Intimacy 2

7/23/2012 Social Media Presentation 1

Evan Barker

7/23/2012

The New

Relationship

• Relationships are changing

• Texting

• Skype

• IM

• FaceTime

• Facebook

• Alice and Jesse

• Have a relationship and their parents do not even know

• Constantly text, and IM


Evolution of Dating

• Men you call on women at their homes

• Women lacked space so couples would go somewhere together (dating)

• “Going Steady,” shown by matching sweaters, women wearing letter jackets, etc…

• 70’s and 80’s dating became different forms of social contact (hanging out)


Intimacy Tools

• Three intimacy tools • Cell Phones

• Instant Messaging

• Social Media

• Facebook

• Skype

• Twitter

• These tools eliminated the strain of long-term relationships



• Social Media plays key role in casual relationships turning into serious ones

• Social Media, less vulnerable than face-to-face communication

• Give people chance to introduce themselves to people they don’t know well

• Example • Male in Chicago stated that instead of making a phone call, he will “Facebook stalk”

to learn more

• Facebook relationship status now makes relationships official

Breaking Up

• Social Media good for starting relationship, not good for ending

• Teens interviewed acknowledged that breaking up over social media is disrespectful

• Facebook pages begin to slowly change when couples going through troubles (Ex: Michael p.134)

• Despite what teens say breakups take place online (Ex: old pictures deleted, angry status updates, removal of ex as a friend)


Over, but not really

• Even when relationship is over usually ex’s have mutual social media friends

• Ex’s can still see status updates and messages sent

• These communications can be caring, respectful, hurtful, or angry

• The book uses Bob from Northern California as an example

• You monitor your ex, check Facebook statuses, see who’s writing on their wall, and if the relationship status changes


Social Media

Jealousy

• Ono used Facebook to make her ex jealous

• Pictures of them removed

• Put in another person

• Flirt with other guys on Facebook

• Use an Ex’s friend to try and make Ex angry on Facebook


Privacy from Others

• Teens agreed that communication privacy from parents is important

• Social Media can give them this

• The book uses Joan as an example

• Her and her boyfriend would talk on the phone and IM at the same time, so their parents could not hear everything

• Teens have ability to be in relationships that parents may not approve of


Monitoring and

Boundaries

• People can monitor each other on Facebook

• Anything from • Researching potential love

interests

• Using a shared password to check one’s significant other

• Restrict significant others contact with their friends

• Check significant others wall to see who writes on it

• Example • Gabriela a 15 year old from

LA always logs into her boyfriends

• Facebook after looking at her own

• DO NOT SHARE PASSWORDS!!!


Vulnerability

• New media increases teens vulnerability and control over emotional exposure

• This could lead to them being victimized by friends and others

• Media can also be a good thing

• Leaving a message on Facebook can be more comfortable than calling a girl and stumbling over words

• Easier to flirt digitally than in person

• Predators • What parents worry about

most • Be careful of groups you join

and individuals you talk with


Ito, Mizuko. “Hanging Out, Messing Around, and Geeking Out.” The MIT Press 2010.


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