy inexpensivesocks for every girl attending their party, especiallyif there will be a lot of dancing and games. It hasbecome a custom for girls to "kick off their shoes"and put on the socks almost as soon as they arriveat the reception! You can also help your guests byusing traditional or very descriptive terms todescribe how you would like them to dress.Contemporary and novel descriptions like "countryclub casual," "business casual," or "party clothes"can be frustrating and confusing.Finally and most importantly, this is a very specialand meaningful day for your daughter and foryour entire family. Treasure the day! "Don'tsweat the small details." MAZEL TOV!

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Your Son’s Bar Mitzvah Suit Can Help HimShowcase his Personal StyleBy Bonnie Brickman, Guys & Co. Deerfield, IL • 847-940-GUYS (4897) • www.guysandco.com (See ad, above)

According to Jewish law, a Bar Mitzvah marks the occasion when a Jewish boy comes ofage. It’s a wonderful celebration, of course – and for virtually every young man nowa-days, it’s also the first time he’s taken to a clothing store to buy a suit.Unlike girls, most boys seem not to care about the clothes they wear, especially for suchspecial, once-in-a-lifetime dress-up events. By shopping together, you can help makeyour son’s Bar Mitzvah and all the special activities leading up to it a wonderful memoryhe will cherish forever.It’s important for your son to be a part of the process. As his parent, you have an idea ofstyle and fabrics that are most appropriate, but engage your son in the process of select-ing his tie and tallit. This is where he can showcase his personal style. Start shopping for his suit six to eight weeks before his Bar Mitzvah. This gives you ampleto time to make a selection, to get the suit altered so it fits properly – and to allow for agrowth spurt. Boys sometimes seem to grow an inch or two almost overnight! For thatreason, you don’t want to alter his new suit until at least two weeks before his BarMitzvah.You want the suit to be a little oversized, but not sloppy. The fit of the coat is most impor-tant; the bottom of the jacket should extend about an inch or so below his palm when hisarms are at his side and his fingers extended toward the floor. The coat should buttoncomfortably, with little overlap from side to side. But it should not be snug that a “V”forms across his mid-section when the coat is buttoned. It’s possible to alter the coat, ofcourse, but do as little as possible – it’s more complicated, takes more time and usuallycannot be altered again when he grows. When you son tries on the suit coat, have himwear a dress shirt. Trying on a jacket with a t-shirt will change the fit. And when it’s timeto make alternations in the suit you’ve selected, he should wear a dress shirt again. The suit pants, in contrast, can be altered relatively easily. Boys usually wear casual pants

lower than their dress pants, which should be worn at the waist. You will want him towear the shoes he will wear at his Bar Mitzvah so the tailor can make the pants “break”just over the shoe tops. And if you’re getting new shoes, make sure your son breaks themin so he is comfortable on the day of his Bar Mitzvah. Alter the length of the pants, making sure the tailor leaves as much material as possible.This extends the life of the suit, because your son will get taller ashe grows. You can alter the waist, too – but not more thanan inch or two. Don’t let the back pockets get pulledtogether when the waist is taken in; this will “pull” thefront pockets toward the back of the pants andchange the alignment of the crease. When you return to the store to pick up hisaltered suit, it’s best to try on the suit while he’sthere – and while he’s wearing his dress shirtand dress shoes. It’s best to give the tailor theopportunity to make minor alterations or cor-rections when your son is there. Your son’s sense of personal style can beexpressed in many ways…so let him choosehis tie or you select three or four you like. Givehim the final choice. You and your son never will forget his BarMitzvah, and helping him make sure he’s comfort-able and looks his best will enhance the day -- andyour memories.

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The Wedding DressJewish tradition calls for bridal gowns tobe pure white, symbolizing the purity ofthe bride and the beginning of the maritalrelationship. (the groom often wears awhite kittel during the ceremony, as well).A strapless bra is handy when trying ongowns. Lift your arms when trying ongowns to see if you can easily movearound and dance in it. You can sewbeads onto an antique or ordinary dressto make it new and unique. Shop forcomfortable shoes, and break them inbefore the wedding day. Choose onlythose accessories that compliment yourdress, not distract from it.

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Check out these sites for Mitzvah Registries:www.moderntribe.com • www.bmregistry.commitzvahs.myevent.com • www.amazon.com/wishlist

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Turning 16 is a big event in a teenager´s life. It´s a time of discovering the possibilities ofindependence. There´s no better way to celebrate this milestone than having a formalrite-of-passage ceremony. This can be an intimate gathering among friends and familyor a catered affair at a hotel or banquet facility. It can be very casual or formal. We want-ed to share a little history and the traditional aspects of the ´sweet 16´. History-- Sweet 16 party traditions originated in England during the 17th century.Young women were presented to the royal court for the first time as women and becamepotential brides for the men of power. Candle-lighting Ceremony--Like Bar/Bat Mitzvahs, the candle-lighting ceremony issymbolic. It represents the family generations and connections. A grandparent, the par-ents and the teenager get to light one of the candles. Friends and family also light a can-dle to represent friendship and support. the 15th and 16th candle typically represent sig-nificant friends in the child´s life, such as a boyfriend and best friend. A 17th candle maybe added, as well, for good luck. Shoe Ceremony-- A shoe ceremony is another tradition for Sweet 16´s. It represents agirl becoming a woman. The girl wears flat shoes to the party, she sits on a chair, like aprincess at a ball and waits for an influential male in her life, most often her father orgrandfather. He presents her with high-heel shoes on a pillow, decorated for the occa-sion. He helps her to remove the flat shoes and replaces them with the high heels. Tiara´sare often used for this tradition. Passing the Torch-- Passing down tradition and family heirlooms if another traditionfor Sweet 16´s. Girls are given their grandmothers or great grandmother´s jewelry as akeepsake. This represents the journey to adulthood and the ability to be trusted, to carefor such cherished keepsakes and to carry on family traditions. Dancing-- Some say that the two most important dances for a girl and her father are ather sweet 16 and at her wedding. At her sweet 16 dance, her father,´gives her away´ tothe world, all grown up. At her wedding dance, her dad, ´gives her away´ to her await-ing groom. These are both very special dances in a girls life, indeed!

Sweet 16 CelebrationsBy Carla Gohde

Speaking Anxiety? Tips to RelaxYou’ve got your Torah por-

tion down pat. A littleHebrew never hurt anyone.Of course, your family stillheckles you every dayabout practicing which onlymakes you more nervous.You hate speaking (andsweating) in public andyou’re not too happy abouthaving to do a speech.

The comforting news, according to theUniversity of Mary Washington (UMW)Speaking Center (http://www.umw.edu/spkc/resources), is that, “You’ll appearmore confident than you feel.”Tips for making your speechsound awesome and you morecomfortable:1) Make a list of your concerns: You’ll putyour fears into prospective and find waysto fight them. 2) Practice your speech: You’ve heard thisa million times, but hear this. You canover practice. If you lose interest in the

speech and speak too fast whenpracticing, stop. Make sure yougo through the speech slowly.Speaking quickly may help yourspeech end quicker but it willnot eliminate your nervous-ness and mistakes.3) Perform the speech onceat the temple: Same goeswith your Torah portion. It’sreally different speaking in the syn-agogue or place of service.Acclimating yourself to the sur-roundings will help you feel more atease on the big day.4) Know the introduction: Your anx-iety is highest at the beginning ofthe presentation, so knowing theintroduction well can help you getthrough the rest of the speech. 5) Use your nervousness:When you step up to thestage and you feel nervous,you have extra energy floatingaround that your body has no idea howto use. Use this energy productively bystressing important words and making

gestures. 6) Pick three spots: Instead of

looking into the faces of familyand friends, try looking just tothe left, right, or even better,above. It will appear as ifyou’re looking into their faces.Find a blemish on the wall, abook in plain sight, or anything

that you can focus on while youreiterate what you’ve practiced so

well. Using three of thesespots/objects allows you to move yourhead around the room as if you’re a

master of eye contact.7) Don’t think too much: While you’respeaking, make sure you know whatline you’re on and what the sentencemeans so that you can intonate prop-erly. Other than that, don’t think.

Further thought couldmake you nervous. 8) Eat sleep and look

good: If you eat properly,sleep enough and give yourself

time to get ready in the morning, yourbody will be ready for public speaking.Tyler Mondres, a recent Bar Mitzvah,

suggests using notes for intonation andpauses. Simple notes-to-self such as“look up” and “go slow” on paper helphim when he speaks. Another helpfultool, according to Tyler, is the relevance ofhis speech. He related his Torah portionto all aspects of his life. While it may behard for Tyler to speak extensively on sto-ries in the Torah, he has no qualms aboutspeaking on football, school grades, fam-ily, and even addressing the crowd. If you are still nervous, videotape yourselfand go over possible problem areas withyour parents, keeping in mind you willlook 100 times smaller to people on thebig day. Remember, family and friendscannot see everything you see on video.Besides, we all know your family will benuts about you no matter how you thinkyou perform. No matter what happens,you cannot avoid the “you’re so adorable”and “my, you sound so grown-up” com-ments. In the end, after everyone kissesand congratulates you, you’ll be tooexcited to remember why you worried.

By Matt Tucker

The CandleLightingCeremonyThere is no historical or religious prece-dent, commandment, or even specialreligious meaning to the candle lightingceremony at a Bar/Bat Mitzvah celebra-tion. Nevertheless, it has quicklybecome a custom at Bar/Bat Mitzvahsimchas here in America, and for goodreason. It allows the Bar or Bat Mitzvahto personally honor and connect withloved ones or special friends, or pay trib-ute to an absent or departed relativewho is missed. It is sometimes hard foreyes to stay dry during these momentsand is often the most cherished part of amagical event.Thirteen candles are often used; some-times an extra one is added for good luck(or to squeeze another honor in). Apoem, speech or short statement is readcalling the honoree to the table wherethey light the next candle with the previ-ous one or assist the Bar/Bat Mitzvahwith this. These are often specialmoments and flashes click and videorolls. Music is sometimes played whilethe honorees make their way to the

table, and this is usually carefully coordi-nated with the DJ or bandleader wellahead of time.Candles are usually tall (nine inch)tapers, sometimes shorter. They can beset into or (more likely) behind a cake.Some families construct candle lightingboards. This can be a painted or decorat-ed foam board with candle holders, theBar/Bat Mitzvah’s name, or it could bean elaborate set piece. Make sure it is notso tall that it blocks people behind it orthat it has any decorations close enoughto the candles to catch fire. Also, checkwith Synagogue rules on candle lighting,if the simcha will be held there. Somesynagogues prohibit candle lighting onShabbat or for safety reasons. You mightthen substitute toasts, presentation offlowers or hand-made crafts, trees planted in Israel, or some other uniqueway of recognizing loved ones.

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• Keep candle lighting poems/sayings short.Rhymes are not necessary, but they can beentertaining and a nice touch.

• If you are having trouble developing your ownpoems,you may wish to hire a professional.There are services that will assist you withfinding just the right words.

• Group several lightings together in order to usethe same song for groups of friends or cousins,like “We are Family” or the theme fromBeaches. This will help the DJ/band transitionbetween the candle lighters. Your Master ofCeremonies may need these song selectionsseveral days before the event.

• Some families offer a small token gift or some-thing personalized to each honoree.

• You could plant a tree in Israel for each of thehonorees and hand them the certificate whenthey are called to light a candle.

• Some families light a candle in memory of arecently deceasedrelative or a close relative/guest who could notbe there that day.

Check out these additionalCandle Lighting Tips:

In Memory ofGrandfather AaronRemembering my GrandfatherAaron is a very good place to startbecause he’ll always hold a specialplace within my heart. And thoughI never knew him, we still share acommon trait. We don’t need a special occasion to gather peopleand celebrate. But this is a celebra-tion and I know he’s with us heretoday. This candle now will honorhim in a very special way.Grandma Elaine& Grandpa JerryThis candle for Grandma Elaine andGrandpa Jerry will glow especiallybright. Having them both here withme makes everything just right. Ilook forward to family dinnerswhen I know you will be there. It’salways very special to have goodtimes that we share. So Grandmaand Grandpa, please come up now.I have something just for you. Comeup and get a hug and a kiss and

candle number two.Aunt CarolAunt Carol lives in California so Idon’t see her a lot. But we writeeach other often – she’s the bestpen pal I’ve got. She really loves totravel so she’s always on the go. Shekeeps up with the family so she’salways in the know. Having youhere for my bat Mitzvah means sovery much. That’s why candle number five is here now waiting foryour touch.David’s FriendsI have a lot of friends and I’m a real-ly lucky guy. I don’t have time toname them all so I won’t even try.Girls and boys together, many oldfriends, many new. You all knowjust who you are and how I feelabout all of you. This special groupplease come up now. Good friendsare hard to find. This candle is forthese friends that truly are one ofa kind.

Sample Candle Lighting Poemsby Susan Linsenbaum, Rhyme Time

A bit nervous about making a speech? Check out our speaking tips on page 34.

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At Least 1 Year• Arrange for all parents to meet• Work out budget & review with your

parents, if they'll be paying for anypart of the event

• Interview & hire a wedding consultantif you are using one

• Decide on style of wedding • Decide who will officiate. Favorite

Rabbis may book up as quickly ascaterers and banquet halls. You willneed to consult this person regardingmany issues throughout your plan-ning. When necessary, book the syna-gogue sanctuary or chapel

• Make preliminary guest list & estimatefinal party size

• Choose your wedding party& call them

• Set wedding date & time• Pick a caterer, a ceremony & reception

location (if there will be one, for theengagement party, rehearsal dinner,after-wedding breakfast). Send adeposit when necessary

• Book a block of rooms forout-of-town guests

• Interview & choose photographers,videographers, florists, musicians,calligraphers

• Make transportation reservations • Make plans & shop for your

honeymoon• Shop for wedding gown.• Send a "Save-the-Date" card to

your "A" list guests10 Months• Choose a color theme • Order wedding gown & accessories

(have plenty of time if somethingshould go wrong)

• Make up your final guest list• Go House or Apartment-hunting with

your fiancee. Narrow choices to a few 9 Months• Decide what gifts you would like &

register for gifts (china, flatware, etc.)• Shop for & order invitations,

announcements, programs& any other printed materials

• Have your engagement party.Start a "thank you list" & mailnotes as soon as possible

• Have an engagement picture taken& submit to newspaper

• Create schematics for the processional,recessional, under the chuppah,reserved seating. Distribute them toparticipants

• If you are not having a weddingconsultant, arrange for someone to bein charge of keeping everyone onschedule & coaching the processional

• Select guests for honors (e.g., toast,speech, blessing on bread & wine, oneof the seven blessings, alliyah at theUfruf.)

8 Months• Discuss wedding attire with mothers

of the bride & groom• Order your accessory items &

bridesmaid dresses• Look at tuxedos7 Months• Decide on which ketubah text you

want & order a ketubah. Handdecorated ketubot take the longesttime to prepare.

• If you are buying a home, get seriousabout a contract. If you will berenting, place a deposit

6 Months• Select guests wedding favors• Order imprinted yarmulkes.• Order wedding invitations, programs,

& other stationery5 Months• Arrange for tuxedo rentals• Book your honeymoon• Included directions, as needed, in

Save-the-date &/or invitations. Take atrial drive to double check distances &landmarks

4 Months• Purchase wedding gifts

(for attendants & fiance)• Finalize floral arrangements.• Set hair, make-up, nail, & wax

appointments• Select a bakery for your wedding cake,

as well as cakes for pre-weddingreceptions & pastries forafter-wedding brunch

• Begin to address invitations or takefinal guest list to your calligrapher

• Select wedding bands. Place an order• Get change of address cards from post

office & get them ready to mail • Decide who will ride with whom &

where people need to be when • Prepare programs &/or a wedding

booklet for the wedding & assign oneto distribute them

• Have the groom select & ordertuxedos for himself, his groomsmen &the dads. If people are in differentlocations, mail the measurements

• Order table cameras. Make or buy areceptacle for them. Assign someonethe task of collecting the cameras

3 Months• Final dress fittings for you & your

bridesmaids• Finalize cake arrangements• Write your own vows• Buy cake knife, toasting glasses, guest

book & garter • Pick out associated events clothing.

Remember shoes (ballet slippers, san-dals) for the reception

• Find a hairdresser & make a test runwith your veil

• Send invitations (double checkpostage)(8-10 Weeks)

2 Months• Get name-change forms for social

security, driver's license, credit cards &bank. Review documents & makeneeded changes (e.g. insurance, lease,Health Care Proxy, Living Will, etc.)

• Get blood tests & marriage license • Make hair & nails appointments very

close to the wedding day• Finalize menu with caterer• Review your needs with your photog-

rapher & videographer. List your wed-ding party, a schedule of events, anytoasts or speeches planned, & anyspecial photos, memories or candidsyou want. It is best not to surprisethese professionals

• Meet with your entertainment (music,etc.). A schedule of events, favoritetunes, style of music requested, plus alist of toasts, speeches, etc. will ensurethat the MC & you coordinate

• Arrange the rehearsal dinner, as well asother wedding-day-connected parties

• Arrange guest care services for youngchildren and seniors who require extraattention at your event.

1 Month• Make guest baskets & assign

someone to distribute them • Make sure all your groomsmen,

ushers, ringbearer, & fathers haveordered tuxedos

• Send change-of-address formsto post office

• Reconfirm all reservations& accommodations

• Confirm honeymoon plans • Start the seating plan for the reception3 Weeks Before• Call guests who have not responded

• Finalize reception seatingarrangements

• Get your marriage license• Prepare wedding announcement

for the newspaper• Pick up your wedding bands• Fill out the table cards or give names

to your calligrapher.• Put fees & tips in envelopes (officiant,

soloist, maitre d' etc.) & give it tosomeone you assign in making thepayments

• Arrange with someone to bring itemsto the wedding venue, such as cakeknife, toasting glasses, programs,yarmulkes, emergency kit for thebride, wedding license, ketubah, etc. &to take them home

• Arrange for someone to return rentals(tuxedos, chairs, etc.)

• Arrange for someone to take yourbouquet & gown "home" put them inpreservation

• Pay all synagogue fees2 Weeks Before• Call caterer with final total of guests• Confirm directions, pickup & drop-off

points with transportation service.Confirm all other professionals

1 Week• Create a detailed schedule of your

wedding day activities• Get a manicure &/or pedicure &/or

other beauty services.• Pack for your honeymoon• Confirm post-wedding brunch

arrangements1 Day• Get a manicure• Attend wedding rehearsal• Pack wedding day emergency kit.

(extra pantihose, safety pins, thread &needle, steamer, brush & make-up)

• Get a good night's sleepYour Wedding Day• Eat a good breakfast• Have your make-up done• Have your hair done• Give yourself lots of ready-time• Relax & have fun!After YourWedding Day• Send thank-you’s &/or send gifts to

the special people who made yourwedding "happen."

