How Elders should Take Care of their Emotions

Elderly:

How to Take Care of your Emotions!

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Dr. Ravi Samuel / MkW- jfo lSeq,y

Psychotherapist / euksfpfdRld

Published By

Vison Age India & Silver Innings

2 Elderly: How to take care of your emotions!

This book is published by

Vision Age India & Silver Innings

First Print: 2017 September

Printed in India

Copyright © Vision Age India

Not to be sold

Meant for Free Distribution to Elderly

Copyright of the author have been asserted.


Contents

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Elderly and Emotions 04

1. Know your Emotions 06

2. Emotions and You 07

3. Emotions in your Family 08

4. Emotions with our Friends 10

5. Emotions with Relatives 12

6. Emotions and Recreational Activities 13

7. Emotions and Life Style 14

8. Emotions and Physical Health 15

9. Emotions and Life Partner 17

10. Emotions and Physical Difficulties and

Disabilities 19

Conclusion 20


Elderly and Emotions:

Emotions influence the wellbeing of the elderly. Since they have more time to think and feel; whatever emotions that are coming in their minds will affect them intensely. Intense emotional experiences affect the health; while positive emotions improve health, while, negative emotions adversely affect the health. So it is very important for elderly to know how to manage their emotions.

There are positive emotions and negative emotions. There are various emotions which we can categorize into positive or negative emotions.

An exhaustive list of emotions have been listed by Robert Plutchik. This will enable you to understand the wide spectrum of emotions.

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1. Know your Emotions

It is very important that you know about your emotions, how you experience it and how you can effectively manage them. Life circumstances are not entirely under our control, but how we think, interpret events in life and how we emotionally react to it, are very much under our control.

Know how you emotionally react to what and to what level of intensity.

If you often experience negative emotions when no negative instances are happening then you need to manage your emotions differently.

If you keep thinking of all the problems and negative instances of the past, then you are likely to experience more intense negative emotions.

If you have problems like irritability, anger, rage then you might require professional help to overcome such negative emotions as it can adversely affect your life.

If you are a happy person and speak lighter issues then you are likely to attract people towards you. If you are a person who is highly


emotionally then people may slowly move away from you as they will not be able to deal with your negative emotions.

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2. Emotions and You

It is very important to experience positive emotions on daily basis; you can experience more of positive emotions by performing some activities.

Whenever time permits think of all the pleasant things that happened in your life.

Do things which will give you happiness; reading, walking, visiting a worship place, calling up a friend, watching television, going for a picnic, visiting a relative etc.

Always have someone to share your feelings and thoughts on a regular basis.

Negative instances and emotions are inevitable; however repeatedly thinking about it is something you can avoid. This will reduce the negative effect of those instances on your emotions and health.


If you keep reflecting on your positive emotional experiences, your life will look ‘good’ and on the contrary if you keep reflecting on your problems and negative emotional experiences, your life will look ‘bad’!

If someone keeps arguing with you get someone’s help to sort out the matter.

Forgive people who did wrong to you – this will help you to be at peace.

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Do not keep recollecting bad experiences. Do not get into arguments over trivial matters. Do not carry vengeance. Do not carry hatred towards anyone. Do not plot negative actions towards anyone.

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3. Emotions in your Family Make efforts to have a short conversation with

everyone in the family. If someone is not calling, you please make a call

or send a message.


If someone enquires about your health tell them briefly – do not give all the details.

Make efforts to have friends of your age with whom you can share everything.

If someone talks nicely do not tell them everything about yourself and family.

If you are unhappy with anything in the family talk about it to the concerned person.

Appreciate and encourage people who take care of you.

Even if it is a small help offer some assistance for the family.

If you are feeling lonely; learn to share with God in your prayer.

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Do not wait for others to come and talk. Do not talk bad about your family members with maids, relatives and friends.

When you are living with one family please do not keep talking about another family’s problems and concerns.

Avoid sharing one family issue with another family.


Avoid discussions and topics which are controversial.

Avoid thinking negatively about the family that is taking care of you!

Avoid glorifying other people when a family is taking care of you!

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4. Emotions with your Friends

It is very important to have friends whatever be your age group. Your friends can be of any age group; someone with whom you can share your deepest secrets and joyful events. If you have friends, then you need to find ways and means through which you can frequently interact with them.

It is very important to share your thoughts, emotions and your interpretation of events with at least a friend.

As much as you wish to talk you also need to listen to your friends.

Dedicate time for your friends – any relationship requires communication.


Try to do something together with your friend or friends; board games, group meetings, picnic etc.

