Incapacitation and violence

Prepared By Manu Melwin JoyResearch Scholar

School of Management StudiesCUSAT, Kerala, India.Phone – 9744551114

Mail – manu_melwinjoy@yahoo.com

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Passive behaviors• When I discount, I do so by making

statement to myself in my own

head.

• Thus a discount itself is not

observable.

• Since you can’t thought read, you

have no way of knowing I am

discounting unless I speak or act in

some way which indicates the

presence of the discount.

Passive behaviors• There are four types of behavior

which always indicate that the

person concerned is

discounting. They are

• Doing nothing.

• Over adaptation.

• Agitation.

• Incapacitation or violence.

Incapacitation and violence• Betty is in her late thirties.

The younger of two daughters, she still lives at home with her aged mother, whom she looks after. The old woman, despite her age, is really in pretty and sound health.

• Out of the blue, Betty meets a man and they fall in love. Happily, she announces to her mother that she intends to move out to live with him and perhaps get married.

Incapacitation and violence• A couple of days later, the

mother begins having dizzy spells

and has to take to her bed.

• The doctor can find nothing

physically wrong with her. But

Betty begins to feel guilty about

her intention to move out.

• Mother’s passive behavior is

incapacitation.

Incapacitation and violence• Here, the person disables

herself in some way. • Discounting her own ability

to solve a problem, she hopes in Child that by incapacitating herself she can get someone else to solve it.

• Incapacitation can sometimes be in the form of psychosomatic ailments, as here. Alternatively, it can be achieved by mental breakdown or by abuse of drugs or alcohol.

Incapacitation and violence• Robert has just had a furious

row with his girlfriend.

• He storms out of the house

and walks the streets for a

long while.

• He goes down town, has a

few beers.

• Then he picks up a chair and

smashes all the plate – glass

windows in the bar.

Incapacitation and violence• Robert’s passive behavior

is violence. • It may seem strange to

refer to violence as passive behavior.

• But it is passive because it is not directed at solving the problem in hand.

• When Robert smashes the window, he does nothing to resolve his differences with is girlfriend.

Incapacitation and violence• Incapacitation can be

viewed as violence directed inwards.

• In both incapacitation and violence, the person is discounting his ability to solve a problem.

• He releases a burst of energy, directed to self or others, in a desperate attempt to force the environment to solve the problem for him.

Incapacitation and violence

• Incapacitation or violence will

often follow a period of

agitation.

• When the person is agitating,

he is building up energy which

he may then discharge

destructively by either

incapacitating or getting

violent.

Activity• Review the problem situation you

considered in the last activity.• Do you identify which of the

passive behaviors you engaged in?• Now re-run the situation in your

mind’s eye. When you come to the moment where you began the passive behavior, imagine yourself instead staying in Adult and using the full power of your grown up thinking, feeling or behaving to solve the problem.

• How do you then act differently?

Thank You

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