• Send wedding photo &announcement to newspaper(s)

Wedding Planning Timetable

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The UfrufOn the Sabbath before the wedding, theGroom (Chatan) is traditionally given analliyah – the blessing before and afterthe Torah portion is read – and his familyusually sponsors a kiddush receptionafter services. Ufruf is Yiddish for "callingup". In congregations where women mayperform an alliyah, both bride and groommay be called up. Check with the Rabbito arrange this or to read a parasha(Torah portion). Is this reminiscent ofyour bar mitzvah? Like your bar/bat

mitzvah, you may be able to call othersin your family for an alliyah as well.Now for the fun part: The congregation, perhaps led by thewiseguys in your family, will shower you(pelt you is more accurate) with raisins,almonds and sweets to wish you a sweetlife and fruitful marriage to come! (Noteto wiseguys: please check withSynagogue staff before you hand outsweets, as some synagogues have poli-cies regarding this custom).

What makesa Jewishwedding Jewish?

There are very few require-ments for a Jewish wed-ding, which include a mar-riage contract (ketubah), thereligious ceremonies (kid-

dushin and nisuin), a plain gold bandaccepted by the bride, and the pronounce-ment that you are husband and wife.Therefore, most of what we recognize asmaking a wedding Jewish are a wide vari-ety of customs and traditions that aresteeped in history. But customs change overtime and location, even those in "traditional" weddings.Some traditions are adopted from placeswhere people live, where their ancestorscame from, or from other places or families.Some customs are modernized to reflectthe secular realities of life in the modernworld, including modern feminism, thecongregational practices and philosophies,and as an accommodation to Jews-by-choice and non-Jews. Ancient customs cansometimes survive only in terms of theirrelevance in a changing world.“We would like to have a wedding thatincorporates at least some of the wonderfultraditions of our forebears, a link to the past,but at the same time is meaningful to us.”Anita Diamant points out in The NewJewish Wedding that modern Jews cannotmarry the same way their parents did.

"The world has changed too much. Ourexpectations of marriage are not the same,"she states. "We are different kinds of Jews."This requires the bride and groom to makedecisions about the exact traditions theyintend to continue. Many of the followingrituals are practiced in traditional weddings.An interesting pattern has lately emergedthat the more exotic and ancient the cus-tom, the more it will be adopted as a trueexpression of authentic Judaism. This hasespecially become true among youngercouples who have been raised with expo-sure to the more modern customs. If youchoose not to strictly follow all these tradi-tions you may choose those elements ofthe ceremony that appeal to you, that oth-ers in your community or congregation fol-low, or those you adapt from secular events.Be sure not to adopt customs from otherreligions. In this way you customize (yes,the root word is custom) your Jewish wed-ding to meet the needs and desires of yourfamily and you. Will this be an easy process? Perhaps not,but it is part of the fun of planning a wed-ding, and not a part you can delegate toothers. Making choices about which ele-ments in a Jewish wedding will remaintraditional involves merging two or morefamilies, often with different backgrounds,values, and practices. Leave room for com-promise so that everyone feels that thewedding honors what is most importantto them.

The MikvahTraditionally observant brides and allconverts go to the mikvah, the ritualbath, before the wedding. This tradition isancient and is a law, not a custom. Theyare maintained by most Orthodox andsome Conservative and Reform syna-gogues, as well. The mikvah is a pool ofwater fed by a running source, asopposed to stagnant. A lake, pond, orriver is an ideal mikvah, but ratheruncomfortable most of the year. Indoormikvahs have an attendant and usuallyfull bath facilities.Because the mikvah is associated in theTalmud with the "impurity" of menstru-ating women, it has fallen into disfavorby some as a relic of archaic times, not

relevant to today. But mikvah is reallyabout spiritual purification, and a visit tothe mikvah before the wedding is a wayto ceremonially start again "rebirth". Theceremony is quite simple. The bride-to-be is immersed completely in the poolseveral times, floating freely, and a sim-ple prayer is said when she comes up.This is a joyous occasion often followed,especially in the Sephardic tradition, by aparty with food and drink, sometimes bybridesmaids waiting right outside.Outdoor ceremonies can be done at someunusual locations with poetry, picnicsand whatnot. Some men have evenjoined the tradition with their own mik-vah visits (call well ahead for reserva-tions) and men-only parties that follow.

The Wedding DayThe customs of the wedding day createmomentum that culminate with thewedding ceremony itself, the kiddushin.Friends and family can be part of theevents just prior to the wedding.

Fasting on theWedding DayThe day of the wedding the chatan(groom) and kallah (bride) fast andrepent their sins, and they are guaran-teed that if they do so, all their sins areforgiven. Thus, they start out their newlife together with a clean slate. As onYom Kippur, this ritual fasting is notabout self-punishment, but about start-ing over (in this case, in union witheach other).

SeparationIt is customary for the bride and groomnot to see each other for three days to aweek before the wedding. The groom will not see the bride untiljust before the ceremony, at the veiling ofthe bride. Since this is usually an anxiousand nerve-rattling period, this customhas practical advantages that can saveyou tears and fears. Spend some timewith friends and family, and let theanticipation of the upcoming event grow.

Kabbalat Panim -Greeting the Brideand GroomSeparate receptions, called KabbalatPanim, are held just prior to the weddingceremony, when the honored ones hold

court in separate rooms. Check with yourrabbi since some do allow pre-weddingreceptions. Jewish tradition and law treatthe couple like a queen and king. Thekallah will be seated on a "throne" toreceive her guests. Some brides, jitteryfrom nerves, may limit guests to thebridal party. Others will have a more tra-ditional reception with songs, flowers,blessings, cake and wine. Perhaps themusicians will make a first appearance.Here the bride waits for the groom’sreception to end.The groom will be surrounded by his cir-cle of friends and relatives at a table, thetish, who sing and toast him. The groommay attempt to present a lecture on theweek's Torah portion, while his malefriends and family heckle and interrupthim. Despite the groom’s Talmudic

knowledge, or lack thereof, this is sup-posed to fun, not a serious undertaking.Other formats may involve a ‘roast’ of thegroom by friends. At the tish, the groom,witnesses and the rabbi might sign theketubah or, if both parties are signingtogether, they may do this in anotherroom, such as the rabbi’s study.In a more modern version of the tish,both bride and groom are entertainedand received together with blessings,songs, flowers, or music. The ketubahmay then be signed and the partyproceeds directly to the chuppah.There are many variations of the tish,so ask your rabbi, cantor, or eventplanner for more ideas. The popularityof the tish is increasing as a delightfulpre-wedding ritual.

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Signing The KetubahWhether or not pre-wedding receptionsare held, a ketubah, or marriage contract,is signed and witnessed. In traditionalceremonies the Groom signs the ketubahin a separate room, in the presence ofwitnesses and the Rabbi, before thewedding can begin. The bride need notsign it, because it belongs to her alone,according to Jewish law, as proof of herrights and the groom’s responsibilities(financial and otherwise). It was a radicaldocument in ancient times, giving thewife important legal protection. It was alegal document, neither beautiful nor

romantic, and the traditional language ofthe document remained basicallyunchanged for centuries.The traditional ketubah does not neces-sarily reflect the realities of modern mar-riages or contemporary views on rela-tionships. Many couples have found newketubot, or have written language them-selves, that is more egalitarian. Manyketubot now include parallel declarationsof commitment made by both bride andgroom with a joint declaration of faith inG_d and a connection to the Jewishpeople. It can be a way to remind thecouple of their moral responsibilities toone other. With many hand calligraphedketubot available, as well as many retailand internet sources of publishedketubah texts, couples have a large num-ber of choices to customize the text toreflect their particular values. You mustconfer with your rabbi before you decideon which text to sign, and certainlybefore any artwork is ordered. Since theyare legal documents, not all rabbis willaccept all texts. Moreover, only Orthodoxand Conservative texts are recognized in

the State of Israel.There are just as many choices with theart that often accompanies the text. Theketubah is often written among beautifulartwork, to be framed and displayed inthe home. Having a ketubah profession-ally calligraphed and made even morespecial with customized decorations hasalso become popular. The artwork on onesuch ketubah at a recent wedding, incor-porated elements from the childhood ofeach half of the couple, merging intoshared experiences at the top.The ketubah is sometimes read to theentire assembly, and it can even besigned and witnessed after the reading,while under the chuppah.

The VeilingMany brides still choose to wear a veil,an ancient custom that has its roots inthe Bible. Others have rejected it as anantiquated symbol of patriarchal domi-nance. It may be seen as representing themodesty and dignity which characterizesthe virtue of Jewish womanhood. Theveil also conveys the message to the

world, symbolically, that physicalappearance is not as important as innerbeauty. It has biblical roots in the story ofthe patriarch Jacob, who was first trickedby his father-in-law into marrying thewrong sister, Leah, her face well hiddenbehind a veil, instead of the girl he loved,Rachel. By placing the veil over theBride’s face himself, the Groom ensuresthe same type of switch isn’t made. A funtradition enhanced by a bit of history. If a veil is to be worn, the groom is invit-ed to the bedeken, lowering the veil ontothe bride. Accompanied by both fathersplus friends and relatives, the groom,who has not seen his Bride for a week,enters the bride’s chamber and lowersthe veil over the bride’s face. This can beseen to symbolize either his commitmentto clothe and protect his wife, setting herapart from all others, or an indicationthat he is only interested in her innerbeauty. In any case, this can be a charm-ing and emotional part of the wedding.An egalitarian twist has the bride placinga kippah on the groom’s head at thesame time.

The ProcessionKeeping with the practice of treating thebride and groom like royalty, a processionleading to the chuppah is quite tradition-al. Because a Jewish wedding is, aboveall, a family affair, the simplest processioninvolves the bride and groom, eachescorted by both parents, moving downthe aisle and under the chuppah. Thisdemonstrates the marriage is a union offamilies, not of individuals. But Jewishlaw does not govern the makeup of theprocession, and so couples are free todecide the exact arrangement of theirprocession. There are many variationsaccording to family situations anddynamics. Sometimes grandparents fol-low the rabbi or cantor, followed by theushers and bridesmaids (separate inOrthodox weddings), the best man, the

groom and his parents, more ushers andbridesmaids, the maid of honor, andfinally the bride and her parents.Variations allow grandparents to enterwith their side of the family. Secondmarriages, divorced parents, missing ordeceased relatives, the need for a verysmall or intimate service, etc., all requireadaptations to the order, which is perfectly acceptable. The number of attendants is of no conse-quence, since they are not required. Onlytwo "Kosher" witnesses are requiredunder Jewish law. While we do not spec-ify what this may mean, clearly non-Jews do not qualify as witnesses (andthey must not be relatives). Ushers andbridesmaids certainly add a festive andregal air to the ceremony, and theyshould at least include any brothers andsisters. Sometimes a flower girl is used,

although in most Jewish weddings, thering is held by the best man. The bestman at a Jewish wedding, called ashoshbin, is historically a best friend whowould offer a large gift to the groomupon marriage, perhaps to defray thecost of an expensive wedding affair, andwas therefore entitled to celebrate withthe groom during the wedding week.The understanding was that this treat-ment would be reciprocated upon themarriage of the shoshbin, wherein theroles would be reversed.The arrangement under the chuppah ofthe people involved is also not proscribedby Jewish law. Many chuppahs arearranged so that the wedding party facing the rabbi is facing Jerusalem.Hundreds of years of Ashkenazic traditioncalls for the bride to be at the groom’sright. Proponents of Jewish mysticism,

Kabbalah, claim that the question reflectsthe tension between the divine attributesof justice and mercy. The merciful, mas-culine aspect of G_d is identified withthe right side, and the just, female sidewith the left. Therefore the bride shouldstand on the left and the groom onthe right.Candles may be carried by escorts andattendants, making a lovely old-worldeffect, especially at dusk outdoors or in apartly darkened room. The candles sym-bolize the oneness that will come aboutas the couple is united under the chup-pah. Check with the synagogue or recep-tion hall staff, because fire codes mayprohibit it. Use dripless tapers, braidedhavdalah candles or jar candles to avoida real mess.Live music during the procession is an

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The ChuppahEasily the most recognized feature of a Jewish wedding, the ceremony takes place under a wedding canopy, or chuppah.The origin of the chuppah in the Talmud is certain, even if its exact form is not. In any case, the symbolism in the chuppahhas many meanings. Chuppah means literally "that which covers or floats" in Hebrew. Traditionally, weddings occurredoutdoors under the stars, and the canopy created an intimate, sanctified space in which to take the vows. It also repre-sents the new home for the married couple. The chuppah is a reminder of the desert tents of our nomadic ancestors. Forthese reasons, some traditional reception facilities have skylights positioned over the place where the chuppah will stand.A traditional chuppah is a fabric covering held up by four poles, open on all four sides. Since there are no legal requirements as to the chuppah's shape or dimensions, couples have creat-ed new chuppah traditions that express their unique personalities. Some customs have involved using a tallit, perhaps a family heirloom or your Bar/Bat Mitzvah tallit. Others have usedcraft-type projects such as quilts, embroidered or silk-screened fabric, or custom lettered projects. In fact, the chuppah can be a group or community project of special sentimental value.See the ad on page 31 for Arkay Chuppahs.

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old tradition, one that sets the moodand the pace of the occasion. A soloist or small group is usually best, but leaveenough lead-time to find and rehearsethe appropriate music. Cantors usuallycan assist in choosing the bestprocessional music.The logistics of the procession and stand-ing under the chuppah can cause frictionand anxiety, and for this reason aloneyou may wish to have a weddingrehearsal. Some rabbis dismiss this as awaste of time, while others will gladlyaccommodate your request, so be sureto ask.

CirclingWhen the couple first enters thechuppah, the bride circles the groomseven times, perhaps accompanied bymusic or a soloist, and sometimesescorted by both mothers. This is a veryold custom, the meaning and origin ofwhich has no consensus. It is neverthe-less a nice touch, beautifully moving ifnot a bit exotic. One explanation is that itrepresents the seven wedding blessingsand seven days of creation, and demon-strating that the groom is the center ofher world. Another comes from the Bible,which says that a woman encompasses

and protects a man. While this phraseprobably refers to a courtship rather thanactually walking around, advocates of thecustom found it to be a convenientexpression.The circling was known in ancient timesto be a magical means of protection,building an invisible wall around thegroom, protecting him from evil spirits. Itcan be seen also as an act that defines anew family circle, binding the bride tothe groom and away from the parents.Mystically speaking, the bride may beseen as entering the seven spheres of thegroom’s soul. Joshua circled the wall ofJericho seven times, and then the wallsfell down. So, too, after the bride walksaround the groom seven times, the wallsbetween them will fall and their soulswill be united. These are obscure ideasfor a modern wedding, so you may wantto explain this and other customs in awedding booklet available to yourguests. Of course, circling has been rejected bysome Jews in the recent past as evidenceof the patriarchal and demeaning natureof the bride circling around her ‘master’,marking her territory from other women.But it can also be seen as a strong act ofdefinition: Here is the space we will share

together. Some couples have also mod-ernized the ritual by circling one another,first the bride around the groom clock-wise, then the groom around the bridethe other way. This mutual circling is astatement of balance and reciprocalrespect in declaring a space together andthe breaking down of barriers.

KiddushinThe Jewish wedding ceremony has twoparts, kiddushin and nisuin, which areperformed together under the chuppah,but which have distinct differences.Kiddushin, which translates as "sanctifi-cation" or "dedication", is actually abetrothal ceremony, a bonding of twosouls into one with each other and withG_d. The bride and groom establish anexclusive relationship. The Rabbi greets everyone and makestwo blessings over a cup of wine. Aswith all Jewish simchas, wine is a sym-bol of abundance and joy. The bride andgroom take a sip of wine. Next comes thering, the essential part of the ceremony.The groom places a plain gold ring, with-out any stones or embellishments, on theindex finger of the bride’s right hand, thefinger thought to be directly connectedto the heart. The groom repeats the

blessing: "Behold, you are consecrated tome with this ring according to the lawsof Moses and Israel." This thousand-year-old practice, the act of kiddushin, com-pletes the betrothal. The kiddushin hasaccomplished kinyan, the symbolic act ofthe bride acquiring something of valuefrom the groom, and Jewish law nowconsiders them married.In a double ring ceremony the bride thenrepeats the process with a similar, butgender-corrected, version of the sameblessing. This is often not allowed bymore traditional rabbis because it is saidto invalidate kinyan, the formal act of thebride acquiring something of value fromthe groom (since an exchange is beingmade). In that case the bride may pres-ent the groom’s ring, and the bride’s ringplaced on her left ring finger, after theceremony (and forever after).If wedding vows, or "I do’s" are desired,and the rabbi agrees to speak them, theywill be exchanged at this point. Somereally beautiful vows, mutual promises orpoetry, often written by the bride andgroom affirming their devotion for oneanother, can be added as a powerful per-sonal statement to the ceremony.

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One of the oldest and most importanttraditions of a Jewish wedding ceremo-ny is the chuppah, or wedding canopy.The word chuppah literally means “cov-ering” and has been interpreted to sym-bolize everything from the tents of theHebrews wandering through the desertto the new home that the couple willmake together. It is said that the chup-pah invites not only the presence of G-d, but also the spirits of beloved ances-tors to witness the marriage ceremonyof their descendants. There are many beliefs about the historyand evolution of the chuppah. Inancient times it was the custom to placethe chuppah outdoors as a reference toGod’s promise to Abraham to make hisseed as numerous as the stars. It is saidthat in Biblical days, trees were plantedwhen babies were born. When theymarried, branches from the trees wereused as the poles of the chuppot; today,poles are often adorned with treebranches to represent this tradition.

These days, chuppot can be found onbimahs, in gardens, on rooftops, andfrom beaches to mountaintops.Regardless of where a chuppah stands,the space beneath it is always sacred –the place where the bride and groomstand before G-d and their family todeclare their love and commitment toeach other and take their weddingvows. The requirements regarding the struc-ture of the chuppah are very simple: itmust have a canopy top made of cloth,be held up by four poles, and have allfour sides open. A chuppah can beeither freestanding or hand-held. If it ishand-held, it is an honor to be a chup-pah pole bearer. A chuppah can be assimple as a family tallit or as elaborateas creativity and the imagination willallow.

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A Wedding Programserves a similar functionas the Bar/BatMitzvah bookletfor the service.The program iscompiled andproduced bythe family fordistribution tocongregants andguests by theushers, or insert-ed into prayerbooks. It can havea variety of uniquefeatures aimed atrelatives andfriends, guests,congregants, non-Jewishguests, and so on. Thesealso make great keep-sakes of the wedding.

