How to Create Successful Relationships

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How to Create SuccessfulRelationships

An e-Course byPaul & Layne Cutright

The Five Essential Keys That WillUnlock the Hidden Potential in

Your Relationships


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How to Create Successful Relationshipse-Course

The Five Essential Keys That Will Unlock theHidden Potential in Your Relationships

by Paul & Layne Cutright

Lesson One

Welcome to the How to Create Successful Relationships e-Course. And congratulationson making your relationships a priority in your life!

This will be your first of five lessons. We recommend you spend two days with eachlesson. Having two days for each lesson will give you time to reflect on what you have learned.Each lesson also contains personal assignments to help you integrate the material into your lifeand relationships.

Now, let's get started!

First of all, what do we mean by relationship?

For the purposes of this course, we are talking about any two or more people who intendto create a future together. That future could entail anything from friendship to roommates, life-long marriage to business partnership, or traveling companions to pen pals. Relationships areamong the most significant domains of concern for people, filled with the promise of love,understanding and companionship and, at the same time, vulnerable to misunderstandings,miscommunications, upsets and breakdowns.

There are five keys necessary to unlock the hidden potential of your most importantrelationships. Understanding those five keys can make the difference between success and

failure. Each of the following lessons will explore each of the five keys.

Those five keys are:

1. Develop high performance communication skills2. Have a working knowledge of the Five Stages of Relationship3. Use a design model to consciously create your relationships4. Practice "Radical Personal Responsibility"


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5. Use your relationships for your "conscious evolution"

Key #1 - Develop High Performance Communication Skills

Our definition of "high performance" communication is communication that is honest,compassionate, direct and honors the dignity of everyone involved.

Relationships live in language. That expression of language occurs in conversation. Thatmeans that the quality of your regular, everyday communication, your ordinary conversations, toa very high degree determines the quality of your relationships. Your communication is not justthe words you say; it is how you say those words. In fact, experts tell us that only 7% of the totalmeaning of our speaking exists in the words we say. The rest is contained in tone of voice,inflection, volume and even body language.

The result you get in your communication with others is determined by your intention.Your intention is the superior force in any communication because your intention, consciousor unconscious, is the "carrier wave" for the words and is what is expressed in voice tone,inflection and body language. People will usually respond to the energy with which you saysomething more than the words you say. Powerful communication is congruent, meaning thewords you say are consistent with your emotions and your intention.

In the field of linguistics there exist what are known as speech acts. Just as getting up toclose a door is a purposeful action performed by people everyday, so is speaking a purposefulact. People speak with one another to forward actions in their own and/or common interest.

For our purposes, high performance communication includes a level of mastery in eachof these speech acts:

Greeting and recognition Making requests Declining requests Making promises Making apologies Expressing acknowledgment & appreciation

Another, often overlooked part of communication, is listening. As the listener, you have the

power to influence the quality of a conversation by how you listen. It was Paul Tillich who said,"The first duty of love is to listen." Have you ever been in a conversation in which yourpartner was not listening to you, or thinking about something else entirely - like what theywanted to talk about? And they could hardly wait for you to stop talking so they could say whatthey wanted to say? How did that make you feel? Have you ever done that? How would youcompare that experience with how it feels to having your partner's complete and undividedattention when you are speaking?


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How you listen to another can have a direct and powerful affect on their self-esteem andtheir sense of value. The quality of your communication, especially your listening, determineswhether you feel connected or not. High performance communication includes the skill of "deeplistening", in which you are completely focused on what the other person is saying, not yourown agenda.

One of the greatest values of being able to implement high performance communicationskills is that you are able to maintain a sense of affinity and caring while having disagreementsand misunderstandings. Many people have lost relationships that were precious to them justbecause they weren't able to talk through the rough spots. If you want to prevent that fromhappening to you, it's a good idea for you to spruce up your communication skills and supportthe people who are most important to you to do the same.

We have written an entire book about high performance communication called StraightFrom the Heart - Build Trust and Understanding. This book is now available as an e-bookthat you can download and begin reading immediately. This is a workbook filled with powerfulexercises you can use in your personal and business relationships to help you become a masterof communication!

And now it comes with an online audio workshop called,How to Have Heart to HeartTalks Audio Program. This is a set of three audio files of a live workshop in which wedemonstrate how to use the tools in our book, providing you with everything you need to createhigh performance communication right now! Just go to Straight From the Heart.

