How Husbands CopeIt’s a “guy thing”

Bobbit SuntayThe Carewell Community

The Cancer Resource and Wellness Community

How husbands copeHow husbands cope“I did it, myyyyyy wayyyy…”“I did it, myyyyyy wayyyy…”

Personal and unique

No “best way”

No “rulebook or manual”

No “roadmap or guide”

Different strokes for different folks

Don’t be a Hero!Don’t be a Hero!

You can’t do it all alone

Ask for help/Seek out help

Counseling/Support Group

Relief from school/work

Reach out to family and friends

Communicate…Communicate…

Constantly Clearly Accurately Honestly Compassionately …with the person ill with

cancer …with loved ones and friends

Your “new normal”Your “new normal”Explore itEstablish itLive itDo your best……believe you are doing your best

Care for yourselfCare for yourself

“Put your oxygen mask and life vest on before assisting others”

Getting sick and/or burnt out makes things harder

You need to be at your best (or as close to it) in order to care well

Let go and let GodLet go and let God

Be in “the now” – don’t look back and regret, don’t worry too far ahead.

Name your fears and face them

ForgiveSee God’s hand at workTrust that your own way of coping will see you through

Don’t rush to be “OK”Don’t rush to be “OK”

Let things run their course “Grace abounds the long way

around” “Don’t rush to solve the problem;

allow the problem to solve you” There are no schedules and

timetables Trust the process Don’t allow “adaptive” coping to

become “maladaptive”

Coping through CaringCoping through Caring

Making meaning Bringing healing Coping through Carewell

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TheThe CaCancerncer ReResourcesource andand WellWellnessness

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Opened our doors in 2006

We provide psycho-social support

Dedicated to all persons affected by cancer

Resources and services provided free of charge

Volunteer-driven

Rely on contributions and collaboration

The Wellness Community and Gilda’s Club Worldwide (The Cancer Support Community)

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Support Groups and Counseling Medical Consultations and

Referrals Library and Resource Center Wellness and Fun Activities Respite Weekends and Field

Trips Talks and Workshops Community of persons with

cancer and their loved ones

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www.carewellcommunity.org info@carewellcommunity.org 751-0242 815-1294 6th floor of S & L Building Dela Rosa corner Esteban

Streets Legaspi Village, Makati City

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Cure Magazine 2011 Cancer Resource Guide

Caregiving for your loved one with cancer, CancerCare, 2005

The Total Cancer Wellness Guide, Kim Thiboldeaux, 2007

Cancer, Coping, Carewell, Robert Suntay, 2010

Cancer care for the whole patient, National Academy of Sciences, 2008