Program Examples: • A step-by-step description of the

ceremony,• A brief explanation of the

meaning of a Jewish Weddingceremony,

• Comments by the bride and groom onthe personal meaning of the day,

• Poems or wedding vows, etc.• A description of the history and

tradition behind the ketubah, thechuppah, or rituals such as circling,the Seven Blessings, and breakingthe glass,

• An explanation of the music usedin the processional or during theceremony,

• The text of your ketubah,• Copy of the wedding invitation,• Comments from close relatives,• Photographs of the bride and groom.

Creative, additions like ribbon or laceare nice. Check with your Rabbi firstbefore making copies to distribute.

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NisuinThe second part of the wedding ceremo-ny, nisuin, the nuptials, completes themarriage. Because the two parts of theceremony, kiddushin and nisuin were historically separated, the ketubah is readaloud before the nuptials as a way ofclearly separating the two halves. Thetext is usually read aloud in Aramaic,often repeated in English. The ketubah isthen stored away for safe keeping, or itmay be displayed on an easel for gueststo inspect. The rabbi may then say a fewwords about the couple, particularly ifhe/she has known the couple, or one ofthem, for a while, or he may launch intoa longer sermon.The nisuin begins with the seven bless-ings, sheva b'rachot, and ends withyichud, or seclusion, after the ceremony.The seven blessings begin with anotherfull cup of wine. They may be recited bythe Rabbi or by various guests the couplewish to honor. Although it’s usually not aproblem, they must be recited in thepresence of a minyan, a formal quorumof ten adults. In addition to a blessingover the wine, there is praise for G_d ascreator of the world and of men andwomen; a prayer for the newly marriedcouple and of the ten degrees of rejoic-ing. The blessings also include a prayerthat Jerusalem will be fully rebuilt andrestored with the Temple in its midst and

the Jewish people within her gates,showing wishes not only for the individ-uals but the community in which theylive. The couple then drinks from the sec-ond cup of wine. The Rabbi pronouncesthe couple officially husband and wife.

The GlassThe traditional ending of a Jewish wed-ding is probably the most recognizedfeature: breaking the glass. It is an oldcustom that is not formally part of theceremony, yet pages have been writtenabout its meaning, which has beenwidely interpreted. A glass is placed onthe floor, often wrapped in cloth or anapkin to prevent injury, and the groombreaks it with his foot. Some coupleseven choose to break it together, which isfine. The crowd shouts "Mazel Tov!" andjoyous music begins (Siman Tov andMazel Tov is a favorite!). But what doesbreaking the glass represent? Here aresome opinions:• Even during times of great joy, we

should remember the tragic destruc-tion of the Temple in Jerusalem, symbolizing all suffering by Jewseverywhere;

• a representation of the fragility ofhuman relationships;

• a reminder that marriage transformsthe lives of individuals forever;

• it represents a break with childhoodand the parents’ home;

• in contrast to the solemn moments ofthe ceremony, the loud crash signalslevity and celebration to begin;

• a symbol of the irrevocability ofmarriage;

• this is the last time the groom getsto "put his foot down."

Yichud-SeclusionAfter the couple leave the chuppah, tradition calls for them to retire to a pri-vate room where they might spend tenor fifteen minutes together alone inyichud–seclusion. This is historically a ritual reserved only for married couples,and they are escorted to the room bywitnesses and the door is closed. This is awonderful time to reflect on the union oftwo souls without interference, to hugand kiss, to take a breather before you areonce again the center of attention. It iscustomary to eat together as a marriedcouple for the first time, breaking fast(except for those sips of wine during theceremony) if you have fasted. Chickenbroth has been served in Ashkenazic tradition as a symbol of prosperity tocome. Sephardic tradition calls for a mealof doves symbolizing marital peace.Another idea is a glass of champagneand a plate of cocktail hour hors d’oeu-vres that you might otherwise nevertaste (talk to the caterer or ask a friend tobring this). Eat something here because,given the excitement and schedule ofevents, many couples do not eat much attheir own wedding. This is also a good

time to place the rings on the correct fingers, remove the veil, tallit and otherceremonial garb. When you emerge fromthe yichud, you are the newest marriedcouple in the room.As a practical matter, this time gives thecaterer and guests a few minutes to transition into the dining hall or cocktailarea, to visit the rest rooms, congratulatethe parents, and so on. It also avoids thereception line, at least immediately afterthe ceremony, which leaves guestswandering around while waiting forthe line to end.

The Reception LineThis has become a standard at manyAmerican weddings, even Jewish ones,so you may still wish to have one, espe-cially if you are not observing yichud. Ifso, it may be held immediately after theceremony, after yichud, or after a cocktailhour. The format is often the same,including both sets of parents, bride andgroom, maid/matron of honor andbridesmaids. The best man and ushers donot participate, particularly since ushersare not required at Jewish weddings. Thisis the place for guests to express congrat-ulations and for parents to kvell-swellwith pride. Keep smiling, be gracious, butdon’t chat too long. It’s OK to ask namesif you don’t know; most folks are glad tointroduce themselves. Now, it’s off to the reception!

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Interfaith MarriagesBy Carla Gohde, Chicago Area Associate Publisher for B’nai Mitzvah & Jewish WeddingsFor an interfaith couple, the planning oftheir ceremony often presents a challenge.The blending of two different religiousbackgrounds in a ceremony is stressful forthe couple and their families.Many couples choose not to have any

religious aspect to their service. A judge issimply there to marry the couple. Forsome couples, this seems like the easiestway to satisfy both sides. Other coupleschoose to have a Rabbi, Priest/ Minister, orboth co-officiate their ceremony.Whatever you decide as a couple, keep inmind that you may incorporate certaintraditions or words that are important toyou. Perhaps, if the judge is marrying you,you may want to be beneath theChuppah or “break the glass”. You may talkto the officiant(s) about some ideas youmay have or ask them for their input. Theyhave performed many interfaith weddingsand may have very helpful suggestions foryour service.You should never think of your service asbreaking tradition, only as starting a new

tradition. It will serve to inspire andenlighten all of your guests and allowthem a glimpse of a couple who arebeginning their lives together with differ-ent religious beliefs, but a shared interestin each other. As a couple, it will be thebeginning of this shared responsibility tolearn, respect, compromise, and incorpo-rate these traditions in their daily lives.Interfaith marriages can be celebrated

when the couple is able to embrace theirdifferences and teach their families andfriends acceptance.

DecorationsFormal or fanciful, simple or bold, decorations set themood and tone of a party. The Bar/Bat Mitzvah hasworked hard to get there, make the celebration festive,regardless of your budget! Table centerpieces usuallycoordinate with the theme (see feature at left).Linens and napkins could coordinate with colorthemes, and they make a dramatic color statement.Some banquet facilities have a selection of colors, butrental centers will have a larger assortment. Considerchair covers, they add elegance to the setting. Checkout the decor in your banquet hall or facility. Ask aboutupcoming renovations. Choose colors and decorationsthat will not clash with the surroundings. Don’t forgetabout decorations for the buffet tables, gift table, andband/DJ area. Clusters and arches of balloons are aninexpensive and dramatic way to add large splashes ofcolor. Decorate tables with inexpensive glitter for a fes-tive appearance. Remember to include a table with asign-in or message book, keeping with your theme. Aneasel with a decorated photo collage or for sign-ins(don’t forget some colorful pens!) can add excitementto a room entrance and point the way for guests.A decorated welcome sign on an easel can be a beaconto guests and also set the tone of the celebration. Useballoons, cardboard cutouts, flowers, enough to identifythis as a special time for the child and the guests.Decorate baskets filled with favors, socks for youngerdancers (the girls always seem to take off their shoes),candy, or to place gifts. Make all your decorationarrangements well in advance. Many vendors will gladlydeliver and set up for you, if you coordinate with thefacility. Check with your synagogue or facility managerfor any restrictions on decorations, set-up times, extracleanup charges, etc. that may apply.

Who Should Decide What?

What You Should DecideThe Size and Style of the Reception • Main Menu

Adult Guest List • How Many Kids • Location & Times •Professionals to Hire • Hora Music • Decorations

What The Bar/Bat Mitzvah Could DecideTheme • Kids Guest List • Kids’ Seating Arrangement

Dance Music • Clothing • Alternate Entertainment • Candle Lighting Tributes

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Candle Lighting Honorees • Invitations

The Great Theme DebateWhether or not to add a theme to aBar/Bat Mitzvah celebration is not somuch a matter of debate but of per-sonal preference. If a theme willdetract from your celebration, forget it! You don’t need oneto have a meaningful spiritual and family experience.

If a theme will add some fun to your celebration without detracting from the experience, then go for it! Always consult the Bar/Bat Mitzvah for suggested themes, but remember, a theme often involves extra work and expense, so be prepared. Here are a few of the many possible themes you might use.

Sports Theme• Use football, baseball, soccer ball-shaped balloons.• Favors could be personalized balls, rackets, puck’s etc.• Centerpieces could include miniature “sports” ball

or foam board cut-outs.• A blow-up of your child’s favorite sports pose.

Television/Movie Themes(Wizard of Oz, Star Wars, Gone With the Wind, etc.)• Use life-size cardboard stand-ups for

decoration (often found at party stores).• Name the tables different characters

(placecards could read: Mr./Mrs. Guest are seated at the Rhett Butler table).

• Movie or TV props could be incorporated into the centerpieces.

Hollywood Stars Theme• Your sign-in or welcome board could read:

“Now Appearing” or “The Star of the Show is (child’s name)” along with a blow-up picture of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah child.

• Each table could be named for a popular star i.e., Tom Cruise, John Travolta.

• Centerpieces and namecards could includea Hollywood theme.

Israeli Theme• Each table could be named for a different city in Israel.• Decorations and balloons could be blue and white.• Israeli flags could be used in

the centerpiece.

Torah Portion• Lessons from the weekly torah portion come to life! • Tables named for figures, tribes, or

places prominent in the weekly reading. • Crafts to make include take-home

Israeli-style favors. • Create an Israel marketplace with cafe´

tables or pillow areas inside tents like ancient days.• “Torah” scroll sign-in book• Klezmer music and Israel dance instructor.

Candy Theme• Use Hershey® Kiss balloons in

the centerpiece.• You can give a solid chocolate 6-8 ounce Hershey®

Kiss to your candle lighting honorees.• Your female guests could receive a chocolate rose.• Use personalized king-size candy bars as favors

Oscar Party• Use Oscar-shaped invitations.• Tables: Medium sized silver bowls filled with

peaches and plums to be used ascenterpieces for each table. (They look verynice and serve a practical purpose.)

• To entertain your guests before or after the eventplay a home made video of the child and his/herfriends as if they are on T.V. by acting like theirfavorite actors and directors talking about howthey felt about winning an Oscar.

• Every kid receives miniature Oscar key chains(found at party store).

Grand Prix or NASCAR• Black and white checkered paper on tables

Decorate with checkered flags and red,white and black balloons.

• Remote control raceway as an activity Raceposters as souvenirs.

Stroll Down Broadway• Theatre marque, spotlights and flashing neon

to create atmosphere.• Each table could be named for a different play.• Sign–in board with the Bar/Bat Mitzvah on the

cover of a Playbill.

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This section includes party stores, centerpiecedesigning services, balloon artists, florists, aswell as businesses offering sign-in boards,decorated guest books, and other personal-ized services. These will be the biggest con-tributors to a themed celebration. Ask them ifdelivery is included and if they could design asample to help you decide. Make sure tochoose a centerpiece that will not overwhelmthe table or block guests’ view of each other.Consider some of following, in addition to themed centerpieces, for a unique touch:

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Order your invitations at least six monthsbefore the event. Check the wording carefully,you don’t want to inadvertently leave some-thing out. Ask your friends to show you anyinvitations they may have saved to use as areference, or examine wording arrangementsin the invitation books. Also, don’t rush thedecision, you may need to look at severalsample books over a period of weeks beforeyou make up your mind, especially if youare letting your child help you decide.Remember to order extra envelopes foraddress changes or if a mistake is made.Hire calligraphy service as soon as theinvitations arrive, to allow plenty of timefor the project to be completed.

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While very original invitation wordingcan follow almost any pattern, mostinvitation messages follow a three-partconstruction: 1. The expression of sentiment followed

by the invitation to attend;2. Day, time, and place;3. Invitation to share a luncheon, dinner

or some other simcha with the fami-ly, bride and groom, or B’nai Mitzvah.This is sometimes expressed on aseparate card, allowing the option toexclude it in the envelope.

The following are some examples ofthe wording of the first portion:

B’nai Mitzvah• With pride and joy we invite you to

join us (or worship with us) as ourdaughter, Michelle Kim, is called tothe Torah as a Bat Mitzvah...

• With special feelings of loveand pride...

• With pride and pleasure...• With pride and delight and mostly

with love...• We cordially invite you to share the

Bar Mitzvah celebration of ourbeloved son Adam Eric on...

• We invite you to share a proud andspecial moment as we celebrate withjoy the Bat Mitzvah of our daughterRachel on...

• In the tradition of his ancestors ourdear son Phillip Mark will be calledto the Torah (or becomes a BarMitzvah)...

• With the richness of tradition and thepromise of tomorrow we invite youto share this special moment as ourson Harris Simon is called to theTorah as a Bar Mitzvah on...

• Share a special day with us whenour son...

• We would be delighted if you wouldjoin us at the Bat Mitzvah of ourdaughter Allison ...

• We invite you to share in our joy...• We invite you to share a special day

in our lives...• Dorothy and Alan Klein invite you to

share a special moment in their liveswhen their son Zachary David iscalled to the Torah as a Bar Mitzvah...

• My family and I would like you toshare our happiness on the specialoccasion of my Bar Mitzvah on...

• Please join us to celebrate the BatMitzvah of our dear daughter Amy...

Wedding• Mr. and Mrs. Samuel Gish request the

honor of your presence at the mar-riage of Miss Louise Abrams to theirson Alan Gish on...

• ...request the honor of your presenceat the marriage of their daughterEileen J. Gish to Mr. PaulGoldstein on...

• Miss Louise Abrams and Dr. AlanGish request the honor of yourpresence at their wedding on...

• We invite you to join us incelebrating the marriage of ourchildren, Eileen and Paul on....Joyceand Randy Bloom, Howard Fish.

• Our joy will be more complete if youcan share in the marriage of ourdaughter...

• ...will be joined under the chuppah...• We invite you you join us as we

begin our new life on...• ...invite you to join in the ceremony

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Invitations...Photo invitation cards, postcards, place cards; Use your favoritepicture to design your card; Retro, vintage or other themed invitation designs. Start on your database of invitees early. Listeveryone, select your final list later. This should figure into yourplanning. Consult you caterer, calligrapher, or party planner foradvice on how many more guests to invite, based on your circumstances, over the number of attendees you are planning.Not everyone you invite will be able to attend.Check out pages 44 through 46 for Invitation Vendors.

Place cards (or seating cards) are a crucial ele-ment at very special events. Place cards allowparty planners to be very creative, while serv-ing the simple function of assigning guests toparticular tables for their meal without confu-sion or additional assistance. The card typicallyhas the name of each guest and the assignedtable number (married couples are oftenassigned together on one card, eg. Mr. & Mrs.Paul Levy). They are often displayed on a tableoutside the reception hall, such as an assem-bly or pre-function hallway. Matching tablenumbers are placed separately or as part of adecorative centerpiece. You can ask your invi-tation dealer to supply these, or order fromanother source, such as www.mazeltovfa-vors.com.The price ranges for these cards vary greatlyand so do the options. Place cards can coin-cide with the theme of the wedding ormitzvah. Or, they can just be simple, ele-gant, elaborate or crafty. The options toexpress your creativity are endless. Here aresome imaginative seating cards to makeyour event even more fun:• Simple- Elegant yet simple cards can imi-tate the invitations that guests receive.White or beige along with black or navywork best. • Frames- Name cards can be placed in apicture frame (glass, wood, etc.), or a fun

display, such as an acrylic coaster or snowglobe frame (see www.partyfavorbiz.comand www.cadettmarketing.com).• Sweet- Purchase or make gingerbreadmen/woman, cookies, tiny tarts, or cup-cakes. Guest’s names can be written on thesweet treats with royal icing.• Toast- Champagne flutes can be etchedwith guest’s names (expensive) or namescan be written on a tag and then tiedaround the glass. As guests arrive at thetable and find their seats, servers can filltheir glasses with a bubbly beverage.• Clip it- Simple place card clips or fancycard holders, such as the metal chair figures(Elegance – 85156) found atwww.cadettmarketing.com, are available toadd a dash of pizzazz and keep your guestscommenting.The options above are just a few examplesof some original seating cards that will catchthe attention of guests. It is important, how-ever, to avoid making the place cards tooelaborate. Cards that are large in size and aretoo busy and may become distracting. Partyplanners want the guests to remember theexceptional day. Place cards that can betaken home serve as a wonderful mementoof the event and add style and fun to anyevent.

Place Card Ideas

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This section features DJs, Live Bands, Karaoke, Vocalists, Magicians, and Caricaturists. You may want to ask the followingquestions when hiring your DJ or band:• Are you familiar with the

Bar/Bat Mitzvah routine andhave you done them before?

• Will you play songs/gamesusually seen at these events:i.e. hoola hoop, dance con-tests, chicken dance, hokeypokey?

• What type of music do youplay?

• Do you have a song list?• How long do you play and

how many breaks do youtake?

• What is the price, depositamount,and when is the balance due?

• Do you have references?

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Eli Feldstein´s MitzvahProject

What does, "Project Baseball", the movies and a Mitzvah Project have in com-mon? Well Eli Feldstein, of Buffalo Grove, IL, decided to put the three togetherwhen planning for his Bar Mitzvah.

Project Baseball is a JNF sponsored project, to raise money for baseball fields in Israel.There are currently only three baseball fields in Israel and they are in need of much

improvement. They needlights,equipment and muchconstruction, to improve theplaying field. Since Eli lovesbaseball, he decided to makehis Mitzvah project one thatinvolved baseball and hechose, "Project Baseball". Heand his family, Ross, Faye andhis brother Joel, decided toinvite 45 of Eli's friends over fora, "movie under the stars." Themovie he chose was,"Sandlot," of course, which isvery fitting for his project. Thegoal was to raise money forthe much needed improve-ment of these baseball fields.They sold popcorn, candy,baseball cookies, drinks andraffle tickets for give-aways. Allof the proceeds will be going

to Project Baseball. They want to thank their friends and family for supporting Eli'sMitzvah project and a special thanks to Buffalo Grove Theatre for providing the wonderfulpopcorn! The Feldstein family is planning to visit Israel soon and plans to visit and tour one of thebaseball fields.

