Inside Columbia's Prime May 2014

May 2014

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Teen GrandkidsPAge 32

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ContentsPrime Magazine l May 2014 l Volume 6, Issue 2

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6 Columbia Outdoors

8 The Tasting Room

10 On The Road With Ray

12 Riding High

18 How-To Guides

27 Prime Time

32 Prime advice & your History

34 How Can I Help?

36 Pet Corner

38 Pet Care: Tips For Traveling With your Pet

40 Life Lessons

42 Fun & Games

44 Faces & Places

46 Recipe Box

52 your Bucket List

54 Columbia Confidential

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I wasn’t sure I could do it. I almost backed out. But on march 19, I went for it.

I had about 10 inches cut off my hair.I was ridiculously nervous before the cut,

which would make my hair the shortest it had been since I was 3. I knew it was just hair and it would grow back, but still — what if I hated it?

It was a good thing I had my 9-year-old daughter with me. She encouraged me to

go for it, and I knew I really wanted to.Sometimes we’re just ready to do something new.Bill and Donna thompson have been married almost 40 years.

they’ve been intentional about being attentive to their relationship and have long kept friday evenings open for date nights. But last summer, they felt like those date nights were becoming a romance rut. find out how a few spins on the ballroom dance floor fixed that in this month’s “Your Bucket List” on page 52.

more inspiration for taking on new challenges is in this month’s feature, which profiles two columbia dressage riders. Although Liz Hotchkiss has been riding horses most of her life, she didn’t become a serious dressage rider until in her 60s, while Bill Wise had practically no experience with horses until he found a private instructor a few years ago. See how learning new skills is enriching their lives on page 12.

connecting with grandkids who live in the world of social media and texting also requires a willingness to try something new. this month’s “Prime Advice” on page 32 offers tips for texting teenage grandkids.

As for my new look, I’m glad I went for it, mostly just for the fun of knowing I did something a little out of character for me. It’s been a good reminder that life is more fun when we’re open to new possibilities.

Welcome

staffPublisherFred Parry

Associate PublisherMelody Garnett Parry

Associate Publisher & Executive EditorSandy Selby

Managing EditorAnita Neal Harrison

Editorial AssistantMorgan McCarty

Creative DirectorCarolyn Preul

Director of MarketingKevin Magee

Graphic DesignerKate MooreTrever Griswold

Photo EditorL.G. Patterson

Sales ManagerDeb Valvo

Marketing RepresentativesRosemarie PeckJoe SchmitterJamill TeterJessica Card

Operations ManagerKalie Clennin

Office ManagerKent Hudelson

Assistant Finance ManagerBrenda Brooks

Distribution ManagerJohn Lapsley

Director of Customer RetentionGerri Shelton

Contributing WritersKathy Casteel, Brittany King, Saralee Perel, Angel Donnette Robertson, Ray Speckman, John Williams

Prime Magazine is published by OutFront Communications, 47 E. Broadway, Columbia, MO 65203,573-442-1430. Copyright OutFront Communications, 2013. The magazine is published 12 times a year onthe first day of every month. All rights reserved. Reproduction or use of any editorial or graphic content without the express written permission of the publisher is prohibited. SeRvIng tHe BoomeR

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Try Something New


LLooking to get out of the city, but don’t want to go too far? Drive five minutes east of downtown Columbia for peace and quiet. Majestic Stephens Lake Park sits where Broadway meets Old Highway 63 S. The 116-acre park is a beloved green space that offers activities year-round. Outdoor gathering spaces are popular for get-togethers. Open areas and the amphitheater play host to annual festivals.

5 Things To Do here:

1. TakeAWalk. Choose from two paved trails. One, just over half a mile, encircles the lake and presents the option of cutting across the water to an island shelter. The other trail, which is 1.7 miles long, goes around the park’s perimeter and is also open to bikers and skaters.

2. HaveAPicnic.The park offers four reserv-able picnic shelters. Three are outfitted with grills and playgrounds; the fourth is the island shelter.

3. GetWet. From May 1 to Sept. 30, swimmers enjoy the cool water of Stephens Lake. The 11-acre lake is open dawn to dusk and offers a sand beach. Nearby is a “sprayground” where the grandkids can enjoy the simple pleasure of running through a sprinkler.

4. GoFishing. On the east side of the board-walk, Stephens Lake invites non-motorized boating and fishing. Wet a line for the chance to catch black bass, bluegill, channel catfish, crappie and more.

5. StrollTheGarden.Hindman Discovery Garden inside Stephens Park has four themed areas that present beautiful lessons in horticulture. v

Stephens Lake Park

Columbia Outdoors

2001 e. BroadwayBy Brittany King


The Tasting Room

Riesling ages very well — up to 100 years or more. the cellar of the Bremen, germany, town hall has some barrels of Riesling that date back to the 1653 vintage.

Flower PowerIndulge Your Senses With Aromatic RieslingBy Kathy Casteel

PPour a bouquet into your wineglass

with Riesling. The pleasures of this fra-grant white wine will take your senses on a stroll through the garden with its floral aromatics and fruitful flavors.

Riesling is one of the “noble grape” varieties. The versatile fruit produces a wide variety of wine styles — from very sweet dessert wines to dry brut — but the most recognizable is the sweet style produced in Germany’s Rhine Valley. Riesling thrives in the well-drained soil of cool-climate areas such as Germany and France. In the United States, Washington has built a reputation for delicate Rieslings with floral aromas and fruity flavors.

Here are some good Rieslings to serve whenever you want your spring table to blossom.

Bloom The name says it all. A vibrant floral aroma leads to a taste of crisp, fruity flavors and a hint of sweetness. This offer-ing from Precept Wine is a medium-sweet Riesling from grapes grown in Walla Walla, Wash. Enjoy the fragrance of honey-suckle and the taste of peaches brightened with crisp acidity. Serve it chilled to accompany light

salads, barbecued chicken and spicy Asian cuisine.

Bloom Riesling comes recommended as a “best buy” from Wine Enthusiast, The Wine Buzz and USA Today.

Pacific Rim White Flowers Sweet Sparkling Riesling Another Washington Riesling, Pacific Rim’s sparkler comes from the Columbia Valley. The pale gold wine has floral and apricot aromas, fol-lowed by vivid flavors of lemon pie, jasmine and honey. The clean finish is refreshing.

Served well chilled, it goes solo as an excellent

patio cocktail, but it also pairs well with food. Try it with spicy Thai dishes or fruit desserts.

Snap Dragon Riesling From California’s Mendocino and Paso Robles appella-tions comes a sweet and food-friendly Riesling. This delicious blend carries floral aromatics on the nose with a fruit flavor reminiscent of juicy white summer peaches. The underlying citrus notes give it a crispness that off-sets the sweet. A splash of Gewürztraminer (10 percent) adds a spicy twist and intensifies the lush fra-

grance. Serve chilled with lemon chicken, spring salads or any dish with fiery spice.

Wine Enthusiast named Snap Dragon Riesling to its Best Buy and Top Value lists. v

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Out Of This WorldKennedy Space Center Offers Incredible ThrillsBy ray speCKman

On The Road With Ray

EEvery February or March takes me on a pilgrimage to Jupiter, Fla., to see the St. Louis Cardinals in spring training. This spring, I added a trip to Cape Canaveral and the Kennedy Space Center.

For the entire 30-minute drive from Cape Canaveral to the center, my travel companion and I could see glimpses of the massive complex, with the huge Vehicle Assembly Building — the larg-est single-story building in the world — dominating the landscape.

Parking is easy, and the entry to the complex passes a black granite fountain with an impression of President John F. Kennedy and an eloquent quote from his famous “Moon Speech,” which para-phrased says, “Let’s go all out in space because it is there.”

Inside the gate is a terrace area sur-rounded by various buildings housing

NASA exhibits. Also near the entrance is the Rocket Garden, filled with rockets, launch vehicles and even satellites, large and small. The Rocket Garden is com-pletely interactive with visitors invited to crawl inside satellites that circled the earth; some of the rockets are hardly larger than an office desk but were made to hold two or three astronauts.

An IMAX theater at the complex shows beautiful and informative 3-D movies made in space of various space travels and space walks.

