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Love and other Fatalities.
Rhett Butler and Scarlett O'Hara. Scarlett O'Hara and Rhett Butler. No matter how
you say it, those names were destined to go hand-in-hand, up there with the likes of
Paris and Helen of Troy, Jack and Rose a la Titanic, Romeo and Juliet. But what do
all these stories have in common? Two lovers facing adversity. Fiercely passionate
women, heartrendingly romantic men and, of course, tragedy.
Romeo and Juliet took their own lives to be together. Jack gave up his life to
save Rose's when after the Titanic's demise. And in 'Gone with the Wind'? Scarlett
realises she has been in love with the ever-present Rhett when it is too late, when
she has finally got everything that she has ever wanted except the thing she has
always had but never wanted, Rhett. Which is perhaps the most tragic ending of all.
Love, as we are all constantly reminded, is complicated. A complicated, messy,
painful affair. But in literature, or on the big screen, it becomes tragic, heart-
wrenching, fatal. Let's take Margaret Mitchell's iconic American Civil War biopic
'Gone with the Wind' as an example. The tale unfolds in correlation with the
significant events of the Civil War of the 1800's between the Southern Confederates
and the Northern Yankees. We as the audience are firmly placed in favour of the
doomed Confederates, since it is within the Southern county of Georgia that our
reluctant heroine is thriving on the eve of the Civil War declaration. In pre-War
Georgia, which is where the story is established, we see for the first time the
beautiful but eternally selfish Scarlett O'Hara thriving; a beautiful county belle of a
rich noble ancestry, with slaves, money and rich, handsome suitors aplenty. Flirting,
dancing and tricking men into declaring their undying love for her were Scarlett's
favourite past-times. Her beauty and quick wit meant that there was not a man in the
County who could resist her charmsexcept Ashley Wilkes. A rich and handsome
neighbour of Scarlett's, a fellow County plantation-owner's son, with the world, and
the Wilkes family fortune, at his feet, but on the verge of an impending betrothal to
his cousin Melanie.
Of course, like every hot-blooded, passionate, beautiful woman, Scarlett
relishes a challenge. She wants Ashley, despite his betrothal to another woman and
her having every other eligible bachelor in the County on a shoe-string. In true
O'Hara fashion, she won't settle for anything less. What Scarlett O'Hara wants, she
gets. By any means necessary. When she tells Ashley before his engagement that
she is in love with him, and he tells her that he is to honour his promise to marryMelanie despite his attraction to her, Scarlett abandons her ladylike performance and
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shows her true colours -- brash, unladylike, selfish, passionate, violent,
temperamental. All the things she tries hard to masquerade from her suitors. After
her violent outburst to Ashley that ends in her throwing an ornament in her
frustration, Rhett Butler makes his untimely appearance, taunting her for having seen
her outburst, and now has the ammunition of knowing Scarlett's deepest secret of
her harboured feelings for Ashley. The subsequent conversational exchange
between the two sets the tone for their ongoing relationship: turbulent, violent, mis-
communicational. With Rhett's wit overshadowing hers, for the first time she has
found someone who could challenge her. As a result, Scarlett is at a loss of how to
deal with this handsome stranger who knows more about her than she can stand,
and who is seemingly immune to her beauty and charm. Thus begins a turbulent
love affair, a roller-coaster of miscommunication, misplaced feelings,
misunderstandings and missed opportunities.
The book is a documentation of the constant love-triangle of the three
protagonists: Scarlett is continually in love with Ashley, whose feelings are
reciprocated despite his marriage to her sister-in-law Melanie; yet Scarlett too is
twice married to men she has never loved (once to Melanie's brother out of spite and
once to wealthy businessman Frank Kennedy for money). Despite the competition
for Scarlett's affections, Rhett is secretly but completely, passionately, hopelessly in
love with her. Being the self-professed reprobate that he is, Rhett taunts her and
denies his feelings for her, but he lets his guard down and reveals his true feelings
for her on many occasions but to no avail, as Scarlett is too completely besotted with
Ashley to see what has always been in front of her.
