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Sibling Competition:Not of the Olympic Sort

A BASKET CASEover housework

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A basket case over housework

Editors note: This column,which originally ran in 2005, isublished again today because

the columnist is on vacation

rom both her day job and,quite happily, housework. Inthe past seven years, her viewson cleaning remain unchanged,unlike the bed sheets and thebath towels.

I was enjoying dessert with adear friend on a recent Sundayevening when she stood up anddiscreetly disclosed that she waseading home to fold a load ofaundry.

Then came the confession:It had been sitting in her dryersince, she said in a whisper,Thursday.

I gasped not out of shock but because of the suddenwave of excited relief thatwashed over me.

You see, I, too, had beeniding clean laundry in the

Maytag since ... Wednesday.Ahh, for the comfort found

n shared experience. Ill blamey dirty domestic secret on

time. I simply didnt haveenough of it at weeks end. Butthere was another reason: Thewash included tted sheets and Isimply wasnt up to the strugglethat I knew would ensue.

With the exception of MarthaStewart, family-and-consumer-science teachers and my mom,does anybody really know howto fold tted sheets?

Once Ive retrieved the socksand fabric softener sheet that arestuck in the elasticized corners, Itypically lose myself literally in a mess of contoured cottonas I try to line up those dastardlyounded edges.

It must be easier to split an

atom.No matter how much I

work at it, my folded and

tted sheets resemble neitherwhen Im done. Theyre puffy.Bumpy. Like they were nevereven washed. So I stuff theminto the back of the linen closet,behind the nicely folded at

sheets. And shut the door.Tightly.

Which brings me to the widerissue of domesticity. Why am Iso decient? I love to cook andbake and garden and entertain.

But as for the cleaning andthe laundry, well, lets just sayIve got some wrinkles to ironout.

Dont get me wrong. I clean.

But not with the same kind ofcheerfulness that Snow Whitedisplayed when she tidied upthe Dwarfs digs deep in, whatIm sure was, a dirt-and-dust-infested forest.

I want to heigh-ho, heigh-hoand whistle a happy tune whenI brandish a vacuum and dustcloth. Like my sister-in-law. Youshould see the joy on her facewhen shes on her hands and

knees, wiping and scrubbing.She is so satised that shesparkles, just like her oors.

Housework is probably thelongest four-letter word I know.And when spring-cleaningseason rolls around does

anybody still do that? itsnot just the routine, but thepressure to clean the rugs, washthe windows, wipe down thewoodwork, move the furniture,clean out closets, and so on.

Then there are the ongoingbattles against paper pilesbreeding on countertops ...the crumbs that collect in thecorners of the kitchen oor ...the bathroom mirrors that seemto resurface with toothpastespeckles almost as soon as theWindex is carried beyond thedoorway.

When I was a kid, Saturdaymornings were set aside forweekly cleaning chores. Thebathroom. The bedrooms. Thelaundry. The inspiration? Noplay time until the work gotdone.

Now, I must confess, becauseof schedules, the cleaningtends to get done on a when-I-can-get-to-it basis. While Imrunning the bath water, or xingdinner, or between daughtersdance class and a nighttimemeeting.

Oh, gotta go.The buzzer just went off on

the dryer. No contour sheets,just a simple load of underwearand socks. But, as pairs of thelatter go, you know what thatmeans ...

Barbara Hough Roda is momto Faith and managing editor ofthe Sunday News.

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y Maureen LeaderSpecial Features Writer

You might say that Mom ofthe Month, Amanda Nesbittas spent most of her life in

training.Nesbitt is a member of the

Pennsylvania Army NationalGuard and started basic trainingn high school. After graduation

she moved on to advancedndividual training and became

a radio operator. Nesbitt wasdeployed to Afghanistan atthe age of 19 and afterwardsdecided to begin training asa helicopter pilot. Right nowshe ies a CH-47 Chinook

elicopter and trains aboutonce a month ying out of FortIndian Town Gap.

Nesbitt also volunteerser time at the Training Loftn Mountville, helping girlsn sports training. And she

volunteers to help train girlsfor Girls on the Run aneducational and motivationalunning-based program for

girls. Nesbitt, herself, is anaccomplished cross countryunner and often trains

for marathons and othercompetitive runs.