We arrived in time to have lunch with an astronaut. This day the featured retired space pioneer was Marine Col. Gerald “Jerry” Carr. Carr made three space trips aboard the Skylab and com-manded one of those flights. He also made three spacewalks outside the Skylab.

At the rear of the Visitor Complex is the mammoth museum, opened in 2013, that houses the shuttle Atlantis. What an experience! After a short film, huge doors opened and there, suspended, was the enormous shuttle Atlantis. Huge, impressive and amazing it was.

There were numerous interactive exhibits surrounding the shuttle that had made 4,848 circles around Earth. One highlight was crawling into a small seat, fastening our safety belts and then experiencing the vibrations, the sounds and the power of what it was like to be lifted into space aboard the Atlantis.

During our visit, we learned that in three nights, the Air Force was going to launch a GPS satellite from an adja-cent base. We had planned to be in Savanna, Ga., by that time but changed our itinerary.

We returned to the Kennedy Space Center the next day and visited places we had not had time to see. We also took in a lecture by Col. Carr. We had lunch in an outdoor pavilion and kib-itzed with the colonel. We had more time to visit one-on-one with a man who had been to space and walked in space. That was thrilling in itself.

During our visit, my phone signaled an incoming tweet. Ironically, it was a tweet from NASA astronaut — and Lake of the Ozarks native — Mike Hopkins, direct from space. It was a photo of the Lake of the Ozarks area, showing Bagnell Dam and the Osage River. Hopkins was launched from Russia (an arrangement costing the U.S. $70 million) to do work on the space station, which we were told is the size of a five-bedroom home.

In the afternoon, we saw launch sites being completely reconstructed.


Untouched, thus far, is Launch Complex 39, Pad A, where all of the U.S. astronauts who made trips to the moon departed. It is a shrine.

The launch sites are being rebuilt to launch the upcoming Orion program, and NASA is partnering with private industry to launch other satellites from the Kennedy Space Center in the future.

The climax of our trip was the night satellite launch. Together with 30 other space enthusiasts, we gathered in the park-ing lot of our Cape Canaveral hotel about five miles from the launch site. We watched the countdown on our phones, and then we saw a bright glow on the horizon. That glow climbed steadily into the pitch-black sky. After about two minutes, the sound of the roaring rocket engines reached us, as directly overhead passed the satellite that accord-ing to the people at Kennedy Space Center was a GPS locator that “could put a missile through Putin’s front door — or help you find your way back to Missouri.” v

— Ray Speckman can be found looking to the sky, amazed at what is transpiring in space, or at [email protected].

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Riding HigH


>>> sometimes called “horse ballet,” the ancient sport of dressage showcases the intimate collaboration that can be achieved between a horse and rider.

the term dressage is French for training, and its purpose is to develop the horse’s natural athletic ability and willingness to work, making him calm, supple and attentive to his rider. in competitive dressage, the horse and rider perform a series of tests, judged on how well the rider shows the horse’s abilities.

Dressage is a sport that welcomes athletes of all ages, and the national Dressage Foundation honors senior riders and horses with the Century Club. to be eligible for this club, the rider and horse must have ages that, combined, total at least 100 years. two local dressage rid-ers, William “Bill” Wise, 76, and elizabeth “liz” hotchkiss, 80, have earned this honor. their dres-sage stories show there’s no one way to fall in love with this most graceful of equestrian sports.

Two LocaL Dressage riDers earn naTionaL recogniTion

By aniTa neaL harrison

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Bill Wise & JakeUnlike most Century Club members,

William “Bill” Wise did not become a horseman until just a few years ago. He grew up in Baltimore, Md., and his first riding experience, a trail ride which occurred almost 50 years ago, is not something he remembers with pleasure.

“Besides being jostled about on a hard saddle farther above the ground than seemed prudent, the only other thing I recall about that experience was being asked, ‘Why aren’t you posting?’ ” he says, referring to a riding technique that smooths out the jarring.

With that experience, Wise went several years without ever thinking of horseback riding as something one did for pleasure and recreation. Then, about five years ago, he read a book that rekindled his interest: The Tao of Equus by Linda Kohanov. Already retired from a career in physical chemistry, Wise volunteered at Cedar Creek Therapeutic Riding Center, and seeing the benefits for the center’s clients, he wondered if some time in the saddle might also do him good. He began summer riding at Stephens College and then enrolled in a western riding class there. But he

>>> discovered even a basic riding class in college was too advanced for him.

“I told the instructor, ‘I thought this was a beginning riding class,’ ” he recalls, “and she said to me: ‘Well, you wouldn’t go into a college chemistry class without having any high school chemistry. You should know something about riding before coming here.’ ”

Wise chuckles over this story. A man with three college degrees, who is cur-rently enrolled in a German class at MU just for the pleasure of learning, he was undaunted. He turned to Kim Krieckhaus, a private instructor who teaches dressage at her Willow Ponds Farm in Sturgeon. Wise spent the first few months learning the fundamentals of a balanced seat on a mustang mare named Mary Jane. In 2011, Mary Jane was the horse Wise rode for his first dres-sage tests.

Later that summer, Krieckhaus sug-gested Wise ride Jake, then a 22-year-old American Quarter Horse gelding. Soon after that, Wise learned about the Century Club and realized in a couple of years, he and Jake would be eligible. He decided to make membership a goal to show what he had accomplished as a

rider and to honor Jake’s years of service to those seeking equestrian skills.

Jake and Wise completed their Century Club ride on July 29, 2013, at Missouri’s Show-Me State Games Dressage event. It was an unusually cool summer day, with a high temperature of just 74. It was also breezy.

“It was somewhat of a scary day because the horses weren’t really settled because of the wind and the canvas flap-ping, and I think the horses were feeling their oats,” Wise says. “It was like they were saying: ‘Oh, it’s a beautiful day! Why do we have to do this work?’ ”

Even though it wasn’t their best ride, Wise and Jake still showed the judges what they needed to see for induction into the Century Club. And Wise also rode off with another prize, a new level of confidence.

“I’ve learned that I can take on chal-lenges that are somewhat scary and suc-ceed at them,” he says. “And I’ve learned that I have to be patient. You can’t force the horse to do anything that it doesn’t want to do. They are big, powerful ani-mals, and unless you get their coopera-tion, you’re not going to succeed. You have to be patient.”

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liz HotcHkiss & oliverElizabeth “Liz” Hotchkiss was just 7

years old when her father started tak-ing her on trail rides in Long Island. She followed that up with summer rid-ing camps and various riding schools, and when she was 21, she went through a program to become a certi-fied riding instructor.

After she was married, she and her husband started a boarding and lesson stable in 1966 in Amagansett, Long Island. There, Hotchkiss mostly taught combined training and jumping.

“At one point, I decided I didn’t know enough to be doing what I was doing, so I went to the Dressage Institute in Saratoga and got some instruction there,” Hotchkiss says. “It was fantastic.”

Hotchkiss continued giving lessons when her husband became ill, and even after he died, she kept the farm going. Several years later, in 1989, she and her second husband turned the farm over to one of her two daughters, moved to Columbia with five horses and opened a boarding barn here, Stony Hill Farm.

Despite this lifelong experience, Hotchkiss didn’t begin her most seri-ous study of dressage until she was in her mid-60s, about 15 years ago. Widowed a second time, she went down to Wellington, Fla., to visit her daughter. Hotchkiss had such a good time that she decided to take a horse there for the winter, and she found an instructor to continue her training.

“I’ve probably learned more since I was 50 than before I was 50, and that’s one of the things that’s amazing about riding,” she says. “You don’t stop learning in this business at all. It goes on forever.”

Hotchkiss bought her current dres-sage horse, Oliver, in Florida in 2001, when he was 8 and she was 67. For the next six years, she took him to Wellington for winter training.

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>>> “What a good investment that turned out to

be!” she says.Hotchkiss and Oliver made it all the way to

showing at the Prix St. Georges level— which comes after the Fourth Level and is the begin-ning of the international levels of dressage — and they even won that class. But then they did no shows for six years.

“I don’t like doing shows very much,” Hotchkiss explains. “I never have. It’s too stressful.”

