Maximised Manhood by Dr. Edwin Louis Cole

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Maximised Manhoodby

Dr. Edwin Louis Cole

Lessons 4 to 6

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Primary Syllabus

3Dr. Edwin Louis Cole“Build Men - Raise Sons”

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Maximised Manhood

Chapter Five & SixLesson 4

“There’s a hole in the door”

5“There’s a Hole in the Door”

Lesson 4 - Chapter 5I. “There’s a Hole in the Door”.(A) Forgiveness is always a release.

(page 53)

Write out Psalm 103:12As far as the east is from the west, So far has He removed our transgressions from usTransgression = Sin = Iniquity

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(A) Men need to learn forgiveness.

Ephesians 4:32

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, __________, even as God for Christ's sake hath ___________ you. (KJV)

“There’s a Hole in the Door”

Lesson 4 - Chapter 5

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(A) Men need to learn forgiveness.

Ephesians 4:32

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one forgiving one anotheranother, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgivenforgiven you. (KJV)



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(B) Unforgiveness binds you to one who has wrong you.

Unforgiveness towards an abusive parent can often birth the same sin as yourself. (page 54)



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1 Read John 20:23

Whosesoever sins ye remit, they are remitted unto them; and whosesoever sins ye retain, they are retained. (KJV)



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2 Name people in your life whom youhave NOTNOT forgiven.

3 Review your list carefully. Are you in any way reapingreaping what they they sowedsowed?



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C) It is part of maximized manhood, and it is ____________ to give and receive forgiveness. (page 57).



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C) It is part of maximized manhood, and it is Christlikeness Christlikeness to give and receive forgiveness. (page 57)



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D) Circle one to complete the sentence: (page 58)

Sins are often passed from generation to generation because they are:

a) inherited b) genetically-based c) not forgiven



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(D) Circle one to complete the sentence: (page 58)

Sins are often passed from generation to generation because they are:

a) inherited b) genetically-based c) not forgivennot forgiven



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A) Balance is the key to life, therefore men must learn to beboth (page 61)

_________ and _________

“Tender and Tough”Lesson 4 - Chapter 6

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A) Balance is the key to life, therefore men must learn to be both

(page 61)

tender tender and toughtough


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List three ideas of how balance can be kept when dealing with children (page 61)

1. _____2. _____3. _____


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List three ideas of how balance can be kept when dealing withchildren. (page 61)

1. Reward & punishmentReward & punishment2. Caress & spankingCaress & spanking3. Commendation & correctionCommendation & correction


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B) Think of Bible stories you know and list a few examples of Jesus tenderness._____


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C) The highest good of every individual is to be like Jesus …..

So Manhood and ChristliknessManhood and Christliknessare synonymousare synonymous. (page 63)


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Romans 8:29

For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the imageimage of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren. (KJV)


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D) John 15:1-2"I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. (NIV)


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Read Luke 13:6-9Then he told this parable: "A man had a fig tree, planted in his vineyard, and he went to look for fruit on it, but did not find any.

So he said to the man who took care of the vineyard, `For three years now I've been coming to look for fruit on this fig tree and haven't found any. Cut it down! Why should it use up the soil?’


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"Sir,' the man replied, `leave it alone for one more year, and I'll dig around it and fertilize it. If it bears fruit next year, fine! If not, then cut it down." (NIV)


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The fruit God expects from our lives as men is: Circle one: (page 64)

a) angelic characterb) manhoodc) hard work


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The fruit God expects from our lives as men is:Circle one: (page 64)

a) angelic characterb) manhoodmanhoodc) hard work


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Fill in the blank (page 65)

Jesus effectively said in John 15:2:

“If it doesn’t produce________”


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2. Fill in the blank (page 65)

Jesus effectively said in John 15:2: “If it doesn’t produce lop it off”lop it off”


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E) Fill in the blank (page 66)

The Kingdom of God is based on truth, not on human ________.