But probably the mostmportant training Nesbitt has

ever received is the training shewent through before becominga mother. Nesbitt and herusband, Drew, are parents of

a four-month-old son, Dathan.

But before he was born, theesbitts had the opportunity to

get training as parents.Not many moms get mommy

training before actuallybecoming a mother themselves.We may babysit, or have ourieces and nephews stay for

a weekend. But Nesbitt ander husband actually did get

parent training when Nesbitts

sister, Alicia was deployed toAfghanistan for a year. Duringthat time the Nesbitts not yet

parents themselves took inAlicias six-year-old daughter,Makenzie.

Caring for Makenzie wasnot just a gloried babysittingjob. The Nesbitts were going toactually parent her, just as if she

was their own daughter.And this was a big year forMakenzie. She was six yearsold, nishing up kindergarten,getting ready for rst grade andlearning to read. And she had togo through all these transitionswhile her mommy was awayghting in Afghanistan. Therewas a lot to consider and theNesbitts understood this.

But even though Nesbittwasnt yet a mother, sheinstinctively knew what to do.She and Drew already had arelationship with Makenzie,but it was as fun Aunt Mandiand Uncle Drew. This sort ofrelationship, though wonderfulfor weekend visits, would notwork for an entire year. Therewould be bedtimes to stickto, homework to do, baths to

take and chores to complete.We couldnt just sugar herup and send her home like wewere used to doing, Nesbittexplained.

So the couple sat down withthe little girl and had a talk withher to explain how everyonesroles were going to be differentfor a year while she lived withthem. Makenzie is very mature

and a very resilient kid, but wehad the talk anyway, recalledNesbitt. The couple explainedhow things would go right backthe way they were as fun AuntMandi and Uncle Drew as soonas Makenzies mother returnedhome. Nesbitt added that sheis especially thankful to Drew,who she said was completelyon board, with everything.

If there was a husband of themonth award, he should getthat!

Turns out it was a wonderfulyear for all. It was a crashcourse in parenting, saidNesbitt. And this proved to bequite helpful because duringthat year Nesbitt becamepregnant with her son, Dathan.

Again, Nesbitts motheringinstincts kicked in as shethoroughly included Makenziein the new babys arrival.Makenzie helped with all the

planning and shopping and evenhelped decorate the nurseryfor her new cousin. She alsohad the privilege of knowingthe babys name before anyoneelse. It was neat to share allthat with her, remembersNesbitt. And it turns out thatthe day Dathan was born,Makenzies mother, Nesbittssister, Alicia, came home safely

from Afghanistan. Thats Godplanning, said Nesbitt.

Mom of

the Month ~

Amanda Nesbitt

Amanda Nesbitt and son Dathan

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y Rochelle A. ShenkSpecial Features Writer

The Dog Days of Augustay bring on hot, muggy

conditions, but there arefun, family-friendly ways tobeat the heat. Relaxing in apool, enjoying water rides atamusement parks or takingn one of the many summer

blockbuster movies in a localtheater are some ways to beatthe heat. A visit to IndianEcho Caverns and Estaten Hummelstown could bencluded on that list.

In the summer, the caverns a great way to beat the heat

the temperature is a constant52 degrees year-round, saysKaren Nye, Indian Echo public

elations manager.The mouth of the limestonecaverns sits along the SwataraCreek. This undergroundworld boasts two crystal clearakes, passageways and rooms

that display natures geologicwonders.

The rst visitors to thecaverns are believed to havebeen the SusquehannockIndians, who would have used

the caverns as shelter fromnclement weather.

The caverns were rst openedto the public in 1929 after JohnBieber completed a projectto make the pathways safefor travel and opened manyof the rooms that had beenclosed off due to large mineraldeposits. While the cavernsattracted numerous visitors in

the rst years of operation, theDepression took its toll andvisitors dwindled. UnfortunatelyBieber lost ownership to thebank. In 1942 Edward Schwartzpurchased the caverns, andtoday it remains under familyownership.

