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4 Welcome17 Calendar of Events

8 Kara’s Kreative

27 Menu Planning34 Business Directory

9 Teaching Kids to Give Back During Holidays So what is a good way to teachgratitude as well as the true meaning of Christmas?

6 Transitioning your Baby to Daycare Steps to make this change easier for parents and baby.

22 Continuing Education over Holiday BreakSeveral opportunities for learning over break.

23 Budgeting for Christmas Affordable last-minute gifts

24 Coping with DivorceTips to help smooth the road and decrease children’s distress.

25 Adoption Right for You? A big decision and requires introspection and askingsome tough questions.

33 Successful Co-parenting Tips to help families not onlysurvive, but thrive when divorce is part of the family picture.

11 The Modern FamilyMeet 3 local families sharing how family has changed its face over the years but ultimately it remains the same.

33 Sibling Rivalry Tips to deal with this family stressor

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Is there any better time of year? It is time to enjoy delicious cider and hot chocolate, appetizers and parties…the Holidays. Enjoy this time! We would like to introduce you to “The Modern Family” and all that that means. There is no normal when it comes to families these days. Families come in all shapes and sizes and include people who share genetics but can also include those that we meet along the way of life that somehow find their way into our hearts and households. It’s the best time of year to be thankful and reflect on those we call Family. Pull them close; remind them and yourself of how important they really are.

On Our Cover: Meet the Williamsons. They are one of our featured “Modern Families.” Check out their story on page 12.

Coming next month: Our Annual Education Issue The community you live in has so many wonderful choices when it comes to your child’s education. Allow us to do the legwork for you; simply grab an issue, like us on Facebook and follow us on Twitter for access to all of our educational resources.

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babyThis year everything has changed for you! The addition of a new little one can add extra time, stress, but most importantly JOY to the holidays. If traveling, plan around baby’s sleeping schedule if possible and make sure accomodations are comfortable for your new family. Remember, while celebrating traditions and passing baby between admiring family members, keeping baby happy typically means sticking to a schedule for naps, feeding, etc. Enjoy the season, you have much to be thankful for!

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The transition from home to daycare can be hard on babies and parents alike. The following advice illustrates how parents can make this change easier for everyone involved.

• Introduction of the Bottle. Breastfed babies should be introduced to the bottle before beginning childcare. It takes a child some time to adjust to the difference in sucking between breast and bottle.

• Exposure to Noise. There are many different

noises a child will need to adjust to such as other babies, different voices, parents coming in and out, etc. Babies that have been conditioned to only sleep or feed in quiet settings will have more difficulty adjusting. Some ideas for noise exposure are having a radio on and feeding or sleeping when other people are present.

• Help your child feel at home. Having things from home in the childcare setting may also help a child

feel more comfortable. A blanket or burp rag that smells like mom or dad can often be very soothing to a child.

• Communicate with your Provider. There are so

many little things that can make a big difference in helping a child adjust. Consider the following. Do they like to be swaddled? How do they like to be held to feed? What makes them happy? What makes them sad? What soothes them best? How do they like to be put to sleep? Do they like music?

• Don’t be afraid of the transition. Every child will

have an adjustment period—and that’s okay! It may take some time for a child to adjust. They may cry more than normal, they may not eat like they usually do, and their sleep pattern may change for a little bit. The more prepared you are for this adjustment phase, the easier it will be! Your child WILL adjust…and so will you! n

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SNOW!!!! The most favorite winter activity is playing out in the white stuff. We wanted to share these 2 fun and colorful ways

to make snow play a bit more fun, and well… colorful.

Frozen Colored Water BalloonsDrop a few drops of food coloring into an empty latex balloon. Fill with water and tie. Place filled balloons into a cake pan (in case one should burst during freezing process) and place in the freezer. Let freeze for 24 hours. After 24 hours bring outside and cut open with scissors. Use these colorful ice globes to decorate a snow fort, use for snowman feet, or to mark your front walkway. n

Snow Fort GraffitiGrab a couple dollar store spray bottles and put some drops of food coloring inside, and fill them with water. Then take them outside to decorate your snow forts and sculptures with bright colors! But just remember the yellow may look a little funny.


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For many children, and adults too, Christmas has become centered primarily on an “I want” mentality. Furthermore, it seems like more people every year are falling victim to the commercial side of the holidays, instead of placing emphasis on the true spirit of the holidays, which is to give rather than receive. “During the holidays, we some-times feel that we are spending money like water. There seems to be no end to our gift buying, no end to ‘one more little stocking stuffer,’ and it’s important to think of what are we teaching our kids when we ‘celebrate’ this way, which is that Christmas is seemingly all about buying,” says Patricia Lindemann, MS, LPC, an outpatient therapist with Avera McKennan Behavioral Health Services. “We can do things to give back, like purchase gifts for programs which ben-

efit children or families who have less. The downside of these activities is we never lay eyes on who we help. There is something precious about seeing the people you are assisting.”

So, what is a good way to teach gratitude as well as the true meaning of Christmas? Easy. Lead by example and encourage your children to volunteer with local organizations and/or chari-ties to give back to those who are less fortunate. Giving kids an opportunity to volunteer during the holiday season, especially with a parent, models lessons they will never forget. “Kids feel self worth in what they are offering and thankfulness for what they have, they have investment in what is provided, and there is a special bond in working alongside a parent and sharing the

experience,” says Lindemann. “Kids who grow up volunteering, especially as a positive family activity, have a good chance of being lifelong volunteers.”

It’s also important to remember that when preparing to do a volunteer activ-ity at a place that is unlike any place your child has ever been, you should be ready to answer any questions. Explain exactly what they will see there if they have any uncertainty. “It’s a good idea to learn the rules of the place you will be volunteering, before you take your family,” notes Lindemann.

Lastly, by encouraging your children to give back this holiday season, it will help them look beyond their own wants and/or needs and spread joy and happi-ness to families, friends and their entire community. n

by Ashley Sandborn, Avera McKennan Hospital & University Health Center

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familyWhile studying families this month, it became clear that the word Family is not the easiest word to define. Family indicates a closeness that is deeper than any other. It represents trust, loyalty and devotion that may include the same bloodline but doesn’t have to. Family includes those we meet along the way that somehow “feel like home.” They fit in instantly, and it seems that they have been here all along.

The Modern Family has changed its face over the years but ultimately it remains the same. It is a core unit that demonstrates love on a daily basis. It fills a need. It adapts and grows as its members change. It’s a beautiful representation of what love is.