Even so, Hotchkiss felt the pull of the Century Club, and last spring, on April 20, 2013, she and Oliver rode at the William Woods Spring Dressage Show.

“I was nervous!” she recalls with a laugh. “It was exciting afterward. Everybody was happy, and I got a bunch of flowers from the William Woods people.”

Although the most basic ride will do, Hotchkiss and Oliver rode a Fourth Level test.

Today, Hotchkiss still teaches dressage at Stony Hill Farm. All of her current students are adults, with most in their 50s. She’s glad she has dressage, she says, because without it, she thinks she’d be bored.

“I hope that I can keep doing it for a while,” she says. “We’ll do it until we can’t do it anymore.” v

Spectator’s Guidecompetitive dressage involves nine progressive levels, from the most basic walk/trot to the grand Prix test, which is used in the olympics. the tests are divided into separate movements, and the judge gives a score for each movement. the score sheets are then totaled to deter-mine class results. It’s easier to understand what is going on if supplied with a copy of the test being performed. Here are seven more points to keep in mind:1. Less is More. In dressage, the less you see the rider do, the better

because that means he is communicating with his horse quietly and his horse is attentive; they are working as a team.

2. good Figures. circles are round and lines are straight, a precept true in geometry and dressage.

3. Tempo and rhythm. Rhythm is the repetition of footfalls. A sound dressage horse has only three correct rhythms: a four-beat walk, a two-beat trot and a three-beat canter. tempo is the speed of repeti-tion of strides. Riders should control their horses at a consistent tempo throughout the test — a tempo so obvious you could sing a song to it.

4. naughtiness. Horses, like people, have good days and bad days and days when they are just feeling a little too good. naughtiness in hors-es can be exhibited in bucking, rearing, tossing of the head or even jumping out of the dressage ring.

5. Tension. During a test, the horse needs to remain calm, attentive and supple. If the horse gets tense, he gets rigid through his neck and back, which can exhibit itself in stiff movement, ears that are pinned back and a tail that swishes constantly and doesn’t hang arched and quietly swinging.

6. rider seat and Position. the rider should sit upright quietly and not depend on his whip, spurs or voice to have a nice test. Riders who use their voice have points deducted off their test score for that movement.

7. whipped cream Lips. When a horse is relaxed in his jaw and poll (the area just behind his ears), he releases saliva; you might see white foam around his lips and mouth. that is a good sign as it means he is attentively chewing on his bit and comfortable in his work. the amount of white foam varies from horse to horse.Source: united States Dressage federation, www.usdf.org

Columbia’s Local Dressage ClubBoth Liz Hotchkiss and Bill Wise are members of the columbia

Dressage and combined training Association, the local chapter of the united States Dressage federation. the group’s mission

is to provide educational and competition opportunities for the small but growing group of mid-missouri equestrians interested

in dressage and eventing (formerly known as combined training). find out more about the club at www.cdcta.org.


this “How to” section appears each month in Inside Columbia’s Prime. Readers learn how to find and choose various products and services.

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RRobert Fuller published the first seed catalog in 1732. For many years after that, gardeners anxiously awaited its arrival every January. They used these catalogs to plan their spring gardens and to help fill the long winter days.

In many cases, those seed catalogs have been replaced by the Internet, but gardeners across the world still use the winter to dream of their spring gardens. They have a wide selection of products to seed those dreams. Gardeners today can choose products from over 2,600 garden centers spread across the United States. So, how do you make the right choice?

DO THE RESEaRCHWhen researching a garden center, look at its catalog or Internet site. It should be filled with information that is aimed at helping the gardener be more successful. This information should be easy to understand and easy to apply, proving that the garden center is an expert in gardening.

Also look for a garden center that is active in the media. When the media has questions, the experts at the garden center you are considering should be on the short list that the media uses.

Ask your friends and neighbors for referrals. Do you have a friend or neighbor who loves to garden? Have you noticed a beau-tiful garden in your area? If so, then ask the owner whom they use.

Determine the specialty of each garden center. While some garden centers have a wide variety of products, most have a few products that they specialize in. Are those the products that interest you?

VISIT THE GaRDEN CENTERSAfter you have researched the garden centers, then visit two or three before making a final decision.

Look at the quality of plants in the garden center. Do they look healthy? Do they seem to be well taken care of? Is there a good variety?

Ask the salesperson a question. Think about a problem you have experienced in the past and ask about a solution. The salesperson should be knowledgeable about possible solutions. Notice if the salesperson is friendly and person-able.

Find out how long the garden center has been in its cur-rent location. Good businesses usually stay in the same loca-tion for a long time and are usually operated by the same people for a long time.

Ask about who owns the garden center. Usually plants grown for local greenhouses are better quality. After all, they are produced to be grown in your area. Plants grown locally usually have fewer diseases. Some of these diseases will not be apparent until you take the plants home.

Find out how the plants are produced. Open pollinated designates a seed or plant that will reproduce itself purely if a seed is properly saved from the fruit of the plant. An organic seed or plant has been produced without artificial or chemical pesticides.

Genetically modified plants are created by laboratory technology that manipulates the plant’s genes. For example, instead of mixing two different kinds of corn to create one that is more resistant to diseases, they may combine genes from corn and a totally unrelated tomato plant. These modi-fications do not happen naturally in the breeding process.

People are very wary of genetically altered seeds and plants. But there are many advantages to this type of plant. On commercial farms, this type of plant can give distinct advantages over those that are not genetically modified. In a backyard garden, however, this is usually not necessary.

When shopping at a garden center, you should know what types of plants are being offered. Many will have identifying points listed on the tag. If not, check with the staff to get information. Generally, commercial crops are more likely to have genetic modification. v

How To Choose a Garden Center


aA visit to your favorite spa leaves you feeling refreshed and

relaxed. But all those spa visits become expensive if you go there often, and they eat up a lot of spare time.

So why not have a pool or spa installed at home?If you want to re-create that decadent and luxurious feeling at home, there are a few things you need to know before you get started.

Home spas have become quite affordable in recent years as the demand for them has risen. There are even easy-to-install models for accomplished DIYers and portable ones that you can pack up and take along on vacation. Many people who suf-fer from chronic pain or who have circulatory problems find them a great help.

Innovations such as ozonators and aromatherapy fragrances have reached the home-spa industry, too. Many available for home use are nearly as elaborate as those found in high-end hotels and resorts. You may even be able to find some of these in stock at your favorite big-box home-improvement center.

Home spas are now available with TV and DVD combina-tions, along with therapeutic and eye-catching LED lighting.

Spas can be entertaining and relaxing, but consider another aspect: hydrotherapy. Water has the ability to help in healing and repairing tired bodies. It massages muscles, improves cir-culation, relaxes nerves and eases aches and pains.

Jetted tubs are known for their tension- and stress-reducing effects; they suspend tired muscles in weightlessness, allowing them to rest. Back pain sufferers are among those most vocal in their praise of home spas’ pain-relieving possibilities.

Everyone has a different reason for wanting a home spa. Regardless of your reasons, you can order a custom spa built to your specifications. You can order whichever bells and whistles you want: entertainment systems, fragrances, lighting, cabinets and umbrellas.

Home swimming pools are also a favorite installation for the health-conscious. These are not your grandfather’s aqua bathtub-sunk-in-the-yard pools of yesteryear. Natural stone, manmade waterfalls and landscape detailing transform a pool into a private oasis.

Ask lots of questions before choosing a pool design. How is the pool going to be used? Do you want an in-ground or an above-ground pool? Above-ground pools are substantially less expensive, but some people prefer the look and durability of an in-ground pool. It’s a decision that shouldn’t be taken lightly because the pool will be a part of your home for many years.

You’ll also want to consider the materials, style and features that will surround your pool; you are no longer restricted to a plain concrete-lined pond. You will need to work with a builder to blend form and function in your backyard environment.

One thing to consider: Many people will build their dream pool over time as it fits their budget, so it’s important to start with high-quality installation and a plan in place for what you want your pool to become. Even if you can only afford a basic pool right now, you can plan the space to include more features later.