The crystal lakes and thewedding chapel are two of theareas that get the most oohsand aahs from people. Its

amazing for people of all agesto see the amazing, clear waterof the lakes, and the wedding

chapel just sparkles in the lightfrom all the crystal formations,Nye says. And yes, weddingshave been held in the weddingchapel the bridge across thelake and the sparkling roomis a great backdrop for theceremony.

Suzanne Fisher, operationsmanager, explains that45-minute long tours of the

caverns are led by a guide. Heor she not only tells the historyof the caverns, but is also opento questions from everyone,she says.

Even in a drought thereswater dripping in the caverns.Fisher says that after a heavyrain, water really seeps intothe caverns. Its really a sightto see! We couldnt get into

the caverns for a week or twoafter Tropical Storm Lee inSeptember (2011) there wasthat much water, she exclaims.

Although exploring thecaverns rst-hand through awalking tour is the best option,the long ight of steps leadinginto the caverns may makeit difcult for some people.Some people have difcultywith the steps, so we have a

non-walking tour a video ofthe caverns. This way an entirefamily can come and everyonecan share the experience insome fashion, Nye comments.

While a tour of the cavernsdenitely tops the list ofthings to do at Indian Echo,but there are also a number ofother activities including GemMill Junction, a petting zoo,

playground and picnic area.At Gem Mill Junction,budding prospectors can trytheir hand at panning forgemstones or fossils Aprilthrough November. Thereare different bags of dirt topurchase; some have gemstones,while others have fossils.When the kids are panning andthe dirt washes away and thestones are revealed, the kids are

really excited, Fisher says.Animals such as goats and

bunnies are the stars at the

petting zoo, while the recentlyrenovated playground with aslide, rock wall and swingsprovides an opportunity forchildren to enjoy both newand traditional play activities.Families may pack a lunch toenjoy in the picnic area; freshly

grilled food is also availableto purchase on the weekends.Pavilions are available torent for family reunions andparties, and the fresh grilledfood may be available by priorarrangement. Birthday partiescan also be arranged. Nye notesthat educational programs areavailable for scout and schoolgroups, and theres a special

program for home schoolers.Fisher says that familiesoften include Indian EchoCaverns with a visit to nearbyHersheypark or a ride along theSwatara on the Middletown &Hummelstown Railroad.

Indian Echo Caverns islocated at 368 MiddletownRd., Hummelstown. Detailsincluding hours and admissionfees are available at www.

indianechocaverns.com, or byphone at 566-8131.

DAY TRIPPIN: Indian Echo Cavernspetting zoo, playground, caverns to explore

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Fallen Leaf 5K Run and WalkBenets the Tami Swartz Musser Scholarship Fund and the Arline M. Hughes Caring Endowment Fund

y Maureen LeaderSpecial Features Writer

As mothers we all know whattreasures our longtime girlfriendsare from childhood, through highschool, college and beyond. Butone of the most special experienceswe can have with our girlfriendss to share the blessings and yes,the trials of motherhood together.There is nothing like sharing diaperstories, play groups, teen yearsand empty nests with a girlfriend

and then fantasizing togetherabout what it will be like to begrandmothers one day.

Tami Musser of Hummelstownand Krystal Wnek of Manheimad one of those friendships. The

two met in Lock Haven Universityn 1989. As Wnek puts it, Makingour hair high, sharing clothes anddreaming about what awaited usoutside of college.

And like so many of us, they

grew up together, got marriedwithin a couple of years of eachother and stayed in touch when they

moved back to their hometowns.We had a LOT of fun together,

learning how to be the women webecame, Wnek remembers. Theyalso happened to start their familiesaround the same time. Their babieswere born one right after each otheruntil there were ve girls betweenthem: Three Wnek girls and twoMusser girls.

And through the years the twofriends would keep in contact thebest they could. As we all try. Theywere busy working, (both became

Social Workers) and they were bothbusy raising their children. As weall are. They didnt see each otherregularly. But as Wnek said, Wekept in close contact and alwayspicked up where we had left off.As we all do.

