Keeping Your Love Alive

The Presenter

Tiffany Lymon

Tiffany Lymon, certified life coach, is wholly committed to “ignite” and “spark” the passion and skills of her clients and community to

help them to expand into their full personal and professional capacities. Mrs. Lymon has always been passionate about the

learning and development process, therefore her decision to focus on the personal and professional development of others was a

natural evolution for her. While she is dedicated to the growth of others, she also practices what she preaches and often engages in various types of courses and trainings, as a student, to satisfy

her intellectual curiosity and enable her to remain current and relevant.

“Living a life worth imitating”. This is my personal mission statement. I love this statement because it reminds me that I can help and influence others

with my whole life. I live out this mission daily by making sure that I share my experiences and lessons learned as authentically as possible, knowing that

my successes and failures can help someone else live and do better. ~ Tiffany L. Lymon

Main Topics

• Types of love relationships

• The keys to longevity

• Coping with relationship challenges and conflict

• Balancing styles and keeping it fresh

• The 10 relationship essentials

Types of Love Relationships

• Eros

• Ludus

• Storge

• Pragma

• Mania

• Agape

How Do You Want Your Partner to Express Love?

A. I like to receive notes of affirmation or I like to be hugged

B. I like to spend one-to-one time with a person who is special to me or I feel loved when someone gives practical help to me

C. I like to sit close to people whom I enjoy being around or I like for people to tell me I am attractive/handsome

Poll

How do you prefer to express your love for your partner?

A. Words of affirmation

B. Acts of service

C. Receiving gifts

D. Quality time

E. Physical touch

The Triangular Theory of Love

• Intimacy

• Passion

• Commitment

Quote

“Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime

that it becomes a miracle.” - Amy Bloom

The Keys to Longevity

• Establish “we” time and respect “me” time

• Be clear about relationship expectations and boundaries

• Discover interests to share as a couple as well as solo

More Keys to Longevity

• Show appreciation frequently

• Learn to fight “fair”

• Distinguish between the mountains and the mole hills

• Recognize your individual and relationship communication patterns

Poll

All relationships face challenges at some point – it’s inevitable. However, it’s not necessarily the challenge that holds the greatest weight. Rather, it’s how you respond to the challenge that has the greatest impact.

A. I agree

B. I disagree

Coping With Relationship Challenges

• Is the issue situational, a reflection of communication strategies, or both?

• Does the issue truly need to be addressed or do you just want him or her to be more like you?

• How do external relationships, childhood issues, and other commitments influence your perceptions?

Conflict Management Styles

• Compromising

• Competing

• Collaborating

• Avoiding

• Accommodating

Quote

“Love is a choice you make from moment to

moment.” - Barbara De Angelis

Balancing Relationship Styles

• Identify key communication preferences and stress management strategies

• Identify misperceptions and corresponding conclusions stemming from different styles

• Remember that what the behavior means to your partner may be different than what it means to you

Poll

What do you feel is your greatest relationship challenge?

A. Boredom B. Not enough quality time together C. Trying to keep up with everything else D. Feeling unappreciated E. External pressures and/or other family relationships

Keeping It Fresh

• Plan surprises – what has your partner always wanted to do?

• Plan a weekend getaway

• Separate relationship issues from general life issues

The 10 Relationship Essentials

1. Maintain a sense of humor

2. Be generous with praise

3. Learn what is most important to your partner in terms of sharing your love

4. Be creative in expressing appreciation

5. Don’t expect your partner to read your mind

The 10 Relationship Essentials

6. Regularly schedule special time together

7. Identify the real issue when disagreeing

8. Listen without judging or correcting

9. Forgive and let go

10.Keep in mind what really matters in the big picture

When to Seek Support From a Professional

• Sometimes life stressors can become more than any one person, or even any one couple, can manage on their own. Individual or couples counseling can help you navigate situations where you feel “stuck” or overwhelmed. These may include: – Life transitions that leave you feeling unsettled or “adrift”

– Feeling “stuck” in patterns or on issues that you can’t seem to resolve

– Stressors such as health, mental health, or addiction issues

– Family or financial stressors

Thanks for Joining Us!

Questions?

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