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How does your family embody the Modern Family?

Grace’s mom passed away about 8 years ago when she was 3 and I have not remarried. Hence, I, grandmothers, aunts and her nanny have become her surrogate mothers. We have also had some very nice people that have come in and out of our lives who have had a profound effect upon Grace. Saying that, nobody can fully replace the role of a mother so the lessons that a mother would nurture, teach and reach out to Grace have come from various sources. Admittedly, I do this quite clumsily at times and have to step out of certain comfort

zones, but this is our journey so we do our best to embrace it.

What does Family mean to you?

It goes beyond genetics. It has to do with unconditional love – you are my family and that is not changing, no matter the circum-stances or challenges.

How do you balance work, family, life?

Organization is key. Flexibility is an absolute. Admittedly I still have lots to learn on both ends but can intuitively feel when the bal-ance is out of whack. In the end, some-times you just have to create a hierarchy of absolutes, needs and wants. We are blessed to have some exceptional helpers along the way who have been and continue to be vital for us.

What challenges do you face that you think other families could relate to?

No matter the family, there are always challenges, there are always embarrassing “wish I could take that back” moments, some that require an apology especially from the parents. I have had to apologize to Grace many times. If only I had dollar for the number of times I’ve had to say, “Grace I screwed up on that one or did a lousy job of listening to you – sorry about that.”

Any advice for other fathers?

DON’T SPEAK POORLY OF A CHILD’S MOTHER!!!!!!!!! If you do say something you wish you hadn’t, apologize and find some-thing positive to say about their mom.

At the end of the day, what makes you feel like a successful Dad?

This is simple. Did I listen to my daughter today, was I fair, and did my daughter feel loved and secure today? If I did those things, I had a successful dad day. If I did not – I failed.

Meet the Williamsons: father Stephen and

daughter Grace. Get to know how they live, love

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DeWit FamilyDad Craig

Mom RebeccaAftyn (10)Haley (8)Aiden (6)Judah (1)Elijah (1)

The DeWit Family has 3 bio-children and are in the process of adopting 2 little boys from Haiti. While their house has been full of laughs and love, they knew there was something more

in store for their family. Soon, these boys will

join the household here and all will be right in

their world.

When did you know that adoption was in the plans for your family?

Prior to marriage, we discussed how important it was for us to have a family. We talked about the option of adoption and decided that if we encountered any issues with fertility, we would openly embrace adoption. We then proceeded to have three beautiful and healthy biological children. We have always had an intense desire for missions and a

huge heart for the orphans and widows and were not surprised when our hearts embraced this possibility more fully after our time in Haiti.

Was there a moment that you knew the boys were destined to be in your family?

While pursuing adoption with an interna-tional agency, we received a call. Three-month-old twins had been dropped off at an orphanage 9 days prior to the call. With very little deliberation, we decided that we were interested. We decided that we would love the names Elijah (Eli) and Judah (Jude) for the boys, but knew that we needed to wait and see what their given names were. The agency shared that one of the boy’s names was Elie and the other Elysee. Elie was a different spelling but exactly what we had been thinking! Not to mention that when we were in Haiti in 2010, we both met an incredible young man named Elysee. This was not coincidence. We knew at that moment that the boys were chosen by God to be a part of our family. We received the formal referral at 2:45 pm on March 27th and accepted the referral on April 3, 2012.

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How are your other children and extended family transitioning?

Throughout this entire process we have kept our 3 bio-children involved. We traveled down to Haiti with our biological children June 10 thru June 15, 2012 to meet the twins for the first time. We were all bursting at the seams to spend some time with them and to just love on them. We will never forget the moment when the twins were presented to us. The lump in our throats made speech impossible but the tears streaming down our faces spoke volumes. It was such an incredible moment. Watching our children embrace the twins was pre-cious. Leaving the twins behind in Haiti when we returned home was one of the most difficult things that we have ever had to face.

Our extended family has been very sup-portive of our decision to adopt. There were lots of questions and concerns early on, but those have subsided. Everyone now just seems anxious for the day to come that the boys will be able to come home with us so they can all meet them.

Children come into your life in all kinds of ways. How would you encourage other families to maybe look beyond “natural ways” or even outside their household/communi-ty/country to add to their families?

We have friends and family that have adopted internationally and domestically and have been able to see what an incredible blessing it can be. We have interacted with people that have adopted from several international countries and our hearts have been opened wide for the plight of the orphan.

What challenges have you had to face in the process?

The most difficult thing to face is the long wait. The paperwork process for inter-national adoption is different depending on the country. With Haiti, the wait times are quite variable. We anticipate that we might be waiting anywhere from 6-12 more months from now and pray that it won’t go longer than that, although it is possible. We pray for patience daily and have many that are praying us through this process.

What do you most look forward to in having everyone under the same roof?

This might sound boring, but I just really want to have a quiet night with all of the kids home, snuggling on the couch, complete with giggles and kisses. We just want the seven of us to develop our new normal. I guess that it is our “Modern Family” normal that we are waiting for.

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Every divorce is different, but this is how it affected me...

Divorce is not new, but people may be learning healthier ways to co-parent or get through those times. As someone who experienced divorce as a child, what are some ways that parents can ease the transition and put the children first during a divorce?

Parents need to remember the negative things said about the other parent go through the child/children first. Make sure (if possible) that both parents attend all activities or events. Even if you can’t sit by each other, the important thing is you are both there. It is not the child’s fault, so don’t take it out on them or make them pay the price for your decisions.

What have you brought into your family and implemented in your own marriage that you learned as a child?

I have to remember that my marriage is not the same as my parents’. Just because they did something one way in their marriage and it ended, doesn’t mean it will be the same in mine.

Is divorce always a negative thing?

Once I realized that my parents were better people apart, it was easier to understand why they got divorced.

Do you think going through divorce as a child has prepared you or hurt you as you work at having a healthy marriage and family for yourself?

Yes, it has made me want to make my marriage work so it is something my children will never have to go through. I know that my husband and I need time for ourselves in order to make our marriage work. We are working on finding a balance (with a new baby) and realizing that sometimes things won’t go our way and we may feel like we are doing everything on our own. When this happens we need to talk about it and ask for help instead of getting mad.

What would you say to kids going through the same thing?

Don’t blame yourself. It is something that your parents are going through and it is not your fault. n

Steff is the Publisher of ‘Hood and a new mom. When discussing the Modern Family, we thought that you would benefit from knowing her history

as well as how she lives in the present and is building a future with husband Nate, son

Jaxson, and their beloved dog Motley.