But it all came to a horrible endwhen 40-year-old Musser waskilled in a car crash on Jan. 7, 2011on Route 322 in South AnnvilleTownship. Even more heart

breaking was that the cause of thecrash was due to another personsspeeding negligence. It was a

crushing loss not only to Wnek,but to Mussers husband, Jasonand their daughters, Elise Jane andLayne Jason, who were just 11 andnine-years-old respectively at thetime.

Musser also left behind awide circle of devastated family

members and a special communityat the Masonic Homes in

Elizabethtown where she worked.As sad and stunned as everyone

was after Mussers death, therewas also the strong need to dosomething more. Something tond a way to remember the veryspecial woman Musser was, and,as her mother, Jane Swartz said,To carry on my daughters work the work of giving back to thecommunity.

And so friends and family have

organized The Fallen Leaf 5KRun and Walk to benet the TamiSwartz Musser Scholarship Fundand the Arline M. Hughes CaringEndowment Fund. It will be heldSept. 8 at the Masonic Villagein Elizabethtown. Jason Musser,Tamis husband said, What isneat about the 5K is that it is beingheld at her work where she wouldwalk almost daily at lunchtime.She really enjoyed the beautiful

grounds and walking and talkingwith a co-worker.

Funds from the run will benetan annual scholarship at Lower

Dauphin High School, wherethe Mussers graduated and theMasonic Health Care Center.

But perhaps even greater thanthe monetary contributions, TamiMusser will leave lifelong lessons toother mothers and those who knewher. As Wnek says, Sometimes Ind myself evaluating myself, mytime spent with my own childrenand time with my family basedon Tamis life being cut so short.

I want to make each day count.To make sure my children knowhow dear they are and to spendthat extra minute giving a hug orspecial moment before the day isover.

The Fallen Leaf 5K Run anWalk will be held September 8.Registration begins at MasonicVillage in Elizabethtown at 8 a.m.;Start time 9 a.m.

Register online by Sept. 6 atactive.com.

Tami Swartz Musser

Teaching children is like fillinga glass at the kitchen faucet. If you

turn on the water with too muchforce, the glass never gets full. But ifyou reduce the pressure and let thewater flow gently, the glass is soonfilled.

Fathers and mothers need to befirm and wise. But they also needto be gentle and loving. When theygive too much advice, too manyrules, and too frequent instructions,they are wasting their words. The

children cannot absorb them all.This does not mean that parents

should just let their children go.It means that they teach them

faithfully and patiently, a little at atime.

The Bible says, Precept must beupon precept . . . line upon line . . .here a little, and there a little . . .

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Its August, so let me ask youthis: Have your kids had anysquabbles this summer vacation?Do you feel like a referee attimes? Has mediation becomeigh on your list of parenting

duties, but the same issues keeppopping up? Its frustrating anddraining to deal with bickering,tattling and old-fashionedcompetition that can sometimesplague sibling relationships.Sibling rivalry is always aot topic, but competition

among siblings is slightly moreuanced.Competition is not necessarily

egative, as some forms ofcompetition can move us towardself-improvement. An exampleof this would be encouragingyour daughter to beat her ownpersonal best in her next runningevent. (And being completelythrilled if she didnt reach thatgoal.) But when competitionbrings about feelings ofnferiority and doubt about a

childs standing in the family,that is not healthy. We see thiswhen a parent remarks, Yourbrother did so much better onthat physics exam. I guess youllust have to try harder next

time. OUCH!

Understanding the causes ofsibling rivalry can help us as parentsto lessen the competitiveness inour childrens relationships and tourture them toward cooperative

and loving bonds.Positioning for parents

attention and affection beginsonestly and early. Imagine

you are three years old and theapple of your parents eyes, thecenter of their universe and then

one day, after months of bigbrother or big sister talk (whichs meaningless!), mom and dad

bring home a crying, diaper-wearing tiny attention-grabber.She doesnt walk, talk, playgames or do anything remotelynteresting and furthermore,

she seems to have moved in ona permanent basis, with lots ofparaphernalia! Your territory hasbeen invaded, your mothers lap

as been usurped and your fathers a little bleary-eyed. Heresow you might be feeling andhat ou mi ht be thinkin

Im not sure whats goingon here, or why they ooh andahh over this wriggling creature,but I need to make sure I amgetting my fair share of attention whether it is positive ornegative attention.