Try to know the likes and dislikes of your friends; talk and behave accordingly.

Advice your friends but do not expect them to behave as you request them.

Try to have as many friends as possible; that way can know many things in life.

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Do not force your point of view.

Do not argue with your friends

If you feel there are few areas which lead to

arguments avoid them.

Do not criticise about your friend’s family and

other friends.

Do not always keep talking about your problems

with friends. Consciously make efforts to talk

about interesting aspects of life.

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5. Emotions with Relatives

After your immediate family members, the people close to you are your relatives. In every family, there will be people who relate to the sick, elderly and the infirm. Keep in contact with such relatives and whenever possible try to meet them over coffee or meal.

Telephone, Whats App, SMS, and email are very convenient ways of reaching out to people. Try to learn using modern gadgets and keep in touch.

Try to be helpful to others whenever possible. Only if you have that tendency to help, others will also feel the need to help you when you are in a problem.

Since family dynamics are quite complex do not get into the politics of the family issues.

Always try to be neutral when it comes to relative’s family problems.

There can be shortcomings in relationships; accept people along with their shortcomings. _______________________________________

Avoid telling one family member what you heard from another family member.


Do not criticize or praise one relative to another relative.

If possible avoid financial transactions; in the long run, it can cause confusion.

If possible avoid visiting every day or calling up every day.

Do not spend long hours in another person’s house.

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6. Emotions and Recreational Activities

Recreational activities are very important to take your mind off your concerns and to be entertained. It can be a movie, outing, reading a book or magazine or even chatting with friends. It is not a sin to expect recreational activities as elderly. So, do not hesitate to actively participate in recreational activities.

Try to take part in active recreational activities; going out to public places, playing a sport, going trekking etc.


Try to develop friendship with people who can accommodate you when they are doing some active recreational activities.

Do not limit yourself by saying ‘I will not be able to do it’; physically make efforts.

Participating in physical activities will improve your overall health.

Do not always be tuned to passive recreational activities; sitting and watching television, watching movie, playing cards, board gamesetc.

Do not be over enthusiastic and try things which you are not used to doing! Ex: Diving, trekking long distance, playing for long hours!

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7. Emotions and Life Style The way we live is very important for our well-being; there is lot of difference between surviving and living. Life style does not mean leading a lavish and expensive life style. It is the way one leads his or her life; the time you get up, the time you eat, the time you go to sleep,


the kind of dress you wear, the kind of places you visit etc.

Try to maintain a healthy life style; going to bed at a particular time and getting up from bed, eating regularly, having pleasant conversation with people.

Begin your day with very pleasant and positive thoughts, being mindful of the abilities and health that you enjoy and not brood about the ill-health you are suffering.

Focus on leading an active and healthy life style. Your life style should make you look forward to the day’s activities. ______________________________________

Do not aspire to lead a life of your dreams, but enjoy the life that you are leading at present.

Do not aspire for a life style which is beyond your financial capabilities.

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Physical health enables a person to perform the day’s activities and influences the well-being of the elderly. After the age of 65 years, the health


can vary each day depending on the climate, the food they consume, how they are taken care by those around and external environment. Being mentally disturbed about some past event or some person can affect the health of the person.

Managing your emotions well, contributes to your physical health! That should be a good motivation to lead a stress-free life.

Try to contribute to your physical health by being following a diet chart, doing exercise and avoiding negativity in the mind.

Try to spend as less time as possible in sitting and lying down position during the day.

Between the choice of sitting comfortably and walking with efforts; choose walking!

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Do not over strain doing physical exercises to enjoy good health.

Do not use any substances that can affect your health; smoking, drinking, having cool drinks etc.


If your doctor has given a prescription follow it stringently! Do not adjust the dosage to save money.

Do not take medicines which are not prescribed by your doctor!

Have a good General Physician who can spend time with you and guide you appropriately.

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9. Emotions and Life Partner

Life partner is the person who stays with you all the time and probably takes care of you. Show respect and love towards the person. Only by showing love giving care, you can receive love and care from your partner.

Try to know as much about your partner’s health, likes, dislikes, aspirations, wishes etc.

Try to play a supportive role in your partner’s activities.

Help your partner in whatever possible manner Show companionship and unconditional

acceptance.


Understand your partner’s physical needs and try to be understanding.

Appreciate your partner for all that they have contributed to your life.

Instead of criticising your partner fortheir mistakes, praise them for their good deeds; at least they will feel good and show compassion to you. _______________________________________

Do not ridicule or make fun of your partner’s family.

Do not have the habit of abusing each other periodically.

Do not shout in momentary anger and regret for it all through your life!