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E) Fill in the blank (page 66)

The Kingdom of God is based on truth, not on human sentiment.sentiment.


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F) Read Joshua 24:15 And if it seems evil to you to serve the

Lord, choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”


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(F) Fill in the blank (page 69)

Women desire their men to make _______.


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F) Fill in the blank (page 69)

Women desire their men to make decisions.decisions.


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G) Fill in the blank (page 71)

Maturity doesn’t come with age, but with acceptance of __________.


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G) Fill in the blank (page 71)

Maturity doesn’t come with age, but with acceptance of responsibility.responsibility.


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H) No one can be responsible for success unless he is willing to accept the responsibility for: (page 71)

a) his wifeb) moneyc) failure


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(H) No one can be responsible for success unless he is willing to accept the responsibility for: (page 71)

a) his wifeb) moneyc) failurefailure


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I) The more Word you have in you, the more ________ you become. (page 73)


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I) The more Word you have in you, the more Christ likeChrist like you become. (page 73)


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J) Circle all that apply (page 74)

What challenged the prodigal was: new clothes accepting responsibility for his actions repentance the fatted calf asking for forgiveness pigs


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J) Circle all that apply (page 74)What challenged the prodigal was: new clothes accepting responsibility for his accepting responsibility for his

actionsactions repentancerepentance the fatted calf asking for forgivenessasking for forgiveness pigs


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Practical1 If we fail to act in truth because of

sentiment, the consequences can be tragic

Read See 1 Samuel 2:12-26 & 3:13-14 about Eli & his sons


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1 Samuel 2:12-26 Now the sons of Eli were corrupt; they did not know the Lord. And the priests’ custom with the people was that when any man offered a sacrifice, the priest’s servant would come with a three-pronged fleshhook in his hand while the meat was boiling. Then he would thrust it into the pan, or kettle, or caldron, or pot; and the priest would take for himself all that the fleshhook brought up.


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So they did in Shiloh to all the Israelites who came there. Also, before they burned the fat, the priest’s servant would come and say to the man who sacrificed, “Give meat for roasting to the priest, for he will not take boiled meat from you, but raw.”


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16 And if the man said to him, “They should really burn the fat first; then you may take as much as your heart desires,” he would then answer him, “No, but you must give it now; and if not, I will take it by force.”Therefore the sin of the young men was very great before the Lord, for men abhorred the offering of the Lord.


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Samuel’s Childhood Ministry 18 But Samuel ministered before the Lord, even as a child, wearing a linen ephod. Moreover his mother used to make him a little robe, and bring it to him year by year when she came up with her husband to offer the yearly sacrifice. And Eli would bless Elkanah and his wife, and say,


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“The Lord give you descendants from this woman for the loan that was given to the Lord.” Then they would go to their own home. And the Lord visited Hannah, so that she conceived and bore three sons and two daughters. Meanwhile the child Samuel grew before the Lord.


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22 Now Eli was very old; and he heard everything his sons did to all Israel, and how they lay with the women who assembled at the door of the tabernacle of meeting. So he said to them, “Why do you do such things? For I hear of your evil dealings from all the people. No, my sons!


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For it is not a good report that I hear. You make the Lord’s people transgress. If one man sins against another, God will judge him. But if a man sins against the Lord, who will intercede for him?” Nevertheless they did not heed the voice of their father, because the Lord desired to kill them.And the child Samuel grew in stature, and sin favour both with the Lord and men.


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2 Samuel 3:13-14For I have told him that I will judge his house forever for the iniquity which he knows, because his sons made themselves vile, and he did not restrain them. And therefore I have sworn to the house of Eli that the iniquity of Eli’s house shall not be atoned for by sacrifice or offering forever.”


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List times when you’ve been guilty of acting on sentiment rather than truth.1. _____2. _____3. _____4. _____5. _____


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2 Consider the types of wrong decisions mentioned on page 69:

(a) Decisions based on personal preferences or selfish gratification rather than what is best to the followers.