Mommy and daddy dontlove me as much as they didbefore he arrived.

I need to protect myterritory.

Is she here to stay? Why does everyone make

such a big fuss about him andbring him presents?

These are a few feelings thatcan nag at your child, and ifnegative emotions are pushedaside and not acknowledged,they can morph into moreintense feelings as your childrengrow older. So, as usual, agood starting place is right atthe beginning! Early on, whenyour child expresses jealousy,anger, confusion, etc. with asibling, provide a private timefor the healthy expression ofthose feelings. Help her identifyand name how she is feeling,and then work on solutions tothe situations that bring aboutthose feelings. We never want tojoin in with negative talk about

another child; we simply listen.Once the feelings are expressed,then solutions can be workedon. It is also a great practice toprompt our kids to name thepositive features about theirsiblings, as we afrm the greatqualities in the child who hascome to us for help.

My kids have a stock responsewhen a family member orfriend asks me if they can

pose a parenting question. My20-something son and teenagegirls quickly chime in, Weblame the parents! Of course,this is said in jest, but when itcomes to sibling rivalry, thereare many ways in which parentsset up competition or encouragecooperation sometimesunknowingly. So heres anotherarea in parenting where alittle forethought and a lot of

intentionality will go a long way.What can we do as parents tofacilitate cooperation among ourkids

Forget about equal treatment.Each child is an individual, sotreat him/her as that uniqueperson. Consider temperament,interests, age and stage as yourelate to your children. Yes,children arrive wired to betheir very own person. The oldthought that children came tous as blank slates is just that OLD news! Because a childis born to the same two parentsdoes not mean they will besimilar at all. We need to parenteach child according to his/herpersonality yes, thats morework for us. Learn what eachchild needs from his relationshipwith you in order to thrive.

Throw comparisons out thewindow! If you are operatingunder the belief that each childis unique, you have no groundto stand on if you compare himwith his sibling when it comes toacademic performance, athleticprowess, social skills, cleanlinessof rooms, etc. When and if youstart to say, Why cant you ___like your sister?, stop yourself!

Offer similar opportunities,but dont expect the sameoutcomes. Not every child iscut out to be the star pitcheron the baseball team. Buteach of your children should

be offered the opportunity toexplore and become procientat, if not excellent in, differentarenas. Look for signs ofinterest and talent in academics,music, visual arts, athletics,cooking, sewing, woodworking,computers/electronics, etc.,and let their intrinsic interestguide their pursuits. Explorethe options that are availableto your family to nurture these

interests/talents. There are oftenfree, low-cost and scholarshipopportunities available if you doa little poking around. Recognizeand celebrate each childsefforts and successes. It willthen be close to impossible tocompare your children if they arefollowing their own strengths thats a good thing!

I am a huge fan of familytime, but time spent alone with

each child is vital to your childshealthy development of hisidentity. Make a plan to spendtime ith each child indi iduall

doing an activity that you havechosen together based on herinterests. Once the plan is made,put it on both of your calendars.The anticipation is very excitingfor most kids, and you willboth feel refueled by time spenttogether. I know this is tricky forsingle parents or parents with aspouse who travels a great deal.Be creative and set up specialtime for your other children witha relative or friend while you arefocusing on one child. One greataspect of this is coming backtogether as a family and sharingstories from these special one-on-one times. We have a fewclassic stories in the family vaultthat can still send us into ts oflaughter! Be sure to be even-handed with time scheduled foroutings, but remember that therewill be times when one child willneed a bit more attention thanthe others.

Set clear expectations as tohow people in the family areto be treated, and share thoseguidelines. Believe it or not,kids are not mind-readers, norare they born knowing the rules.You control the climate in yourfamily, so take the opportunity toset your clan up for success. Wewant our children to respect us

and their brothers and sisters, soit rests on us to treat them withrespect. By that I mean speakingkindly, listening carefully, lovingunconditionally, communicatingoften and showing considerationfor their individuality. Enableyour children to resolve conictas it arises; dont put it off,and dont avoid it. Set groundrules such as: older kids are notallowed to tease littler ones; little

guys cant be pests or tattlers;older kids are not responsiblefor the younger ones andtherefore cannot boss them;physical violence and emotionalcruelty is never acceptable toexpress anger or to solve aproblem; personal property isprivate and should be respected you get the gist. Set theexample of speaking kind wordsabout your family members.

