Self Esteem and Your Athletes

By Joe Richer, CAA

WIAA Coaches School

Yakima, Wa.

2010

Listen

Listening

“Being listened to is so close to

being loved that some people

cannot tell the difference”.

David Oxford

Amelia Lorinda Richer!?

• “Coaching is a profession

of love. You can’t coach

people unless you love

them.”

• Eddie Robinson

• Grambling University

• 400+ Wins

Coach/Role Model

“Who you are speaks

so loudly, I can’t hear

what you are saying.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

• “We are what we repeatedly

do. Excellence, then, is not an

act but a habit.”

• Aristotle

Nathaniel Branden

• “How we feel about ourselves crucially affects

virtually every aspect of our experience, from

the way we function at work, in love, in sex, to

the way we operate as parents, to how high in

life we are likely to rise.”

• “I cannot think of a single psychological

problem that is not traceable to a poor self-

concept.”

Nathaniel Braden

• Six Pillars of Self Esteem

•“The Man in the Glass!!”

Self Esteem

• What it’s not!

– It’s not a sometime thing, it’s all the time.

– It’s not bragging (Today’s peacock, curl in the tail)

– It’s not getting a pat on the back for EVERYTHING

done.

• 1900 – 90% of grandchildren lived with or in the neighborhood of grandparents

• 1940 – 70%

• Today – Less than 10%

• The “Gran Torino” granddaughter.

SELF ESTEEMWhat is it?

80% 1st Grade

20% 5th Grade

5% Seniors

Self Concept and Self Esteem

SELF CONCEPT

• Coach

• Teacher

• Parent

• Church member

• Relationships

• Athlete

SELF ESTEEM

• Global definition

of all self

concepts

DEFINITION

• “the disposition to experience oneself as competent to cope with life’s challenges and being worthy of happiness.”

• Nathaniel Branden

The thrill of

victory!

You lose.

The camaraderie of teamwork.

•Poker Chip Theory• Relationships

• Classroom

• Athletic Venue

Holistic Model of Self Esteem

• Thought

• Intuition

• Imagination

• Body

• Emotions

• The Will

• Higher Self

Thoughts• 50,000 Thoughts a Day

• Do you talk to yourself?

• Negative thought patterns must be changed

• Affirmations

• Don’t

• Burying “Can’t”

The Body

• Self Acceptance

• Mirror Exercise

• “Whatever my defects or imperfections, I

accept myself unreservedly and completely.”

• (Accepting does not mean liking-a fact is a

fact).

• “As a man thinketh, so is he.”• Bible

• “Whether you think you

can or think you can’t,

you’re right.”• Henry Ford

•Kineseology

Exercise

•False

•Experiences

•Appearing

•Real

E + R = O• Lemons/Lemonade

• Martha Stewart

• Amputees

• Jesse Owens

GOAL SETTING• Conceivable

• Believable

• Achievable

• Controlable

• Measureable

• Desirable

• Stated with No Alternative

• Growth Facilitating

• Guided Imagery (Skyscraper

• Visualization

Thank You

• Joe.richer@daktronics.com