Lecture Europaforum Bridging The Ages Van Tol Lions

Bridging the ages: Lecture R. van Tol MMC CMC Lions Europaforum 2012

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Exploring ways

of age diversity

and connection


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FOR TOMORROW Outline

• Short introduction into aging

• Introduction in life phases theory Lievegoed

• In depth 40 – 70 years

• Abilities and skills developed in phases

• Shared topics and shared meanings ?

How to connect in a club?


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FOR TOMORROW About aging

• We grow older

– Life expectancy grew by 15 years

– Average lifetime + 7 years

man woman

average lifetime

70,4

72,7

76

80,7

1950 2012


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FOR TOMORROW About aging (2)

• ‘Fertility’ rate went down

3-4 2-3 1-2 0-1

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<20 jaar 20-40 40-65 65-80 >80

37,3

29,4

25,6

6,7

1

24 26

35,3

11

3,8

share population rel age category

1950 2008

Result of aging

• 1950: 66% - 33%

• 2008: 50% - 50%


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FOR TOMORROW AGING IS

NOT A

PROBLEM,

IT IS A

BLESSING


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FOR TOMORROW A different angle?

• Awareness of life phases

• Discovering topics in life phases

• Gaining abilities

• Connection opportunities.

• Understanding


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FOR TOMORROW Bernard Lievegoed

• 1905 - 1992

• Anthroposophist

• Psychiatrist and Pediatrician

• Organization expert

• Developed life phases theory

– Book: ‘Phases’

“… an insight of one’s own life and recognition of the biographic development

of others.”


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FOR TOMORROW Explaining theory

• Why: different way of looking at life

– Life time and life time

• Layer 1: Structure & overview

• Layer 2: Phases 40 – 70 detailed

• Layer 3: Opportunities and abilities


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FOR TOMORROW The theory

Spiritual and social development

Psychic development

20 30 40 60 80 66% - 50% 33% - 50%

Physical development

7 42 21 63 70


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FOR TOMORROW 10 stages of 7 years

0 – 21 years

• Welcome and

wondering

• Childhood and

fantasy

• Puberty and

adolescence

21 – 42 years

• First maturity &

partners

• Social position &

power

• Crisis of values

42 – 70 and beyond

• Midlife crisis &

talent

• Eminent leadership

• Detachment &

priorities

• Evaluation and

creativity


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FOR TOMORROW Suppose you are about 35…

• A nice family

• A satisfying income

• A good position • A rewarding job • Power to take decisions

• The world’s an oyster.

• A result from your fifth life stage: striving for position and power


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FOR TOMORROW Crisis of values

• 35 – 42 years

• Questioning the values of your achievements

• Questioning your value system

• Value system apt for matter

• Value system not for social context

• What is life about?


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FOR TOMORROW The forties: doubt and wonder

• Experiencing physical decline

• Wish: redoing the expansive phase,

now with experience

• Realization of ones’ goal in life

• Whom does my talent serve?

– "You can't get very far until you

start doing something for somebody

else." Melvin Jones


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FOR TOMORROW The choice

Spiritual and social development

Psychic development

20 30 40 60 80 66% - 50% 33% - 50%


7 42 21 63 70


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FOR TOMORROW The fifties: eminence

• Idealization of one’s own experience

• ‘Today’s youngsters’.

– “Nowadays our youth has…bad manners, despises authority and has no respect

for the elderly. They prefer chit chat to training. They contradict their

parents… and tyrannize their teachers.”

• Versus

– Mildness: A distant perspective to daily problems

• “The highest result of education is tolerance.” H. Keller

– Joy in seeing youngsters grow

• Accepted advisor and coach

– Creating a masterpiece

Socrates, 470 – 399 BC

http://www.quotationspage.com/quote/3223.html


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FOR TOMORROW Early sixties: Stirb und werde

• Reliving values

–What is so valuable to take with me

• Evaluating one´s values versus society

• Priorities and detachment

• Creating a legacy / statue


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FOR TOMORROW Mid sixties - seventies

• Inner world

• Evaluation

• Creativity and freedom

• Advisory and coaching work?


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FOR TOMORROW Achievements

Psychic development

20 30 40 60 80 66% - 50% 33% - 50%


7 42 21 63 70

position doubt

serve from talent

mild and master

acceptance coaching


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FOR TOMORROW Abilities

• Position – competing

• Doubt – research – questioning

• Serving from talent – self reflecting – intuition

• Mildness and mastering – put in perspective –

perseverance

• Coaching – empathy, discovering needs

• Acceptance – letting go, being


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FOR TOMORROW The meeting

• 45 – 55 year old

• Doubts one’s values

• Searching for the grail

• Finding the grail

• Creating the masterpiece

• 60 – 70 year old

• Prioritisation and

creativity

• Advisory / coaching work

• Evaluating societal values

• Detachment


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FOR TOMORROW The efforts, the fun and the meaning

• Coaches for masters?

• Learning to be coach?

• Putting talent to work?

• Putting talent to society?

• Empowering society?

• Tolerance as therapy of acceptance?


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