Constantly finding fault will only irritate the other person and bring a distance in the relationship.

Do not bring old conflicts into the present and argue about it.

Do not talk degradingly about your partner’s parents – it can hurt them deeply.


10. Emotions and Physical Difficulties and Disabilities.

Ageing starts from the moment when we are born. In the process of ageing we gain few capabilities we also lose capabilities. A young boy can run, but a middle-aged man cannot run, a middle-aged man can climb stairs but an elderly person can climb with difficulty.

It is normal to be emotionally affected by inability or disability. It is very important to always focus on your abilities than your disabilities. Negative emotional reaction to your inabilities and disabilities can lead to exaggerated difficulties and memory loss.

Try to do things which reflect your abilities. Try to reduce actions which reflect your

inabilities but do not stop them. Find ways of compensating for the inability; if

you are not able to walk long distance walk for short distance and take a break. _______________________________________


Always consult a doctor or a physiotherapist about your physical abilities and disabilities. For some muscle problems, you should not strain those muscles, unknowingly if you keep working out thinking that it will improve then, it can cause more damage!

Do not compare your disabilities and other physical problems with that of those in your age!

Conclusion:

Life will consist of both positive and negative experiences. How we react to these experiences determines what we are going to have more! What we feel about life depends on how we think about the present, future and past. Living in the past, thinking of all the negative experiences, will only adversely affect your mental and physical health. If you are focused on the future, the efforts towards improving would reduce and your mind can develop anxiety. If you live in the present your efforts would be focused towards enjoying what you have at present!


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#i;ksa&iSlksa ds ysu&nsu ds ;FkklaHko cpus dk

ç;kl djsa] D;ksafd vkxs py dj blls xM+cM+ gks

ldrh gSA

fdlh ds ;gk¡ jkst tkus ;k jkst dkWy djus ls

;FkklaHko ijgst djsaA

fdlh nwljs O;fDr ds ?kj esa T;knk oDr ugha

fcrk;saA

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6- Hkkouk,¡ ,oa euksjatd xfrfof/k;k¡

eu ls Çprkvksa dks nwj djus vkSj [kq'kfetkth ds

fy, euksjatd xfrfof/k;ksa esa 'kkfey gksuk vR;ar

vko';d gSA vki flusek ns[kus] ckgj

?kweus&fQjus] fdrkc ;k if=dk i<+us ;k fQj

nksLrksa ls ckrphr djus tSls dke dj ldrs gSaA


cqtqxZ ds :Ik esa euksjatd xfrfof/k;ksa esa 'kkfey

gksuk dksbZ xyr ckr ugha gSA blfy, euksjatd

xfrfof/k;ksa esa Hkkx ysus esa tjk Hkh ladksp ugha

djsaA

lfØ; euksjatd xfrfof/k;ksa] lkoZtfud txgksa ij

tkus] dksbZ [ksy [ksyus] VªsÇdx vkfn esa Hkkx ysus

dk ç;kl djsaA

lfØ; euksjatd xfrfof/k;ksa esa vkidks 'kkfey

djus okys ykskxksa ds lkFk nksLrh c<+k;saA

^eq>ls ;g ugha gks ldsxk*] ,slh ekufldrk dk

f'kdkj ugha cusa('kkjhfjd rkSj ij dksf'k'k djsaA

'kkjhfjd xfrfof/k;ksa esa Hkkx ysa] blls vkidk

lexz LokLF; vPNk cusxkA

ges'kk cSBs&Bkys euksjatu] tSls fd Vsyhfotu

ns[kuk] flusek ns[kuk] rk'k [ksyuk] cksMZ xsEl

[ksyuk vkfn&vkfn dh vknr ugha MkysaA

vf/kd mRlkgh ugha cus] ubZ phtsa djus dk ç;kl

djsa] tSls fd MkbÇox] yach nwjh rd iSny pyuk]

T;knk nsj rd [ksyuk!