Plan fun family time!Carving out time for the entirefamily to pursue fun activitiesto ether is the icin on the cake

As important as each individualfamily member is, what makesyour family soar is the blendingof strong and unique people whohave each others best interest atheart. Strong bonds are forgedover shared memories, and thosesweet times of being togetherkeep us going when the goinggets rough. And it gets roughfor all of us at different times.Over the years we have madeit a priority to attend as manyrecitals, spelling bees, athleticevents, etc. as a family. That hasmeant watching a track meet inthe snow bundled in blankets,taking homework to complete inthe auditorium before the recitalbegins, choosing your sistersaward ceremony over ice creamout with a friend, and the listgoes on. Celebrate one anotherduring these family times.

As I now watch my threechildren, 22-, 19-, and 17-year-olds, build a sand castle withtheir dad, it strikes me thatthis has gone on for 15 yearson this very same beach,possibly with some of the samebuckets and shovels! Fromthe anticipation, the designplanning, the digging andthrough the nishing touches,this is a clear outworking of

the cooperation that has beennurtured for many years byeach family member. There isno greater joy than being a partof a family that values eachindividual, listens when someoneis rejoicing or hurting, celebratesaccomplishments, requires youto be your best, and has funtogether.

We all have the opportunityto guide our children to this

type of fullling sibling/familyrelationship a relationshiplike no other full of sharedhistory, memories that can bringon both gales of laughter and gut-wrenching tears with the deepdesire to see the other ourish.And, when our children love andcherish each other, that lls ourhearts like nothing else can.

Kirsten Freitag Murray, Parenting

Development Coordinatorwith Compass Mark, Inc., is acontributor to the LancMoms.comA an Ex ert eature

Sibling competition:Not of the Olympic sort!

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Makenzie is currently livingin Hawaii with her mother andthe Nesbitts really miss her. Iknow how foster families must

feel, she said.

If we ever have a little girl,when she is six to seven, I willknow exactly what to do! Ireally enjoyed that stage.

Nesbitts training allows herto wear many hats: as a mother,a wife, a helicopter pilot, anda dedicated volunteer. She isthankful for all the trainingshe has received in order toaccomplish so much in her life.

But this helicopter pilot/mommy is quick to point out:No amount of training canprepare you 100 percent forparenthood. Just when you thinkyouve got it down, they throwyou an in-ight emergency!

Nesbitt decided she wantedto become a pilot as a littlegirl. I never liked beingin the back of the plane. Iwanted control. I wanted toknow what was going on.

Nesbitts father was in thearmy and she was born inTexas. She has lived all overthe United States and endedup in the Poconos.

Nesbitt comes from afamily of ve children. Bothof Nesbitts sisters are in thearmy and she has one brotherin the Air force.

Nesbitt met her husband,Drew at college at EastStroudsburg. They were bothon the cross country team.

Nesbitts favorite runner isDeena Kastor, an Americanlong-distance runner whowon the bronze medal in thewomens marathon at the2004 Olympics in Athens,

Greece.

Nesbitt is an accomplishedcollege runner andstill competes for thePennsylvania National Guardrunning team. She completedthe Army Ten-Miler whileve months pregnant andhelped the Guard Team torst place in their category.

One of Nesbitts favoritethings to do is watch herhusband compete in arearaces and triathlons. They areamazing to watch, she said.

Drew nominated his wifeto be Mom of the Month andsays, She adapts awlesslyto our ever-changing familystructure. She gives much ofher time to others without

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But when luscious, vine-ripenedtomatoes appear in LancasterCounty gardens and roadsidestands, area tomato lovers will eattheir share and more of thesewonderful vegetables.

Or are they fruits? This debate isongoing, even though the tomato isbotanically dened as a fruit.

