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VENI-I CAME, VEDI-I SAW,VICI -I CONQUERED.
Modesrah Ahmed
Mott Community College
Professor Michele Dunnum
16th February 2012
LAND Conference 2012
I-search VS. Research
Personal Interest General Interest
I-SEARCH RESEARCH
My heritage
PakistanUSA England
Mixed Blessings
Arranged or Forced Marriage?
“One that is done with the consent of both partners” (Anitha166)*
“One where either one party does not agree or only does so under duress” (Uddin and Ahmed, as qtd in Anitha 166)*
ARRANGED FORCED
*Coercion, Consent and the Forced Marriage Debate in the UK
Don’t interfere, its our culture/religion!
The Prophet Muhammad said, ‘A matron should not be given in marriage except after consulting her’*
• Sahih Bukhari
WHY AGREE TO ARRANGED MARRIAGE?
The individuals needs, interests and
happiness are secondary to the interests of the family and community” (Kurian, as qtd in Zaidi 496)*.
NO.1 REASON:Parental Obligation (Zaidi 506)*
*Journal of Comparative Family Studies
Staying in abusive marriages
Psychosocial
Economic
Cultural
(Gharaibeih 376)
“Income was the strongest indicator of whether a woman stayed or left” (Gharabeih 377)
Process of Leaving
1. Saturation 2. Khula
3. Disapproval Reclaim
(Hassouneh-Phillips (2001) as qtd in Gharaibeih 378).
Staying in an Abusive Marriage “Lack of support was reported to be a
significant cultural reason why women stayed with their husbands” (Gharaibeih 380)
“Your hell rather than the heaven of my home”*
“A girl should leave her parents’ home in a palanquin and only return in a coffin-bed”
*(Gharaibeih 380)
Need to be Needed
Emotional Dependency:
Cognitive Motivational Behavioral Affective
“The complex relationship between dependency and domestic violence”, Robert Bornstein (598).
Empowerment
Sabotage ECONOMIC EMPOWERMENT
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FREEDOM Criticize
“Contextualizing Women Domestic Violence Survivors' Economic and Emotional Dependencies” (Chronister).
I am from a rainbow after the storm
Beckoning towards a new beginning
A path that leads to happiness
From the realization of the preciousness of sanity
Where I am Now