When life gets to be too much sometimes, wouldn’t it be nice to have your own private relaxation and restoration place? Create your own “staycation” with a pleasurable home pool or spa. v

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WWe all want to live life to the fullest, but when health issues start to interfere, what do you do? People don’t always realize that there are many services available to help you or a loved one improve quality of life and stay safe and independent at home.

Choosing someone to provide help at home is one of the most important decisions you will make. Not only are you choosing a care provider, but you are also choosing someone to come into your home or the home of a loved one. Home care services should help provide support and relief, not add to your worries with unexpected costs or unsatisfactory care.

Following are some areas to research as you make this impor-tant decision:

aCCESS TO CaREIt can take some research to find care and help for someone at home. There are many services and community resources avail-able, but it isn’t always easy to find them. It is important to choose a home care agency with the experience and knowledge to know all the options and to help access the individualized care you need.

RaNGE OF SERVICESNot everyone requires the same services, so it is important that a full range of services are available to meet your ongoing needs. A full-service provider that offers all types of home care ser-vices can help you transition to various types of care as they are needed, while tailoring services to meet your individual needs. This way you get the services you need and not just what the company happens to offer.

ExPERIENCE aND QuaLITyIt is important to choose an experienced agency that has a way to measure their quality. Ask if they are certified by the Joint Commission or other accrediting organization — the same orga-nizations that assure quality for hospitals. Choose an agency where the employees coming into your home receive training and support and where supervisors come to the home to evaluate the employees’ work. Make sure someone is available to answer your questions 24 hours a day, 7 days a week — including holidays.

QuaLIFIED, DEPENDaBLE EMPLOyEESBecause caregivers will be coming into your home and work-ing independently, it is critical that they have been thoroughly screened and that extensive background checks have been done, including a thorough interview, reference checks, Family Safety Care Registry checks, criminal background checks and drug test-ing. They should also be insured and bonded.

PayMENT SOuRCESThere are many payment sources available for home care, and it is important to select an agency that understands and accepts all of them for your maximum benefit. Some of the sources include Medicare, Medicaid, Missouri Children’s Waiver, Insurance, Veteran’s Administration, Worker’s Compensation and private pay. Some agencies are also aware of free community resources available.

There are many benefits to choosing home care. With these guidelines, you can have more confidence in choosing the best home care agency for you or your loved ones. v

How To Choose Care at Home


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WWhen it comes to purchasing a new appliance, it’s important to think through how the place of purchase will impact the shopping experience and your satisfac-tion in the end.

Many consumers use the Internet to get educated on today’s appliances. With no more than a brief description, you can shop for price, availability and dimen-sions. You can even learn what other people say about the appliance through reading reviews. Large outlet stores make it easy to shop with their interactive websites, extended hours and locations. Even their prices are available, all from a mobile device. Still, this convenience in gathering information does not neces-sarily determine where you will buy and whom you will trust with your money. The following information offers guid-ance on how to choose where to make an appliance purchase.

GETTING STaRTEDFirst of all, determine your price range up front. It’s easy to spend a lot more than you intend when not prepared. While shopping the Internet will make price estimating easy, your best deal may be found via a local retailer, whose best deals are not posted on a website. There are always closeouts, clearance or over-stocked items the retailer needs to move.

These hidden treasures are best found by walking through the doors, calling ahead or a simple email. If you are comfortable with the process of negotiation, bartering is another good option for determining your price range.

KNOWLEDGE IS POWERLearn all you can about the store you’re considering. How long have they been in business? How do they rate with the Better Business Bureau (BBB)? If you are comfortable using an online referral service like Angie’s List or Service Noodle, you can also see what their customers are saying about them. Does this retailer have any business practice awards or achieve-ments that are noteworthy? Where do your neighbors, friends, church members and coworkers shop? These are all great resources for finding recommendations.

SERVICE aFTER THE SaLELike most major purchases, appliances require service and repair from time to time. This, too, has to be factored into your purchasing decisions. Do you prefer to purchase from a store that provides their own service and repair? Chain stores seldom, if ever, have their own service team. They rely on an outside contractor to service the appliances they sell. Local retailers oftentimes have one

or more certified technicians on staff. The local store with their own service team is generally more flexible in regards to in-home scheduled service.

It’s also a good idea to find out if the store has a parts department. Parts on hand generally means you don’t have to wait on a repair to be completed. That’s great news when an in-home repair gen-erally means that you have to take off work to meet the repair person.

DELIVERy, INSTaLLaTION aND REBaTESKnow exactly what the dealer means by the term delivery. Delivery can mean delivered to your doorstep or garage but not inside your house. It could mean in your house as long as the appliance fits through the door while in its own carton. Delivery can also be free — as long as you purchase certain models, a certain price point or brand.

Free delivery could mean “after rebate,” which isn’t altogether bad, as long as you are briefed on the terms of the rebate. Some rebates can only be redeemed with the same retailer from whom you purchased the product. Other rebates come in the form of a pre-paid card that can be spent anywhere; these are becoming more common in the appli-ance industry. Still other rebates are in the form of a paper check and usually take six to 12 weeks to arrive. Always check with the store for details.

Installation of your appliance requires the same attention to detail. Ask the store if the installation of your new appliance is provided by one of their own employ-ees or by an outside contractor. It may seem irrelevant, but it could be crucial if any problems arise with the installation. Free installation offers are also out there but oftentimes require the purchase of an install kit to complete the offer.

If you are new to the community and don’t have access to a network of friends or family, these tips will help you make a solid decision regarding where to make your next appliance purchase. v

How To Choose an appliance Store


May 1The StephensLakeAmphitheaterConcertSeries returns for the summer season with an evening performance by Swampweed Cajun Band. Sit on the bowl-shaped, grassy hillside or the small concrete seating area in front of the stage. The Swampweed Cajun Band plays “foot-stompin’, accordion-squeezed, French howlin’ music from the swamps.” Enjoy spring weather in the park while listening to lively tunes and French Cajun vocals. Free; 7 p.m.; 100 Old 63 N.; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec May 2Each summer, MoviesInThePark fea-tures family-friendly movie showings in Flat Branch Park. On the first Friday of each month, May through September, bring a blanket and watch a movie on a large inflatable movie screen. This month, enjoy G-rated “Monsters University.” Find out how “Monsters Inc.” main char-acters Mike and Sully earned their scar-ing stripes and how they became the best of friends. $2, free for 8 and younger; 8:30 p.m.; Locust and Fourth streets; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec May 2–4 aND May 7–9The internationally successful musi-cal “RESPECT: A Musical Journey of Women” premieres at Macklanburg Playhouse on the Stephens College cam-pus. The musical tells the story of women through adored Top-40 hits of the last century. It is a musical experience for men and women of all ages that encourages women to look for heroes within them-selves. From $8; 7:30 p.m. except 2:30 matinee May 4; 100 Willis Ave.; 573-876-7199; www.stephens.edu/performingarts May 3The JumpstartSparkALife5K raises funds to help close the gap children in pov-erty face when entering school. Jumpstart

serves preschool children in low-income neighborhoods by teaching them the necessary skills they need to succeed in kindergarten and beyond. The race begins in Flat Branch Park and continues onto the MKT Trail, through the Old Southwest neighborhood and the University of Missouri campus. The event is chip-timed. $25 for Jumpstart members, $30 for nonmembers, free for children 5 and younger; 9 a.m.; Locust and Fourth streets; [email protected]; www.facebook.com/Jumpstart.Mizzou May 3Stephens Lake Park celebrates the open-ing of the brand-new Children’s Grove

with a Children’sGroveDedicationCelebration. The Children’s Grove of magnolia and crabapple trees commemo-rates children’s mental health needs. The celebration helps to kick off Children’s Mental Health Week. Enjoy music, a sto-rybook trail, singing, face painting and more. Free; 1 to 3 p.m.; 2300 Walnut St.; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec May 10The 12th annual JayDixChallengetoCure offers three different events for all levels of competition: a 5K-walk, 5K-run and a 10K-run. The Columbia Multisport Club began this event in honor of one of its past

