Harness the Good - BYU Women's Conference€¦ · The Dark Side •Infidelity •Cyberbullying...
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Harness the Good
Accomplishing God’s Work
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“…to assist by correcting
the morals and
strengthening the virtues of
the community.”
Teachings, Joseph Smith
p.452
“Refuse to be used. Refuse to be
manipulated. Refuse to support programs
that violate traditional family values. We may
be a small voice to begin with; nevertheless
let us speak out and encourage a more
uplifting, inspiring, and acceptable media.”
Elder M. Russell Ballard
General Conference, October 2003
The Dark Side
• Infidelity
The Dark Side
• Infidelity
• Cyberbullying
The Dark Side
• Infidelity
• Cyberbullying
• Internet addictions
The Dark Side
• Infidelity
• Cyberbullying
• Internet addictions
• Stealing of personal information
The Dark Side
• Infidelity
• Cyberbullying
• Internet addictions
• Stealing of personal information
• Sexting
The Dark Side
• Infidelity
• Cyberbullying
• Internet addictions
• Stealing of personal information
• Sexting
• Pornography
Sister Julie Beck
Our Might
• Power as a daughter of God
• Power from your covenants
• Power of the Holy Ghost
• Power from education
• Power in faith – you are not afraid to fight
for your family
• Power in uniting with others
• You are on the Lord’s side. His power is
mightier than those of the adversary.
Rationalizations
• I don’t know enough about all this new
technology. I’m overwhelmed.
• My husband does the computer stuff.
• I don’t want to foster curiosity.
• This will never be a problem with “my
kids,” they are too bright.
• It’s not really as bad as they say.
Non-Tech Prevention
• Set personal & family media
standards
• Clean & Safe Media Pledge
1. Have a family plan for dealing with media use
Non-Tech Prevention
• Set personal & family media standards
• Clean & Safe Media Pledge
• Internet Safety 101 Pledge
1. Have a family plan for dealing with media use
Non-Tech Prevention
• Set personal & family media standards
• Clean & Safe Media Pledge
• Internet Safety 101 Pledge
• 2012 February Ensign
1. Have a family plan for dealing with media use
Non-Tech Prevention
• Set personal & family media standards
• Clean & Safe Media Pledge
• Internet Safety 101 Pledge
• 2012 February Ensign
• Make an inventory
• Plan to monitor
• Agree, sign, and post
1. Have a family plan for dealing with media use
Jill Manning, Ph.D. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Non-Tech Prevention
• Layer with your values
• Be honest
• Avoid creating sexual shame
• Ask questions
• Never over-react
2. Have frequent dialogues
Possible Questions to Ask
• I saw something on the internet that made me
embarrassed/sad, scared/uncomfortable. What
do you do when that happens to you?
• Why should we keep our personal information
private? What is personal information.
• I did an internet search and accidentally saw
pictures of nude men and women. What can we
do when that happens?
• I saw some friends looking at pictures I found
disrespectful. What would you have done?
Possible Questions to Ask
• What do you post in your on-line profiles?
• Do you know what pornography is?
• What kind of a problem is pornography at your
school?
• When was the last time you saw pornography?
• How does your use of media affect your ability
to feel the Spirit or to love and serve others?
Non-Tech Prevention
• Sample lessons at
salifeline.org
• The Parents Guide
• Role play - a time to try
different responses
3. Teach true principles and let them practice
Let’s Role-Play
• You see pictures of people who don’t have
clothes on?
• You see a pop-up for a free game or give away?
• You get trapped on a website with inappropriate
content?
• You encounter online bullying directed at you or
others?
• A new online friend wants to meet you in person?
Let’s Role-Play
• Your friend wants you to see naked pictures
on his cell phone?
• Suggestive or sexual material is sent to you
on your phone, Facebook, or other media?
• Someone passes on to you something that
would hurt, embarrass or offend someone?
• Others say there is nothing wrong with porn,
you’re just being a prude.
Tech Prevention
• Learn to check your Browser History
• Google Search – How do I check my browser
history?
• Install Filters (toptenreviews.com)
Tech Prevention
• Monitoring Software (toptenreviews.com)
• Parental Controls on Gaming Consoles
• internetsafety101.org – “video game safety”
Tech Prevention
• Parental Controls on Cell Phones
• internetsafety101.org – “mobile device options”
• Monitor File-Sharing – P2P & “cloud” storage
You don’t need to do it all
• Decide on ONE thing.
• DO IT.
• Invite others to do the same.
Female elephants circle
to protect their young.
“The time has come when members of the
Church need to speak out and join with many
other concerned people in opposition to the
offensive, destructive, and mean-spirited
media influence that is sweeping over the
earth.”
Elder M. Russell Ballard
General Conference, October 2003
“May we continue to
oppose evil wherever it is
found.”
President Thomas S. Monson
General Conference, April 2012
You CAN make a difference
a minute at a time!
1. Use your sphere of influence.
2. Reach out to your community.
You CAN make a difference
a minute at a time!
3. Join with others on social media.
You CAN make a difference
a minute at a time!
4. Organizations to help you.
• womenfordecency.org
• combatingpornography.org
• netsmartz.org
• enough.org
• fightthenewdrug.org
• pornharms.org
• moralityinmedia.org
• iKeepSafe.org
• beautyredefined.org
• internetsafety101.org
• salifeline.org
You CAN make a difference
a minute at a time!
You are not alone.
You are women of
power!