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Preschool Elementary Middle School All Age GroupsSaturday, Dec 1

9:30am-10:15am..........Stage Adventure Workshop: Tales We Can Tell, Orpheum Theater Center, ages Pre-K -K, $20 to preregister

10am-11am..............................................................................................................Build and Grow: Sandman’s Plane, Lowe’s

10am-11am.........................Holly, Jolly Plate or Jingle Bells Plate, Color Me Mine, ages 6+, $20+tax (preregistration required)

10am-12pm....................................................Play Dates, Children’s Museum of South Dakota, families w/tots and preschoolers

10am-12pm.............Spectacular Saturdays Broadway Bound: Dance, Washington Pavilion, ages 11-13, $8 (preregistration required)

10am-12pm......................Spectacular Saturdays: Postcard Prodigies, Washington Pavilion, ages 8-10, $8 (preregistration required)

10am-12pm...........Spectacular Saturdays: Scents and Sense Abilities, Washington Pavilion, ages 6-7, $8 (preregistration required)

10:15am-11am.......Stage Adventure Workshops: Creating Characters, Orpheum Theater Center, Grades 1-2, $20 to preregister

10:15am-11am.............................................................................................Storytime: The Rainbow Fish, Washington Pavilion

11am-1pm................................................................................................................The Hobbit, Anne Zabel Studio Theater, $5

12pm-1pm...........................Stage Adventure Workshops: Auditioning, Orpheum Theater Center, Grades 3-4, $20 to preregister

1pm-3pm.......................................Art Club: Becoming an Artist, Washington Pavilion, ages 8-10, $50 (preregistration required)

1pm-5pm..........................................................................................................................................Dog Adoption Day, Petco

1pm-3pm..................................Marvelous Mud Pottery Club, Washington Pavilion, ages 11-13, $50 (preregistration required)

1pm-2pm........................Stage Adventure Workshops: Broadway Dance, Orpheum Theater Center, Grades 3-4, $20 to preregister

2pm-3pm....................Stage Adventures Workshops: Creating Characters, Orpheum Theater Center, Grades 5-8, $20 to preregister

3pm-4pm.....................Stage Adventure Workshops: Acting for the Camera, Orpheum Theater Center, Grades 5-8, $20 to preregister

4pm-6pm.............................................................................................................The Hobbit, Anne Zabel Studio Theater, $5

5:30pm-9:30pm.....................................................................................................Christmas at the Western Mall, West Mall 7

7pm-9:30pm..................................................................................Stampede Hockey Teddy Bear Toss, Sioux Falls Arena, $8-16

7:30pm-10pm.........................................................................................................Tonic Sol-fa Holiday Show, $20.50-$30.50

Sunday, Dec 2

12:30pm-2pm...............................Stagelights: Building Characters, Washington Pavilion, ages 8-10, $64 (preregistration required)

2:30pm-4pm...........................................Drama Club: Acting 101, Washington Pavilion, ages 11-13, $64 (preregistration required)

4pm-5:30pm.....................................................................................................Christmas Is Here, Orpheum Theater, $10-$15



Monday, Dec 3

9am-4pm..............................................................................................................Kids Craft Room. Museum of Visual Materials

10:15am-10:50am....................................................................................................Santa’s Hat Puppet Show, Oak View Library

Tuesday, Dec 4


10am-11am....................................................................................................................................Storytime, Child’s Play Toys

10:15am-10:50am.......................................................................................................Santa’s Hat Puppet Show, Main Library

12:30pm-2pm............Homeschool Classes: Painting and Palettes, Washington Pavilion, ages 4-15, $37 (preregistration required)

1pm-1:35pm................................................................................................................Santa’s Hat Puppet Show, Main Library

3pm-4pm.........................................................................................................................Take Home Tuesday, Ronning Library

Wednesday, Dec 5


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Preschool Elementary Middle School All Ages10:30am-11:30am..............................................................................................Snow, Snow, Snow Storytime, Barnes & Noble

1pm-1:35pm................................................................................................................Santa’s Hat Puppet Show, Caille Library

Thursday, Dec 6

8am-10am.............................................................................................. Free Speech and Language Screenings, Theratime Inc.

9am-12pm...................................................................................................................Kindermusik Classes, First Presbyterian

10:15am-10:50am......................................................................................................Santa’s Hat Puppet Show, Ronning Library

1pm-1:35pm...............................................................................................................Santa’s Hat Puppet Show, Ronning Library


7pm-9pm.................................................................................................................The Hobbit, Anne Zabel Studio Theater, $5

7:30pm-10pm.....................Augustana College Band Christmas Extravaganza, Washington Pavilion, $12.50 adults/$7.50 seniors

Friday, Dec 7

10am-8pm...........................................................................................................................First Friday, Downtown Sioux Falls


7pm-10pm..........................................Kids’ Night Out, Star Performance Complex, ages 3+, $15/child (preregistration required)

7pm-9pm................................................................................................................The Hobbit, Anne Zabel Studio Theater, $5

7:30pm-10pm............................................South Dakota Symphony Orchestra Holiday Collage, Washington Pavilion, $10-$45

7:45pm-9:45pm..........................................................................Christmas for a Cause 2012, Washington Pavilion, $25-$35

8pm-10pm.....................................................................................Sioux Falls Sky Force (‘Hood will be there!), Sioux Falls Arena

Saturday, Dec 8

9:30am-10:15am..............Stage Adventure Workshop: Tales We Can Tell, Orpheum Theater Center, ages Pre-K-K, $20 to preregister

10am-11am...........................................................................................................Build and Grow: Gingerbread House, Lowe’s

10am-12pm.........................Spectacular Saturdays: Castles and Crowns, Washington Pavilion, ages 6-7, $8 (preregistration required)

10am-12pm....................Spectacular Saturdays: Outrageous Origami, Washington Pavilion, ages 11-13, $8 (preregistration required)

10am-12pm..................Spectacular Saturdays: Sounds Good to Me, Washington Pavilion, ages 8-10, $8 (preregistration requred)

10am-11am.............................................ZooCub Class: Grey Elephants, Great Plains Zoo, ages 15 months-2 years w/adult, $10

10:15am-11am...........Stage Adventure Workshops: Creating Characters, Orpheum Theater Center, Grades 1-2, $20 to preregister

10:15am-11am........................................................................................................Story Time, Washington Pavilion, ages pre-K)