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May 9Violinist Jennifer Kohundoubtedly will deliver an intense, commanding perfor-mance at JenniferKoh:BachandBeyond at the Missouri Theatre. Koh is known for choosing pieces that challenge and inspire, with a violin repertoire that spans traditional and contemporary. She was Top Medalist in the 1994 Tchaikovsky Competition. From $12; doors open at 6:30 p.m., show at 7; 203 S. Ninth St.; 573-882-3781; www.concertseries.org


members, Dr. Jay Dix. It raises awareness about annual cancer screening and preven-tion, and 100 percent of event proceeds go to Ellis Fischel Cancer Center. Event is chip-timed. Read more on page 34. From $40; all races begin at 9 a.m.; Flat Branch Park; 573-424-9630; www.challengetocure.com

▲ May 10The Missoula Children’s Theatre and more than 50 local students present an original musical adaptation of the classic story “Pinocchio” at Jesse Auditorium. The small wooden puppet Pinocchio has a problem with telling the truth, but he dreams of becoming a real boy. He is one of the most frequently reimagined children’s characters in modern culture. Missoula Children’s Theater is known for using an entertain-ment format to foster enrichment and education in children of all ages. Two shows will be offered. From $7; first show: doors open at 2:30 p.m., show at 3, second show: doors open at 5:30 p.m., show at 6; Jesse Auditorium (MU campus); 573-882-3781; www.concertseries.org May 11–18This month’s annual Bike,WalkandWheelWeek encourages Columbians to use active modes of transportation to get around Columbia. Participate in trail rides, public tours, workshops and more. On Friday, May 16, take part in National Bike to Work Day and enjoy a free breakfast at various locations around town as you bike, walk or wheel. Bicyclists may ride city transit buses for free all week long. Free to participate, some activities require a fee; various times; throughout Columbia; 573-874-7460; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec


May 13Singer-songwriter LyleLovett returns to Columbia to perform in Jesse Auditorium. Winner of four Grammy Awards, Lovett incorporates country-western, folk, swing, blues, jazz and gospel into his music. From $35; doors open at 6:30 p.m., show at 7; Jesse Hall (MU campus); 573-882-3781; www.concertseries.org

May 24The SeventhAnnualForthePeoplePowWow at the Central Missouri Events Center is a day of celebration of the American Indian. Presented by the Missionary Society for the Preservation of Traditional Values, the event is sponsored by the Missouri Humanities Council. Gourd dancing and demonstrations are on tap, and food and art vendors will be present. The honored guest for this year’s event is Larry Sellers (Cloud Dancing) from the “Dr. Quinn, Medicine Woman” TV series. Free for children and elders, $1 for school age, $3 for adults; 11:30 a.m. to 11 p.m.; 5212 N. Oakland Gravel Road (Boone County Fairgrounds); 816-679-0695; www.msptv.org/powwow.htm May 24The GoGirlRun returns for another year as Columbia’s only all-women half-marathon and 5K-run/walk events. Grab your girl-friends, co-workers and family members to train for and run the event together. Come race day at University of Missouri Reactor Field Park, get ready for a celebration of friendship and sisterhood with each detail of the event planned by Ultramax Sports with women in mind. Men are discouraged from attending but are not restricted. From $35; half-marathon begins at 7 a.m., 5K begins at 7:30; University of Missouri Reactor Field Park; 573-443-7036; www.ultramaxsports.com/race/events May 24The SummerMusicSeriesatLesBourgeoisVineyards kicks off the 2014 season with live music at the A-Frame. Each Saturday through Oct. 4, bands perform on the blufftop for a music-filled evening on the Missouri River. Free; 4 p.m. to sunset; 14020 W. Highway BB; 800-690-1830; www.missouriwine.com/events May 24-25During the annual Pedaler’sJamboree, cyclists begin their day in Flat Branch Park and make their way to Kemper Park in Boonville. Drop off your overnight pack


at check-in and start your 30-mile trip through Katy Trail State Park. Stop when you feel like it to enjoy live music. Once you arrive at Kemper Park, pick up your overnight pack and set up camp before enjoying the featured musical event on the main stage. Food vendors in the park and restaurants in Boonville are open. The festival is open to all ages. Nonriders with tickets to the Kemper Park Festivities can enter the park starting at 3 p.m. From $25; ride starts between 7 a.m. and 3 p.m.; 101 S. Fourth St. (Flat Branch Park), 757 Third St., Boonville (Kemper Park); 573-234-4642; www.pedalersjamboree.com

▲ May 24-25Look to the sky over Memorial Day weekend for the 26thAnnualSalutetoVeteransAirshowat Columbia Regional Airport. Honor our veterans while enjoy-ing spectacular flight demonstrations and aerobatic performances in the air. On the ground, explore vintage and modern aircraft on display. Free; 9:30 a.m. to 3:30 p.m.; 11300 S. Airport Drive; www.salute.org May 26The annualSaluteToVeteransMemorialDayParadeis a free event that celebrates those who served or are currently serving in the armed forces, national guard and reserves, and U.S. allies. The parade runs down Broadway and ends at the Boone County Courthouse plaza for a military ceremony. Free; 9:55 a.m.; downtown Columbia; www.salute.org May 28Inside Columbia’s Culinary Adventures invites you to attend theMacadoodlesCigarandScotchDinner. Enjoy fine


Scotch from Macadoodles of Columbia while dining on a five-course meal pre-pared by Chef Dennis Clay. Menu items include pork-belly sliders, cedar-smoked arctic char and grilled flat iron steak. Cigar selections include Romeo y Julieta Reserva Real, and Scotch offerings include The Balvenie Caribbean Cask 14 Year and Glenfiddich 18 Year — among others. $125; 6 to 9 p.m.; 47 E. Broadway; 573-442-1430;www.comoculinaryadventures.com May 29During this annual “(fun)draising event,” local business people sit in the hot seat while friends tell stories and anecdotes — true and untrue and all hilarious — about them. Proceeds from the event benefit the Alzheimer’s Association. This year, the RoastofDaveGriggs takes place at the Holiday Inn Executive Center. Griggs, the owner of Dave Griggs’ Flooring America, has a personal connection to the cause through his mother-in-law, who is facing the early stages of dementia. Come out for a fun and charitable night. $100/ticket, $1,000/table; doors open at 5:30 p.m., din-ner starts at 6:30; 2200 I-70 Drive S.W.; 573-443-8665; www.alz.org May 30 – JuNE 1The 2014SpecialOlympicsMissouriStateSummerGameswelcomes more than 2,500 athletes to compete in basket-ball, volleyball, aquatics, bowling, track and field, and powerlifting. This is the last year of Columbia’s four-year term of host-ing the summer games. Events take place at the University of Missouri, Hickman High School and Columbia College. Volunteers are needed and donations accepted. Free; times TBD; MU, Hickman High School and Columbia College cam-puses; 573-635-1660; www.somo.org May 31Gather the whole family and grab your fishing poles for the FourthAnnualFishingDerby at Phipps Park. Compete for prizes in each age category for first fish caught, and largest and smallest fish. Age categories are 10 and younger, and 11 and older. The event is co-sponsored by the Columbia Parks & Recreation Department and the Missouri Department of Conservation. Free; check-in from 9 to 9:30 a.m., derby from 9:30 to 10:30; 573-874-7663; www.gocolumbiamo.com/ParksandRec v


TExTING TIPSBeginning a text conversation may feel a bit daunting for the uninitiated, so here are a few suggestions to get you started.Ask specific questions about the hobbies, activities or people that play a significant part in the teenager’s life. Ask about the baseball game or cheerleader tryouts or the band competition. or ask about a difficult or favorite class or the new part-time job.When you know the teenager is facing a challenge, pass along encouragement before and praise after the event. or after you have spent a day with them, send a quick follow-up text, sharing what you enjoyed the most.Also, you shouldn’t be afraid to talk about yourself a bit. feel free to throw in a sentence or two about your own activities. they just might learn to ask questions as well.finally, don’t be overwhelmed by text talk. You can find guides to the abbreviations on the Internet, if you really want to know. But writing with actual words and full punctuation is perfectly acceptable.

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i want to be an active part of my grandchildren’s lives, but they seem more interested in texting than having a normal face-to-face or even telephone conversation. how can i get my teenage grandkids to talk to me?You’ll probably have to settle for what you can get: texting.