“There are currently onlythree baseball fields in Israel

and they are in need ofmuch improvement.”

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Before the ServiceIn the invitation, ask people to bring clothes, cannedfood, sports equipment, all the loose change they have,baby items, etc. to the reception or service, which wouldbe taken to an organization afterwards. Include an envelope addressed to a charity. With this,your guests could send money to that charity, instead ofor to supplement giving a gift to you.Send food to a less fortunate family for a holiday such asPassover, Purim, Rosh Hashanah, etc. through an agencywhich will locate a family and give it your food. The Points of Light webpage (www.pointsoflight.org)shows where volunteer centers all over the US are, whereyou could volunteer for various community service projects.At the ServiceDonate the bimah flowers used during your service toshelters, hospitals, or other local groups where flowerswould make them much happier. You can invite Jewishelderly people from local retirement homes to come andenjoy your service.

During the ReceptionInstead of flower centerpieces, you can do several things.Contribute the saved money to Tzedakah. Make a center-piece out of books, and donate them to organizationssuch as Headstart. Use baskets with cans of food, whichare to be later donated to an agency or shelter to begiven to the hungry. Find a way to arrange gloves, hats,and mittens into centerpieces which look like flowers,and then donate them. Hold a Tzedakah fair, where each table represents a dif-ferent charity, with information on the charities and waysto contribute. For information on Tzedakah fairs, contactbigabba@aol.com.Instead of a party for your friends, or after your party, youand your friends could go and provide services to yourcommunity. Help repaint an older synagogue. Entertainpeople in retirement homes, disabled children, or sickpeople in hospitals. Make it a fun group event. After the Bar/Bat MitzvahTour the local Tzedakah agencies, shelters, and other

charities. After the reception, you could give some of yourgift money to these organizations as you see fit.Find out about specialized charities by going to the ZivTzedakah Fund (www.ziv.org) or the Charitable Choicesweb site (charitychoices.com). You could organize a program for your synagogue whichallows the synagogue to give a Tzedakah box to eachBar/Bat Mitzvah reminding them to continue givingTzedakah even though they are not in Hebrew schoolanymore.Making Mitzvot Part of Your Bar/Bat MitzvahLooking for a mitzvah project, but don´t know where tostart? Volunteerism comes in many different forms -whether you choose to give your time, raise money, orhost a collection drive, your project can, and will, make adifference in your community. TOV´s B´nai MitzvahTikkun Olam Manual will guide you towards findingthe right fit. For more information, emailBnaiMitzvah@juf.org.

Mitzvah Project Resources

We just received our child’s Bar/Bat Mitzvahdate, what is the first thing we should do?After speaking with your B’nai Mitzvah committee chair or coordinator aboutSynagogue rules, or consulting written policies and guidelines, discuss with yourfamily the type of party everyone wants and what the budget will allow. Then startlooking at photographers and the hall. These two services seem to need more time tosecure. Check the Planning Time Table on page 58.How much will we, as parents, be asked to participate on the Bimahduring the service?This question will have to be answered by your Rabbi or Synagogue staff. Dependingon the Synagogue, some parents will make a speech, bless their child, or participatein the service. This is truly an honor and a pleasure–don’t let stage fright ruin thisprecious moment. Should we choose an evening affair or an afternoon kiddish luncheon?Certainly, this will be a topic of discussion for the entire family. Often the choice hasto do with how many out-of-town relatives you expect, the amount of money youwant to spend, the size of the affair, and many other variables. Generally, it is moreexpensive to have an evening simcha, but an evening affair lends itself to a more for-mal atmosphere. You may want to offer a kiddish luncheon after the service for yourguests or the entire congregation. In some synagogues, sponsoring a Kiddush lunch-eon and/or an Oneg Shabbat on Friday evening is expected. So, afternoon andevening events are not mutually exclusive, you could have both. Your family shoulddiscuss what type of public event you want to sponsor and what role food will playin that event. How can we make our non-Jewish friends feel more comfortable at myBar/Bat Mitzvah service?You may want to explain the service to them ahead of time. Rules regarding properetiquette vary by synagogue, so ask staff or your Rabbi for Synagogue rules or poli-cies. In some places kippot are required to be worn by all male visitors, for instance.You could explain that this does not make your guests Jewish, it is a sign of respect.Check with your Rabbi to be sure. See the feature on Bar/Bat Mitzvah Booklet onpage 46. Also consult Jeffrey Salkin’s Putting G-d on the Guest List, which has anentire section on this subject, or How To Be A Perfect Stranger: The Essential ReligiousHandbook, by Arthur Magida, both for sale on www.milestonesmagazine.com.What type of gift is appropriate for the Bar/Bat Mitzvah child?If your child is attending their friend’s affair, generally a check in the amount of $36

(double Chai) is a nice gift (or a multiple of Chai - $18.), depending on how close thefriendship. Some families offer checks, tributes, donations, or purchase presents, againdepending on whether it is a relative or friend, closeness of the two families, or howmany people are attending from your family. Religious items, such as menorahs arealso nice gifts. What is the appropriate attire to wear to a Bar/Bat Mitzvah?At the Synagogue, wear whatever you would wear to a typical service. Some familiesbuy new clothing for the occasion. Remember to dress with appropriate respect forthe house of worship you attend.If you have a simcha at night or the next day, dress according to the theme, place andtenor of the affair. Remember to instruct guests in the invitations if you have specialdress requirements.To what extent can members of other religious groups participate in theBar/Bat Mitzvah?Typically, non-Jews can participate by simply attending, observing, and following theservice. If relatives or close friends are not Jewish, they are sometimes affordednon-ritual honors. If you are concerned about involving a relative or close friend whois not Jewish, consult with your rabbi to find out what might be possible.If we can have a Bar Mitzvah on a Saturday, why can't we get married onSaturday?Well, you can, but after sunset, when Shabbat is officially over. The issue isn'tSaturday, it is Shabbat (Friday sunset to Saturday sunset).B'nai Mitzvot are celebrations conducted as part of regular services when the Torah isread aloud (Saturday morning). Jewish tradition recognizes that the Thirteen-year-old becomes a Bar/Bat Mitzvah independent of any celebration. The congregation ispart of the ceremony: a young person takes full responsibility for their own religiousobligations, starting with an alliyah for the reading of Torah, reciting the Sh'ma, lead-ing the congregation in prayer, and presentation of D'var Torah. This coming of age isshared by the Jewish community and is therefore a public event. One that typicallyoccurs on Saturday, but can also occur on other days when the Torah is read.Weddings are private affairs that do not typically involve an entire congregation. Andin contrast to the happy, celebratory nature of a wedding, Shabbat is a time for quietreflection and for rest. A wedding is work, and it involves a legal contract, themes notsuited for Shabbat. It is therefore rare to find a Rabbi who will marry a couple onShabbat. Saturday after dark is OK, but Sunday is by far the most popular day forJewish weddings, especially during the Summer when dusk on Saturday is so late.

Frequently Asked Questions

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Some families give customized items orfavors to the children attending the receptionportion of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah. This sectionincludes ideas for give-aways, contest prizes,and supplies. Wedding guests are usuallytreated to a favor or memento, as well asspecial gifts for the bridal party.Alternate EntertainmentAlternate entertainment is great for entertaining youngsters whileadults are eating and socializing. Set up a separate area or room for alternative entertainers, such as those listed under the Novelties/Favorssection. Plan your entertainment around the ages of the children attending. Lots of younger cousins or siblings may enjoy an activity inwhich they can participate. Alternate entertainers may be perfect for synagogues that do allow outside music on Shabbat.

Decorated Bar/Bat MitzvahMemory BookThis has places for invitations, seatingcards, photos taken by guests, copies ofspeeches, even the Torah portion.Personalized Picture FramesThese could have a name, a nickname ora theme. Better yet, insert a photo ofthe Bar/Bat Mitzvah child.Theme BookendsSpecialty shops have ones for any sportor hobby. We saw ones with famoussynagogues on them!Music/Jewelry BoxPick a theme or song that has meaningto you or to the Bar/Bat Mitzvah. Or lookinto engraved styles!U.S. Savings BondAlways a safe investment!Israeli Savings BondCall 212-644-BOND

Fine WatchesTry engraving a special wish!Monogrammed or PersonalizedPocketbook or WalletPerfect for young adults.CD’s and Digital Download CardsAsk friends to help with the selection. Or purchase a gift certificate at a nearby music store.Personal CD Player, iPod, or BoomBoxCheck to see if they already have one.Again, a gift certificate at the local electronics store is a safe bet.Custom Mah Jongg SetThis is the latest rage with teens!Remember:Leave enough time for special order gifts.

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• Alliyah - (plural, Alliyot) – Literallymeans “going up” to the Bimah to saythe blessings over the Torah Scroll.

• Bimah - The raised platform or pulpitin most Synagogues where the serviceis conducted.

• Chuppah - Wedding canopy that sig-nifies a home or shelter; literally means"that which covers or floats" inHebrew.

• D’var Torah - An explanation of theweekly Torah portion, or parasha.

• Haftarah - Readings from the biblicalbooks of the Prophets.

• Horah - Traditional circle dance. Thebride and groom, the Bar/Bat Mitzvahand their families are lifted up on achair during the dancing.

• Kashrut - The Jewish dietary laws. Ifprepared accordingly, food is certifiedKosher.

• Kiddushin - The betrothal ceremony -the first part of the wedding ceremony.

• Klezmer - Traditional Yiddish celebra-tory music.

• Mazel Tov! - Congratulations!

• Mikvah - Ritual bath for brides, andgrooms too.

• Mitzvah - An obligation of Jewish life.• Motzi - Blessing over the bread recited

before meals.• Nisuin - Nuptial ceremony - the sec-

ond part of the wedding ceremony.• parasha - The Torah portion of the

week. Also sometimes referred to asthe sedra.

• Simcha - A joyous event. Often usedto refer to a Bar/Bat Mitzvah ceremony,or other celebrations.

• Tallit - A prayer shawl.• Shabbat - Jewish Sabbath, beginning

Friday at sundown and endingSaturday at dusk.

• Sofer - A Hebrew scribe.• Torah - The word Torah means “teach-

ings.” Torah is also referred to as thefirst five books of the Bible or the fivebooks of Moses. Sometimes Torahmeans the whole Bible and everythingJews believe in.

• Tzedakah - Charity. The mitzvah ofsacred giving.

Hebrew 101Here are some commonly used terms that mayhelp you to better understand the event.

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Feb. 2, 2014, Renaissance Hotel,Northbrook, 11:30am -4pm,Fashion Show: 2pmFeb. 9, 2014, Hyatt Regency,Schaumburg, 11:30am - 4pm,Fashion Show: 2pmFeb. 19, 2014, Drury LaneTheater, Oak Brook, 6pm -10pm, Fashion Show: 8pmFeb. 23, 2014, Hyatt Regency,O’Hare, 11:30am - 4pm, Fashion Show: 2pmApril 6, 2014, Chicago Marriott NW,Hoffman Estates, 11:30am -4pm, Fashion Show: 2pmApril 13, 2014, DoubleTreeHotel, Oak Brook, 11:30am -4pm, Fashion Show: 2pmMay 14, 2014, Chevy ChaseCountry Club, Wheeling, 6pm - 10pm, Fashion Show: 8pmJune 8, 2014, Hyatt Regency,Schaumburg, 11:30a - 4pm,Fashion Show: 2pmJune 22, 2014, Marriott Hotel,O’Hare, 11:30am - 4pm, Fashion Show: 2pmJuly 13, 2014, DoubleTree Hotel,Oak Brook, 11:30am - 4pm,Fashion Show: 2pmSept. 7, 2014, Hyatt Regency, Schaumburg, 11:30am - 4pm,Fashion Show: 2pmSept. 10, 2014, Drury LaneTheater,Oak Brook, 6pm - 10pm, Fashion Show: 8pmSept. 21, 2014, Renaissance Hotel Northbrook,11:30a - 4pm, Fashion Show: 2pm Oct. 19, 2014, Doubletree Hotel,Oakbrook, 11:30am - 4pm,Fashion Show: 2pmFrom Food to Flowers to Dressesand DJs, from Rings and Registriesto Limos and Honeymoons, you’llfind it all in one location at Bridal

Expo Chicago. See the bridal fash-ion show that everyone is talkingabout! Order your 4 Free Tickets to Chicago’s Hottest Bridal Show,while supplies last, use code BM-12!OTHER JEWISH EVENTS

Sunday, Jan. 26, 2014 Bingo at Temple Chai,4 p.m.$8/adult $5/childrobyn.ackerman@gmail.comwiskowitz@comcast.netSunday, Jan. 26, 2014 11th Annual No Limit Hold’mTournamentCongregation Beth ShalomMen’s Club First prize round trip airfare – 2ndprize TV – prizes for final table(top 8) - $50 in advance and $60at the door. Tutorial starts at 4:00p.m. Tournament starts at 4:30.Dinner served at 6 p.m. For moreinformation contact Synagogueoffice at 847-498-4100 orwww.bethshalomnb.orgMarch 7-9, 2014 Temple Jeremiah Scholar-in-Residence Rabbi Jeffrey Salkin, author of“The Gods Are Broken! The HiddenLegacy of Abraham.” For moreinformation, visit www.templeje-remiah.org or call 847-441-5760.Sunday, March 16, 2014 Purim Carnival at Beth HillelCongregation Bnai Emunah 3220 Big Tree Lane Wilmette, IL 60091.9am-3pm For more informationcontact Synagogue office 847-256-1213 or web sitewww.bhcbe.org.Sunday, March 16, 2014 10:30 am - 11:30 pmPurim Carnival at Congregation Beth ShalomH.U.G.S.-for Special NeedsChildren3433 Walters Ave., Northbrook ILFor more information contactSynagogue office at 847-498-4100or www.bethshalomnb.org

Sunday, March 16, 2014 Purim Carnival at Congregation Beth Shalom 11:30 am - 1:30 pm. 3433 Walters Ave., Northbrook ILFor more information contactSynagogue office at 847-498-4100or www.bethshalomnb.orgSunday, March 16, 2014 Purim Carnival at CongregationNaper Shalom-Naperville10am-12pmSynagogue office-630-961-1818

or www.napershalom.orgSunday, March 16, 2014 Purim Carnival at TempleJeremiah9 a.m. Shushan Shuffle 5KRun/Walk benefitting SHALVA10:30-11 a.m. Purim Carnivalopens for people with specialneeds and their families11 a.m. Purim Schpiel11:30 a.m. – 1 p.m. PurimCarnival. ,For more information,visit www.templejeremiah.org orcall 847.441.5760.The BHCBE SisterhoodSunday, April 13, 20149-11:30 Am pickup. Orders are dueby April 1, 2014 . Make yourPassover cooking easier by order-ing delicious kosher for PassoverDesserts from Beth Hillel BneiEmunah Sisterhood. For moreInformation contact SynagogueOffice at 847-256-1213 or contactMelinda at 847-251-1506 or Emailher at melrn1058@aol.comFriday, August 29, 2014Shabbat at the ShulOutdoors at BHCBE Rain or ShineEnd the summer season on a funnote with your BHCBE Family.Bring your kids, grandkids, familyand friends. Please RSVP to theoffice by Friday, August 15, 2014so you don’t miss out the fun.Beth Hillel Congregation BnaiEmunah, 3220 Big Tree LaneWilmette, IL 60091 ContactSynagogue Office at 847-1213 orvisit our website at ww.bhcbe.orgfor more information

April 15, 2014 Community Seder atCongregation Naper Shalom-Naperville6pmSynagogue office-630-961-1818 or www.napershalom.orgSunday, June 1, 2014 Sisterhood Mah JonggTournament at Temple Chai 1670 Checker Rd., Long Grove, IL.Open to the public. For informa-tion or visit us at www.tem-plechai.orgOr Tzedek, the Jewish teeninstitute for social justice We’re expanding to a two week,overnight teen program. MeetChicagoland teens passionateabout social justice and createchange in Chicago´s diverse com-munities with leaders on the fore-front of activism and organizing.There will be two exciting sessionsduring Summer 2014: Activismand Community Organizing forfirst time participants andAdvanced Activism for returningparticipants. For more informa-tion contact rebecca@jcua.org or312-663-0960 ext 124.BBYO Connectoffers 6th-8th grade teens a vari-ety of experiences to provide mid-dle school students with a positiveexperience in which they can gettogether with camp, school, andsynagogue friends, as well asmeet new teens from all over theChicagoland area. BBYO Connectallows middle school students tobegin experiencing the privilegesand obligations of being a mem-ber of the Jewish and generalcommunities. Focused on Judaic,service and social programming,our programs build a network ofteens across North America at acritical age when middle schoolstudents begin to strengthen theiridentities, form social circles, andprepare for high school andbeyond. For more informationplease contact gmr@bbyo.org or224-406-9261.

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Butterfields Pancake House & Restaurant4195 Dundee Rd., Northbrook, IL

847-205-2588www.butterfieldsrestaurant.com

Butterfields Restaurant...where breakfast is an all day affair! Breakfast/lunch specialties and

catering available. Come and pick up a copy of B´nai Mitzvah and Jewish Wedding Magazine!

Dorflers Meat Market & Catering by Dorfler´s

1181 McHenry Rd., Buffalo Grove, IL847-459-3060

www.dorflersmeats.comServing the Community with quality meats and catering

since 1978. Catering for Bar/Bat Mitzvahs, Weddings,Holidays, Corporate Events and more. Now offering in-home catering. Set-up/cook/clean up...while you enjoy

your guests!

Go Roma Real Easy Italian3061 Dundee Rd., Northbrook IL

847-480-2000900 Milwaukee #E Lincolnshire, IL

847-276-366320530 N. Rand Rd. Deer Park, IL

847-550-1600848 N. State Chicago IL

312-252-9946 www.goroma.net

Go Roma provides Authentic Italian Cuisine prepared fresh, using high quality ingredients.

Our catering items include specialty pasta's, Flat bread pizza's and a variety of gourmet soups, salads and sandwiches. Let us cater your special event, delivering Homemade

Italian food for fine dining tastes.

Once Upon a Bagel1888 1st St., Highland Park IL

847-433-1411 www.onceuponabagel.com

The affordable catering choice for any event! Let our partyplanners set the scene for your next special event.

Hub's Restaurant3727 W. Dempster, Skokie, IL

847-677-7695 www.hubsrestaurant.com

Hubs-just a family business where quality counts since1976. Serving the Community and providing catering for

all off your special occasions.

Kaufman´s Bagel & Delicatessen4905 W. Dempster, Skokie, IL

847-677-6190 www.kaufmansdeli.com

With recipes passed down through generations, Kaufman´skeeps those Old World recipes alive and well both on thedeli counter and in the freezer. Only at Kaufman’s will you

find 4 different cuts of corned beef, 5 agings of salamis anda mere 6 different types of lox & smoked salmons. We put

the ´Deli´ in Delicious! Shipping anywhere, anytime!