One more thing, and this is very important. Since relationships live in language,successequals staying in the conversation. You see, it's likely that this e-course is initiating you into awhole new conversation about relationships. If you are not consistently engaged in thisconversation by reading, listening to audios or some other form of study, or you are notdiscussing the ideas in this course regularly with people in your life, what you are learning herewill remain at the conceptual level and will never be integrated into the fabric of your life. That'swhy we have created our "relationship success system" as a course of study that lasts longenough for the principles and practices to "stick".

Assignment for Lesson One

Often in our conversations we are listening to the voice in our own head more than we arelistening to the person speaking. Now, you might be thinking, "What voice in my head?" Well,the voice that just said that! Notice how much you have a running commentary going on abouteverything. Developing awareness of that inner voice is one of the first steps to learning highperformance communication. Because you can't stop it if you don't recognize it.

Your assignment for this lesson is to begin noticing when you are not listening to othersbecause you are listening to the voice inside your head instead. When you notice thathappening, gently bring your attention back to what the other person is saying.


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Also, begin to notice when others seem to not be listening to you when you are speaking.When you notice that happening, gently bring it to their attention by asking them if this is a goodtime to be talking about whatever it is youre speaking about, because they seem to bedistracted. That will give them the opportunity to either begin paying attention, or toacknowledge that this isn't a good time. Most people are just too polite to say something!

You might also want to keep a small notebook in which to record your experiences.

The 3 most valuable things I learned from lesson one, Develop High PerformanceCommunication Skills:

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Coming Up Next!

In lesson two we will go over The Five Stages of Relationship. These five stages are like amap that will help you understand where you are presently in your relationships, where you'vebeen and what's coming next. You will definitely need your high performance communicationskills to get the most out of each stage of relationship!


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Lesson Two

Welcome to lesson two in your How to Create Successful Relationships e-Course.

We hope you have had lots of opportunity to deepen your awareness aboutcommunication and listening. You will want to continue with your assignment from lesson oneas we proceed into this next lesson.

Key #2 - Have a Working Knowledge of the Five Stages of Relationships

The second key to creating successful relationships is having a working knowledge of the

five stages of partnership.

The five stages are attraction, power struggle, cooperation, synergy and completion:

1. Attraction

This stage of relationships is characterized by a fascination with another person,organization or project and a desire to learn more about them, as well as a desire to shareabout your self with the other person. It's fun and it feels good. This is the time when positivepossibilities are sensed and explored. This is the stage people wish would last forever.

2. Power Struggle

This is the stage where people start testing each other. It is one of the most difficult stagesfor people. Who is going to get whose way and how? Distrust from your unresolved pastmanifests and there is often a fear of loss of control and heavy judgments about the otherperson start to show up. Many relationships never move beyond this stage and many end here.This stage is really about building trust.


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3. Cooperation

This is the stage where you learn to trust one another and to resolve upsets to yourmutual satisfaction and benefit. You learn to share power and appreciate each others uniqueabilities and gifts. However, it is still self oriented - "What can I get out of this relationship?"rather than "What can we create with this relationship?" Beware of false cooperation in whichone person acquiesces to the other in order to "keep the peace". This is still Power Struggle,only in a more subtle form.

4. Synergy

This is the stage where there is a realization of a power greater than that of each individual.There is also a commitment to a specified focus and use of the power. Extraordinary

satisfaction, intimacy, and a deep sense of mutual trust, empowerment and ease characterizethis stage. It is a highly creative, high performance relationship. It also possesses a high level ofacknowledgment and appreciation. The relationship emanates joy and power in this stage.

5. Completion

This is a stage many people fear and avoid dealing with altogether. There are four waysrelationships can be completed: drifting apart, expulsion/ejection, conscious completion ordeath. Sometimes completion is only about changing the form of the relationship, notnecessarily the end of the relationship altogether.

The most problematic stages for most people arepower struggle and completion. People

often ask us if the power struggle stage is necessary. Who wouldn't want to avoid powerstruggle? People don't exactly jump up and down with excitement when they enter that stage,like they might in the attraction stage! What most people don't understand is that the PowerStruggle stage is really an opportunity to build trust at a deeper level. And trust is necessary if arelationship is to mature.

Power struggle isn't bad; it's just inevitable, predictable, unavoidable and recurrent. Thatis, it happens more than once in any long-term relationship. Why? Because each time youincrease the commitment in a relationship, e.g., investing more time, money, emotion, etc.,more trust is required. Whenever more trust is required, you will temporarily revisit powerstruggle.