(b) No decision (a decision by default).(c) Indecisiveness (which creates instability).


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2 Reflect back, and name times when you were guilty of each.Write on these three most affects you (not necessary to write down).

What can you do about it?

What will you do about it this week?


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Prayer: Father, You know my heart and You see what I am writing on these pages. I ask you to help me accept responsibility and become truly mature in ever area of my manhood. I submit to You my errors of the past, thank You for Your forgiveness, and ask You to help me go forward with good balance, good decisions, and a better relationship with You and all those around me. Amen


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1. Leadership in the home requires both _____ and _____.

2. Unforgiveness _____ you to the sin of the one who has wronged you.

3. Sins are inherited. ___ True ____ False

“Tender and Tough”Lesson 4 - Self Test

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1. Leadership in the home requires both toughnesstoughness and tendernesstenderness.

2. Unforgiveness bindsbinds you to the sin of the one who has wronged you.

3. Sins are inherited. ___ True ___ False


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4. There are times when God requires you to be “rough” in your leadership at home.___ True ___ False

5. Our God looks for fruitfulness in our lives. The fruit He expects from us is manhood.One of the principles of the kingdom is, if it isn’t producing, _____.


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4. There are times when God requires you to be “rough” in your leadership at home.___ True ___ False

5. Our God looks for fruitfulness in our lives. The fruit He expects from us is manhood.One of the principles of the kingdom is, if it isn’t producing, purge it or lop it offpurge it or lop it off.


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6. The major issue in becoming "mature" in our manhood is learning to _____ for our decisions.

7. What are some areas in which I need to be tougher on myself?__________


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6. The major issue in becoming "mature" in our manhood is learning to accept accept responsibilityresponsibility for our decisions.

7. What are some areas in which I need to be tougher on myself?__________


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8. What are some areas in which I need to be more tender with those I lead?

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9. What are some areas in which I need to be more decisive?

_____


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Maximised Manhood

Chapter SevenLesson 5

“Is there a Priest in the House”

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“Is There a Priest in the House?”Lesson 5 - Chapter 7

I) “Is there a Priest in the Home”A) The priest not only ministers to the Lord,

but to the ones entrusted to his care. (page 75-76)

In your own words, what are major areas of your life that you are responsible for as a minister?

___________________________

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A) The priest not only ministers to the Lord, but to the ones entrusted to his care. (page 75-76)

In your own words, what are major areas of your life that you are responsible for as a minister?

Family, work, sport, church … Family, work, sport, church … everywhereeverywhere


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B) As a priest of the home, you must pray with and for your wife (page 77)

1. You become ______ with the one to whom you pray, the one for

whom you pray, and the one with you pray.

2. Prayer produces _________

“Is There a Priest in the House?”


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(B) As a priest of the home, you must pray with and for your wife (page 77)

1 You become intimateintimate with the one to whom you pray, the one for whom you pray, and the one with you pray.

2 Prayer produces

intimacyintimacy.


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C) Fill in the blanks:1 Sexual relations are one thing:

___________ is another. If you really want to be one with your wife, then pray for her and with her. (page 78).

2 Read Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they ______? (KJV)


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C) Fill in the blanks:1. Sexual relations are one thing:

spiritual unionspiritual union is another. If you really want to be one with your wife, then pray for her and with her.(page 78)

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2. Read Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they agree toagree to? (KJV)



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D) Some women try to play God. Read 2 Samuel 6:20-23 - David & Michal.

Then David returned to bless his household. And Michal the daughter of Saul came out to meet David, and said, “How glorious was the king of Israel today, uncovering himself today in the eyes of the maids of his servants, as one of the abase fellows shamelessly uncovers himself!”


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So David said to Michal, “It was before the Lord, who chose me instead of your father and all his house, to appoint me ruler over the people of the Lord, over Israel. Therefore I will play music before the Lord. And I will be even more undignified than this, and will be humble in my own sight. But as for the maidservants of whom you have spoken, by them I will be held in honor.” Therefore Michal the daughter of Saul had no children to the day of her death.