But no matter what you callthem, tomatoes are being consumedby the basketful by people hungryfor them in salads, sandwiches,

ain dishes and casseroles and asside dishes. Homegrown cherrytomatoes can be eaten like candy!

After months of making do withanemic, cardboard-like tomatoes,

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As summer nears its end, momseed to be a little more creative in

nding ways to entertain their kids.Diane Stevenson, director of

Sunshine Corners in Strasburg saidchildren there have fun doing bigthings scaled down for kids.

The grown-ups set up a gasstation where kids can pretend to

x, ll-up and wash their bikes.Water play includes using squirtbottles to cool one another down.

In honor of the Olympics, thekids played shot put, by standingn a hula hoop and throwing asoftball. They participated in aong jump and took sponges out ofbuckets and threw them to representthe water events.

Older kids can nd countlessprojects on a kids online catalog for

the county libraries at http://catalog.ancasterlibraries.org:90/search~S2.An arts and crafts section provides

hundreds of possibilities. Kids canspend the rest of their summerlearning new skills, including somethat cost very little.

Rachel DiSalle has a book called,Junk Drawer Jewelry from 1976.Kaitlyn Nichols has a 2011 book,Safety Pin Bracelets. Besidesjewelry-making, kids can learnto paint, make puppets and createleather crafts. In all, the childrensonline catalog offers arts and crafts

books in 22 different categories.Cooking with kids is a way to

entertain them and teach basicskills at the same time. Plentyof cookbooks for children areavailable, with heavily-illustratedand easy-to-understand directionsbroken down into small steps.Books by Rachel Ray andWilliams Sonoma have proven tobe especially kid-friendly. Insteadof getting a cookbook, moms can

teach their children favorite familyrecipes or at least have them help.

Summer fun does not have to

come from a book. Kids at CampFoxtails at Lancaster FriendsMeeting spent a week creatingtheir own fun. This years themewas simplicity, leader Beth Reevessaid. The children enjoyed naturethrough hiking at Tucquan Glen andcreated a homemade water slide.

Kids can make cards for peoplein their lives. Dont wait for aspecial occasion. Handmade cardsare always welcome. Older kids can

set aside their computers and writean old-fashioned letter with pen andpaper to someone they know.

For a different experience, trya Hobo Lunch at the StrasburgRail Road. Passengers receive aknapsack of goodies to unwrap onthe trip and can enjoy lemonadeserved in mason jars or baked beansscooped from a kettle, along withother freshly-made items. The HoboTrain runs on the hour from 11 a.m.

to 5 p.m., through Aug. 26, exceptfor the last ride of the day.

End of summer fun: Get creative

Left: Alex Carty of Manor Township enjoys the simple summer fun ofplaying with a balloon.

Above: Carl Bright-Walk of Annville speeds down a home-made slipand slide.

Below: Victoria Carty of Manor Township creates a hand-made card.



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y Rochelle A. ShenkSpecial Features Writer

Hershey is lled with fun, family-friendlythings to see and do. Hershey Gardens,which is celebrating its 75th anniversary thisyear, is denitely worth a visit.

Perched atop a hill overlooking the townof Hershey and Hersheypark, HersheyGardens opened as a 3.5-acre rose gardenn 1937. Since then its grown to more than

23 acres and includes 11 theme gardens,a Buttery House, and an educationalChildrens Garden.

Theres also a fragrant rose gardenfeaturing 275 varieties and 5,600 roses, alongwith Mrs. Hersheys rose garden containingOld Garden roses that Mrs. Hershey grew.As part of its 75th anniversary celebration,the M.S. Hershey Tribute Garden, whichfeatures the M.S. Hershey rose, is making itsdebut this year.

A fun way to discover the gardens is via a

scavenger hunt. Special hunts are created forpre-readers (ages 3 to 7) and readers (ages8 to 14) as well as those who enjoy owers(the ower power hunt). Harris notes thatalthough guests are encouraged to print outthe information from the gardens website(www.hersheygardens.org) and bring it withthem to the gardens, it is also available at thegardens on request.

The perfect place for family fun is thechildrens garden, which is at its peak mid-

to late-summer. It is fun and whimsical witha surprise around every turn, and both theyoung and young-at-heart can experience thewonder of nature and plants.