The other problematic stage is completion. Everything that is created has a beginning,middle and end. And that includes your relationships.


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There are four ways relationships end:

1. Death

2. Drifting apart

3. Abrupt expulsion

4. Consciously with loving intent

The first is obvious, as when someone dies. The second is when people may be separatedby geography, time, interests or a slow build up of withheld communications. The third occurs

with an apparently irreconcilable upset and the relationship is abruptly ended, usually with verybad feelings.

Obviously, the most desirable of the four is conscious completion with loving intent, butmost people don't know how to do that. Conscious completion includes acknowledging what youhave learned from the partnership, what you have contributed to the partnership, making anyapologies that might be necessary and asking for and extending forgiveness.

Often, completion is about changing the form of the relationship, not ending it all together,as in parents who are divorcing or former business partners who are members of the sameprofessional association. Their relationship will no longer be in the form of marriage, but they willcontinue to be partners at some level in co-parenting their children. In this case, conscious

completion is very important for developing or maintaining mutual respect, dignity and caring inthe partnership.

Your capacity to complete partnerships harmoniously for the good of all concerned is areflection of your relational maturity. It is a worthwhile goal.

Assignment for Lesson Two

Make a list of your top three most important relationships. Then, based on what you havelearned in this lesson, right down next to each person what stage you think your relationship isin with them. Is it in attraction? power struggle? cooperation? synergy? completion? What ishappening in those relationships that has you make that assessment?

If you have purchased our Compete Relationship Success System you received The FiveStages of Relationship and Self-Assessment e-Course. If you have not done so yet, now wouldbe a good time to complete the self-assessment. It will take you about 30 minutes to finish.

Now, if you haven't yet purchased our Ultimate Relationship Success System, werecommend youget our propietary Five Stages of Relationship Self-Assessmenthere foronly $14.95. We promise it is worth a lot more and knowing this information will save you a lot of


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time and heartache.

If you choose to get this, you will learn the skills necessary for success in each stage,revealing the exact ones you need to work on and improve. This e-course and self-assessmentwill clarify specifically your ownpersonalized curriculum for overcoming your barriers tosuccess in relationship so you can gain the relational maturity that creates fulfilling, successfulrelationships.

When you get the e-course and self-assessment, download and print it out and take theself-assessment.

The 3 most valuable things I learned from lesson two, Have a Working Knowledge of theFive Stages of Partnership:

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Coming Up Next!

In lesson three you will learn how to use a design model for consciously creating successfulrelationships. Would you consider building a house without a blueprint? Of course not. But,

people routinely go into significant relationships, romantic and business, without any plan at allfor creating success. This next lesson will give you the distinctions you need to create mutuallyempowering relationships.


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Lesson Three

Welcome to lesson three in your How to Create Successful Relationships e-Course.

Now that you've learned about the ultimate importance of high performancecommunication skills and you have your map of the territory in The Five Stages of Relationship,now it's time to get down to actually learning how to design your relationship.

Key #3 - Use a Design Model to Consciously Create Your Relationships

Would you even consider building a house without an architect and a blueprint? Wouldyou gather wood, nails and a hammer and just start putting something together and hope itturned into a house you would want to live in? Of course not, yet people do the equivalent withtheir relationships all the time.

They "believe" it will work out because it just "feels" right. Most people leave the successof their most important relationships up to chance and luck, in the hope that it will turn out. Toomany times it doesn't and then they are left wondering, "What did I do wrong?"

It can be a sobering realization when you see that your love and/or good intentions aloneare not enough to guarantee success in your relationships. But it can also be a relief when youdiscover for yourself what we have found to be some important missing components.

Those additional components are education and skill - education about what it takes tohave relationships succeed, and skill in developing the standard practices necessary forsuccess. Our experience has shown that anyone with a sufficient desire and determination canlearn these skills and practices.


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Here is a simple 3-part model we have found to be extremely effective for beginning thedesign process.

1. Purpose (why)

2. Results (what)

3. Form (how)

First, be clear on the purpose of your relationship. You can get to that by asking "why?"Why are we in this relationship? Purpose determines the direction you are going in. Purposestatements are best kept simple and general.

For example, a business purpose might be to create profit with ease, joy and creativity, or aromantic relationship purpose might be to learn and grow together in love and passion.