10:30am-11:30am.....................................................................................Phil Baker It’s a Snow Day, Brandon, $5 for ages 16+

11am-1:35pm................................................................................................................Santa’s Hat Puppet Show, Main Library

11:15am-12:15pm...........................................................ZooCub Class: Swim Like a Penguin, Great Plains Zoo, ages 3-4, $10

12pm-1pm............................Stage Adventure Workshops: Auditioning, Orpheum Theater Center, Grades 3-4, $20 to preregister

1pm-3pm.......................................Art Club: Becoming an Artist, Washington Pavilion, ages 8-10, $50 (preregistration required)

1pm-3pm..................................Marvelous Mud Pottery Club, Washington Pavilion, ages 11-13, $50 (preregistration required)


2pm-3pm....................Stage Adventures Workshops: Creating Characters, Orpheum Theater Center, Grades 5-8, $20 to preregister

3pm-4pm.....................Stage Adventure Workshops: Acting for the Camera, Orpheum Theater Center, Grades 5-8, $20 to preregister



7:30pm-10pm............................................South Dakota Symphony Orchestra Holiday Collage, Washington Pavilion, $10-$45

Sunday, Dec 9

12:30pm-2pm...............................Stagelights: Building Characters, Washington Pavilion, ages 8-10, $64 (preregistration required)

2:30pm-4pm...........................................Drama Club: Acting 101, Washington Pavilion, ages 11-13, $64 (preregistration required)



6pm-8pm...........................................................................................SDSO Youth Orchestra Concert, Washington Pavilion, $10

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10:05am-10:40am..........................................................................................................................Snow Stories, Main Library

10:15am-10:50am.....................................................................................................................Snow Stories, Brandon Library

12:30pm-2pm............Homeschool Classes: Painting and Palettes, Washington Pavilion, ages 4-15, $37 (preregistration required)

Wednesday, Dec 12


10:30am-11:30am.......................................................................................................Holiday Tales Storytime, Barnes & Noble

7pm-9:30pm........................................................................Sesame Street Live: Elmo’s Super Heroes!, Sioux Falls Arena, $52

Thursday, Dec 13


10:05am-10:40am......................................................................................................................Snow Stories, Ronning Library

7pm-9pm.............................................................................DAPA: The Adventures of Snow White, Washington Pavilion, $5-$11

Friday, Dec 14


7:30pm-8:30pm...................................................................................Tom Roberts Storytime and Book Signing, Barnes & Noble

Saturday, Dec 15

9:30am-10:15am..............Stage Adventure Workshop: Tales We Can Tell, Orpheum Theater Center, ages Pre-K-K, $20 to preregister

10am-12pm.........................Christmas Puppet Theater, Kenny Anderson Community Center ages 2-5, $5 (preregistration required)

10am-12pm.................................Spectacular Saturdays: Arrrt Class, Washington Pavilion, ages 6-7, $8 (preregistration required)

10am-12pm.............................Spectacular Saturdays: Comic Relief, Washington Pavilion, ages 8-10, $8 (preregistration required)

10am-12pm.....Spectacular Saturdays: Elementary, My Dear Watson, Washington Pavilion, ages 11-13, $8 (preregistration required)

10:15am-11am.........Stage Adventure Workshops: Creating Characters, Orpheum Theater Center, Grades 1-2, $20 to preregister

11am-11:35am................................................................................................................................Snow Stories, Main Library

12pm-1pm............................Stage Adventure Workshops: Auditioning, Orpheum Theater Center, Grades 3-4, $20 to preregister



Tuesday, Dec 18

10am-11am..........................ZooCub Class: Colorful Christmas Critters, Great Plains Zoo, ages 15 months-2 years w/adult, $10

11:15pm-12:15pm...........................................................ZooCub Class: Run Like a Reindeer, Great Plains Zoo, ages 3-4, $10

12:30pm-2pm................Homeschool Classes: Painting and Palettes, Washington Pavilion, ages 4-15, $37 (preregistration required)

6:30pm-7:15pm.....Mommy/Daddy and Me Christmas Craft, Morningside Community Center, ages 2-5, $5 (preregistration required)

Wednesday, Dec 19

10:30am-11:15am..Mommy/Daddy and Me Christmas Craft, Morningside Community Center, ages 2-5, $5 (preregistration required)

Thursday, Dec 20


9am-2:30pm............................................................................................................Kid’s Activity Day, Old Courthouse Museum

Friday, Dec 21

10:30am-11:15am..............................................Toddler Gym, Kuehn Community Center, ages 2-3, $5 (preregistration required)

Monday, Dec 24


Tuesday, Dec 25


Thursday, Dec 27

2pm-4pm........................................................................................................................................Holiday Craft, Main Library

10:15am-11am..........................................................Bingo Party, Kuehn Community Center, $6/person (preregistration required)

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Wednesday, Jan 2

9am-1pm......................................................................................January Jamboree, Oyate Community Center, ages 7-9, $16

Friday, Jan 4

7:45am-8:45am.......................................................Early Morning Skate, Memorial Park Ice Rink, ages 10-13, $1 for skate rental

5pm-8pm.........................................................................................................................Free First Friday, Washington Pavilion

Saturday, Jan 5

10am-12:30pm.............................Sioux Falls Parks and Rec Fourth Annual Healthy Living Day, Morningside Community Center

10:15am-11am......................................................................................................Story Time, Washington Pavilion, ages pre-K

1pm-4pm............................................................................................................Christmas with the Animals, Great Plains Zoo

Tuesday, Jan 8



Wednesday, Jan 9

4pm-4:30pm................................................................................Harvest of the Month, MariCar Community Center, ages 10-13

Friday, Jan 11


Saturday, Jan 12

All day..........................................................................................................Sioux Falls Parks and Rec Frosty Frolics Weekend

10:15am-11am.....................................................................................................Story Time, Washington Pavilion, ages pre-K

10:30am-12pm....................................................................Ice Fishing Derby, Family Park, $10/family (preregistration required)

10:30am-11:30am..................................................It’s a Snow Day with Phil Baker, O’Gorman Lorang Theatre, $5 for ages 16+

7:30pm-10pm..................................Winter Wonders Play Group, Kuehn Community Center, ages 2-5, $8 (preregistration required)

Sunday, Jan 13

All day..........................................................................................................Sioux Falls Parks and Rec Frosty Frolics Weekend

Tuesday, Jan 15



Thursday, Jan 17

6pm-8pm..........................................................................................Family Fitness Night, Kenny Anderson Community Center

Friday, Jan 18


Monday, Jan 21


Wednesday, Jan 23


Saturday, Jan 26

10:15am-11am.....................................................................................................Story Time, Washington Pavilion, ages pre-K

Tuesday, Jan 29


10:30am-11:15am...........................Parent/Tot Skate, Memorial Park Ice Rink, ages 2-3 w/parents, $5 (preregistration required)

Wednesday, Jan 30


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The joy of holiday break can quickly turn into bore-dom. While it is nice for children to have a break from school, it is also important not to put everything they’ve learned on hold until the school year resumes. There are numerous opportunities for learning over break that are both easy and fun. Thank you to Harrisburg Journey Elementary educators Jessica Bauer (First Grade), Mackenzie Jensen (Kindergarten), and Lisa Larson (Kindergarten) for contributing many of the following tips. See if you and your family can accomplish them all!