Each of the themed areas features aneducational component thats geared forands-on learning and fun. In one area a

Hershey Bar is stamped into the pavement children are challenged to solve various

ath-related questions (a Hershey Bar isdivided into 12 equal squares, which makeseating fun, but also makes it a great mathtool). In another, children learn to tell time asthey become a human sundial.

A path winds through the childrens garden leadingto the buttery house, which is open through Sept. 9and is celebrating its 15th season this year. On hot days,the perfect way for kids (and adults, too!) to cool off isa quick run through the Hershey Kiss-shaped misterust outside the buttery house. Inside the wonderfulworld of more than 300 butteries, 25 different speciesof North American butteries awaits. Theres alsoan exhibit on the lifecycle of butteries. Plants in the

buttery house include both nectar plants that they usefor food and host plants for egg-laying and caterpillarfeeding. As you wander through the buttery house,

one of these delightful creatures may even light on you.A special exhibit, Watering Can Wonders, made

its debut this summer and will run through Sept. 30.It features 500 hand-painted watering cans painted bystudents at Milton Hershey School as a tribute to thegardens 75th anniversary.

Theres plenty to see and do at Hershey Gardens, soenjoy this part of Milton Hersheys legacy.

The Gardens are open daily 9 a.m. to 7 p.m., and thebuttery house is open daily 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. For furtherinformation and admission pricing, please visit www.hersheygardens.org or call 534-3492.

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Share of Lancaster, a non-protorganization that offers pregnancyand infant loss support, will holdts 10th annual Walk to Remember

Sunday, Sept. 30 at 2 p.m. Theevent takes place at The GreeneldCorporate Center.

The annual event, which begann 2003, provides an opportunityfor families who have experiencedpregnancy or infant loss to cometogether for a time of remembrance.

Many people who endurethe loss of a baby, whetherthrough miscarriage, pregnancycomplications, stillbirth, or SIDS,feel extremely isolated by theexperience, said Abby Messick,executive director of Share ofLancaster. The walk provides anopportunity for these individuals tocome together as a community insupport of one another; to help themealize theyre not alone. It offers a

time to remember and reect upon

the lives that were lost.Activities for the event include a

walk around the ponds at GreeneldCorporate Center, a reading of

baby names, a releasing of doves,a candle lighting, music, variouschildrens activities and more.Participants registered by Aug.24, will receive a personalizedmemorial bracelet with the nameof the baby they wish to remember.Baby names and personalizedmemorial messages are alsoincluded in the program brochure.

Registration is available onlineat shareoancaster.org (click onthe Walk to Remember link). Theevent is open to the public. Theregistration fee is $30 per familyand includes two personalized

bracelets and a memorial messageprinted in the program brochure.

Sponsorship opportunities areavailable by contacting Share ofLancaster at 717-917-1112.

Share of Lancaster:

10th annual Walk to Remember

Pregnancy & Infant LossSupport Group holdswalk September 30

Share of Lancaster is a non-prot organization that exists tobring comfort and understandingto families who have suffered theoss of a baby through miscarriage,pregnancy complications,prematurity, stillbirth, SIDS and anyother cause.

We stand by parents in theirourney of grief, offering a helping

and, a listening ear and open arms.

Services We Provide:

Educational programs for healthprofessionals and the community.

Three Support Groups: EarlyPregnancy Loss, Pregnancy AfterLoss, and Late Loss/Early

Infant Loss. A schedule isavailable online at shareoancaster.org or by calling 717-823-2789.

The Share Burial: A commonburial of infants who have died dueto loss of pregnancy, stillbirth, orearly infant death.

Burials are held the secondTuesday in January, March, May,July, September and Novemberat St. Josephs New CatholicCemetery.

A graveside service begins at

2:30 p.m. and is lead by a variety oflocal clergy who donate their time.

Share burials are provided free ofcharge, out of care and compassion,

by Share of Lancaster, CharlesF. Snyder Funeral Home, and St.Josephs New Catholic Cemetery.

All of our services are providedfree of charge.

For more information visitshareoancaster.org or contact us at717-823-2789.

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