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    Leigh  Ann  Dutton   Forever  By  Grace:  A  Guide  to  Intentional  Conversations  with  Your  Spouse  

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      Table of Contents

    Introduction 4

    How to Use This Book 5

    I Am Thankful For 6

    Relationship Evaluation 7

    Have a Little Fun 9

    Moving Forward 10

    Closing Thoughts 11

    About the Author 12

    Recommended Resources 13

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    Introduction

    Marriage is our greatest earthly blessing. God desires for our marriages to be representations of Him - Christ and His Church. A marriage like this takes work. Lots of it!

    Susan Hunt says in her book, Your Home a Place of Grace:

    Our notions about family are usually shaped more by culture than by Scripture, and we live in a culture of individualism, selfism, and materialism — all of which are hostile to cultivating an environment of grace in our homes.

    This book was created to facilitate and encourage intentional conversations in our marriages. The following worksheets will help you determine ways in which you can grow not only as an individual, but also as a couple; thus strengthening your marriage and bringing glory to God.

    As we surrender it all to Him, may we experience grace in our marriages and in our homes.

    It’s  all  about  the  journey  and  what  you’re  willing  to   invest  in  to  make  the  marriage  work.  

    ~Intentional  By  Grace  Reader  

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    How to Use This Book

    Set aside a time, at least three to four times a year, to review these worksheets together. My husband and I try to schedule Intentional Conversations quarterly.

    Use the worksheets and exercises in this book to guide you through engaging, purposeful, marriage building conversations. You will need to make double copies of pages 6-9: one for yourself and one for your spouse.

    If your children aren’t already occupied, then get them set up with an activity, or wait for naptime (or better yet do this on a date night). You want at least an hour (or more) of uninterrupted time together.

    Before you begin, pray together. Ask God to fill each of you with the Holy Spirit. Pray for Him to illuminate the sin in your hearts and point out evidences of grace in your marriage. Pray for a heart of humility, as well the ability to speak the truth in love. Pray that He would bond the two of you together and bring glory to His name.

    Then, work through the following worksheets:

    I Am Thankful For … Relationship Evaluation Part 1 & 2 Have a Little Fun

    Afterward, fill out the Moving Forward worksheet together. This is a time to summarize what you’ve worked through, and agree on some action points. Be sure to set a date for your next intentional conversation during this time.

    Finally, finish your time together in prayer. Pray through your prayer requests and thank God for the gift of marriage.

       

    When  my  husband  and  I  take  time  to  talk  about  our  struggles,   temptations,  and  blessings,  we  feel  more  connected.  

    ~Intentional  By  Grace  Reader    

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    I Am Thankful For …

    Write in the lines below, at least ten things you are thankful for about your spouse. Then, share with your spouse each answer. Use this as a time to express gratitude and point out areas of God’s grace in each other’s lives.

    For example, the husband starts with sharing his first answer. Then, the wife shares her first answer. Talk about why you are thankful for each thing; share examples for each answer.

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    5. _____________________________________________________________

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    I  do  not  cease  to  give  thanks  for  you,  remembering   you  in  my  prayers.  

    Ephesians  1:16  (ESV)  

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    Relationship Evaluation (Part 1)

    Complete PPaarrtt 11 and PPaarrtt 22 of the RReellaatt iioonnsshhiipp EEvvaalluuaatt iioonn individually. Then, review answers together.

    Our relationship at this time is __________________________________________

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    Our biggest source of conflict at this time is________________________________

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    It would help our relationship if I would ___________________________________

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    Are you inviting intimacy; are you nurturing tenderness and passion? Explain.______

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    What are you doing to let your spouse know you prize him/her above all others? ___

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    Relationship Evaluation (Part 2)

    Please circle the number you feel best describes your relationship at this time in the following categories.

    1 = needs significant improvement 3 = okay 5 = needs very little improvement

    Seeking the Lord Together………………………………………………………1 2 3 4 5

    Praying Together.………………………………………………………………...1 2 3 4 5

    Praying for One Another………………………………………………………....1 2 3 4 5

    Communication……………………………………………………………..……1 2 3 4 5

    Priorities (God, Spouse, Children, etc.)…………………………………………1 2 3 4 5

    Conflict Resolution………………………………………………..……………...1 2 3 4 5

    Sexual Intimacy………………………………………...………………………....1 2 3 4 5

    Emotional Intimacy……………………………….……………………………...1 2 3 4 5

    Date Nights……………………………………………………………………….1 2 3 4 5

    Playing Together (i.e., Are you having fun?) …………………………………...1 2 3 4 5

    Creating Memories as a Couple………………………………………………….1 2 3 4 5

    Creating Memories as a Family………………………………………………….1 2 3 4 5

    Helping Each Other with Children……………………………………………...1 2 3 4 5

    Faithfulness to Encourage One Another………………………………………..1 2 3 4 5

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    Have a Little Fun

    Playing together as a couple is essential to a fun, lasting marriage. Additionally, to think that we know everything there is to know about our spouse is to starve ourselves of the mystery of marriage. No two days are the same! No two people are the same! There is still much to learn and discover about one another! So start playing and discover a thing or two about the person sitting next to you.

    What are 3 things you can do start playing together more often?

    1.__________________________________________________

    2.__________________________________________________

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    Need help? Check out 42 Date Night Ideas for the Date Night Challenged.

    List 5 things you wish you knew about your spouse.

    1.____________________________