Rhett and Scarlett's relationship is an emotional roller-coaster, consisting of
mainly antagonism and taunting, yet there is an undertone of genuine affection that
is felt between the couple, as he is the only person who understands the real
Scarlett, and he is the only one to whom she shows her true malicious, selfish,
egotistical, money-obsessed self to. Whilst she is blissfully unaware of the secret
feelings she harbours for Rhett, he doesn't reciprocate the same level of ignorance.
He knows that he loves her, and despite telling her that he is not a marrying man,
after the demise of her second husband Frank Kennedy, Rhett proposes to her. Of
course, if he tells Scarlett that he wants to marry her out of love, he knows Scarlett
would manipulate him as she has done to her countless beaux over the years, so he
feigns indifference and marries Scarlett so that she can have access to his vast
wealth, hoping that in time she will reciprocate his feelings if he is able to give her
everything she has always dreamed of.
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The marriage starts out as a happy one. Scarlett is happy that she is rich again,
and Rhett is content to spoil Scarlett like a child, waiting patiently for the time when
she gradually realises that she loves him. Of course, this time never comes, as
Scarlett is still dreaming of Ashley. Upon the birth of their first child together, Rhett's
interest in Scarlett begins to diminish, as he puts all his energy into caring for their
daughter, who loves Rhett unconditionally. He spoils Bonnie like he used to spoil
Scarlett, which elicits her jealousy. Things begin to deteriorate between Rhett and
Scarlett. She is infuriated that he is lavishing attention on their daughter and no
longer on her, whilst Rhett is inwardly seething that she has not yet forgotten Ashley.
One night, when Rhett has been heavily drinking, he vows to make Scarlett "forget
about that Ashley Wilkes once and for all!" and whisks her up to their bedroom. The
next morning, Scarlett wakes up truly happy, as she has seemingly recaptured
Rhett's attention. For the first time, she looks forward to seeing Rhett, and we as theaudience for the first time are hopeful for the two lovers. Maybe this will mark the
start of their newly awakened, reciprocal love. But upon Rhett's entrance, he is cold
and indifferent towards Scarlett, leaving her at a complete loss about how to act with
him, and does the only thing she knows how -- she becomes angry and hurtful.
Misinterpreting the situation, upset that his plan hasn't worked and assuming that
Scarlett doesn't, nor has ever, loved him, he is utterly defeated and takes Bonnie on
an extended trip to get away from Scarlett.
On their return some weeks later, Scarlett is apprehensive. During their time
apart she has come to miss Rhett immensely, and has discovered news of which
she was uncharacteristically optimistic: their night of passion before Rhett's
impromptu departure has led to Scarlett becoming pregnant. Since she knows how
much Rhett dotes on their daughter, she is hoping that this will fix their deteriorating
relationship. When he comes back and she tells him, he is thrilled, but feigns
indifference because he thinks she doesn't want any more children. Thinking that he
is uninterested, she is disappointed - She craved the passion, love, attention he
lavished on her at the start of their relationship. Wanting to hurt her as she has hurt
him, Rhett tells her "Cheer up, my dear, maybe you'll have a miscarriage", to which
Scarlett lashes out at him, trips, and tumbles down the stairs. Looking utterly
devastated, we realise that Rhett never meant what he said, and wanted both
Scarlett and their unborn child as vehemently as he dismissed them.
As Rhett had ironically foreshadowed, Scarlett lost their baby, and her road to
recovery was hard. He waited outside her door every day to see if she called for him.
She never did. In her sick-bed, she called for him, waiting for him to come to her. Henever did. Both think the other doesn't care. They both do, but they never realise
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until it is too late.
When Scarlett makes a full recovery, their relationship has never been worse.
They have both completely misunderstood each other, and have convinced
themselves that the other does not love them, when they both are completely and
secretly in love with the other. Who said the road to true love was easy? But they
both stayed together for the sake of their child, and were still civil to each other for
their daughter. One day shortly after the accident, Rhett's determination that Bonnie
should be a good horse rider led to Bonnie aiming a high jump on her pony. As she
was gearing up for the jump, Scarlett had a flashback to her father's death, a broken
neck due to a miscalculated jump on his horse, and screamed at Bonnie to stop. She
didn't, and as a result she was catapulted off her horse and broke her neck, just like
her late grandfather, like Scarlett had foreseen. Scarlett was devastated, but Rhettwas inconsolable. He saw Bonnie as Scarlett, and her death marked the beginning
of the end for Scarlett and Rhett's already deteriorating marriage.