Then, write out the results you want to accomplish. Those could be feelings, experiences,products or services, depending on the nature of the relationship. This is where you get specific.Results are the "what."Look to see if the results you want in your relationship areconsistent with your purpose. If they aren't, then you know you will have trouble down theroad.

Some examples of results could be open communication, joyful collaboration, honest andsupportive feedback, foreign travel, feeling connected, fun.

Last, determine the best form to serve your purpose that will help you achieve yourdesired results. Some examples of forms of relationship are friends, teammates, businesscolleagues, business partners, dating, engagement, and marriage. Form is tied to the roles youplay in your life. Form is all about "how" you will achieve your desired results and ongoinglyfulfill your purpose.

Here is an example of what this might look like. Take two people who are attracted to eachother romantically and are falling in love. They start talking about building a future together. Ifthey were to use this design model, they would have deep conversations about the purpose oftheir relationship.

They may decide their purpose is simply to bring out the best in each other.

The kinds of results they want to experience in their relationship could include fun,laughter, deep, heart-felt sharing, travel, time apart, creativity, sexual pleasure, intellectualstimulation and community involvement.

They would then have conversations about what the best form might be to accomplishthose results, given their purpose.


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One of the important things to remember about form is that form changes. If the couple inour example is having these conversations at the level of serious dating, they may look at"going steady" and being monogamous. Or if they are further along in their relationship, theymay consider being engaged. All of these are forms, and they change over time as commitmentdeepens and trust is developed, and the circumstances of our life change. Form also includestime, frequency and specific agreements about shared concerns, such as bill paying, visitingrelatives, etc.

Assignment for Lesson Three

Your homework for this lesson is to sit down with pen and paper and use the designmodel you just learned and apply it to one of your existing relationships. You could use it for a

romantic relationship or a business relationship.

At the top of a sheet of paper write, My Purpose In This Relationship Is , and then beginwriting down ideas. It doesn't have to be a completely finished statement at this point. Just jotdown ideas that come into your head that you can form into a working purpose statement lateron.

Then on another sheet write at the top,Results I Want to Experience in This RelationshipAre, then make as big of a list as possible, including all of the experiences and feelings youwant to share with your partner.

On the last sheet of paper write, The Form I Want My Relationship to Have Is , and just like

in the first exercise, begin writing down all of the possible forms that this relationship could take.Remember, form also includes time, frequency and specific agreements about shared concerns,such as who will be accountable for what.

Use the examples in today's lesson to brainstorm possibilities for yourself. And, ofcourse, if you are doing this course with a partner, you will definitely want to do this together.

The 3 most valuable things I learned from lesson three, Use a Design Model to CreateYour Relationships:

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Coming Up Next!

In lesson four you will learn the most powerful lesson in this entire course - how to


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practice what we call Radical Personal Responsibility. One of the things that killrelationships is blame and guilt. Personal responsibility is possibly the single mostimportant thing you can do to move beyond power struggle and empower yourself inyour relationships.


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Lesson Four

Welcome to lesson four in your How to Create Successful Relationships e-Course.

Now that you've learned the three steps to relationship design, it is time take somepersonal responsibility! Personal responsibility is a lot like the weather - everyone talks about itbut nobody does anything about it! The difference is, with personal responsibility, you can dosomething about it. And that's what this lesson will show you!

Key #4 - Practice Radical Personal Responsibility

Assuming radical personal responsibility is accepting a mantle of spiritual wisdom . Itelevates you to the understanding that you are not a victim of life and that your life and yourrelationships don't happen to you. Your relationships are a reflection of your ownconsciousness.

Your thoughts, beliefs, feelings, attitudes and behaviors are creative factors in your life. Ifyou will assume responsibility for the quality of those factors you can also assume responsibilityfor the results. That means you can have some creative control over the quality of your life andrelationships.

You can be the author of your own experience. We call it radical because it is so uncommonin our culture. It represents a paradigm shift, a radical shift in your understanding of how things

actually work to create your experience of relationships.

This power comes with a price tag though. The price is giving up blame. Blame, you knowthat addictive elixir we gulp down in excess when people won't do what we want them to do.Blame is most difficult to let go of when we are having an upset with some one. One of thehallmarks of relational maturity is taking responsibility for your own feelings during an upset.

Now, here is something that is very important to understand. Upsets, disagreements,


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misunderstandings, miscommunications and breakdowns are inevitable, predictable andunavoidable in your relationships. Now, why in the world would we say something like that?What about positive thinking? Just look into your own experience. Haven't you had upsets anddisagreements despite your best intentions and despite your positive thinking?

