Form 1.1: Knowing Your Three Selves

Instructions:1. For the first role listed, rate yourself first as you would like to be (your ideal self).2. Then rate yourself as you believe you are seen by others (your public self).3. Next rate yourself as you perceive yourself really to be (your real self). Then complete the three

ratings for the remaining roles and characteristics.

Rating scale

−3 −2 −1 0 +1 +2 +3

Negative self Neutral self Positive self

Item Ideal self (as you would like to be)

Public self (as you believe you are seen by others)

Real self (as you perceive yourself)

Knowing yourself as . . .

an athlete +3 +1 −1

a coach +3 0 −2

a mother or father

successful +3 +2 −1

honest +3 +3 +1

anxious 0 −1 −2

empathic +3 +3 +1

domineering 0 0 −1

loyal +3 +3 +2

humble +3 +2 +1

needing recognition 0 +1 −3

respected 0 +2 +2

stubborn 0 −1 −1

powerful 0 +2 −1

1 From Human Kinetics, 2012, Coaching Principles Online, Fourth Edition (Champaign, IL: Human Kinetics).