Max & Benny’s Restaurant, Deli,Bakery & Catering

461 Waukegan Rd. , Northbrook, IL847-272-9490

www.MaxandBennys.comWith over 25 years of providing high quality foods, Max &Benny's is the perfect choice for your next social or office

gathering, whether it's at our Place... or yours.

Original Bagel & Bialy Bakery, Deli & Restaurant

105 McHenry (Grove Shopping Center)Buffalo Grove , IL

847-808-0100 www.originalbagelandbialy.com

Let us prepare your ´Simcha Trays´. Meat, fish, mini sand-wiches, dinners and bagel trays, Homemade soups, salads,bagels, corned beef and baked goods made fresh each day.

Celebrating our 6th anniversary.

Shalom Kosher Bakery1165 N. Arlington Heights Rd.,

Buffalo Grove, IL 847-808-9300

We offer an assortment challahs and baked goods. Orderstaken for Mitzvahs, weddings and holidays.

Poochie´s Catering and Events3832 Dempster St. Skokie , IL

847-673-0100Treat your guests to a Chicagoland classic, Poochie's!

Kosher Style, Vienna Hot Dogs, Burgers, Fresh Cut FrenchFries, Grilled Salami Appetizers and more. Available for

pre-post Mitzvah celebrations, weddings, bachelor/bache-lorette parties, showers and more. Always prepared fresh

and on-site.

Silverberg’s Deli701 N. Milwaukee Ave., Vernon Hills, IL

224-206-7063www.silverbergsdeli.com

Visit Chicagoland's newest Delicatessen! Full service cater-ing trays for any private or corporate event, holiday dinner,fundraisers and more. A traditional deli experience, fromhand cut Pastrami, perfectly shaved Hot Corned Beef, to

our signature bagels, salads and sweet deli treats. Our delibaskets and trays are pretty and delicious!

Schmaltz Classic Jewish Delicatessen1512 N Naper Blvd., Naperville, IL

630-839-9433www.schmaltzdeli.com

Catering in a Classic Jewish Delicatessen way! Treat yourguests to Overstuffed sandwiches, deli platters, hot meals,

buffets, bagels and hot breakfast catering. We will cater to allyour Bar/Bat Mitzvah, Wedding or private event needs!

Sweety Pies Bakery8042 Lincoln Ave., Skokie, IL

847-213-0900www.sweetypiesbakery.com

We offer an assortment challahs and baked goods. Orderstaken for Mitzvahs, weddings and holidays.

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Personal services are essential to planning asuccessful event, from photographers andcaterers, to hair and makeup to event plannersand day-of security assistance. Consider services that care for your youngest and old-est guests. Child care services, combined withalternate entertainment, can keep theyoungest kids safe and occupied while theirparents enjoy the celebration. Likewise, seniorcare services at your event can provide assis-tance with guests who need extra help, makingyour event less challenging to attend for yourguests, and providing you peace of mind.

BBYO is the leading pluralisticteen movement aspiring toinvolve more Jewish teens inmore meaningful Jewish experi-ences. BBYO in Chicagoland offersprogramming for more than 1400Jewish teens built around friends,athletics, leadership, communityservice and Judaism. BBYO is ateen led movement which allowsthe participants to guide themovement and help construct theJewish future while making life-long friends and memories. Formore information please contactgmr@bbyo.org or 224-406-9261.

LOX BOX SALES

Temple Chai´s Super Bowl Lox Box: Sunday, February 2, 2014,

Order your lox box from TempleChai’s Sisterhood for the biggame! Orders taken by Jan 23th,2014. Includes: 6 Bagels, 1/2cream cheese,1/2 hand cut lox,1tomato,1 onion, quart of OJ, sliceof pound cake or banana bread.Contact Daphne Plotsky atdaphne.loxbox@comcast.net forordering information.The Aviva Club of NA’AMAT USA Saturday, March 1, 2014Each Box contains 8 OZ. of Lox,

1/2 dozen bagels, juice, creamcheese, cake, onion, tomato,goodies and more for only $25!Deliver to north and northwestsuburbs. Orders due earlyFebruary 2014. Call Vicky at 847-229-9298.

Congregation Beth ShalomMen´s Club Lox Box 2014Sunday March 9, 2014Orders due by March 2, 2014. Lateorders are not accepted. Deliveryto Chicagoland and Suburbs.Same price as last year - $30.Donate a box to ARK and CJE ofyou don’t want one for yourself orfriends/family or business associ-ates. For more information con-tact Synagogue office at 847-498-4100 or www.bethshalomnb.orgBJBE Sisterhood Lox Box- Saturday, March 1, 2014Includes 1/2 lb, premium NovaLox, 8 fresh bagels, 1/2 lb. creamcheese, tomato, onion, orangejuice and more! Cost $29.00 orwithout Lox- $22- Orders due byFeb. 21st! Please make check

payable to BJBE Sisterhood c/oIrene Schatz- 3907 Brett LaneGlenview Il 60025- Questions?Contact Susi Goldstein atssussi@aol.com or Sheila Gates atpro reps1@hotmail.com The NA´AMAT USA ToladahClub Kosher Lox BoxSunday, April 27, 2014The cost is $24 and includesenough food to serve 4-6 people--8 ounces of lox, tomato, onion,cucumber, 1/2 dozen bagels,cream cheese, orange juice anddessert. Contact Sue @ 773-761-1954 or email Lockguy13@aol.com to place an order.Delivery is available to Chicagoand suburbs.

Many Synagogues encourage or require students to participate in or initiate a mitzvah project in order to contribute to the community and to help the less fortunate, as part of becoming a Jewish adult. The following are some ideas for possible projects; check withyour school administrator or rabbi before you begin.• Visit and assist at a local homeless shelter.• Serve meals at a senior center.• Collect coats and hats for the needy and donate to

a shelter.• Collect food for a local food pantry, or conduct a

drive for your Synagogue’s food pantry collection.You could coordinate this with Passover, as familiesclean the non-Kosher food out of their pantries.

• Assist at a local animal shelter, or conduct a driveto place homeless pets.

• Help organize a rides program for elderly and dis-abled members of yourSynagogue to ensure that they can participatein services.

• Become trained as a respite care provider tobabysit children with disabilities. Donate some ofyour time to give relief to parents of these children, who rarely get a break.

• Organize a clean-up of a local park or volunteerto help with a stream reclamation project. Call

your County Department of Natural Resources orParks and Recreation Department.

• Offer to help build and decorate Sukkot for peoplewho are unable, or offer to help with the Sukkot atthe JCC or a Jewish nursing home.

• Collect books and magazines for hospitals andnursing homes, or for people in need.

Mitzvah Project IdeasSee Page 49, for more Mitzvah Project Resources

2 Years Before the Event• Obtain date from Temple/Synagogue.• Set your budget.• Decide on the type of event you want

(day, evening, formal etc.).• Estimate number of guests

and book reception hall or caterer.• Book the photographer/videographer.

1 1/2 Years Before the Event• Book the DJ/band.• Decide on your party theme and color scheme.

6-12 Months Before the Event• Your child will start formal lessons/training• Talk to florists about prices and floral designs.• Decide on centerpieces/balloon designs.• Start looking at invitation designs and prices.

6-8 Months Before the Event• Book a hotel block for out-of-town guests.• Start clothes shopping.• Send out “Save the Date” reminders

3-6 Months Before the Event• Order or design your sign-in board and guest book.• Order favors.• Order yarmulkes.• Order your invitations.

3 Months Before the Event• Finalize guest list.• Make a hotel packet for out-of-towners.• Try to make your final selections on

clothing and accessories.• Buy stamps.• Have completely assembled invitations

weighed to ensure correct postage.• Find a calligrapher.

6-8 Weeks Before the Event• Mail the invitations.• Make up a song list for the DJ/band.• Make appointments with florists/balloonist

and place your order.• Arrange guest care services for young children and sen-iors who require extra attention at your event.

1 Month before the Event• Make hair stylist and manicure appointments.• Have final fittings done for clothing.• Arrange catering for brunch.

2-3 Weeks before the Event• Choose people for Alliyot and honors.• Choose the people to be honored for the

candle lighting ceremony and write poems.• Meet with the DJ/band and make sure they know

the candle lighting songs.• Do guest seating arrangements and

send to the reception hall.• Order the food for Kiddush or Oneg Shabbat.• Make sure the arrangements are complete with

centerpieces, balloons, sign-in board, etc.• Write prayers or speeches.• Send final instructions to photographer/videographer.• Pay all Synagogue fees.

1 Week before the Event• Take formal pictures and pictures on Bimah.• Meet with the caterer to finalize guest count.• Make arrangements to get your guests

from the airport to the hotel.• Confirm your brunch arrangements.

Getting married?

See page 36...

Bar/Bat Mitzvah TimetableStart Planning Early!

Regardless of the size ofyour celebration, you mustget properly organized.Build yourself a Bar/Bat Mitzvah or Weddingorganizer using a large(two inch or larger) three-ringbinder and use it as follows:• Place this magazine in the front pocket

for easy reference.• Insert section dividers for major areas such as

Reception, Invitations, Hotels, Transportation,Guest List, Decorations, Photography andVideography, Entertainment, etc. Keep all yourworksheets, brochures, call records, quotations,bills and receipts together for easy reference.

• Use a master budget form (copy the one on page 24) to track over all expenses.

• Use punched envelopes to hold receipts.• Ask the facility for a floor or table layout,

keep handy for reference• On the front of each section, list everything you

want or need. Check them off when they havebeen finalized.

• Make a section for the synagogue that has yourlist of honors and alliyot, communication fromthe synagogue, copies of prayers to recite, gifts ordonations to the synagogue, etc.

• Leave a section for candle lighting poems orthoughts, notes for speeches, favorite music,sketches or examples of decorations, ideas for asign-in-book, and other personal notes.

• Collect invitations you receive to help with wording.

• Anything else that makes your life easier.

Believe it or not, these pagesmake a great memento orscrapbook of the occasion.

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Photography and more recently videography is used to capture the joy, the charm, and the magic of the event. Whether a portrait artist, photojournalist, mood recorder or storyteller, your professional photographer and videographer should understand you and what you want to capture and remember of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah.

Do you have references? Ask for names of previous clients and to seea portfolio and/or sample albums or tapes.Be sure to call these references for theircomments.What is your backgroundand experience?Make sure they have recorded B’naiMitzvahs before. Experience often makes adifference in the end product, but it cancost more as well.Do you have an assistant?What is his/her experience? Many experi-enced professionals use assistants for light-ing and backup equipment.What is the cost for your services?It is best to research prices by receiving sev-eral price quotes from other photographersand videographers. But the least expensiveis not always the best. Ask photographershow many photos will be taken, will can-dids and tables be taken (if these areimportant to you), number of hours takingpictures, are proofs and/or negativesoffered for you to keep, are packages avail-able? Some synagogues only allowbimah/Torah photos hours or days beforethe event–can this be accommodated? Likewise, videography is often sold in pack-ages and may include simple music andediting, or may include visual effects, photo

montages, guest interviews, professionaltitles and headings, and more! Price is oftena function of experience, technology, andthe features and complexity you needand want.What lighting will be required?Different cameras, ambient room lighting,moods, and portraiture all require differentlighting. If lighting equipment is necessary,know this up front to assure that it does notbecome obtrusive to congregants, guests,and staff.A Digital Memory: The latest technology is digital photogra-phy and videography. Because it is relative-ly new, both traditional and digital equip-ment is currently in use, sometimes side-by-side. Satisfactory results are available instandard and digital photography–ask thephotographer to explain – but the endresult should be clear, crisp images in thesizes you want. Digital video can easily bedelivered on a DVD, and if this suits you, itcan be a welcome addition to yourcollection. But if you play video on a VCR,you can have great results from eithervideo format.And don’t forget...It is very important thatyou communicate well with the photogra-pher/ videographer and that his/her atti-tude and personality is in sync with yours.

Some Questions to Ask WhenChoosing a Photographerand/or Videographer...

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Here are some issues toconsider when choos-ing videographers.1. Ask for sample videos. The number ofcameras, lighting, microphone placement,artistic ability, technical qualificationsdon’t mean that much if you don’t like thevideographer's work. Look for smoothcamera work, natural editing, sharp sound(remember to consider the location).2. Request at least 3 references. Are pastclients happy with the results? Were theyhappy during the event? Was he/she easyto work with? The professional should betechnically competent, likeable and easyto work with.3. Ask for membership with professionalassociations, such as WEVA. 4. How many weddings or Bar/BatMitzvahs do they video each year?5. Ask for an explanation of what"Unobtrusive" means to them. Wirelessmicrophones? Low-level lighting?Multiple cameras? How will being unobtrusive affect the final production?For instance, there may be a trade offbetween external lighting and accuratecolor reproduction.

6. Ask for proof of insurance.7. Determine what end product (ie file,DVD, basic, montage, music, fullHollywood production, etc.) you want.Different budgets and expectationsrequire you to consider quality, type ofend product, level of editing, budget, andthe extent of coverage. When you havethis defined for yourself, searching for theright videographer is easier. Is a "lovestory" intro for a wedding video impor-tant to you? Or do you have to have a pre-event birth-to-now collage, set to music?Price and capabilities are affected by theseneeds. 8. How are services billed? By the hour,flat fee, packages with options?9. How do they coordinate with the wed-ding photographer? The two need to workclosely together without interfering witheach other. 10. Tell your brother to leave his video-cam at home. There is no substitute for aprofessional who comes prepared withthe right knowledge and equipment,understands the religious tradition, and isfocused on creating your video rather thanbeing a guest.

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Limousines are traditionally used to transport thewedding couple in style to and from synagogueand reception hall. Vans, limousines, shuttle buses,and other transportation services may be used totransport out-of-town guests to and from the airport and reception hall. Families also use theseservices to transport the Bar/Bat Mitzvah child andfriends to and from the reception hall. Limousinesand Bus Services also help reduce carbon emissions and stay eco-friendly by reducing thenumber of guest who drive separately.

All Aboard! Limousine & Bus OptionsThink of the last time your youngster was invited to a Bar or BatMitzvah without his/ her parents. Fun for the kids, a shlep for the par-ents. To Synagogue in the morning. Pick them up at 1:00 PM, takethem to a hall or restaurant. Pick them up at 6:00 PM or even later. Youcan save other parents the miles and keep the Bar/Bat Mitzvah togeth-er with friends by hiring a bus, mini-bus, or limo to ferry the gangfrom the synagogue to reception and back to the synagogue for pick-up. Everyone’s safe, and there are no late arrivals!Another great idea is to hire a chaper-one to accompany the kids, and per-haps stay for the rest of the party tohelp out (see pages 60). It can bea great help and a tremendousstress saver!

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Adas Yehuda V'Shoshana2548 Jasper Court, Northbrook, IL 60062847-509-9204Traditional

Am Shalom840 Vernon Ave.Glencoe, IL 60022847-835-4800Reform

Am Yisrael ConservativeCongregation4 Happ RoadNorthfield, IL 60093847-446-7215Conservative

Anita M. StoneJewish Community Center3400 W. 196th St.Flossmoor IL 60422JCC

Anshe TikvahPO Box 2455Northbrook, IL 60065847-917-7726Non-denominational

BAY Shul314 N. McHenry RoadBuffalo Grove, IL 60089847-947-4229Orthodox

Bene Shalom4435 W. Oakton St.Skokie, IL 60076847-677-3330Reform

Bernard Weinger JCC300 Revere DriveNorthbrook, IL 60062847-205-9480JCC

Beth Chaverim HumanisticJewish Community1457 Wilmot RoadDeerfield, IL 60015847-945-6512Nondenominational

Beth Emet The FreeSynagogue1224 Dempster St.Evanston, IL 60202847-869-4230Reform

Beth Hillel CongregationBnai Emunah3220 Big Tree LaneWilmette, IL 60091847-256-1213Conservative

Beth Tikvah Congregation300 Hillcrest BlvdHoffman Estates, IL847-885-4545www.Beth-Tikvah.orgReform

B'nai Yehuda Beth Sholom 1424 W. 183rdHomewood, IL 60430708-799-4110Reform

Chabad of Bucktown/WickerPark2134 N. WinchesterChicago, IL 60614773-772-3770Orthodox

Chabad Jewish Center ofGurnee5101 Washington St, Ste 32Gurnee, IL 60031847-782-1800 Orthodox

Chabad Jewish Center ofNaperville 1935 Brookdale Rd., 115Naperville, IL 60563630-344-9770Orthodox

Chicago Sinai Congregation15 W. Delaware PlaceChicago, IL 60610312-867-7000Reform

Chicago Loop Synagogue16 S. Clark St.Chicago, Il 60603312-346-7370Traditional

Congregation Am Chai1515 Barrington RdHoffman Estates, IL 60169847-604-4060Conservative

Congregation Beit Haverim29 E. Highway 45 P.O Box 5309Vernon Hills, IL 60061847-955-1800Conservative

Congregation Beth Am225 N. McHenry RoadBuffalo Grove, IL 60089847-459-1677Reform

Congregation Beth JudeaRoute 83 & Hilltop Rd., 5304 RfdLong Grove, IL 60047847-634-0777Conservative

Congregation Beth Shalom3433 Walters Ave.Northbrook, IL 60062847-498-4100Conservative

Congregation Beth Shalom772 W. 5th Ave.Naperville, IL 60563630-961-1818Egalitarian

Congregation B'nai Chai102 Adair CourtVernon Hills, IL 60061847-362-4226Nondenominational

Congregation B'nai JehoshuaBeth Elohim1201Lake Cook Rd.Deerfield, IL 60015Reform

Congregation B'nai Shalom of Buffalo Grove701 W. Aptakisic RoadBuffalo Grove, IL 60089847-415-1370Traditional

Congregation B'nai Tikvah1558 Wilmot RoadDeerfield, IL 60015847-945-0470Conservative

Congregation B'nai Torah2789 Oak St.Highland Park, IL 60035847-433-7100Reform

Congregation Ezras Israel7001 N. California Ave.Chicago, IL 60645773-764-8320Orthodox

Congregation HakafaP.O.Box 409Glencoe, IL 60022847-242-0687Reform

Congregation Kol Ami845 N. Michigan Ave., Ste 913 EChicago, IL 60611312-664-4775Reform

Congregation Kol Emeth5130 W. Touhy Ave.Skokie, IL 60077847-673-3370Conservative

Congregation Or Shalom21 Hawthorn Pkwy.Vernon Hills, IL 60061847-362-1948Reform

Congregation Or Torah3800 W. Dempster StreetSkokie, IL 60076847-679-3645Orthodox

Congregation Solel1301 Clavey RoadHighland Park, IL 60035847-433-3555Reform

Congregation Sukkat Shalom444 Skokie Blvd., #300Wilmette, IL 60091847-251-2675Reform