• Make a commitment to your child and your-selves to set aside a small amount of time for academics over the holiday break. It is easy to push aside or simply forget to do academic activities with the hustle and bustle of the holidays!

• Read, Read, Read!!! Children should spend 20-30 minutes a day reading. This can be reading alone, reading aloud, listening to someone read, or even listening to a book on CD or on the iPad!

• Depending on age and writing ability, have children write thank you letters for their gifts. Even having a child sign his/her name to a prewrit-ten thank you is great practice for preschoolers and kindergarteners.

• Encourage your children to keep a journal or a diary of activities they do over the holiday break, family members that visit, and/or their favorite gifts to keep up the writing skills they have learned.

• Have your child help you shop for groceries. They can help you cut coupons, write or draw a grocery list, read prices and labels, and help you with your change by naming the coins and their values.

• Younger children may enjoy making sugar cookies shaped as letters, then spelling their names or simple sight words. If you spend time baking holiday treats together, make up some story problems! For example, Sally decorated 4 cookies and mom decorated 3 cookies. How many did they decorate altogether?

• Mixing food coloring and water in old ketchup bottles and letting children spell words in the snow is sure to bring a smile and trick some little minds into learning while playing!

• Board games, Bingo, and old card games all reinforce basic math skills. Playing these games together allows time for family fun and learning. Age-appropriate puzzles are also a great idea.

• Take your children on “field trips.” Field trips do not have to be anything fancy or elaborate. Trips to the library to pick out new books or attending story hour are fun, simple, and free! The Pavilion, Butterfly House, Outdoor Campus, or any of the great parks are always awesome! Parents should encourage their children to look for patterns, shapes, and print that they can recognize on their own and share their findings with the family. n

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The Christmas season is upon us! For many people, this is their favorite time of the year. Unfortunately this season can also be the most stressful time of year if you are not well-prepared. Planning out a Christmas budget is one of the best ways to prepare!

I recommend that you begin a Christmas savings fund as early in the year as possible. Set aside an envelope to fill with cash little by little every month. If you are a last minute shopper, you are more at risk of overspending. This means it is very important to shop with a planned out budget! To make sure you stay within your budget, pay with cash only, and try to do all of your shopping alone. The fewer distrac-tions you have while shopping the less you are likely to make unnecessary purchases. Paying with cash forces you to see every dollar that you are spending, and it discourages you from spending more than you have budgeted.

To create a budget, first you need to make a list of all of your expenses this Holiday season. Make sure to include not only gifts but decorations, food, the tree, cards, postage, and travel costs too. It is also helpful to make a list of everyone

you need to buy a gift for and everyone you’d like to buy a gift for. Once you have your gifts for those on your need list, you can work on the other list depending on how much money you are left with.

Need ideas for affordable last-minute gifts?

Think outside the box - Gift certificates to the movie theater or bowling alley, a magazine subscription, a grocery gift card, a gas card, or a coupon book may be the perfect gift! There are many simple things that would be well-appreciated, and they are affordable.

Homemade Gifts - You don’t have to be super crafty and have a lot of time on your hands to make homemade gifts! Framed photos, homemade baking mixes, coffee, tea, or sweet treats can make wonderful gifts.

Non-monetary Gifts - These won’t cost you a penny, just your time! Think of ways you can help your gift recipient throughout the year - painting, cleaning, babysitting, etc. Make up a certificate or multiple “coupons” for them on the computer, and you’re done! n

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For children, divorce can be a stressful, sad, and confusing time. Some may feel angry, while many feel responsible for the divorce or separation. As a parent, you can make the process and its effects less stressful for your children. Helping your kids cope with divorce means providing stability in your home and attending to your child’s needs without your own bitter-ness or anger. How you handle yourself, your emotions, attitude and the situation is largely correlated to how well the children will cope now and later. Transitions of this nature can cause a plethora of emotions; changes in family structure and dynamics, financial constraints, and job and school changes may follow. Here are some tips to help smooth the road and decrease children’s distress:

1. No Fighting! Keep your cool. Re-search indicates that the most important thing you can do for your children to promote healthy adjustment to divorce is to use low conflict parent communication. This means that high conflict parenting is directly correlated with the development of long lasting behavioral and mental health problems.

2. Jointly communicate your decision to divorce or separate. Provide a developmentally truthful sum-mary. Avoid telling the children that you “fell out of love” as they may worry that you could fall out of love with them too. Remind them that you will both be their parents forever.

3. Reassure them, but don’t lie, sugar coat, or tell them that everything is fine. They can see you suffering; they know that things are not fine. You can better validate their feelings by letting them know that things are not fine, things are difficult, and change can be stress-ful. However, do reassure them that you will be there for them and you will work together to get through this tough time.

4. Try to keep sameness whenever possible.

5. Don’t blame the other parent. This behavior forces the child to take sides,

which will increase confusion, anxiety and stress.

6. Don’t use your child as a mes-senger. Have direct contact with the other parent. Children commonly report that being a messenger and being in the middle is one of the most stressful parts about the divorce.

7. Do not talk poorly about the other parent or infringe on the other par-ent’s time. Children report feeling very sad when this happens and it forces the issue of loyalty.

8. Children may need to help out a little more during this time but do not burden them with “being the man of the house,” becoming a “buddy,” “confidante” or your emotional “rock”

9. Don’t expose children to transient romances. Wait at least one year before introducing anyone new at all. If there is a new stepparent or someone of perma-nence they need to remain disengaged for a period of time.

10. Listen to your children, check in with them, and pay attention to their academics, friendships, feelings, sleep, and appetite.