Wanting to hurt Rhett for all the emotional pain he had caused, she blamed him
for Bonnie's death because he taught her to ride and had spoilt her so much that
Bonnie had become more pig-headed than even Scarlett. Rhett, too, channelled his
devastation into lashing out at Scarlett. Their relationship was worse than ever, and
after Bonnie's funeral Melanie, the one person who had been there for Scarlett
throughout the trials and tribulations of her life, collapsed after falling pregnant again.
The birth of her son Beau nearly killed Melanie, and the strain of her miscarriage
during the second, ill-fated pregnancy, was the last straw. Melanie was dying. Her
dying words to Scarlett were informing her that Rhett loved her more than she
realised, and made Scarlett promise that she would look after both Ashley and Beau.
Melanie died without ever knowing about Scarlett and Ashley's betrayal, and this
was all it took for Scarlett to realise how much she had always loved Melanie,
despite everything she had put Melanie through.
This was it, this was what Scarlett had always wanted. Melanie was gone,
Rhett had asked for a divorce. Scarlett and Ashley were now free to marry each
other, like she had always wanted. But in true Scarlett O'Hara fashion, she still
wasn't happy. Now she had what she always wanted, she realised that this was
never what she wanted. She knew, in that moment, that Ashley had always loved
Melanie, not her. It was with this realisation, and her rejection of Ashley, that she
suddenly, passionately, instantly knew what, and who, she had always wanted:
Rhett, who had been there, who had loved her, all along.
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Racing home to tell him, she was dismayed to find him packing. He was leaving
her. Like the Rhett Butler she had always known and loved, he was stubborn,
refusing to make her declaration easy. She told him everything, from her happiness
at the pregnancy to the fact that she called for him every day during her
convalescence and her disappointment when he didn't come to her. Laughing
humourlessly at the irony of their crossed paths and miscommunications, Rhett tells
her that it is hopeless, that he had always loved her, but now that Bonnie had gone,
so had their hope at happiness. Despite Scarlett trying in vain to make him stay,
Rhett's answer to Scarlett's pleas of love were answered with a quick wit and an
even quicker exit. It was all over, the fights, the double entendres, the missed
opportunities, the passion, their unrequited love for each other. In eight words, it was
all over. "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn".
How is that for tragic? Just as Scarlett realises that it is, and has always been,
Rhett whom she loves, he falls out of love with her. Boom, it all comes crashing
down. While the entire duration of the book makes us despise Scarlett for all her
selfishness, pigheadedness, vanity, manipulation and downright stubbornness, we
do feel sorry for her at the end for not only realising that the man she had lusted over
for nigh-on 20 years was a fragment of her imagination, a mere screen onto which
she projected her own fantasies of what she wanted Ashley to be, but also because
she, through her realisation, loses the only man she has ever really loved. She
realises everything that Rhett said was true: she would never be happy with Ashley
because they are so different, and that she is in love with the idea of Ashley, her
amalgamation of him, not the person himself. He continually told her that she needed
someone who knew her, who was so infinitely like her, in order to be happy. He also
prophesied that, should she continue lusting after the physically- and emotionally-
unavailable Ashley, she was "throwing away happiness with both hands". Should
she have listened to Rhett, she may well have got her fairytale ending. But as it
stands, she was blinded by her own ignorance. Ignorance was the fatality of Scarlett
O'Hara and Rhett Butler. And that is more infinitely tragic than death, the knowledge
that Scarlett O'Hara and Rhett Butler, despite their interweaving fate, will never find
happiness. This is more of a fatality than Jack Dawson's death, than Romeo and
Juliet's double suicide. These merely marked the end of their lives, Scarlett and
Rhett's was the death of their love, a love that would never again be reignited.