Congregation Tikkun OlamP.O. Box 280Crystal Lake, IL 60039815-334-7110Reform

Congregation Yehuda Moshe4721 W. Touhy Ave.Lincolnwood, IL 60712847-673-5870Orthodox

Emanuel Congregation5959 N. Sheridan Rd.Chicago, IL 60660773-561-5173Reform

Ezra-Habonim, The NilesTownship JewishCongregation4500 Dempster St.Skokie, IL 60076847-675-4141Conservative

Jacob Duman JCC atWoodland Commons370 Halfday RoadBuffalo Grove, IL 60089847-955-0005JCC

Jewish ReconstructionistCongregation303 Dodge AvenueEvanston, IL 60202-3252847-328-7678Reconstructionist

KAM Isaiah IsraelCongregation1100 E. Hyde Park Blvd.Chicago IL 60615773-924-1234Reform

Kehilat Chovevei Tzion4000 W. Church StreetSkokie, IL 60076847-410-2710Orthodox

Kehillat Shalom8610 Niles Center Rd.Skokie, IL 60077847-676-3093Conservative Egalitarian

Keshet RecreationalPrograms3210 Dundee Rd.Northbrook IL 847-412-5773Jewish Organization

Kol Hadash HumanisticCongregationP.O. Box 405Highland Park, IL 60035847-347-3003Nondenominational

Keshet RecreationalPrograms 617 Landwehr Rd., Northbrook, IL 60062(847) 205-1234Conservative

Lake Shore Drive Synagogue70 E. Elm StChicago, IL 60611312-337-6811Traditional

Lakeside Congregation forReform Judaism1221 County Line RoadHighland Park, IL 60035847-432-7950Reform

Lincolnwood JewishCongregation7117 N. Crawford Ave.Lincolnwood, IL 60712847-676-0491Traditional

Lubavitch Chabad ofGlenview2223 Cottonwood DriveGlenview IL 60026847-998-9896Orthodox

Lubavitch Chabad ofNorthbrook2095 Landwehr Rd. Northbrook, IL 60062847-564-8770Orthodox

Lubavitch Chabad of Skokie4059 W. Dempster StreetSkokie, IL 60076847-677-1770Orthodox

Mchenry County JewishCongregation8617 Ridgefield RoadCrystal Lake, IL 60012815-455-1810Conservative

Moriah Congregation200 Taub DriveDeerfield, IL 60015847- 948-5340Conservative

North Suburban LubavitchChabad874 Central Ave.Highland Park, IL 60035847-433-1567Orthodox

North Suburban SynagogueBeth El1175 Sheridan Rd.Highland Park, IL 60035847-432-8900Conservative

Northbrook CommunitySynagogue Adas YehudaV'Shoshana2849 Dundee Road, Suite 192Northbrook, IL 60062847-509-9204Traditional

Northbrook CongregationEzra-Habonim2095 Landwehr Rd.Northbrook, IL 60062847- 480-1690Traditional

North Shore CongregationIsrael1185 Sheridan RoadGlencoe, IL 60022847-835-0724Reform

Northwest Suburban ChabadLubavitch16296 W. Aptakisic Rd.Prairie View, IL 60069847-808-7770Orthodox

Persian Iran HebrewCongregation3820 W. Main StreetSkokie, IL 60076847-674-5444Orthodox

Sephardic Congregation1819 W. Howard St.Evanston, IL 60202847-475-7707Orthodox

Shir HadashReconstructionist Synagogue3380 Commercial AvenueNorthbrook, IL 60062847-498-8218Reconstructionist

Skokie Central TraditionalCongregation4040 Main St.Skokie, IL 60076847-674-4117Traditional

Skokie Valley Agudath JacobSynagogue8825 N. East Prairie Rd.Skokie, IL 60076847-674-3473Traditional

Tannenbaum Chabad House2014 Orrington Ave.Evanston, IL 60201847-869-8060Orthodox

Temple Beth Israel3601 W. Dempster StreetSkokie, IL 60076847-675-0951Reform

Temple Beth-El3610 W. Dundee Rd.Northbrook, IL 60062847-205-9982Reform

Temple Chai1670 RFD Checker RoadLong Grove, IL 60047847-537-1771Reform

Temple Jeremiah937 Happ RoadNorthfield, IL 60093847-441-5760Reform

Temple Judea Mizpah8610 Niles Center Rd.Skokie, IL 60077847-676-1566Reform

Temple Menorah2800 West Sherwin AvenueChicago, IL 60645773-761-5700Reform

Temple Sholom of Chicago3480 N. Lake Shore Dr.Chicago, IL 60657773-525-4707Reform

The North Shore JewishCenter -Congregation OrSimchaWilmette Community Rec. Center3000 Glenview Rd. Room 200Wilmette, IL 60091847-410-2066Orthodox

Young Israel of Northbrook3545 Walters Ave.Northbrook, IL 60062847-480-9462Orthodox

Young Israel of Skokie3740 W. Dempster StreetSkokie, IL 60076847-329-0990Reform

Young Israel of West RogersPark 2706 W. Touhy Ave.Chicago, IL 60645Orthodox

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If you expect guests from out-of-town toshare the Bar/Bat Mitzvah’s or weddingcouple’s special moments, consider the following:HotelsReserve early! Even if no holiday is appar-ent on your date, hotels fill up because ofconventions, retreats, etc.Hotel rooms are usually reserved in blocks.Some charge fees to reserve. This can beespecially helpful if you have a number ofguests arriving during a period whenhotels are busy.Consider reserving rooms at two or morehotels for convenience and different pricelevels.A small “welcome package” from the hostfamily is a nice touch to make out-of-townguests feel at home. Hotels can arrangethese for a fee, or you can package theminexpensively and the hotel will usuallydistribute them for free. Contents caninclude snacks, kosher foods, home baked

goods, toys and cards for children, soda,fruits, mementos, etc. Flowers for theroom are also a nice touch.A shuttle service is a convenient way totransport guests unfamiliar with localroads to the synagogue or simcha site,especially for an evening event. Check withhotels for airport shuttles. You couldarrange ride–sharing for guests rentingcars and staying at the same hotel and/orarriving at the same time. Also check intotransportation companies who offer pack-ages or hourly rates. See limousine tips onour web site.InvitationsSend a “save the date” postcard to out-of-towners 6-10 months in advance to assurethat other plans won’t conflict with yourspecial day. See a sample of a “Save TheDate Poem” on our web site.Include a map and directions for all activi-ties during the day or weekend. Directionsshould cover from the hotel(s) to the syna-

gogue, and, if applicable, to the functionhall. Try photocopying a local map tolocate the synagogue with location circled.Mapquest.com and Travelocity.com arehelpful web sites.Family ActivitiesAdditional activities add another dimen-sion to the Bar/Bat Mitzvah or weddingexperience and allow opportunities toenjoy relatives and friends that you maynot see frequently. Consider the following: If your child isbecoming a Bar or Bat Mitzvah onSaturday Morning, invite guests to the syn-agogue on Friday night to enjoy the serviceand Oneg Shabbat. This also applies to theUfruf before the wedding.Family portraits can be arranged at home,at the reception site, or synagogue.A “morning after” brunch is a delightfulway to wrap up the simcha and allowfamilies and friends to be together onemore time.

MiscellaneousYou may wish to schedule appointmentsfor manicures, hair, and make-up appoint-ments for your guests who will not befamiliar with the area.Consider a web site for the Bar/BatMitzvah or the wedding couple thatincludes weekend and hotel information,online RSVP, printable driving instructions,explanations for non-Jewish guests, andmuch more. Photos can be posted hereafter the event, as well as thanks, thoughtsand reflections, and personal messages.An agenda of weekend activities sent withthe invitations will help guests scheduleflights or travel plans, help them planwhat to pack, and add to the excitement oftraveling. If guests may have some extra time to getout and explore, include brochures or con-tact information for popular sightseeingdestinations in the invitation or a subse-quent mailing.

Out-Of-Towners Guide

1. Start out by doing your homework.Decide on a location, or a region,review tapes and travel books fromthe library or your travel agent. Askfriends or relative who have traveled;a personal recommendation is worthmore than a brochure.

2. Work with a trusted and knowledge-able travel agent. Look for an agencythat is a member in good standingwith The American Society of TravelAgents (ASTA). Again, agents whohave visited a particular location areproviding a valuable service. Ask lotsof questions and shop around. Decidea budget and know what is afford-able. Don’t forget anything, such asmedical issues or kosher meals.

3. The Caribbean is very popular, as wellas the western ski areas, Hawaii,Mexico, and Europe.

4. All-inclusives are just that:everything (that we list here) isincluded: one fee covers room,meals, drinks (exact rules varyby resort), tips, activities, enter-tainment, sports, etc. Manypackages include airfare andtransfers to and from the resort(ask!). Realistically, you stillneed some money for tours,gambling, souvenirs, somewater sports...All-inclusiveresorts cover the globe.5. Couples-only all-inclusives

offer an all-adult atmosphere withmore adult activities, includingnightlife. look for names such asCouples (Jamaica), Sandals andSuperClubs.

6. Cruises are similarly all-inclusive, buttypically do not include drinks andtips. Entertainment is often first rate,including Las Vegas-type shows, youget to visit several countries in oneweek, and the ocean breeze is irresistible. Again, bring money (orstart an onboard credit account, tiedto your credit card) for excursions,massages, casino, portrait photos and shopping.

7. Destination weddings: Plan the wed-ding like a vacation. Decide whatlocation you want, research it, askabout wedding packages. One coupleeloped to marry in Saint Lucia, then

had a reception when they returnedto Maryland. A Washington, DC couple, now in San Diego, had 26 relatives and friends meet them inPunta Cana, Dominican Republic, fora beach-front ceremony. Everyonehad a 3-night vacation, and thenewlyweds flew to Hawaii for ahoneymoon.

8 . Get Insurance and pay by Credit Card.Stuff happens, such as illness, weather, world events, and dishonestcompanies. Protect yourself.

9. Plan to get a passport. This is currently required for much interna-

tional travel, and new regulationswill require one for all US citizenstraveling to the Caribbean beginningDecember 31, 2006. A passport is alegal document that proves US citizenship; it gets stamped everywhere you go, so its like a minitravel log. It costs least to apply atyour local Post Office, but you mightwait five and up to eight weeks bymail. Look on the U.S. StateDepartment's Bureau of ConsularAffairs home page under passportinformation.

Honeymoon Planning Basics

Marriage License RequirementsChicago, IL• Both the bride and groom must appear in person at the time of applying.

Nonresidents cannot obtain a marriage license if said marriage would be void intheir state. Must provide one of the following (all must be Valid): U.S. Driver'sLicense, U.S. state identification card, U.S. passport, U.S. military identification card,or Illinois Department of Public Aid card (the I.D. and the medical card). If divorced,they must provide final divorce papers signed by the judge. (If you do not have oneof the above, you will need 2 other forms of Identification, call your local marriagelicense office for more information.

• Waiting period is 1 day. License is valid for 60 days from the date it was issued. Alicense issued in Cook County CANNOT be used in any other county or state.

• Fees: Cash Only! Varies depending on County. $15 - $30. No Blood test is required.• Please Note: State and county marriage license requirements often change. The

above information is for guidance only and should not be regarded as legal advice.

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Banquet Facilities,Hotels & RestaurantsBella Via Ristorante & Banquets1899 Second St. Highland Park, IL847-681-8300www.BellaViaHighlandPark.com(see our display ad, page 2)Host your next event at Bella Via. We will pro-vide superior service for your Bar/Bat Mitzvahs,Weddings, Rehearsal Dinners, WeddingShowers and more. A popular regional ItalianRestaurant located in Highland Park. Our elegant banquet room seats up to 100 andaccommodates up to 150 for cocktails.Catered by Design9204 Waukegan RoadMorton Grove, IL847-965-4094www.cateredbydesign.com(see our display ad, page 25)Catered by Design brings your events to lifewith delicious and sumptuous food, present-ed in a spectacular fashion by the friendliestand most professional staff in Chicago!Catering Enterprises, LTD550 Shriners Dr.Addison, IL630-458-0200 or 630-628-0171www.weddingswithus.comwww.cateringwithelegance.com(see our display ad, page 28)Either at Medinah Shrine Center orBloomingdale Golf Club, Catering withElegance will exceed your expectations.Kosher Menu and off-site catering available.Call for details: 630-628-0171.Chicago Marriott Suites Deerfield2 Parkway North Deerfield, IL847-405-9666 or 1-800-228-9290www.marriottsuitesdeerfield.com(see our display ad, page 18)248 luxurious suites, Ballroom to accommo-date up to 120 people for breakfast, lunch,and dinner. Ideal location near Chicago,O'Hare International Airport and major trans-portation routes. Many nearby attractions andentertainment venues for your guests to enjoy.Cubby Bear Chicago1059 W Addison Chicago, IL773-327-1662www.cubbynorth.com(see our display ad, Inside Front Cover)The Cubby Bear is a multipurpose venue thatcan accommodate any group large or small.With menus ranging from your game dayfavorites, to customized buffets, your partywill always hit a home run! We specialize inthe following: Bar/Bat Mitzvahs CorporateMeetings and Events Cubs Pre and Post GameEvents Fundraisers Birthday Parties Pleasecontact one of our sales team members formore information! Dave & Busters4 Locations:

1030 N. Clark St., Chicago, IL312-821-3606

1155 N. Swift St., Addison, IL630-317-3207

49 Orland Square, Orland Park, IL708-428-2106

New Location Vernon Hills, ILwww.daveandbusters.com(see our display ad, page 9)At Dave & Buster’s, old traditions meet newfun! Plan to celebrate your child’s Bar or BatMitzvah and you’ll treat guests to Chef Craftedbuffets, hundreds of interactive games, andmore... Let our party planners make your celebration unforgettable!Embassy Suites Chicago- North Shore1445 Lake Cook RoadDeerfield , IL 847-945-4500www.embassysuitesdeerfield.com(see our display ad, page 12)The Embassy Suites Hotel's flexible eventspace serves as the perfect venue for all of theevents surrounding your special day. Thestunning sky-lit atrium is the perfect locationfor an elegant wedding reception of up to 300guests or for a memorable Bar/Bat Mitzvah,bridal shower or rehearsal dinner. OurBallroom is the perfect place to celebrate anyspecial event. All 237 suites feature a separateparlor area with enough space to spread outand enjoy. Start your day with a free cookedto order breakfast or stop by our complimen-tary evening reception. The Field Museum1400 S. Lake Shore Drive Chicago, IL 312-665-7600www.fieldmuseum.org/events(see our display ad, page 14)The Field Museum's grand staircase andvaulted ceilings make this an original settingto make your own. A perfect location for aperfect day! Hampton Inn & Suites Chicago North Shore5201 Old Orchard Rd.Skokie, IL847-583-1111 or 1-800-HAMPTONwww.northshoresuites.hamptoninn.com(see our display ad, page 11)Just minutes from the Windy City, treat yourout of town guests to North Shore's freshesthotel. Newly remodeled in 2010, theHampton Inn & Suites has maintained its #1ranking on TripAdvisor's Popularity Index forSkokie hotels. Experience a new definition ofhospitality; choose the Hampton Inn & Suitesfor your future family event. Stop by today &ask about our discounts for wedding and/orBar/Bat Mitzvah group rooms. With all theadded amenities included, we guarantee toprovide the best value in the North Shore.Hard Rock Cafe Chicago63 W. Ontario St.(Corner of Clark and Ontario)Chicago, IL312-943-2252 or 312-943-5572www.hardrock.com/chicago(see our display ad, page 5)Hard Rock Cafe hosts special events up to 700guests amidst authentic rock n’ roll memora-bilia and state-of-the-art A/V equipment.Banquet packages available.Highland Park Country Club1201 Park Ave. West Highland Park, IL847-433-4000 or 847-432-8048www.highlandparkcc.com(see our display ad, page 12)

Highland Park Country Club has the perfectballroom for any Bar/Bat Mitzvah or JewishWedding. The club features 3 private roomsthat open into one and can accommodatemany set-up options.Lakeview Banquet Rooms2400 Chestnut Ave. Glenview, IL224-521-2562www.GlenviewParks.org(see our display ad, page 25)Make Lakeview Banquet Rooms at Park Centerthe celebration destination for Bar/BatMitzvahs, Weddings and Special Events. Youpick the date, we'll take care of the details!Ask about adding Splash Landings AquaticsComplex or one of our four gym facilities toyour banquet reservations for a truly memorable occasion.Lettuce Parties30 Locations Serving Chicagoland312-527-9222www.Lettuceparties.com(see our display ad, page 3)Let our team of event professionals guide youthrough every phase of the planning process,including venue selection, budgets, menus,floral, entertainment & more. For all of yourBar/Bat Mitzvahs,Weddings and any otherspecial occasions. We pride ourselves in providing responsive, creative and flexibleservice.Libertyville Sports Complex1950 N. Hwy. 45, Cnr. Peterson Rd.Libertyville, IL847-367-3006 www.LibertyvilleSportsComplex.com(see our display ad, page 16)With over 160,000 square feet of indoorspace, we can accommodate any size Mitzvahcelebration or Special Event. We’ve got thefloor space to help you create any event, andalso include indoor soccer, basketball, GiantInflatables, Climbing Mountain and our conference rooms into the entertainmentpackage. Host the most spectacular andimaginative Mitzvah ever!!Lincolnshire Marriott10 Marriott Dr.Lincolnshire, Il847-634-0100LincolnshireMarriottWeddings.com(see our ad display, page 15)With breathtaking pavilions, grand ballrooms,all new guest rooms and creative culinarydishes, we’ve got everything you need to turnyour dream event into reality. Maggiano's Little Italy6 Locations:

1901 E. Woodfield Rd., Schaumburg, IL847-240-1600

516 N. Clark St., Chicago, IL312-644-4284

4999 Old Orchard Center, Skokie, IL847-933-9572

240 Oakbrook Center, Oakbrook, IL630-368-0314

1847 Freedom Dr., Naperville, IL630-536-2280

New Location Vernon Hills, ILmaggianos.com/en/Pages/Banquets.aspx(see our display ad, page 4)Maggiano's is the perfect venue to host yourBar/Bat Mitzvahs, Wedding events,

engagement parties, bridal showers, rehearsaldinners, receptions or day-after brunches. Miramar Bistro301 Waukegan Ave.Highwood, IL847-433-1078www.miramarbistro.com(see our display ad, page 68)We go above and beyond to make your eventpersonalized, with French Cuisine and aCuban Flare. Chef/Owner Gabriel Viti creates acustom fit for whatever the occasion.Weddings, Mitzvahs, Rehearsals, Receptions,Showers, Sweet 16's, brunch, cocktails, pri-vate, corporate events and more!Morton's The Steakhouse Northbrook699 Skokie Blvd. Northbrook, IL847-205-5111www.mortons.com/northbrook(see our display ad, page 17)We offer beautifully appointed private diningrooms to accommodate all special occasions- weddings, Bar/Bat Mitzvahs, wel-coming your out-of-town guests, anniver-saries, birthdays and more.North Shore Center for the Performing Arts in Skokie9501 Skokie Blvd. Skokie, IL847-679-9501Box Office -847-673-6300www.northshorecenter.org(see our display ad, page 10)For the important milestones in your life, theNorth Shore Center for the Performing Arts inSkokie's unique creative spaces mixed withthe most up-to-date technology, superbcatering options and helpful staff provide theideal blend of comfort and elegance for yourspecial event. North Suburban YMCA2705 Techny Rd. Northbrook, IL847-272-7250www.nsymca.org(see our display ad, page 14)NSYMCA has much to offer with our newlyrenovated facility with space for 10-350guests. We will successfully accommodateyour Mitzvah, birthday or corporate event!NSYMCA offers a unique celebration for yourguests. Parties can accommodate specialrequests including rental of the indoor pool,gymnasium, or x-zone. Visit nsymca.org.Party FantasyTwo Locations:

Party Fantasy342 Townline Rd., Mundelein, IL

847-837-0010Party Fantasy Raceway7150 Capitol Dr., Wheeling, IL

224-676-6200 www.partyfantasy.net(see our display ad, page 20)Plan your bar/bat-mitzvah, birthday party orfamily gathering, large or small, at this uniqueand customizable venue, with activities for allages! Facility includes indoor go kart track,climbing wall, inflatables, arcade and more!