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7- Hkkouk,¡ ,oa thou'kSyh

gekjh ranqLrh ds fy, gekjs jgu&lgu dk rjhdk

cgqr ek;us j[krs gSA thus vkSj thou;kiu esa

dkQh varj gksrk gSA thou'kSyh dk vFkZ 'kkunkj

vkSj [kpÊyk thou ugha gksrkA bldk vfHkçk;

thus dk <ax gS] vki dc tkxrs gSa] dc [kkrs gSa]

dc lksrs gSa] dSls diM+s igurs gSa] dSlh txgksa ij

tkrs gSa] vkfn&vkfnA

,d LoLFk thou 'kSyh dk;e j[kus dh dksf'k'k

djsa] fuf'pr le; ij lksuk vkSj txuk] fu;fer

le; ij Hkkstu djuk] yksxksa ds lkFk g¡lh&[kq'kh

ckrphr djukA

vius fnu dh 'kq#vkr vPNs vkSj ldkjkRed

fopkjksa ls djsa] [kqn dks LoLFk ,oa [kq'k gksus dk

/;ku djsa u fd viuh ijs'kkfu;ksa ds ckjs esa lkspus

dkA

lfØ; ,oa LoLFk thou 'kSyh viukus ij Qksdl

djsaA vkidh thou'kSyh ,slh gksuh pkfg, ftlls

fd vki fnu Hkj ds fØ;kdykiksa ds çfr vk'kkoku

jg ldsaA


liuksa dh nqfu;k dh pkgr dk f'kdkj ugha cusa]

cfYd vius orZeku thou dk vkuan mBk;saA

viuh vkÆFkd {kerkvksa ds nk;js esa thou dh

[kqf'k;k¡ ikus dk ç;kl djsaA

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8- Hkkouk,¡ ,oa 'kkjhfjd LokLF;

'kkjhfjd LokLF; ls O;fDr dh nSfud xfrfof/k;ksa

dk lapkyu vkSj cqtqxks± dh ranq#Lrh çHkkfor gksrh

gSaA 65 o"kZ dh vk;q ds ckn nSfud LokLF;

tyok;q] vkgkj] ns[kHkky] ckgjh okrkoj.k vkfn

ds vuqlkj cnyrk jgrk gSA vrhr dh dqN

?kVukvksa ;k O;fDr dks ysdj ekufld :i ls

O;fFkr jgus ls O;fDr ds LokLF; ij cqjk vlj

gksrk gSA

Hkkoukvksa ij mfpr fu;a=.k ls vkidk 'kkjhfjd

LokLF; vPNk jgrk gSA blls ruko&eqDr thou

thus esa dkQh enn feyrh gSA

,d vkgkj rkfydk dk ikyu djds] O;k;ke

djds vkSj eu ls udkjkRedrk dks nwj djds vki

viuk 'kkjhfjd LokLF; dk;e j[k ldrs gSaA


fnu esa ;FkklaHko de&ls&de le; cSBs ;k ysVs

jgsaA

vkjke ls cSBs jgus ds ctk, FkksM+k d"V mBkdj

Hkh pyuk&fQjuk ges'kk ykHknk;d gksrk gSA

vPNs LokLF; ds fy, {kerk ls vf/kd 'kkjhfjd

O;k;ke ugha djsaA

LokLF; ij cqjk vlj Mkyus okys inkFkks±] tSls fd

flxjsV] 'kjkc] dksYM ÇMªDl vkfn dk ç;ksx ugha

djsaA

;fn vkids MkWDVj us dksbZ fizfLØI'ku fn;k gS] rks

mldk l[rh ls ikyu djsaA iSls cpkus ds fy;s

[kqjkd ls le>kSrk ugha djsaA

MkWDVj dh lykg ds cxSj nokvksa dk lsou ugha

djsaA

,d vPNs MkWDVj ls laidZ cuk;sa tks Ik;kZIr le;

nsdj vkidk mfpr ekxZn'kZu dj ldsA

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9- Hkkouk,¡ ,oa thou lkFkh

thou lkFkh@lafxuh og O;fDr gS tks ges'kk

vkids lkFk jgrk@jgrh gS vkSj laHkor% ogh


vkidh ns[kHkky djrk@djrh gSA vki tc

Lusgiw.kZ ns[kHkky djsaxs rHkh vkidks Hkh vius

thoulkFkh ls Lusg vkSj ns[kHkky feysxhA

vius thoulkFkh ds LokLF;] ilan] ukilan]

vkdka{kkvksa] bPNkvksa dks vf/kdkf/kd le>us dk

ç;kl djsaA

vius thoulkFkh ds dk;Zdykiksa esa lg;ksx djsaA

gj laHko rjhds ls vius thoulkFkh dh lgk;rk

djsaA

lkgp;Z vkSj fcuk 'krZ Lohd`fr dh Hkkouk çnÆ'kr

djsaA

vius thoulkFkh dh HkkSfrd vko';drkvksa vkSj

mudh Hkkoukvksa dks le>us dk ç;kl djsaA

vkids thou esa vius thoulkFkh ds ;ksxnku dh

ç'kalk djsaA

xyfr;ksa ds fy, vius thoulkFkh ij f>M+dus ds

ctk,] muds vPNs dke dh ç'kalk djsa]

de&ls&de mUgsa vPNk rks yxsxk vkSj vkids

çfr mudk Lusg c<+sxkA

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vius thou lkFkh ds ifjokj dk e[kkSy ugha

mM+k;saA

vDlj ,d&nwljs ds lkFk xkyh&xykSt dh vknr

ls ckt vk;saA

{kf.kd vkos'k esa fpYyk;sa ugha] gks ldrk gS

vkidks thou Hkj bldk iNrkok djuk iM+s!