At least for the majority of exchanges.I know many people feel the loss of personal interaction as

socializing moves into the cyber world. And I won’t argue that there isn’t a loss. Unfortunately, change always brings loss, in one way or another.

But change also brings gain, in one way or another.So you should use texting to your advantage. Teenagers lead

busy lives. Although many arguments can be made against such tightly packed calendars, the reality is, whether they should or shouldn’t, they lead busy lives. And texting fits into their sched-ules. Sending a text allows the grandchild to reply on his time and offers you a little insight into his life, while a phone call would go unanswered and, perhaps, unreturned. A conversation may take longer when held through texting, but at least the con-versation is being had.

And any grandparent who is unsure of any communication device driven by new technology can ask a grandchild to teach them. Those moments of sharing bring another chance to bond and, with the right attitude, plenty of opportunities to laugh.

Finally, you can still, of course, use all the other “old-fash-ioned” methods of contact: phone calls, letters and cards. And, if you have a good relationship with your grandchildren’s parents or a good relationship with your grandchildren themselves, you can explain that you wish to receive those same things from them, now and then, because those types of interaction feel more personal to you. If they see you as willing to adapt and learn for them, they just might return the favor. v

— Angel Donnette Robertson is not a professional counselor, but she has a lifelong appreciation for the beauty and complications of relationships.

Have a relationship question for Angel? email it to [email protected]. Angel will select reader questions to answer, along with questions she finds, in upcoming issues of Inside Columbia’s Prime.

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Tell Me About It


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A memoir is a written collection of experiences. Not all of us consider ourselves writers, but all of us have a story to share. Through revealing our memories, we impart to others a piece of history, a bit of our experi-ence and a lot of ourselves.

Use the below prompt and prompts in future issues of Prime to begin writing your own story. Whether that story eventually takes the shape of a formal memoir or remains simple bursts of personal and family history, it will be a treasure to future generations. v

think of a scent that carries you back in time. the fragrance of cut grass, chicken frying, perfume or cologne, glue paste, burnt rubber. What memory does the smell carry? Was it a one-time event or a more regular occurrence? Why does the memory stay with you? What does the memory mean to you?

your HistoryMemoir WritingBy angel Donnette roBertson


RaCE DETaILS

the 12th Annual Jay Dix challenge to cure offers three different events for all levels of competition. Register online at www.challengetocure.com for a 5k-walk, 5k-run or 10k-run. online registration closes at 11:59 p.m. on Wed., may 7.the chip-timed race begins at 9 a.m. on Sat., may 10, at flat Branch Park. Water stations are available to run-ners throughout the course. After the race, there will be a pancakes and sausage buffet from chris cakes.

9 a.m., Saturday, may 10flat Branch Parkwww.challengetocure.com

WWhatIsThisRace? The Jay Dix Challenge to Cure is a 5K-walk/run and 10K-run. It was started in 2003 by the Columbia Multisport Club in honor of one of its past members, Dr. Jay Dix. Dix served as the Boone County Medical Examiner and as an associate professor at the University of Missouri. This event celebrates Dix’s love of run-ning, competition and enthusiasm for fitness. It also raises awareness about annual cancer screening and preven-tion.

WhereDoTheFundsGo?100 percent of event proceeds go directly to Ellis Fischel Cancer Center to further the life-changing research happening there every day.

HowMuchMoneyIsRaised?Race proceeds for Ellis Fischel Cancer Center have totaled $165,000 in

the first decade of this event. This year’s goal is to raise $35,000. It takes approximately $10,000 to pro-duce this event.

WhatEventsSurroundTheRace?From 5:30 to 8 p.m., May 3, at Logboat Brewery, 10 percent of all sales will be donated to Challenge to Cure. Logboat will be giving away sweatshirts and other apparel, as well as we raffling off a gift basket from Macadoodles.

HowCanPeopleGive?Race reg-istration fees raise most of the funds. Fees are $40 through May 9 or $45 on race day. Additional financial con-tributions can be made to Challenge to Cure, with checks made payable to the Columbia Multisport Club (memo line “Challenge to Cure”), 1400 Forum Blvd., Suite 38 #311, Columbia, Mo., 65203.

HowCanPeopleVolunteer?Go to challengetocure.com and click on the “volunteer” button to sign up. v

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Pet Corner

S— John Williams, DVM, is a retired Columbia veterinarian who spent 39 years as a small-animal practitioner.

See if you agree with this: I am rela-tively certain that etched in stone some-where in the pantheon of drivel is the familiar statement, “There are no such things as stupid questions, only stupid answers.” Well, while that may hold true when it comes from boring after-dinner speakers or something your father said after trying to explain “the birds and the bees,” it often falls a little short within the veterinary profession. For some reason there is nothing like the behav-ior of our little, furry favorites to cause pet owners (and veterinarians) to spout questions (and answers) that sound like they came from a 3-year-old who just finished off a sippy cup full of Red Bull.

For example, try this one on for size: “Why does my cat kill the birds in the yard?” Simple answer, “Because he’s a cat!” But people don’t want their cats to behave like cats. They want them to behave like Mr. Rogers on Prozac. They want sweet, purring little balls of fur that sit on their laps, licking their paws like they’re getting ready to per-form open heart surgery. In short, they want a docile, adoring little creature that behaves like a cross between Albert Schweitzer and Mother Theresa. Killing anything should be the furthest thing from their minds. That’s just stupid.

No matter how precious and gentle our little feline friends are, remember

this: They are first, last and always predatory carnivores. That is, instinc-tively they are meat eaters, and they prefer to be fresh meat eaters — like alive-30-seconds-ago fresh. If you don’t believe it, cut back on the premium, designer brand cat food that you serve them on a linen napkin every day and watch the mixed martial arts demon-stration that develops in the back yard. Given enough time the chirping of the birds will be muted, and the squirrels, rabbits and field mice in the yard will be having their mail forwarded.

Here is another one: “Why does my cat fight the neighbor’s cat?” Simple answer — you guessed it — “Because he’s a cat!” People don’t want to hear it. Pet owners have an indelible Norman Rockwell image in their minds of cats frolicking together among the wild flow-ers in a peaceful meadow. It was imbed-ded there the first time they sat through a Disney movie. Peace and harmony. Ah.

Unfortunately, I am going to smudge that Rockwell painting and crinkle your mouse ears. The hard fact is cats by their very nature are territorial. What does that mean? Think of it this way. You know how in the late 1930s and early 40s the German army marched through Austria, France and most of Western Europe just because they liked owning a lot of real estate? Well, that’s the way

cats think, too. The more area they con-trol the better they like it, and woe to the poor fellow feline who sets one paw on that turf. Typically any “harmony” will be a duet of two screaming cats, and the only “peace” cat owners will notice will be “pieces” of ripped out fur deco-rating the yard.

And, for those of you who think cats are really not that serious about ensur-ing ownership of their territory, consider this little piece of information: They provide a very unique and definitive warning system for other cats to steer clear. They “mark” their turf by urinat-ing on it! I don’t know about you but that strikes me as a pretty serious state-ment. Although, you have to admit it, it’s cheaper than title insurance. So, do we still think that there really no such things as stupid questions? What a stupid thing to ask. v

you’re Kidding, Right?When Pet Owners Ask Stupid Questions, They Get Stupid Answers By Dr. john Williams


Pet Care

TTaking a trip this summer with your pet? Before heading out, be sure to review these 11 tips from the American Veterinary Medical Association:

1 Askyourselfiftakingyourpetwithyouistherightthingto

do (for your pet and your family). If the answer is “no,” then make suitable arrangements (pet sitter, boarding kennel, etc.) for your pet. If the answer is “yes,” then plan, plan, plan!

2 Makesureyourpetwillbewelcome where you’re heading. This

includes all stops along the way, as well as your final destination.

3 If you’re crossing state lines during your travel, geta Certificateof

VeterinaryInspection (also called a health certificate). You’ll need to get

it within 10 days of when you plan to travel. Your veterinarian will examine your pet to make sure it doesn’t have any signs of infectious disease and that it has the appropriate vaccinations (e.g., rabies). This certificate can’t be legally issued without a veterinary exam, so please don’t ask your veterinarian to break the law.