Unfortunately, good intentions and positive thinking are not enough to completely avoid orprevent upsets and misunderstandings. They are a fact of life in human relationships at thisstage of our evolutionary development. What is really required is a new way of interpretingthese events. And that requires the knowledge and skill necessary to truly use them asopportunities for healing and spiritual growth.

Here are the essential elements of Radical Personal Responsibility.

1. You are not a victim of others.

Conventional thinking says that other people are responsible for your feelings and experiences,and the world seems to conspire to promote this point of view. It is easy to gather evidence forthis perspective, but it will never put you in a position of personal power. Often the perspectiveof the victim is only that, a perspective, and not a powerful or attractive one. Being the "cause"of your own experience is a more powerful, attractive perspective.

2. You are not upset for the reason you think.

This idea is a powerful invitation to look deeper than the obvious reasons for any upset. In the

radical personal responsibility view, upsets are really an activation of unresolved pain from thepast that is merely being recycled in the present. Until the original upset is confronted andresolved, it will continue to get triggered and recycle itself through current events.

3. The thing that hurts you is a hidden thought or belief about yourself that gets triggeredby some event.

The conventional view is that our emotional pain is caused by the behavior of others. From theperspective of radical personal responsibility, others' behaviors are only catalysts for emotionalpain that already exists within you in the form of a thought or belief about which you areunaware. This makes every upset an opportunity for healing and growth.

It is extremely important to have a mutually agreed upon, pre-determined means forhandling disagreements before they occur. If you wait until after you are upset or angry with oneanother to figure out how you are going to resolve it, you are setting yourself up for extremedifficulty. It's like a novice skydiver trying to learn the best way of landing after they have already

jumped out of the plane. Poor planning in that instance is sure to end in a bumpy landing.

Luckily you don't have to re-invent the wheel. There are a variety of conflict resolutiontechniques you can employ. The most important thing is to agree on the method you will use,


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before you need it.

You can begin to experiment with Radical Personal Responsibility by discovering youremotional drivers. The two biggest drivers in upsets are fear and the potential impact on yoursense of self. For example, in an upset you might have a fear of loss of love and the impact onyour sense of self is that you (and others) might believe you are unlovable or undeserving oflove or that you don't have what it takes to keep a relationship.

Assignment for Lesson Four

Your assignment for this lesson is to write down a recent upset. Write down the upset first,including a brief description of what happened. Then, clarify what you were afraid of in thatsituation, followed by the impact the upset had on your sense of self. This exercise will begin to

teach you the skills for embodying Radical Personal Responsibility so that you never have tofeel like a victim again!

Here is a form to help you with this assignment.

I am upset because (write brief description):

My fear in this upset was:

The impact this upset had on my sense of self was:

There is a longer, more thorough form for this process, called theConscious UpsetResolution Exercise (CURE) which consists of thirteen questions. And in our new, revised 2ndedition of this best selling book, we have added a whole new chapter showing you how to useour "limiting belief map" to show you more clearly than ever the invisible structure of thoughts,beliefs, feelings and behaviors that sabotage your success. If you want to learn more about thispowerful tool, you may wish to read our new book entitled, You're Never Upset for the ReasonYou Think - Resolve Any Upset Quickly and Easily. This book goes into great detail, withmany real life examples and complete worksheets for the CURE. You may learn more about thebook here.There is also a six hour audio program of a live, interactive training called You'reNever Upset for the Reason You Think Audio Program, a six hour live recording of ateleclass in which we teach you how to use the CURE in detail.

The 3 most valuable things I learned from lesson four, Practice Radical PersonalResponsibility:

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Coming Up Next!

In lesson five, your final lesson, you will be introduced to a new way of thinking aboutyour relationships. Relationship savvy people recognize that there is a tremendous spiritualopportunity available in our relationships. It is in our relationships that our unresolved emotionaland psychological issues from the past are worked out and resolved. This process is mucheasier if we are conscious of the process and the skills involved. That's why the last lesson isabout how to use your relationships for your conscious evolution.


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Lesson Five

Welcome to lesson five, the final lesson in your How to Create Successful Relationshipse-Course.

Now you will get to put all the other lessons together for a greater purpose - your consciousevolution!

Key #5 - Use Your Relationships for Conscious Evolution

The next level of successful relationships is enlightened partnership, which is aligned with

and dedicated to serving the evolutionary impulse of your soul. We are approaching a stage inhuman development that allows us to consciously participate in our own evolution. Our futureaccomplishments as a species will come from the expanding dimensions of consciousness andthe way we relate with one another.