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Look up John 6:44 and write it out

No one can come to Me unless the Father who sent Me draws him; and I will raise him up at the last day.


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Who draws a man to God? (page 80) _______________


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Who draws a man to God? (page 80) The The Holy SpiritHoly Spirit


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3. Women need to ______ their husbands for his sin and love ___ (page 81).


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3. Women need to forgiveforgive their husbands for his sin and love himhim. (page 81).


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E) Men can change ____. Only God can change a _____. (page 81).


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E) Men can change habithabit. Only God can change a naturenature. (page 81).


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Read 2 Corinthians 5:17 and fill in the blanks

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a _____ _____: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. (KJV)


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Read 2 Corinthians 5:17 and fill in the blanks

Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creationnew creation: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. (KJV)


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F) A man ministers to his wife by giving her assurance.

1. Every woman needs to know she is _____ to her man. (page 82)


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F) A man ministers to his wife by giving her assurance.

1. Every woman needs to know she is uniqueunique to her man. (page 82)


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2. Read Proverbs 31:28Her children rise up and call her blessed; Her husband also, and he praises her:

In your own words describe how you can minister to a wife’s uniqueness._____


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3. You are ________ to what you confess. (page 82)


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3. You are committedcommitted to what you confess. (page 82)


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G) Everything in life is ______.(page 84)


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G) Everything in life is ministry.ministry.(page 84)


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H) You are only a ______ of your wife’s love, not a possessor of it. (page 85)


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H) You are only a stewardsteward of your wife’s love, not a possessor of it. (page 85)


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I) Look up 1 Timothy 3:5for if a man does not know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the church of God?

What is a man’s priority (circle one)?1) church2) earning a living3) ministering to his family


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What is a man’s priority (circle one)?

1) church2) earning a living3) ministering to his familyministering to his family


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J) Read 1 Corinthians 4:2 and fill in the blank:

Moreover it is required in stewards, that a man be found _________.

(KJV)


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J) Read 1 Corinthians 4:2 and fill in the blank:

Moreover it is required in stewards, that a man be found faithfulfaithful. (KJV)



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Practical1 What are some specific areas where

you can strengthen your position as the priest of your home?_______________


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2. Think about your family life, and write some thoughts down on paper. THEN go to your wife and ask her to join you in prayer for those matters. Don’t promise to do it regularly. Just DO ITJust DO IT regularly.

(Sometimes she can’t hear your words because your actions are too loud).


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3. Look your wife in the eyes TODAY, and tell her how special she is to you.

4) Plan your next ‘honeymoon’ now, spending at lest one night away from home.


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PRAYER: Father, in Jesus Name, forgive me for not being a priest in my home. Help me be faithful to come to You, and then to my wife. Forgive me for prayerlessness in my home. I make the decision today, to be a man of prayer, and a tender but firm priest in my home. Open my eyes to ways I can minister to my wife and help me be faithful to minister to her daily. Help me remember this lesson, and make new habits in my marriage and home. Thank You Father for hearing me. Amen



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1. As the priest of the home, I minister not only to the Lord, but also to _____

2. Prayer produces _____.


Lesson 5 - Self Test

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1. As the priest of the home, I minister not only to the Lord, but also to the ones the ones entrusted to his careentrusted to his care.

2. Prayer produces intimacyintimacy.



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3. Every woman needs to know she is _____.

4. Ministry is defined as preaching.___ True ____ False



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3. Every woman needs to know she is unique.

4. Ministry is defined as preaching.___ True ___ False



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5. In your own words, in what areas of life is a man responsible to minister?Pray for her …_____

6. A man never stops ministering. ____ True ___ False



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5. In your own words, in what areas of life is a man responsible to minister?Pray for her …_____

6. A man never stops ministering. ___ True ___ False



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Maximised Manhood

Chapter EightLesson 6

“The One Dollar Tip”

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“The One Dollar Tip”Lesson 6 - Chapter 8

I. “The One Dollar Tip”A) Write out 1 Peter 3:7

Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

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1 If you do not treat your wife right, your ______ will not get ready answers (page 89).