4 Make sure you knowhowyoucanfindaveterinarianquickly

if there’s an emergency on the way to or after you’ve reached your destination. The American Veterinay Medical Association’s MyVeterinarian.com site allows you to search for a veterinary practice by zip code or city/state, even in an emergency.

5 Prior to travel, makesureyourpetisproperlyidentified in case

they become lost. Your pet should be wearing a collar with an ID tag (with accurate information!). Microchips provide permanent identification and improve your chances of getting your pet returned to you, but you must keep your registration information up-to-date.

6 Properlyrestrainyourpet with an appropriately fitted harness

or in a carrier of the appropriate size. “Appropriate size” means that they can lie down, stand up and turn around, but it’s not so big that they will be thrown around inside the carrier in case of a sudden stop or a collision. No heads or bodies hanging out the windows, please, and certainly no pets in laps! That’s dangerous for everyone.

7 Makesureyourpetisaccustomedtowhateverrestraintyouplanto

use before yourtrip. Remember that road trips can be a little stressful on your pet. If your pet isn’t already used to the harness or carrier, that’s an added stress.

8 When traveling with your dog, makefrequentstops to allow it to go to

the bathroom, stretch its legs and get some mental stimulation from sniffing around and checking things out.

9 Takeadequate foodandwater for the trip. Offer your pet water at each

stop, and try to keep your pet’s feeding schedule as close to normal as possible.

10 When traveling, keepacurrentpictureofyourpetwithyou so

you can easily make “lost” posters and/or use the picture to help identify your pet if it becomes lost.

11 Make sure you takeyourpet’smedications with you,

including any preventives (heartworm, flea and tick) that might be due while you’re traveling. v

Have Pet, Will Travel11 Things You Can Do To Make Traveling Safe For Your Pet


LLast week I saw a tired-looking fel-low standing in front of a broken-down elevator.

I flopped onto a bench after climbing three flights of stairs in a medical build-ing. “I wish you were an elevator repair person,” I said.

“I am. I’m not in uniform ’cause it’s my day off, but most people who see the doctors in this building can’t climb steps.”

“Well, I, for one, am so glad you’re here.” I pointed to my cane. “I bet you never get thanked because once the elevator’s fixed, nobody knows you’re the one who fixed it.”

“It doesn’t matter. I know.”After my doctor’s appointment, my

husband pulled up in our truck to the front of the building. But there was something I wanted to do before I went outside.

Usually I allow my dreadful nervous-ness to stop me from saying what I feel in my heart. But that day, I forced myself to say to the elevator man, “I appreci-

ate you helping people like me.” Then I stammered, “You’re an incredibly — special person. I wish I could say more than, ‘Thank you.’ ”

He slowly turned toward me. “You just did,” he said. Then he touched the brim of his cap and nodded goodbye.

When I got in our truck, my husband said, “What’s the matter?”

“Nothing.” “It’s more than ‘nothing.’ Your face is

all red.” I put my head in my hands. “I hate

that I get ridiculously worked up over simple things. When I told the elevator repairman how special he was, my hands shook and I stumbled over my words. I can never calm down and be normal like everyone else.”

He touched my hand. “There’s no such thing as normal. And being scared doesn’t matter. To do what’s right, you can’t wait until you calm down because that may never happen.”

I sighed. “That’s not very encourag-ing.”

“Yes it is. Being calm isn’t what’s important. What’s important is courage. And real courage is doing what you did, in spite of being afraid.”

“But it was just a small thing,” I said. “It wasn’t small to you. And it wasn’t

small to him.”I looked back to see the fellow leaving

the building. When he saw me, he gave me a thumbs-up. The elevator was fixed.

And so, nobody will know that this extraordinary person went in on his day off and made it so that the people who can’t climb stairs will now be able to see their doctors.

He didn’t care that no one would know. All he cared about was that he did what felt right in his heart.

And because of my sweet husband’s wise words, that was all I now cared about, too. v

— Award-winning columnist Saralee Perel can be reached at [email protected] or via her website: www.saraleeperel.com.

uplifting StrangersA Kind Deed Inspires Heartfelt ThanksBy saralee perel

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1. Bill Hervey and R. Bowen Loftin. 2. A few words from R. Bowen Loftin 3. m. Dianne Drainer and Ann celeste mcgruder 4. Lindsey miller and Derek Steinbach 5. matt melton, kari Laudano and Rollie Hausman 6. James Loveless and R. Bowen Loftin 7. Jo Yoakum, nick Boren and Amy Hay 8. Anna Lawrence and R. Bowen Loftin 9. cindy mustard, karin Loftin and William markgraf

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the columbia chamber of commerce hosted a reception on march 17 at courtyard by marriott for members to meet university of missouri chancellor R. Bowen Loftin and his wife, Dr. karin Loftin. the former president of texas A&m university, Loftin succeeds Brady Deaton, who retired nov. 15, 2013. (Photos by Wally Pfeffer, [email protected])

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Recipe Box

A Healthy ChoiceA growing body of research is establishing wild blueberries as a potential ally to protect against cancer, heart disease and Alzheimer’s disease — so it’s no surprise that more and more people are picking wild blueberries than ever before.

for more delicious recipes, visit www.wildblueberries.com.

Feed your Wild SideWildly Nutritious, Wildly Delicious Wild Blueberries

Packed with more intense blue-berry flavor and two times the antioxidants of regular blueber-ries, wild blueberries are wildly different from the cultivated blue-berries you find in the fresh pro-duce section. Don’t be fooled by their small size. These berries pack more flavor and antioxidant power into a tiny blue ball than any other blueberry on this big blue planet.

This makes them the blueberry of choice for anyone interested in cooking, baking, making smooth-ies and more.

Here are two delicious recipes from three talented food bloggers with a shared love for tiny, potent wild blueberries and a passion for developing innovative, healthy and tasty twists on the classics every-one loves.


Recipe by katie Heddleston, Healthy Heddleston, www.katieheddleston.com Yield: 12 to 15 thin pancakes, depending on size

Wild Blueberry-orange Sauce:1/2 cup frozen wild blueberries 1 tablespoon freshly squeezed orange

juice1/2 teaspoon orange zest1 teaspoon granulated sugar (or honey)

orange Pancakes1/2 cup plus 2 tablespoons gluten-free

flour1 tablespoon granulated sugar (or

honey)1/2 teaspoon baking powder1/2 teaspoon baking soda1/4 teaspoon salt1/4 cup freshly squeezed orange juice1/4 cup milk 1 egg1/2 teaspoon orange zest1 tablespoon melted butter or

margarine

to make sauce, combine all ingredients in small saucepan and place on low heat while preparing pancakes. Stir occasionally. Smash wild blueberries to desired consistency. to make pancakes, combine all dry ingredients in a medium mixing bowl. then add in wet ingredients. Whisk everything together until well combined; batter will be thin. on griddle or electric skillet preheat to medium heat. make sure pan is hot before scooping batter. using 1/4-cup scoop, pour batter (but not whole scoopful into pancake shapes on griddle). Batter is thin so not much is needed for each pancake. Wait until pancake bubbles before flipping. flip and cook other side. continue process until all batter is used. Pour sauce over pancakes while warm.note: only one orange is needed for fresh juice and zest for both pancakes and sauce.

GLuTEN-FREE ORaNGE PaNCaKES WITH WILD BLuEBERRy-ORaNGE SauCE


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Recipe by mireya merritt, my Healthy eating Habits, www.myhealthyeatinghabits.com Yield: 4 servings

onIonS: 1 1/2 large onions, cut in half and thinly

sliced, about 4 cups 1 1/2 tablespoons olive oil

PoLentA: 4 cups water 1 teaspoon salt 1 cup yellow cornmeal1 3/4 cups frozen wild blueberries

SAuSAge: 2 teaspoons olive oil 4 sausages, prepared according to

package instructions

Sauté onions in 1 1/2 tablespoons of olive oil until lightly caramelized, about 25 minutes. About 15 minutes before onions are ready, heat water in 4-quart saucepan until it comes to a boil. Add salt and slowly whisk in cornmeal. Stir frequently until the polenta thickens up and texture is smooth. carefully stir in frozen blueberries, trying not to break them. cook one minute and then turn off the heat, cover the pot and allow polenta to rest 1 to 2 minutes. to serve, place large spoonful of wild blueberry polenta on plate, top with grilled onions and then place one sausage, sliced or whole, on top of onions. Serve with sliced oranges or garden salad.

