Speaker: Maloi Malibiran-Salumbides

Is it Good or Bad?

• Conflict can be very disruptive and destructive.

• Conflict presents an opportunity to: – Serve others – Grow as a person – Glorify God

AH CONFLICT, WHAT AN

New View. New Mindset.

At the Heart of Conflict "What causes fights and quarrels among

you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you?" (James 4:1-3)

“I Desire” – Conflict begins with some kind of desire.

“I Demand” – unmet desires can work themselves deeper in our hearts. Especially when it is something we feel we deserve.

“I Judge” – We are inclined to judge others when we have an idol in our heart. “I Punish” – When others fail to satisfy our demands, our idols demand that they suffer.

At the Heart of Conflict is an Idol

IDOL

1 I need to show this report to our boss

now.

4 Ah ganoon!

Ako ang selfish ha!? Sige

simula ngayon, huwag mo ng asahan ang sweldong

ibinibigay ko. Selfish pala ha.

3 Anong klaseng tatay ka. Selfish!

2 Bitiwan mo ito!

Kailangan ko ito para sa opisina!

PEACEMAKER

PEACE FAKER PEACE BREAKER

At the Heart of effective conflict resolution is…

LOVE that FOURGIVES.

Love FOURGIVES #1 Delay your sermon. Give the

other person the opportunity to hear and be heard.

Love FOURGIVES #2 Suspend your judgment. Give the

other person the benefit of the doubt.

“Don't judge others, and you won't be judged. Don't be hard on others, and God won't be hard on you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven.”

Love FOURGIVES #3 Give the other person a

second chance.

Love FOURGIVES #4 Give the other person the

other person the privilege to keep his/her dignity intact.

HAPPY “FIGHTING” Changing our mindset about

conflict, changes our ways of dealing with conflict.

Conflict presents us with opportunities to grow, serve others and glorify God.

You can choose to break peace and fake peace. But the best way is to be a Peacemaker.

Speaker: Maloi Malibiran-Salumbides