11. Spend quality time with your chil-dren and have fun doing things they enjoy. Research in this area reveals that quality of time, not quantity, provided by the non-custodial parent is essential.

12.Make sure that handovers before and after visits go smoothly. Children report these transitions as high stress moments.

Remember some change in behavior and regression in children will be normal. Younger children may seem more tired and clingy. Older children may have difficulty concentrating at school, isolate themselves in their rooms, or want to spend more time with friends away from home. Professional counselors are there for you and your children both pre and post divorce. It’s a tough time. Don’t hesitate to reach out. n

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by Maria Egan MS, LPC-MH, QMHPBehavior Management Counseling Services

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Adoption is a big decision and requires introspection and asking some tough questions. People decide to adopt for many reasons: infertility, desire to provide a loving home for a child in need, a feeling that their family is incomplete, etc. None of these reasons are bad, but each can have a negative side if not centered on the needs of the child.

The ability to focus on the child’s needs, and not adopting solely out of your own need, is a good indication you are ready for adoption. If you are adopting through an agency or attorney, finances can be a barrier. There is assistance for some adoptions, but people must consider that they still need to be able to afford to raise their child after the adoption.

Adoption is fraught with many unknowns and uncertainties whether domestic or international, and families need to be flexible and let go of what they cannot control. It is important to have realistic expectations in regard to the adoption process;

even more important is having realistic expectations for the child you intend to adopt. Children who have been exposed prenatally, and after birth, to toxins, abuse, neglect, and other traumas, can have challenges that, if adoptive parents are not prepared for them, can adversely affect not only the child, but the entire family.

People considering adoption should visit with an adoption professional about expectations. They should be honest with themselves about the situations they can accept and need to prepare themselves for raising a child who is adopted. Adop-tion can be rewarding and can grow you in ways you never expected. There are children who need to know the love of a family, so consider how you can help a child through adoption.

Good resources: www.adoptionjourney.com and www.adoptivefamilies.com

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by Judee Howard, Bethany Christian Services

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Co-Parenting is a term used to describe the unique relationship created when parents divorce and work to parent the child as a team. This experience can be rewarding or extremely frustrating but for most families is somewhere between the two extremes. The following are some tips to help families not only survive, but thrive when divorce is part of the family picture.

• Don’t lose sight of your primary goal. Your relationship with your former spouse now has only one goal - to suc-cessfully parent your child. Try to keep conversations limited to what your child needs and do your best to communicate your point of view without the emotion that sometimes creates tension.

• Children need to feel secure. They need to see that the people who love them are communicating. They need to know what to expect. Parents who are co-parenting need to work harder to provide this sense of security and com-municate plans with their child. See the images for examples of tools that could help you with this for younger children.

• Do your best to be consistent with your child’s other parent. Things like discipline, homework expectations, and rules should be the same for your child regardless of who he or she is with. If your child has consequences for behavior at one house, follow through at the other.

• Communicate regularly with your child’s other parent even when things are going smoothly. This

makes it much easier to deal with is-sues when they arise.

• In a disagreement, assume your ex wants the best for your child and simply has a different opinion on what that is. Choose your battles carefully as there may be times in the future where you need their cooperation. If you disagree on something major (like a medical need), state your concern directly and with respect. However, if it is a minor issue like bedtime being 15 minutes later than you’d like it, let it go.

• NEVER speak poorly of your child’s other parent in front of them. You want your child to love and respect him or her. Even though it may hurt to see your child happy to see the other per-son, remember that a positive relation-ship with both parents is a good thing for your child. Kids are capable of loving many people. Don’t be disappointed if they miss the other parent when they are with you. They probably miss you as well. All children need different things from each of the people in their lives. You may not be the parent they “prefer” when it comes to homework help, but you might be the one they long for when they don’t feel well.

• Think carefully about your words. Things that you say may be misinter-preted by your child or even your ex. For example, if your child always goes to “Mom’s house” or “Dad’s house” which place do they get to call home? I prefer to call both places “home” by saying “home on 10th Street” or “home on 57th Street” or even “home with Mom” or “home with Dad.” Similarly, “Mom’s time” and “Dad’s time” can make kids with some temperaments feel like they somehow owe that time to each parent rather than having time to spend with friends, etc.

• Keep belongings at both places. The basics, like toothbrush, pajamas, a few outfits and even a swimsuit should be at both places. This helps to avoid needing to panic if a spur of the mo-ment activity arises. However, let your child bring favorite items back and forth when possible. n

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SHOPPING LIST (by recipe) Dinner Recipes & Snack Recipes

Traditional Lasagna1 pound ground beef3/4 pound bulk pork sausage3 cans (8 ounces each) tomato sauce2 cans (6 ounces each) tomato paste2 garlic cloves, minced2 teaspoons sugar1 teaspoon Italian seasoning1 teaspoon salt1/2 teaspoon pepper3 eggs3 tablespoons minced fresh parsley3 cups (24 ounces) 4% small-curd cottage cheese1 carton (8 ounces) ricotta cheese1/2 cup grated Parmesan cheese9 lasagna noodles, cooked and drained6 slices provolone cheese3 cups (12 ounces) shredded part-skim mozzarella cheese, divided

Cranberry Glazed Roasted Turkey1 (10-12 Pound) WHOLE TURKEY, fresh or thawed if frozenAs needed salt and freshly ground black pepper2 Tablespoons butter2 Medium onions, chopped1 (16-Ounce) can jellied cranberry sauce1/3 Cup light brown sugar

Perfect Pork Roast1 boneless whole pork loin roast (5 pounds)1 tablespoon minced fresh gingerroot2 garlic cloves, minced1 teaspoon rubbed sage1/4 teaspoon salt1/3 cup apple jelly1/2 teaspoon hot pepper sauce2 medium carrots, sliced2 medium onions, sliced1-1/2 cups water, divided1 teaspoon browning sauce, optional

Texas Garlic Mashed Potatoes1 whole garlic bulb1 teaspoon plus 1 tablespoon olive oil, divided1 medium white onion, chopped4 medium potatoes, peeled and quartered1/4 cup butter, softened1/4 cup Sour Cream1/4 cup grated Parmesan cheese1/4 cup 2% milk1/2 teaspoon salt1/4 teaspoon pepper

Apple Almond Stuffing1 loaf sliced bread3 medium onions3 medium tart apples1-1/2 cups diced ham1 cup sliced celery1 tablespoon dried savory2 tsp grated lemon peel1-1/2 tsp grated orange peel1 teaspoon salt1/2 teaspoon pepper1/2 teaspoon fennel seed, 1/2 cup butter1-1/2 cups slivered almonds1/2 cup dried currants1 cup chicken broth1/2 cup apple juice

