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SCHOOL-AGED ANXIETY:WHAT’S TYPICAL AND WHEN SHOULD WE ASK FOR HELP?
Melissa A. Them, Ph.D.Licensed Clinical Psychologist
Specialist in Assessment and Treatment of Childhood Mental Health Disorders
Goals for Tonight
Differentiate between typical and atypical anxiety
Understand signs and symptoms of anxiety
Discuss strategies for encouraging students to cope with stress
Provide guidelines for parents Question & Answer
Typical Anxieties by Age
AGE ANXIETIES
7-9 months Stranger anxiety
1-4 years Separation anxiety
3-6 years Fears of imaginary things (ghosts, monsters, people in masks)Worries about the dark, the closet, what’s under the bed
7-12 years Real dangers (fires, burglars, storms, illness, drugs)Magical thinking (magic numbers, counting games)
12-14 years Worries stemming from social comparison (academic or athletic performance)
14-18+ years Concerns about social acceptance, moral issues, future plans
When has anxiety crossed over to disordered?
Signs of Significant Anxiety
Worry is excessive over seemingly insignificant situations
Worry and associated avoidance become the automatic responses in many situations
Subjective experience of feeling “on edge” or irritable
Support and coaxing are no longer effective
Perfectionism and extreme self-criticism
Signs of Significant Anxiety
Anxiety occurs most days for weeks or months Physical ailments are recurring (headaches,
stomach aches, nausea, vomiting) Avoidance is interfering with normal activities
(e.g., going to sleep, attending school) Child seeks excessive reassurance that does
not appear to relieve the anxiety Parents find themselves becoming extremely
frustrated with child’s worries or avoidant behaviors
So, what do we do???
Be Proactive
Develop Healthy Habits and Routines Family Mealtimes Bedtime Routines and Reasonable Bedtimes
7-12 years 10-11 hours 12-18 years 8-9 hours
Homework Routines and Time Management Exercise Relaxation and Down Time
Listen to your Child
Listen quietly and attentively Acknowledge his/her feelings with a word or two Give the feeling a name Understand that the fear is real to your child
and don’t minimize it All feelings can be accepted. Certain behaviors
must be limited. “I can see how worried you are
about this test, but you have to go to school. Let’s work together to find a way.”
The Anxiety Game
Anxiety is all offense and no defense Anxiety tells you there is something to fear
and – worse – you can’t handle it. Anxiety tells you to stay away Anxiety = AVOIDANCE
Winning the Game To beat anxiety, we must not avoid it Better yet, we could APPROACH it
Maintain Expectations
Keep things as typical as possible For instance, set and keep your expectations
that your child will attend school Don’t cater to fears
Support your child and provide encouragement for approaching them
Provide reinforcement Verbal praise Non-verbal signs of approval If helpful, positive contingencies
Where Can We Turn for Help?
School Personnel Guidance Counselors Social Workers School Psychologists
Outside Treatment Options Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy Medications
Some Common Concerns
Test Anxiety What is test anxiety?
Test anxiety is NOT a lack of test preparation Test anxiety occurs when a student is well-prepared,
but is excessively worried about an exam or enters an exam and his/her mind goes blank
Can include shakiness, nausea, light-headedness, etc.
What to do Study in advance Ask for help Challenge negative thinking Healthy habits (eat and sleep) Encourage compassion for mistakes
Some Common Concerns
Social Media Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, gChat Distraction from homework Failure to
prepare Cyber-bullying School avoidance
Cell Phones Texting distraction, disruption of sleep,
cyber-bullying
Questions?
1 Pine West Plaza, Suite 106Albany, NY 12205Phone: 518-218-1188 Fax: 518-218-1988E-mail: [email protected]
Hours:Monday – Friday8:30am – 5:00pm
Weekend and evening appointments by request
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