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Pinstripes, Inc.Three Locations:

1150 Willow Rd., Northbrook, IL847-480-7676

100 W. Higgins Rd., South Barrington, IL847-844-4810

7 Oakbrook Ctr. Mall, Oakbrook, IL630-575-8744

www.pinstripes.com(see our display ad, page 14)Pinstripes features a distinctive entertainmentand event venue. Celebrate "SophisticatedFun" in our warm and inviting 45,000 sq.ft.indoor/outdoor facility. Complete with 18bowling lanes, 6 Bocce Courts, exceptionalItalian-American Bistro & Wine Cellar. OutdoorPatio/fireplace & beautifully appointed eventand party rooms that can accommodategroups from 20-600. Northbrook and SouthBarrington Locations.Saranello’s601 N. Milwaukee Ave. Wheeling, IL 847-777-6878www.saranellos.com(see our display ad, Inside Back Cover)Saranellos Banquets is the North Shore’s premier event space. Seating groups from 20to 250 people, it reflects a modern style withtwo-story windows and elegant finishes. Themenu incorporates a wide variety of signaturecreations, appealing to the most discerniblepalate. Packages start at $75 and include openbar, a champagne toast and a bridal suite.Sullivan’s Steakhouse Lincolnshire250 Marriott Drive Lincolnshire , IL 847-883-0311www.sullivanssteakhouse.com(see our display ad, page 7)From Bar Bat Mitzvahs and Weddings, cocktailparties and business meetings, to bridalshowers and rehearsal dinners, let us help youcreate your next spectacular event. Two otherChicagoland locations: 415 N. Dearborn,Chicago, 312-527-3510; and 244 S. Main St.,Naperville, 630-305-0230.

Venue One1044 W. Randolph St. Chicago, IL312-605-8300www.VenueOneChicago.com(see our display ad, page 19)Welcome to Venue One, Chicago’s Only all-inclusive, high-tech meeting, expo, and eventcenter. Everything you need from one uniqueand helpful venue to make your celebrationspectacular!Viper Alley275 Parkway Drive Lincolnshire, IL847-499-5000www.viper-alley.com(see our display ad, page 16)Viper Alley’s “industrial chic” interior meetstoday’s demand for flexible event environ-ments that are both casual and upscale andalso comes fully equipped with our completekitchen, AV, staging and a six lane privatebowling facility. Viper Alley is perfect for host-ing team-building exercises, sales meetings,training seminars, trade shows, charity events,and social or holiday parties. Call on us to cus-tomize your menu, furniture, event program-

ming, entertainment, decorations and lightingto meet any of your specialized event needs.With our flexible modular floor plan, we offercatering for up to 650 people with endlesspossibilities for an unforgettable experience.The Westin Chicago North Shore601 N. Milwaukee Ave. Wheeling, IL847-777-6560www.WestinNorthShore.com(see our display ad, Back Cover)The Westin North Shore has the largest ballroom on the North Shore and able toaccommodate events for up to 1000. FullKosher Kitchen. Downtown style and elegance with a suburban location.Wyndham Glenview1400 N. Milwaukee Ave. Glenview, IL847-803-9800WyndhamGlenviewSuitesHotel.com(see our display ad, page 13)We would be delighted to have you stay atthe Wyndham Glenview Suites! Please contactour Sales Team for available dates and additional information.

Beauty, Hair, MakeupBeauty By BrushServing Chicagoland and SuburbsOn Location!630-788-4222www.beautybybrush.com(see our display ad, page 22)On location airbrush makeup artist andlicensed esthetician for all special occasions.Stefanie Lynn Makeup ArtistServing Chicagoland and SuburbsOn Location!847-903-0564(see our display ad, page 22)Available for bookings after May 15, 2014.Serving Chicagoland and suburbs. On locationmake-up artist for the natural look or movielook, whichever you prefer, for your Mitzvahor Wedding. Certified and experienced artistfor over 3 years! I will work with you to getthe look you desire!

Cakes & PastriesBon Macaron ChicagoServing Chicagoland Area312-228-4325www.BonMacaronChicago.com(see our display ad, page 23)Rich and handcrafted European macarons forevery occasion. Decadent-The highest qualityingredients. Chef/Owner Catherine Cooper isfrom the Chicago area and traveled in Paris,France. One-two week lead time for all orders.Chicago TailGators3760 W. Dempster St.Skokie, IL224-534-7787www.chicagotailgators.com(see our display ad, page 26)Welcome to Chicago TailGators – A uniquebrand of catering! After 8 years of honing ourparking lot culinary skills, one thing is forsure–regardless of the score, the folks eatingour food were happy! Try a different kind ofcatering that brings the Game Day experienceinto your home, office or other venue.Whether you keep a kosher lifestyle or not,

we're here to make your gathering a hit!Dairy Queen2770 Dundee Rd. Northbrook, IL847-498-2571(see our display ad, page 31)Order our famous Blizzards for your sweettable–or our "Make Your Own Sundae Bar"with nine great toppings to choose from! Wewill cater to your event! Give us a call for acustom order or email edwardschubert@sbcglobal.net.Silverberg’s Deli701 N. Milwaukee Ave. #268Vernon Hills, IL 224-206-7063www.silverbergsdeli.com(see our display ad, page 30)Visit Chicagoland's newest Deli! A full servicedelicatessen, creating exceptional trays for anyprivate or corporate event, holidays, fundrais-ers and more. A traditional Jewish deli experi-ence, from hand cut pastrami & perfectlyshaved hot corned beef, to our signaturesandwiches, salads and soups made fromscratch. Rated one of the “Top Delis inChicagoland!”

CateringAlcohol Party CateringServing Chicagoland and Suburbs815-873-0405 or 1-800-232-7631www.AlcoholPartyCatering.com(see our display ad, page 31)Alcohol Party Catering is a licensed andinsured, full service, beverage catering company, equipped to accommodate any typeor size event throughout Illinois. Alcohol PartyCatering is the bar-tending answer for yourprivate party, wedding, corporate event, officeparty, Bar/Bat Mitzvah or celebration of any kind.Bella Via Ristorante & Banquets1899 Second St. Highland Park, IL847-681-8300www.BellaViaHighlandPark.com(see our display ad, page 2)Host your next event at Bella Via. We will pro-vide superior service for your Bar/Bat Mitzvahs,Weddings, Rehearsal Dinners, WeddingShowers and more. A popular regional ItalianRestaurant located in Highland Park. Our ele-gant banquet room seats up to 100 andaccommodates up to 150 for cocktails.Bon Macaron ChicagoServing Chicagoland Area312-228-4325www.BonMacaronChicago.com(see our display ad, page 23)Rich and handcrafted European macarons forevery occasion. Decadent-The highest qualityingredients. Chef/Owner Catherine Cooper isfrom the Chicago area and traveled in Paris,France. One-two week lead time for all orders.Catered by Design9204 Waukegan RoadMorton Grove, IL847-965-4094www.cateredbydesign.com(see our display ad, page 25)Catered by Design brings your events to lifewith delicious and sumptuous food, presentedin a spectacular fashion by the friendliest andmost professional staff in Chicago!

Catering Enterprises, LTD550 Shriners Dr.Addison, IL630-458-0200 or 630-628-0171www.weddingswithus.comwww.cateringwithelegance.com(see our display ad, page 28)Either at Medinah Shrine Center orBloomingdale Golf Club, Catering withElegance will exceed your expectations.Kosher Menu and off-site catering available.Call for details: 630-628-0171.Chicago Marriott Suites Deerfield2 Parkway North Deerfield, IL847-405-9666 or 1-800-228-9290www.MarriottSuitesDeerfield.com(see our display ad, page 18)248 luxurious suites, Ballroom to accommo-date up to 120 people for breakfast, lunch,and dinner. Ideal location near Chicago,O'Hare International Airport and major trans-portation routes. Many nearby attractions andentertainment venues for your guests toenjoy.Chicago TailGators3760 W. Dempster St.Skokie, IL224-534-7787www.chicagotailgators.com(see our display ad, page 26)Welcome to Chicago TailGators – A uniquebrand of catering! After 8 years of honing ourparking lot culinary skills, one thing is forsure–regardless of the score, the folks eatingour food were happy! Try a different kind ofcatering that brings the Game Day experienceinto your home, office or other venue.Whether you keep a kosher lifestyle or not,we're here to make your gathering a hit!Cubby Bear Chicago1059 W Addison Chicago, IL773-327-1662www.cubbynorth.com(see our display ad, Inside Front Cover)The Cubby Bear is a multipurpose venue thatcan accommodate any group large or small.With menus ranging from your game dayfavorites, to customized buffets, your partywill always hit a home run! We specialize inthe following: Bar/Bat Mitzvahs CorporateMeetings and Events Cubs Pre and Post GameEvents Fundraisers Birthday Parties Pleasecontact one of our sales team members formore information! .Dave & Busters4 Locations:

1030 N. Clark St., Chicago, IL312-821-3606

1155 N. Swift St., Addison, IL630-317-3207

49 Orland Square, Orland Park, IL708-428-2106

New Location Vernon Hills, ILwww.daveandbusters.com(see our display ad, page 9)At Dave & Busters, old traditions meet newfun! Plan to celebrate your child's Bar or BatMitzvah and you'll treat guests to Chef CraftedBuffets, hundreds of interactive games, andmore...let our party planners make your cele-bration unforgettable!

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Dairy Queen2770 Dundee Rd. Northbrook, IL847-498-2571(see our display ad, page 31)Order our famous Blizzards for your sweettable–or our "Make Your Own Sundae Bar"with nine great toppings to choose from! Wewill cater to your event! Give us a call for acustom order or email edwardschubert@sbcglobal.net.G Catering and Events740 N. Rush StServing Chicagoland and SuburbsChicago, IL847-612-8263www.gcateringandevents.com(see our display ad, page 29)Full-service catering and event planning company serving Chicago and its neighboringsuburbs. Our team of seasoned industry professionals provide convenient cateringsolutions. Custom menus available.Garden Fresh Market Catering275 Skokie Blvd. Northbrook, IL847-272-0300www.gfmcatering.com(see our display ad, page 27)Garden Fresh Market Catering, dedicated tobringing you the highest quality and mostmemorable kosher event for you and yourguests.Garrett Popcorn Shops401 N. Michigan Ave., Suite 1700Chicago, ILServing Chicagoland, Suburbs, andNationwide1-(866)6-POPCORN or 1-866-676-7267(see our display ad, page 51)Garrett Popcorn...A Chicagoland classic isavailable for your Bar/Bat Mitzvah, Weddingor any private event. Favors, bags, personal-ized for your event! At Garrett PopcornShops®, we believe in serving only the finest,handcrafted Popcorn. Every small batch ofGarrett® is thoughtfully prepared fresh all day,every day. Popcorn like no other.Highland Park Country Club1201 Park Ave. West Highland Park, IL847-433-4000 or 847-432-8048www.highlandparkcc.com(see our display ad, page 12)Highland Park Country Club has the perfectballroom for any Bar/Bat Mitzvah or JewishWedding. The club features 3 private roomsthat open into one and can accommodatemany set-up options.Lettuce Parties30 Locations Serving Chicagoland312-527-9222 www.LettuceParties.com(see our display ad, page 3)Let our team of event professionals guide youthrough every phase of the planning process,including venue selection, budgets, menus,floral, entertainment & more. For all of yourBar/Bat Mitzvahs,Weddings and any otherspecial occasions. We pride ourselves in providing responsive, creative and flexibleservice.

Lincolnshire Marriott10 Marriott Dr.Lincolnshire, Il847-634-0100LincolnshireMarriottWeddings.com(see our ad display, page 15)With breathtaking pavilions, grand ballrooms,all new guest rooms and creative culinarydishes, we’ve got everything you need to turnyour dream event into reality. Maggiano's Little Italy6 Locations:

1901 E. Woodfield Rd., Schaumburg, IL847-240-1600

516 N. Clark St., Chicago, IL312-644-4284

4999 Old Orchard Center, Skokie, IL847-933-9572

240 Oakbrook Center, Oakbrook, IL630-368-0314

1847 Freedom Dr., Naperville, IL630-536-2280

New Location Vernon Hills, ILmaggianos.com/en/Pages/Banquets.aspx(see our display ad, page 4)Maggiano's is the perfect venue to host yourBar/Bat Mitzvahs, Wedding events, engagement parties, bridal showers, rehearsaldinners, receptions or day-after brunches. Manny's Cafeteria and Delicatessen1141 S. Jefferson Chicago, IL312-939-2855www.mannysdeli.com(see our display ad, page 31)Treat your guests to a Classic Chicago Traditionsince 1942- Manny’s Cafeteria andDelicatessen. Deli, Sandwich and Dairy Trays.Host parties up to 250 guests. Bar/BatMitzvahs, Rehearsal Dinners, Retirement,Wedding Showers or to welcome/send off outof town guests. So many catering optionsavailable- Chicagoland and Suburbs.

Morton's The Steakhouse Northbrook699 Skokie Blvd. Northbrook, IL847-205-5111www.mortons.com/northbrook(see our display ad, page 17)We offer beautifully appointed private diningrooms to accommodate all special occasions-Weddings, Bar/Bat Mitzvahs, welcoming yourout-of-town guests,anniversaries, birthdaysand more.Premier Catering Chicago3760 W. Dempster St.Skokie, IL224-251-7634www.premiercatering-chicago.com(see our display ad, page 26)Premier Catering provides full-service kosher,formal catering services to the Chicagolandarea. Our experienced team is ready to helpyou plan your wedding, rehearsal dinner, cor-porate dinner, large family dinners, Bar/BatMitzvah or other special event. We will caterat the location of your choice or at our newfacility, capable of holding up to 100 people.We operate under the certification of theChicago Rabbinical Council (CRC), one of theworld's most respected Kashruth (Kosher cer-tification) authorities, making our food uni-versally acceptable to even the most stringentobservers of these laws.

Saranello’s601 N. Milwaukee Ave. Wheeling, IL 847-777-6878www.saranellos.com(see our display ad, Inside Back Cover)Saranellos Banquets is the North Shore’s premier event space. Seating groups from 20to 250 people, it reflects a modern style withtwo-story windows and elegant finishes. Themenu incorporates a wide variety of signaturecreations, appealing to the most discerniblepalate. Packages start at $75 and include openbar, a champagne toast and a bridal suite.Silverberg’s Deli701 N. Milwaukee Ave. #268Vernon Hills, IL 224-206-7063www.silverbergsdeli.com(see our display ad, page 30)Visit Chicagoland's newest Deli! A full servicedelicatessen, creating exceptional trays for anyprivate or corporate event, holidays, fundrais-ers and more. A traditional Jewish deli experi-ence, from hand cut pastrami & perfectlyshaved hot corned beef, to our signaturesandwiches, salads and soups made fromscratch. Rated one of the “Top Delis inChicagoland!”Sullivan’s Steakhouse Lincolnshire250 Marriott Drive Lincolnshire , IL 847-883-0311www.sullivanssteakhouse.com(see our display ad, page 7)From Bar Bat Mitzvahs and Weddings, cocktailparties and business meetings, to bridalshowers and rehearsal dinners, let us help youcreate your next spectacular event. Two otherChicagoland locations: 415 N. Dearborn,Chicago, 312-527-3510; and 244 S. Main St.,Naperville, 630-305-0230.

ChuppahsArkay Chuppah CreationsBuffalo Grove, IL224-392-4476www.arkaychuppah.com(see our display ad, page 29)Traditional rentals or custom heirloom chup-pah designs. Yards of graceful flowing fabrics forming a canopy of sacred space for the brideand groom. Many styles to choose from.

ClothingGuys and Co.827 N. Waukegan Rd.Deerfield, IL847-940- GUYS (4897)www.guysandco.com(see our display ad, page 33)Guys and Co. full service boy’s and young men’sclothing store specializing in Mitzvah clothingsuch as suits, sports coats, dress pants andshirts along with furnishings Sizes 8-22, 28-42.Haute Couture by JoannaGowns & Custom Alterations1920 Waukegan Rd., Suite 2 Glenview, IL 847-724-0262www.hautecoutureil.com(see our display ad, page 34)Custom Couture Gowns and garments, alterations and special occasion wear.

Robin Elliott’s LTD Special Occasions6740 W. Dempster St.Morton Grove, IL847-470-9400www.RobinElliottLtd.com(see our display ad, page 32)Large selection of Bat Mitzvah dresses.Mothers of the Bar/Bat Mitzvahs and Bride-Groom–prom, pageant and accessories.Dresses available for Orthodox Women, too!