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Side Dish Recipes

Holiday Glazed Ham1 boneless fully cooked ham (about 6 pounds)1 tablespoon whole cloves1 can (20 ounces) sliced pineapple1 cup apricot preserves1 teaspoon ground mustard1/2 teaspoon ground allspiceMaraschino cherries

Herbed Beef Tenderloin1 well-trimmed center-cut beef tenderloin roast (2 to 3 pounds)

Seasoning:2 teaspoons olive oil2 cloves garlic, minced1-1/2 teaspoons dried basil1 teaspoon coarse grind black pepper1/2 teaspoon dried rosemary

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Holiday Glazed HamIngredients1 boneless fully cooked ham (about 6 pounds)1 tablespoon whole cloves1 can (20 ounces) sliced pineapple1 cup apricot preserves1 teaspoon ground mustard1/2 teaspoon ground allspiceMaraschino cherries Directions Place ham on a rack in a shallow roasting pan. Score the surface of the ham, making diamond shapes 1/2 in. deep; insert a clove in each diamond. Bake, uncovered, at 325° for 1-1/2 hours.

Drain pineapple, reserving juice. In a small saucepan, combine the pineapple juice, preserves, mustard and allspice. Bring to a boil; cook and stir for 10 minutes or until slightly thickened.

Spoon half of the glaze over ham. Secure pineapple slices and cherries on top and sides of ham with toothpicks.

Bake 30-45 minutes longer or until a thermometer reads 140°, basting twice with remaining glaze. Yield: 16 servings. Traditional LasagnaIngredients1 pound ground beef3/4 pound bulk pork sausage3 cans (8 ounces each) tomato sauce2 cans (6 ounces each) tomato paste2 garlic cloves, minced2 teaspoons sugar1 teaspoon Italian seasoning1 teaspoon salt1/2 teaspoon pepper3 eggs3 tablespoons minced fresh parsley3 cups (24 ounces) 4% small-curd cottage cheese

1 carton (8 ounces) ricotta cheese1/2 cup grated Parmesan cheese9 lasagna noodles, cooked and drained6 slices provolone cheese3 cups (12 ounces) shredded part-skim mozzarella cheese, divided Directions In a large skillet, cook beef and

sausage over medium heat until no longer pink; drain. Add the tomato sauce, tomato paste, garlic, sugar, seasoning, salt and pepper. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat; simmer, uncovered, for 1 hour, stirring occasionally.

In a large bowl, combine eggs and parsley. Stir in the cottage cheese, ricotta and Parmesan cheese.

Holiday Dinner Recipes

Directions : Place oven rack in bottom third of oven and preheat oven to 325 degrees F. Remove giblets from turkey. Tuck wing tips under and tie legs together with kitchen string to hold shape.

Place turkey breast-side up, on a V-shaped rack, in roasting pan. Season inside and out with salt and pepper. Cover loosely with aluminum foil. Roast 2-1/2 hours.

Meanwhile, prepare glaze. In large saucepan, melt butter over medium heat and cook onions with additional salt and pepper, stirring occasionally, 15 minutes or until very soft. (Note: If onions begin to brown, lower heat.)

Stir in cranberry sauce and brown sugar. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat to low and simmer, stirring occasionally, 10 minutes.

Remove foil and brush glaze over turkey.

Roast, basting occasionally, 1-1/2 to 2 hours, or until food thermometer, inserted in thickest part of thigh registers 170-175 degrees F. (Note: Cover turkey again with foil if it begins to get too brown.) Remove turkey; cover and let stand 15 minutes.

Ingredients1 (10-12 Pound) WHOLE TURKEY, fresh or thawed if frozenAs needed salt and freshly ground black pepper

2 Tablespoons butter2 Medium onions, chopped1 (16-Ounce) can jellied cranberry sauce1/3 Cup light brown sugar

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Spread 1 cup of meat sauce in an ungreased 13-in. x 9-in. baking dish. Layer with three noodles, provolone cheese, 2 cups cottage cheese mixture, 1 cup mozzarella, three noodles, 2 cups meat sauce, remaining cottage cheese mixture and 1 cup mozzarella. Top with the remaining noodles, meat sauce and mozzarella (dish will be full).

Cover and bake at 375° for 50 minutes. Uncover; bake 20 minutes longer or until heated through. Let stand for 15 minutes before cutting. Yield: 12 servings.

Perfect Pork RoastIngredients1 boneless whole pork loin roast (5 pounds)1 tablespoon minced fresh gingerroot2 garlic cloves, minced1 teaspoon rubbed sage1/4 teaspoon salt1/3 cup apple jelly1/2 teaspoon hot pepper sauce2 medium carrots, sliced2 medium onions, sliced1-1/2 cups water, divided1 teaspoon browning sauce, optional

Directions Place pork roast on a rack in a shallow roasting pan. Combine the ginger, garlic, sage and salt; rub over meat. Bake, uncovered, at 350° for 1 hour.

Combine jelly and pepper sauce; brush over roast. Arrange carrots and onions around roast. Pour 1/2 cup water into pan. Bake 40-50 minutes longer or until a thermometer reads 145°. Remove roast to a serving plat-ter; let stand for 10 minutes before slicing.

Skim fat from pan drippings. Transfer drippings and vegetables to a food processor; cover and process until smooth. Pour into a small saucepan. Add browning sauce if desired and

remaining water; heat through. Slice roast; serve with gravy. Yield: 16 serv-ings.

Ingredients1 well-trimmed center-cut beef tenderloin roast (2 to 3 pounds)

Seasoning:2 teaspoons olive oil2 cloves garlic, minced1-1/2 teaspoons dried basil1 teaspoon coarse grind black pepper1/2 teaspoon dried rosemary

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DirectionsHeat oven to 425°F. Combine seasoning ingredients; press onto beef roast. Place roast on rack in shallow roasting pan. Insert oven-proof meat thermometer so tip is centered in thickest part of beef, not resting in fat. Do not add water or cover. Roast in 425°F oven 35 to 40 minutes for medium rare; 45 to 50 minutes for medium doneness.

Remove roast when meat thermometer registers 135°F for me-dium rare; 150°F for medium. Tent with foil. Let stand 15 minutes. (Temperature will continue to rise about 10°F to reach 145°F for medium rare; 160°F for medium.)

Carve roast; season with salt.