We are being pulled to explore the limits of our capacity for love, wisdom andcompassion. For us to survive we must keep ahead of our technological intelligence with aspiritual wisdom and compassion, or we will perish from our own short sightedness andarrogance. In other words, we must evolve or die.

What does conscious evolution mean? It means that you are choosing to evolve yourself.Conscious evolution is beyond personal development, which is about developing your existing

assets and talents. Evolution is about becoming something more and greater than you havebeen. And it begins with the recognition that it just might be possible. You can nurture the desireto evolve and live in the intention to evolve yourself.

Enlightened relationships are committed to the conscious evolution of everyone involvedwith the partnership. This requires new understandings, new agreements and new practices. It'snot something you learn and master in a day or a week or a month or even a year. It's a path ofstudy that you commit to. It can become a way of life in which your relationships are your


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spiritual practice. Participating with others who share the same commitment is a necessarystage for anyone's conscious evolution.

Learning to cooperate and share power rather than compete for it is at humanity'sevolutionary edge. We are all in this together. Acting collaboratively and cooperating to createtrue win/win outcomes will bring us all to the next stage of human evolution.

Recognizing that your relationships provide you with a powerful opportunity for yourpersonal and spiritual growth, you can truly take advantage of the opportunities present in yourrelationships if you share a commitment to use your relationship with each other for your mutualgrowth and conscious evolution.

Who you are now is in the process of becoming something even greater than who you are

in this present moment. You can participate knowingly in this process. There is greatness in youwaiting to be called forth. Your relationships can be the catalyst for your greatness when youlearn to use them for your conscious evolution. You are like the caterpillar that goes into achrysalis to become the butterfly. Your relationships are the place where you evolve into thebest you that you can be.

What is your "growing edge" in your life right now? Does it involve people and relationshipsin any way? Who are you becoming? Are you relationships helping you become that, or are theyhindering you?

If there is a greatness in you waiting to be called forth, do you have a sense of what it is?What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail? Conscious evolution requires relationship

because our relationships give us the necessary feedback we need in order to evolve. Ourrelationships reflect our strengths and where we need to grow.

When you practice high performance communication, when you know where you are withinthe five stages of partnership, when you are using a proven model to consciously design yourrelationships to be the way you want them to be, when you can use your present time upsets tohelp you resolve your unresolved issues from the past, and you and others have an agreementto be allies with each other in bringing out the best in one another, then you are practicingconscious evolution and living in a powerful, fulfilling and successful evolutionary relationships.

Assignment for Lesson Five

Your assignment for this final lesson is to make a list of those people in your life withwhom you would like to have a truly evolutionary relationship. You may include people withwhom you are already in a relationship of some kind, but you would like it to go to another levelof satisfaction. Think of people you work with as well as people in various networks to which youbelong.

Since relationships live in language and conversation, you may wish to invite them to takethis course. That would be an excellent way to introduce them to this conversation. Then you


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will have more people in your life with whom you can share the distinctions and practices of thiscourse, thereby causing your personal reality to shift to a higher level of relating.

The 3 most valuable things I learned from lesson five, Use Your Relationships for YourConscious Evolution:

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Congratulations on completing the How to Create Successful Relationships e-Course!

If you have found this course to be valuable, we strongly encourage you to share thiscourse with your family, friends and loved ones. If they are on Facebook you can invite them tocheck out this course on Podclass the way you did.

Or, if they are not on Facebook, you can send them to PaulandLayne.com and ask them tosign up for our Weekly Relationship Inspiration Program. Also, you can explore the rest ofour Relationship Success System. Revisit our website to see what educational resourcesmight help you take the next step.

What's Next?

Congratulations! You have completed the How to Create Successful Relationships e-Course. Ifyou have not purchased our Ultimate Relationship Success System, the next step werecommend is ourRelationship Savvy - Succeeding in Love Program. This is a guided 120day program that will help you build a strong foundation for success in all your relationships,including your relationship with yourself.

Relationship Savvy will teach you powerful new skills for consciously creating yourrelationships exactly the way you want them. It consists of an e-workbook, e-audios andweb videos that take you by the hand and walk you through a powerful process of learning andtransformation. If you follow this program exactly as laid out it will forever change the way youthink about relationships. Here's the link again Relationship Savvy - Succeeding in Love

Program.

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