Decorations &Theme DesignAll Occasions Balloons Serving Chicagoland and Suburbs 630-690-1144www.UpWithBalloons.com (see our display ad, page 43)It's your party, make it a good one! Balloondecor for Bar/Bat MItzvahs, Weddings andany party in-between. Arches, canopies andevent decor with balloons are our specialty.Delivery to Chicagoland and suburbs.Arkay Chuppah CreationsBuffalo Grove, IL224-392-4476www.arkaychuppah.com(see our display ad, page 39)Traditional rentals or custom heirloom chup-pah designs. Yards of graceful flowing fabrics forming a canopy of sacred space for the brideand groom. Many styles to choose from.Fancy Thattt657 Academy Dr.Northbrook, IL847-730-3089www.fancythattt.com(see our display ad, page 42)Personalized service for Bar/Bat Mitzvahsincluding customized centerpieces, backdrops,sign-in books, candle lighting, props, and dayof party service.Jody Garland Design & Photography2555 Gross Point Rd. Evanston, IL 847-707-4174www.jodygarland.com(see our display ad, page 56)Tradition with a twist. Fun, fresh photography. Complete Mitzvah packages$975. Digital files included. Team coverage of parties, studio lighting at temple. Themecenterpiece photography available. M & M Special Events Serving all of Chicagoland & Suburbs630-871-9999www.mmspecialevents.com(see our display ad, page 42)M&M is a comprehensive provider of eventrentals and decor, renting tents, chairs, linens,and more. M&M’s custom centerpieces, light-ing, and fabric make parties glow.SatinChair.comServing Chicagoland & Suburbs630-504-2009www.SatinChair.com(see our display ad, page 43)Rent unique decor for your special event.Chiavari Chairs, Spandex & Ruched ChairCovers, Uplights, Monogram Lighting, CustomLinens, Backdrops, Centerpieces, Dance FloorCovers, and Chuppahs.

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Sign-A-RamaChicago, IL847-215-1535www.bgsignarama.com

(see our display ad, page 18)Custom Banners, Posters, Sign-In Boards foryour Mitzvahs, Weddings, Sweet 16’s,Fundraisers and other special events. We willwork with you to help customize your eventand theme!Wire VintageServing the Chicagoland area847-821-8648www.etsy.com/shop/WireVintage(see our display ad, page 43)Vintage display frames for place cards, eventtheme design, pictures, jewelry, holiday andhome decor, notes and more! Perfect for yourrustic wedding, Bar/Bat Mitzvah, bridalshowers, sweet 16. These frames are interchangeable and you can recreate yourtheme again and again.

Giftware, Jewelry &JudaicaWire VintageServing the Chicagoland area847-821-8648www.etsy.com/shop/WireVintage(see our display ad, page 43)Vintage display frames for place cards, eventtheme design, pictures, jewelry, holiday andhome decor, notes and more! Perfect for yourrustic wedding, Bar/Bat Mitzvah, bridalshowers, sweet 16. These frames are interchangeable and you can recreate yourtheme again and again.

Guest Care/SeniorCareHome Care Assistance430 Green Bay RdKenilworth, IL847-853-7777 or 630-243-5886www.homecareassistance.com(see our display ad, page 54)We´ll care for your elderly guests. Personalassistance with dressing, transportation, andeverything during the event. Experience withMemory loss, Parkinson´s, Stroke care.Leading provider of senior home care in U.S.

Honeymoon & TravelEmbassy Suites Chicago- North Shore1445 Lake Cook RoadDeerfield , IL 847-945-4500www.EmbassySuitesDeerfield.com(see our display ad, page 12)The Embassy Suites Hotel's flexible eventspace serves as the perfect venue for all of theevents surrounding your special day. Thestunning sky-lit atrium is the perfect locationfor an elegant wedding reception of up to 300guests or for a memorable Bar/Bat Mitzvah,bridal shower or rehearsal dinner. OurBallroom is the perfect place to celebrate anyspecial event. All 237 suites feature a separateparlor area with enough space to spread outand enjoy. Start your day with a free cookedto order breakfast or stop by our complimen-tary evening reception in the evening.

Invitations &CalligraphyDear Emily874 Green Bay RoadWinnetka, IL847-446-0907 or 1-800-505-5005www.dearemily.com(see our display ad, page 45)Custom designs from the world’s leadingmanufacturers as well as one-of-a-kind creations are yours for the choosing at DearEmily. Working by private appointment, pro-prietor Melissa Mizel will guide you patientlythrough a process that takes you from firststeps to in-the-mail.Invitations By KeshetNorthbrook, IL847-205-1234www.keshet.org(see our display ad, page 46)A non-profit, providing educational, recre-ational and vocational programs integratingJewish children and young adults with specialneeds into schools, camps and the workplacealong side their typically developing peers.Karen Saharack Calligraphy & Design876 Saybrook LaneBuffalo Grove, IL847-634-9221www.karensinvitations.com(see our display ad, page 44)For over 20 years, Karen Saharack has custom-designed & created hand-paintedinvitations and calligraphy for Mitzvahs, weddings, birthdays & corporate parties. Allwith personal service.

Music &EntertainmentBANDS & DJS

1-800-Violins3907 W. Dempster St. Skokie, IL 847-673-5050 or 1-800-846-5467www.1800violins.com(see our display ad, page 48)1-800-Violins is a full service music companythat brings music and glamour to all of itsengagements.Maxwell Street Klezmer Band4025 Harvard TerraceSkokie, IL847-675-4800www.klezmerband.com(see our display ad, page 47)Music with a Jewish soul–plus they play Jazzand Rock 'n' Roll! Since 1983, the top choicefor concerts and parties of all sizes.Northside Brass317 Anderson Blvd.Geneva, IL630-715-2720www.northsidebrass.com(see our display ad, page 48)Elegant live music for all occasions.Specializing in Classical and Jazz, our smallchamber groups create a beautiful atmos-phere through music. Available for Bar/BatMitzvahs, Weddings, Rehearsal Dinners andall of your private and Jewish CommunityEvents and Fundraisers.

Personalities, Inc.3328 Commercial Ave. Northbrook, IL 847-A-PARTY-2 (847-272-7892)www.personalitiesinc.com(see our display ad, page 1)DJ's, MC's, & Dancers providing InteractiveEntertainment for all Ages. Perfect forMitzvahs, weddings, birthdays, corporate &more. We also offer Karaoke, Custom CDGiveaways, Game Shows & Music Video Parties.

OTHER ENTERTAINMENT

The Field Museum1400 S. Lake Shore Drive Chicago, IL 312-665-7600www.fieldmuseum.org/events(see our display ad, page 14)The Field Museum's grand staircase andvaulted ceilings make this an original settingto make your own. A perfect location for aperfect day! Party FantasyTwo Locations:

Party Fantasy342 Townline Rd., Mundelein, IL

847-837-0010Party Fantasy Raceway7150 Capitol Dr., Wheeling, IL

224-676-6200 www.partyfantasy.net(see our display ad, page 20)Plan your bar/bat-mitzvah, birthday party orfamily gathering, large or small, at this uniqueand customizable venue, with activities for allages! Facility includes indoor go kart track,climbing wall, inflatables, arcade and more!Pinstripes, Inc.Three Locations:

1150 Willow Rd., Northbrook, IL847-480-7676

100 W. Higgins Rd., South Barrington, IL847-844-4810

7 Oakbrook Ctr. Mall, Oakbrook, IL630-575-8744

www.pinstripes.com(see our display ad, page 14)Pinstripes features a distinctive entertainmentand event venue. Celebrate "SophisticatedFun" in our warm and inviting 45,000 sq.ft.indoor/outdoor facility. Complete with 18bowling lanes, 6 Bocce Courts, exceptionalItalian-American Bistro & Wine Cellar. OutdoorPatio/fireplace & beautifully appointed eventand party rooms that can accommodategroups from 20-600. Northbrook and SouthBarrington Locations.Tapsnap Photo Entertainment SystemServing Chicagoland and Suburbs708-785-5007 or 1-877-729-2715 ext. 1031www.tapsnap.net(see our display ad, page 47)Tapsnap is a revolutionary photo entertain-ment system that provides an open conceptphoto booth so everyone can join in the pic-ture and fun. Instantly shares pictures toFacebook and other social media. Providesdigital props for pictures, instant weddingphotos for your guests as favors and more.Sleek 42-inch multi-touch screen blends withany theme/decor. Interactive and fun for kidsand adults. Memories and photo sharing ofyour event, for all to see!

Novelties & FavorsGarrett Popcorn Shops401 N. Michigan Ave., Suite 1700Chicago, ILServing Chicagoland, Suburbs, andNationwide1-(866)6-POPCORN or 1-866-676-7267(see our display ad, page 51)Garrett Popcorn...A Chicagoland classic isavailable for your Bar/Bat Mitzvah, Weddingor any private event. Favors, bags, personal-ized for your event! At Garrett PopcornShops®, we believe in serving only the finest,handcrafted Popcorn. Every small batch ofGarrett® is thoughtfully prepared fresh all day,every day. Popcorn like no other.Mazel Tov Favors.comNationwide1-800-485-4461www.itsmymitzvah.comwww.mazeltovfavors.com(see our display ad, page 21)We specialize in imprinted Bar/Bat Mitzvahitems. From 20-200, boxers to keychains. Weprovide personal attention. Call 24/7. Mentionour ad in this magazine and receive a 10%discount!Memento Photo BoothChicago, IL312-981-0181 or 1-888-844-8389www.mementophotobooth.com

(see our display ad, page 58)Memento is Chicago’s premier photo enter-tainment specialist. We offer photo booths forMitzvahs, weddings, and corporate events.

Party & Event Planning1-800-Violins3907 W. Dempster St. Skokie, IL 847-673-5050 or 1-800-846-5467www.1800violins.com(see our display ad, page 48)1-800-Violins is a full service music companythat brings music and glamour to all of itsengagements.Alcohol Party CateringServing Chicagoland and Suburbs815-873-0405 or 1-800-232-7631www.AlcoholPartyCatering.com(see our display ad, page 31)Alcohol Party Catering is a licensed andinsured, full service, beverage catering company, equipped to accommodate anytype or size event throughout Illinois. AlcoholParty Catering is the bar-tending answer foryour private party, wedding, corporate event,office party, Bar/Bat Mitzvah or celebration ofany kind.All Occasions Balloons Serving Chicagoland and Suburbs 630-690-1144www.UpWithBalloons.com (see our display ad, page 43)It's your party, make it a good one! Balloondecor for Bar/Bat MItzvahs, Weddings andany party in-between. Arches, canopies andevent decor with balloons, our specialty.Delivery to Chicagoland and suburbs.

Directory Of Resources 67Chicagoland Edition

Beauty By BrushServing Chicagoland and SuburbsOn Location!630-788-4222www.beautybybrush.com(see our display ad, page 22)On location airbrush makeup artist andlicensed esthetician for all special occasions.Christina Frances Photography4703 N. Rockwell St.Chicago, IL708-218-3369www.Christinafrancesphotography.com(see our display ad, page 56)Bar/Bat Mitzvah Fine Art Photography,Weddings, Children and Pet Portraits.Fancy Thattt657 Academy Dr.Northbrook, IL847-730-3089www.fancythattt.com(see our display ad, page 42)Personalized service for Bar/Bat Mitzvahsincluding customized centerpieces, backdrops,sign-in books, candle lighting, props, and dayof party service.G Catering and Events740 N. Rush StServing Chicagoland and SuburbsChicago, IL847-612-8263www.gcateringandevents.com(see our display ad, page 29)Full-service catering and event planning company serving Chicago and its neighboringsuburbs. Our team of seasoned industry professionals provide convenient cateringsolutions. Custom menus available.Hampton Inn & Suites Chicago North Shore5201 Old Orchard Rd.Skokie, IL847-583-1111 or 1-800-HAMPTONwww.northshoresuites.hamptoninn.com(see our display ad, page 11)Just minutes from the Windy City, treat yourout of town guests to North Shore's freshesthotel. Newly remodeled in 2010, theHampton Inn & Suites has maintained its #1ranking on TripAdvisor's Popularity Index forSkokie hotels. Experience a new definition ofhospitality; choose the Hampton Inn & Suitesfor your future family event. Stop by today &ask about our discounts for wedding and/orBar/Bat Mitzvah group rooms. With all theadded amenities included, we guarantee toprovide the best value in the North Shore.Home Care Assistance430 Green Bay RdKenilworth, IL847-853-7777www.HomeCareAssistance.com(see our display ad, page 54)We´ll care for your elderly guests. Personalassistance with dressing, transportation, andeverything during the event. Experience withMemory loss, Parkinson´s, Stroke care.Leading provider of senior home care in U.S.

Karen Saharack Calligraphy & Design876 Saybrook LaneBuffalo Grove, IL847-634-9221www.karensinvitations.com(see our display ad, page 44)For over 20 years, Karen Saharack has custom-designed & created hand-paintedinvitations and calligraphy for Mitzvahs, weddings, birthdays & corporate parties. Allwith personal service.Maxwell Street Klezmer Band4025 Harvard TerraceSkokie, IL847-675-4800www.klezmerband.com(see our display ad, page 47)Music with a Jewish soul–plus they play Jazzand Rock 'n' Roll! Since 1983, the top choicefor concerts and parties of all sizes.Miramar Bistro301 Waukegan Ave.Highwood, IL847-433-1078www.miramarbistro.com(see our display ad, page 68)We go above and beyond to make your eventpersonalized, with French Cuisine and aCuban Flare. Chef/Owner Gabriel Viti creates acustom fit for whatever the occasion.Weddings, Mitzvahs, Rehearsals, Receptions,Showers, Sweet 16's, brunch, cocktails, pri-vate, corporate events and more!Northside Brass317 Anderson Blvd.Geneva, IL630-715-2720www.northsidebrass.com(see our display ad, page 48)Elegant live music for all occasions.Specializing in Classical and Jazz, our smallchamber groups create a beautiful atmos-phere through music. Available for Bar/BatMitzvahs, Weddings, Rehearsal Dinners andall of your private and Jewish CommunityEvents and Fundraisers.

Photography &VideographyBeautiful Memories Photo360 E. Randolph St., Ste. 2803Chicago, IL312-650-5900www.beautifulmemoriesphoto.com(see our display ad, page 58)Beautiful Memories Photo is your photo-graphic and video specialist for Bar and BatMitzvahs throughout the Chicago regionincluding the North Shore, the WesternSuburbs and the bordering areas of Indiana.Christina Frances Photography4703 N. Rockwell St.Chicago, IL708-218-3369www.ChristinaFrancesPhotography.com(see our display ad, page 56)Bar/Bat Mitzvah Fine Art Photography,Weddings, Children and Pet Portraits.

Jeff Kovit Video ProductionsServing Chicagoland847-624-3752www.JeffKovitVideo.com(see our display ad, page 59)Professional quality video of Bar/BatMitzvahs, Weddings and Special Events atAffordable Pricing. Fully edited. We have apassion to capture your motion and emotion! Jody Garland Design & Photography2555 Gross Point Rd. Evanston, IL 847-707-4174www.jodygarland.com(see our display ad, page 56)Tradition with a twist. Fun, fresh photography. Complete Mitzvah packages$975. Digital files included. Team coverage of parties, studio lighting at temple. Themecenterpiece photography available. Memento Photo BoothChicago, IL312-981-0181 or 1-888-844-8389www.mementophotobooth.com(see our display ad, page 58)Memento is Chicago’s premier photo enter-tainment specialist. We offer photo booths forMitzvahs, weddings, and corporate events.Neil Gates PhotographyNaperville/Plainfield, IL630-428-4540www.NeilGatesPhotography.com(see our display ads, page 57)Neil Gates Photography for your Mitzvahs,Weddings, Receptions and Portraits.Dedicated to capturing every magicalmoment on your special Milestone Events.Digital files, albums and online print orderingavailable. Mitzvah photography from $950! Romy Modlin Photography, LLCDeerfield, IL847-840-2873www.romymodlin.com(see our display ad, page 59)Artistic photography for Bar Mitzvahs, BatMitzvahs, weddings and parties. Capturingthe essence of your special day and turning itinto beautiful memories to treasure for a lifetime. Affordable Packages.Tapsnap Photo Entertainment SystemServing Chicagoland and Suburbs708-785-5007 or 1-877-729-2715 ext. 1031www.tapsnap.net(see our display ad, page 47)Tapsnap is a revolutionary photo entertain-ment system that provides an open conceptphoto booth so everyone can join in the pic-ture and fun. Instantly shares pictures toFacebook and other social media. Providesdigital props for pictures, instant weddingphotos for your guests as favors and more.Sleek 42-inch multi-touch screen blends withany theme/decor. Interactive and fun for kidsand adults. Memories and photo sharing ofyour event, for all to see!

RentalSupplies/Linens M & M Special Events Serving all of Chicagoland & Suburbs630-871-9999www.mmspecialevents.com(see our display ad, page 42)

M&M is a comprehensive provider of eventrentals and decor, renting tents, chairs, linens,and more. M&M’s custom centerpieces, light-ing, and fabric make parties glow.SatinChair.comServing Chicagoland & Suburbs630-504-2009www.SatinChair.com(see our display ad, page 43)Rent unique decor for your special event.Chiavari Chairs, Spandex & Ruched ChairCovers, Uplights, Monogram Lighting, CustomLinens, Backdrops, Centerpieces, Dance FloorCovers, and Chuppahs.

TransportationAries Charter TransportationServing Chicagoland and Suburbs773-826-2000 or 1-888-305-8700www.ariescharter.com(see our display ad, page 60)Aries provides service for weddings,rehearsals, Bar/Bat Mitzvahs using a diversefleet of mini-buses, transit buses, limo-busesand motor coaches.Durham School Services - Charter Buses880 Rte. 83Grayslake, IL847-543-9244www.durhamschoolservices.com(see our display ad, page 60)We provide charter transportation servicesthroughout Chicagoland, and have a variety ofbus sizes to meet your needs. Call us today fora quote. PROMO CODE: BMJO1First Student Charter Bus RentalsAll of Chicagoland and Northern IL1-866-514-8747 (TRIP)www.firstcharterbus.com(see our display ad, page 60)For your Bar/Bat Mitzvah or Wedding ShuttleBus, call us! Count on First Student CharterBus Rentals to deliver a better way to meetyour travel plans. Whether you need on-siteshuttles, shuttles from site to site, or simpledelivery to a destination, we’ll make theentire process from estimating to executionsimple, smart and successful.

Other SponsorsIllinois Holocaust Museum9603 Woods Dr. Skokie, IL847-967-4800www.ilholocaustmuseum.org(see our display ad, page 59)Housed inside a stunning 65,000 square-footbuilding designed by renowned Chicagoarchitect Stanley Tigerman, the IllinoisHolocaust Museum & Education Center’s per-manent exhibition tells the story of theHolocaust through video testimonies and over500 extraordinary artifacts, documents andphotographs from local survivors. An early20th Century German rail car—of the typeused by the Nazis during the Holocaust—serves as the Museum’s central artifact.

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