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1. If you do not treat your wife right, your prayers prayers will not get ready answers (page 89).


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2 If your own words, name some effects in life that come from God not answering you:

_______________


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2. If your own words, name some effects in life that come from God not answering you:

Spiritual & emotional death and Spiritual & emotional death and at the extreme physical deathat the extreme physical death


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B) Assumption is life’s _____ level of knowledge (page 91).


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B) Assumption is life’s lowestlowest level of knowledge (page 91).


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C) Self-justification makes you right in _______ eyes by placing _____ on someone else. (pages 91-92)


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C) Self-justification makes you right in your ownyour own eyes by placing blameblame on someone else. (pages 91-92)


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D) When the man treats his wife like a chattel instead of a joint heir, the ______ observe it and reflect the same attitude. (page 93)


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D) When the man treats his wife like a chattel instead of a joint heir, the

childrenchildren observe it and reflect the same attitude. (page 93)


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E) When something _________, it gains in value (page 93).

When something _________, it loses in value (page 93).


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E) When something appreciatesappreciates,it gains in value (page 93).

When something depreciatesdepreciates, it loses in value (page 93).


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F) When a woman is appreciated, she gains value in (circle as many as apply)

a) your eyesb) her eyesc) her children’s eyes(page 93)


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F) When a woman is appreciated, she gains value in (circle as many as apply)

a) your eyesa) your eyesb) her eyesb) her eyesc) her children’s eyesc) her children’s eyes(page 93)


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A) good spiritB) hospitalityC) steady workerD) devotionE) loyaltyF) good mother

G) desire for goodnessH) humourH) responds to loveJ) attention to detailK) retains friendshipsL) future-minded

G) What positive attributes can you say your your wife haswife has, even if only partially (circle as many as apply)?


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G) How can we bring out her strengths?

1. _____2. _____3. _____4. _____


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G) How can we bring out her strengths?

1. Encouragement, Encouragement, 2. Prayer, Prayer, 3. Support, Support, 4. Love, etcLove, etc


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Practical1 Have you allowed yourself to make jokes

about your wife (not necessary to write down)?

Are there areas of her life that you habitually murmur about, even though joking?


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What can you say in place of such jokes?

Write out appropriate phrases to say to your wife regularly.

Commit them to memory & commit to the Lord to use them.


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2 A ‘one dollar tip’ may offend women whose husbands have more than a dollar to share. Others might not have as such as a dollar to give. What can you give to your wife that would be meaningful to her now.


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PRAYER: Father, in Jesus Name, I desire for my wife to be completely comfortable around me. I want her to know that she is safe when I am around, especially when we’re with others. Please forgive me for knowingly or unknowingly hurting my wife by my choice of words and jokes. Help me to listen to her and to value what she says, even when I don’t agree. I determine right now to build my wife up, not only when in public, but also when we’re all alone. I ask You to help me achieve these goals so that our marriage brings glory to You. Thank You, Father. Amen


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1. 1 Peter 3:7 (KJV). Fill in the blank from memory.

"Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; _____ be not hindered."

“The One Dollar Tip”Lesson 6 - Self Test

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1. 1 Peter 3:7 (KJV). Fill in the blank from memory.

"Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayersthat your prayers be not hindered."


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2. One of the lowest levels of knowledge is _____.

3. Children will pick up from _____ their attitude toward their mother.


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2. One of the lowest levels of knowledge is assumptionassumption.

3. Children will pick up from the manthe man their attitude toward their mother.


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4. Murmuring against your wife will keep you from having a maximised marriage.___ True ___ False

5. When something "appreciates," it _____ in value.


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4. Murmuring against your wife will keep you from having a maximised marriage.___ True ___ False

5. When something "appreciates," it gainsgains in value.


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