ges'kk xyfr;k¡ fudkyus ls nwljs O;fDr dks dsoy

[kh> gh gksxh vkSj fj'rksa esa nwjh c<+sxhA

orZeku cgl esa iqjkuh ckrksa dks ugha ?klhVsa vkSj

mlds ckjs esa cgl ugha djsaA

vius thoulkFkh ds ekrk&firk ds fo"k; esa

viekutud Hkk"kk dk ç;ksx ugha djsa & blls

muds fny dks xgjh pksV igq¡p ldrh gSA

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10- Hkkouk,¡ vkSj 'kkjhfjd dfBukb;k¡ ,oa

v{kerk,¡

gekjs tUe ds lkFk gh mez c<+us dh çfØ;k vkjaHk

gks tkrh gSA mez c<+us dh çfØ;k esa ge dqN

{kerk,¡ çkIr djrs gSa rks dqN {kerk,¡ [kksrs Hkh

tkrs gSaA ,d toku yM+dk nkSM+ ldrk gS] fdUrq

,d çkS<+ vkneh ughaA ,d çkS<+ vkneh lhf<+;k¡


p<+ ldrk gS] ysfdu ,d cqtqxZ dks lhf<+;k¡ p<+us

esa dfBukbZ gks ldrh gSA

v{kerk ;k v'kDrrk ls HkkoukRed :Ik ls

çHkkfor gksuk lkekU; ckr gSA blfy, v'kDrrkvksa

ds cnys ges'kk viuh {kerkvksa ij /;ku dsfUær

djuk vR;ar vko';d gSA viuh v{kerkvksa ,oa

v'kDrrkvksa ds çfr udkjkRed HkkoukRed

çfrfØ;k ds QyLo:Ik dfBub;k¡ c<+ tkrh gSa

vkSj Lej.k'kfDr detksj gksrh gSA

viuh {kerkvksa dks mtkxj djus okys dke djus

dk ç;kl djsaA

viuh v{kerkvksa dks mtkxj djus okys dke de

djsa] ysfdu can ugha djsaA

v{kerkvksa dh HkjikbZ djus okys rjhds fudkysa(

vxj vki T;knk nwj rd iSny ugha py ldrs

rks #d&#d dj FkksM+h&FkksM+h nwj Vgyk djsaA

viuh 'kkjhfjd {kerkvksa ,oa v'kDrrkvksa ds ckjs

esa fdlh MkWDVj ;k euksfpfdRld ls ijke'kZ djrs

jgsaA vxj ekalisf'k;ksa dh dksbZ leL;k gS rks

ukle>h esa mUgsa etcwr djus ds fy, mu ij

vuko';d tksj ugha nsaA blls ykHk ds ctk,

T;knk gkfu dks ldrh gSA


vius vk;qoxZ ds nwljs yksxksa dh 'kkjhfjd

leL;kvksa ls viuh v'kDrrkvksa dh rqyuk ugha

djsaA

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fu"d"kZ %

thou ldkjkRed ,oa udkjkRed] nksuksa rjg ds

vuqHkoksa dk laxe gSA bu vuqHkoksa ds çfr gekjh

çfrfØ;k djus dk rjhdk gh r; djrk gS fd

buesa o`f) gksxh ;k deh! thou ds çfr gekjk

n`f"Vdks.k] orZeku] Hkfo"; vkSj Hkwr ds çfr gekjs

n`f"Vdks.k ij fuHkZj djrk gSA vrhr esa thus]

udkjkRed vuqHkoksa ij lksprs jgus ls ekufld

,oa 'kkjhfjd LokLF; ij cqjk vlj gh gksxkA

vxj vki Hkfo"; ij gh Qksdl djrs jgsaxs rks

lq/kkj dh dksf'k'ksa detksj gks tk;saxh vkSj eu esa

Çprk iSnk gksxhA vxj vki orZeku esa thrs gSa rks

vkidk /;ku] vkids ikl vHkh tks dqN gS mlds

lkFk vkuan çkIr djus ij dsfUær jgsxkA

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