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Texas Garlic Mashed PotatoesIngredients1 whole garlic bulb1 teaspoon plus 1 tablespoon olive oil, divided1 medium white onion, chopped4 medium potatoes, peeled and quartered1/4 cup butter, softened1/4 cup Sour Cream1/4 cup grated Parmesan cheese1/4 cup 2% milk1/2 teaspoon salt1/4 teaspoon pepper Directions Remove papery outer skin from garlic (do not peel or separate cloves). Cut top off of garlic bulb. Brush with 1 teaspoon oil. Wrap bulb in heavy-duty foil. Bake at 425° for 30-35 minutes or until softened.

Meanwhile, in a large skillet over low heat, cook onion in remain-ing oil for 15-20 minutes or until golden brown, stirring occasion-ally. Transfer to a food processor. Cover and process until blended; set aside.

Place potatoes in a large saucepan and cover with water. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat; cover and cook for 15-20 minutes or until tender. Drain. Place potatoes in a large bowl. Squeeze softened garlic into bowl; add the butter, sour cream, cheese, milk, salt, pepper and onion. Beat until mashed. Yield: 6 servings.

Apple Almond StuffingIngredients1 loaf (1 pound) sliced bread3 medium onions, chopped3 medium tart apples, peeled and chopped1-1/2 cups diced fully cooked ham1 cup sliced celery1 tablespoon dried savory2 teaspoons grated lemon peel1-1/2 teaspoons grated orange peel1 teaspoon salt

1/2 teaspoon pepper1/2 teaspoon fennel seed, crushed1/2 cup butter1-1/2 cups slivered almonds, toasted1/2 cup dried currants1 cup chicken broth

1/2 cup apple juice

Directions Cut bread into 1/2-in. cubes and place in a single layer on ungreased baking sheets. Bake at 225° for 30-40 minutes or until partially dried, tossing occasion-ally.

Meanwhile, in a large skillet, saute the onions, apple, ham, celery and seasonings in butter for 15 min-utes or until onions and apples are tender. Transfer to a large bowl. Add the bread cubes, almonds, currants, broth and juice; toss well.

Place in a greased 3-qt. baking dish. Cover and bake at 325° for 1 hour. Uncover; bake 10 minutes longer or until heated through and lightly browned. Yield: 16 servings (12 cups stuffing).

Side Dish Recipes

Ingredients3 Yukon Gold potatoes, cut into small wedges2 medium sweet red peppers, cut into 1-inch pieces1 small butternut squash, peeled and cubed1 medium sweet potato, peeled and cubed1 medium red onion, cut into wedges3 tablespoons olive oil2 tablespoons balsamic vinegar2 tablespoons minced fresh rosemary or 2 teaspoons dried rosemary, crushed1 tablespoon minced fresh thyme or 1 teaspoon dried thyme1 teaspoon salt

1/2 teaspoon pepper

Directions In a large bowl, combine the potatoes, red peppers, squash, sweet potato and onion. In a small bowl, whisk the oil, vinegar and seasonings. Pour over vegetables and toss to coat.

Transfer to two greased 15-in. x 10-in. x 1-in. baking pans. Bake, uncovered, at 425° for 30-40 minutes or until tender, stirring occasionally. Yield: 7 servings.

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Sibling rivalry and contention can sure be a family stressor, can’t it? We know that it’s common – some would say unavoidable. When your family has more than one kid, it’s practically “natural.” But it can also be annoying and – at its worst – dangerous enough to harm sibling relation-ships for lengthy periods. What’s more, this matter can be exacerbated when many of our families today may be single, blended, etc. So, what to do? Here are some tips I’ve discovered over the years, some from expert colleagues, some from first-hand experience. Read them, use them and share them with others in your household.

1. Try to let them work it out themselves. Our first instinct is to protect our kids, to shield them from confronta-tion and conflict. But allowing them to figure out how to solve problems, to become empathetic, and to avoid un-necessary arguments and ill feelings is a pretty good goal, too. They’ll call on you to step in, to “make Courtney stop making fun of me,” and to take sides. Avoid the urge to get involved.

2. If you must step in, work with them so they learn peacemaking skills. Quiet them down first by doing whatever you need to do. But when things are less tense, show them how you have developed skills in patience, persistence, and compromise over the years. Tell them how you and your siblings got over minor scrapes that seemed major at the time. Let them know you won’t tolerate destructive, hateful behavior.

3. Separate them. Sometimes, you simply have to be a referee, try as you might to stay out of the fray. A little alone time, away from each other, may be just what the situation demands. In fact, I think it’s important to build time apart into their daily routines. Disguise it as “study time” or some other name that’s right for your family, but do it.

4. Don’t fall for the “Blame Game.” They’ll insist that you pronounce who’s to blame, who “started” the fight, who should be punished (a sneaky way to get you to pick a “favorite”). Stay neutral as much as possible.

5. Go for a “win-win.” That’s an overused phrase, but it’s the real goal here. It may take the wisdom of Solomon and the patience of Job, but if each kid feels as if he or she has “won,” you’re a peacemaker. Blessed are the peacemakers.

6. Give one-on-one attention as much as possible. It’s amazing to me – still, even after spending all these years with children – how much our kids want to be with us, how they want our undivided attention, and how special they feel when we spend quality time with them. Doesn’t matter if it’s only a few minutes, as long as it’s just the two of you and you’re “there” for them. Find time to do this.

7. Have “family time” as much as possible. Just as important as one-on-one time is family time. Informal, enjoyable, uncompetitive, relaxed time together lets your kids know you love them, that they’re safe, and their dif-ferences make them each unique (I’m the oldest of eight siblings, and still I marvel at our completely different talents, interests, and accomplishments. How did our parents do that?).

8. Create family rules. Kids like and need to know what’s right and fair. As a family, when everyone’s in a good mood and not in the middle of a squabble, develop a few simple and easy rules that everyone can agree to follow. Not too many. That’s why there are ten commandments and not a hundred. Review the rules when necessary.

9. Don’t make comparisons. It’s unfair and unproductive to remind one child of the accomplishments of a sibling, or to go on at length about your pride in the other child. Recognizing and acknowledging the strengths in each child is much more helpful.

10. Don’t dismiss your kids’ feelings or perceptions. Listen empathetically, sensitively, and try your best to understand what’s behind the sibling rivalry. A regular routine of honest, relaxed communication is the best way to do this. n

SIBLING RIVALRY and the Modern Family

by Richard E. Bavaria, Ph.D., Sylvan Learning

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