WILD BLuEBERRy POLENTa WITH GRILLED ONIONS aND SauSaGE


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Host a Spring-Inspired Brunch

Spring is ideal for casual brunches. A buffet-style brunch makes it simple to serve your meal, and it allows guests to mingle and snack as they wish, which leaves you free to visit as well.

Consider serving a plethora of smaller, bite-size appetizers to allow guests to sample different flavors. Keep with your spring theme by incorporating fresh, seasonal ingredients.

Prep time: 10 minutescook time: 10 minutesYield: 36

2/3 cup musselman’s Apple Butter2/3 cup barbecue sauce2 teaspoons Dijon mustard

(optional)1 pound cooked ham, cut 3/4 inch

thick 1/2 fresh pineappleWood toothpicks

Preheat oven to 400of. Pour musselman’s Apple Butter, barbecue sauce and mustard into bowl and stir to combine. cut ham and pineapple into 3/4-inch cubes, about 36 each. Place one pineapple chunk on each toothpick, followed by a chunk of ham. Stand the picks up on baking sheet and brush each one with BBQ sauce mixture. cover all sides.Bake for 10 minutes. Serve warm with remaining sauce for dipping.

Prep time: 20 minutescook time: 1 hourYield: 9 servings

2 1/4 cups baking mix (such as Bisquick®)3/4 cup milk1/2 cup sugar1 egg2 tablespoons butter, melted2 cups musselman’s Apple Butter

topping:1/3 cup sweetened flaked coconut1/3 cup pecans, chopped1/3 cup sugar2 tablespoons butter, melted

In bowl, stir together baking mix, milk, 1/2 cup sugar, egg and 2 tablespoons of melted butter.Pour two-thirds of batter into 8-by-8-by-2-inch glass baking dish coated with nonstick cooking spray. cover with apple butter. Drop remaining batter by spoonful on top.combine coconut, pecans, 1/3 cup sugar and 2 tablespoons butter. Sprinkle on top of cake.Bake at 350°f for approximately one hour, until cake tester inserted in center of cake comes out clean.

Note: Pan will be very full so do not substitute a smaller pan. You may want to place a cookie sheet under the pan in the oven in case of drips.

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Dance DatesBill & Donna ThompsonBy anita neal harrison

Your Bucket List

FFriday night has long been date night

for Bill and Donna Thompson. They used to go out to eat, but since last June, they’ve found something a little more adventurous to do together. Now they spend Friday nights on the ballroom dance floor.

“We look forward to it,” says Bill. “When we get home on Friday evenings, we’re tired like everybody else, but we think, ‘We’ll get ready, and we’ll go danc-ing, and everything will be better,’ and it always is!”

“It’s something different, it keeps us on our toes, and it’s a lot of fun,” Donna says. The couple’s new pastime began after one of Bill’s coworkers invited him and Donna to Studio B. Donna wasn’t able to go that evening, but Bill decided to check it out.

“After I went, I thought, ‘This is some-thing that Donna will just love,’ ” he says. “We started in that next Friday night, and we haven’t missed too many Friday evenings of dancing since. We’ve also taken private instruction from [Studio B owner] Ashley [Mayer]. It’s good for us. There’s a lot of memorization, and it’s something that gives us exercise, and it gives us time together to do something constructive.”

Their Friday evenings at Studio B begin with a class at 7, and then from 8 to 10 is open dance floor.

“We’ve met a lot of new people out there and have new friendships,” Donna says. She adds during the open dance time, more experienced dancers will often dance with people newer to the floor.

“Bill and I have gotten to the point now where we can help a few new peo-ple,” Donna says.

Making that progress wasn’t easy, says Bill, who is a metal technician at Joe Machens East Collision Center. There were times when he just had to make up his mind to keep going.

“I’ve been a car guy all of my life,” he says, “so it is completely on the other end of the spec-trum for a rough-and-tumble car guy to dance. But it is chal-lenging, and that’s what I like about it.”

Donna, who works as a financial services special-ist with FCS Financial, can’t say enough how much she appreciates Bill’s going with her.

“A lot of the ladies go by them-selves, so I’m thankful that he enjoys it,” she says.

Bill admits he takes a little ribbing at work for his ballroom skills, but the teasing doesn’t bother him.

“I’m like, ‘You just don’t real-ize how much fun your wife can have if you’ll just take her out and dance with her,’ ” he says. “There aren’t too many women who don’t like to dance, and if she can dance with a man who knows what he’s doing, it’s a lot of fun for the woman, and it’s a lot of fun for the man, too.” v

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Columbia Confidential: Publisher Fred Parry On The Issues Columbia Is Talking About

II want to be the first person in town to officially endorse 3rd

Ward Councilman Karl Skala in his bid to become Columbia’s next mayor. I realize it may be a bit premature with nearly 23 months remaining in current Mayor Bob McDavid’s term; however, I didn’t want to miss the opportunity to plant the seed and get everyone used to the idea.

In many respects, Skala deserves to be mayor because he has paid his “civic rent” by serving multiple terms on Columbia’s City Council, Planning and Zoning Commission and the Boone County Smart Growth Coalition. Yes, Skala deserves to be Columbia’s next mayor, but more importantly, the citizens of Columbia deserve a mayor like Karl Skala.

For years, our community has given way to apathy, allowing a vocal minority to set the course for Columbia’s future. While we sat idle, Skala and his posse of “smart growth” patriots have done their best to dismantle every effort toward job growth and economic development. From blocking the creation of enterprise zones in our most impoverished neighborhoods to establishing moratoriums on downtown development, Skala and company have proven they would rather build roadblocks than build community. With Skala in charge, we’ll see if he can lead as well as he obstructs.

Once Mayor Skala gets a chance to see what it takes to make a payroll, or when he must find a way to fund critical infrastructural improvements, he might just change his tune. Given Skala’s insatiable appetite for quality-of-life amenities such as 10-story parking garages and sidewalks that lead to nowhere, he may come to realize that revenue growth in this city is tied directly to business growth. Skala may even be forced to embrace the concept of working with businesses that create the economic opportunities that fund these pet projects.

Balancing the budget, meeting the city’s pension requirements and trying to keep up with Columbia’s crumbling infrastructure isn’t as glamorous as it seems. When Skala sees firsthand what it takes to pay the bills and keep the city in full operation, he may think twice about running off housing developers while turning a blind eye to the construction jobs leaving our community every week. When

Skala becomes mayor, he’ll see for himself what it’s like to deal with self-anointed activists who lust after the power to say, “No!” to every proposal.

Columbia’s City Council is paralyzed by its current 5-2 progressive majority. The council’s inaction on key issues is often driven by its diversion toward issues such as legalizing

the cultivation of marijuana plants and the fluoridation of our drinking water. The council’s top priorities should be job creation, affordable housing and economic opportunity in our central city. Yet Columbians have essentially given their approval of the council’s dysfunctional performance by not throwing the entire lot out of office. A 14 percent voter turnout — as was the case in last month’s municipal election — is the equivalent of giving a blank check for bad government to do as it pleases.

I’m not suggesting here that we throw out current Mayor Bob McDavid. I appreciate the leadership he has given the city of Columbia. His efforts to resolve the pension issue for firefighters and police officers, expand services at Columbia Regional Airport and establish an enterprise zone in our most economically challenged neighborhoods are commendable. But even with a good mayor in place, we’ve compromised our future by not giving McDavid a City Council that is capable of helping him move the city forward.

I cringe when I think of the damage that Karl Skala could do in three years as Columbia’s mayor. Unfortunately, I think the only way to motivate and mobilize the citizenry is to show everyone just how bad things could get when we give untethered power to the progressives. I hope Columbia can survive.

Fred Parry, [email protected]

Skala For Mayor

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