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    In your hour of grief

    Inspiring articles and Life Coaching at-

    www.itakeoffthemask.com By: Jocelyn . !oriano

    ll rights reser"ed. Copyright #y Jocelyn . !oriano

    $I walked in the garden of life% caressing softpetals here and there. nd lo& fter a while theyare no more% and my heart #led for each

    fragrant petal that fell. If e"ery flower withers%ne"er to return to its full #lossom% then whatgood indeed is passing #y in the garden of life'(

    )erein lies my hope: *hat for e"ery flower that

    withers% another one #looms within me% one thatwill remain fore"er fragrant and fresh% ne"ere"er to pass away

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    Contents +oem of one grie"ing the loss of a lo"ed

    one ,rie"ing the loss of a lo"ed one I ill !mile gain hen you re in pain *ime for Joy hy is my cross hea"ier' Birth pains )ow do you carry your cross' *he !kill of Catching Joy )ow do you sa"e someone who is lost in

    the dark' hat do you see in the eyes of sorrow' +rayer of Letting ,o

    Let ,o hen ,od +rays Be !till *he Mission of Little Children /01cerpt

    from $ Crown of *horns(2

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    +oem of 3ne ,rie"ing the Lossof a Lo"ed 3ne where would you go that i cannot follow? for how long must i wait until we meet again? what would i do in times that i miss you? where would i go in times when i long to see you again? how must i spend the nights without you? how do i bear each morning that you're not there? shall i ever smile again? will i ever laugh again? will i ever face the world again knowing that im not alone? why must you leave me? why must i cry these tears when you're not here to wipe them all away? why must i suffer the empty days without my beloved? why must i dream without you by my side? the days shall never be the same again i will never be the same again

    without you

    the life of my soul, the joy of my heart, the light in my eyes, the hope of my dreams, the comfort of my lonely nights, without you my beloved, i grieve and cry, i grope and stumble in the dark, i weep with all my soul i desire with all my heart i let go of all of me that you took away with you

    i keep all of you that is in me, and will always remain in me wherever i may go

    i wait and pray and hope i will look forward to each brand new day thankful for all that i've had and will always have thankful for the sun that shines again believing and hanging on believing that life will go on it can't help but go on it shall go on and in so going there really is no end only mornings and evenings and life that never ever ends.

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    ,4I05I6, *)0 L3!! 37 L3508 360

    When my grandfather died, the first question that crossedmy mind was, "Shall we ever, as a family, be able tosmile again?

    He was a very kind man, a sweet and loving man who alsohappened to be a retired Captain of the Armed Forces of thePhilippines, a proud veteran of the !AFF" in World War ##$# loved him % very much, and regarded him as my very ownfather$ He used to carry me up his shoulders when # wasbut a little girl$ # never saw him mad$ He was always calm

    and gentle, but with that certain kind of strength in him thatnever needed to be boasted about anymore$ &aybe thiskind of admiration was the source of my childhood dream ofbeing a lady cadette officer$ Well, # didn't reali(e thatdream, but in my heart # knew #'ve acquired that kind ofcourage he had, and it sort of stayed with me through theyears$

    # also admired the kind of love he cherished with my)randma$ !omething that lasted for fifty golden years, the*+th year being the year of his demise$ # often told myselfthat theirs was the kind of marriage # fervently pray to have% simple, sincere, lasting, abounding in love, courage andunderstanding$ he day my )randpa died, my heart broke,not only for my own grief, but for the grief of seeing such ablessed marriage come to a sudden end right before myeyes$

    How indeed are we going to go about our lives after hispassing- How do we spend our late evenings without hisstories- How do we celebrate Christmas without his .ollysmile-

    he seat he occupied at dinner will remain vacantthereafter$ he sight of him and )randma embracing eachother after a petty quarrel will be nothing more but a sweetmemory to look back to$

    he funny thing was, # never really considered him old$ Hehad always been strong and healthy and happy$ # thoughthe'd always be there, for me, for my )randma, for everyonewho has ever gotten to know the wonderful person he is$/ut # guess death is like that$ #t takes from you in aninstant the people you've cherrished for a whole lifetime$0ust like that$ As simple as that$ And you are suddenly leftwith two things1 anger for having been deprived of yourbeloved for no reason at all2 and emptiness, a vacuum thatgnaws right at your heart where all the .oyful momentsonce had been$

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    And how will it be for people who have lost not only theirfathers, but mothers, children, both parents, lifetimepartners who spent their lives through thick and thin, whodreamt together and .ourneyed together and found meaningin each other's lives-

    How are we to begin grieving for them- Where could weever find the tears to weep, tears that will pour out and cryin behalf of our torn and shattered hearts-

    1. Cry

    Find those tears$ ry to let them out however painful theprocess is$ 3et them out$ 3et them pour showers that willcleanse away every bit of darkness and bitterness from yourheart$

    !hy not from crying out aloud$ 4ou have every right to beheard, and all the right to be hurt$ 5o one's going to standin your way even if you wail$ 3et your cries rise up to theclouds, unto the ears of heaven who understand whatsorrow mortal men go through in this valley of tears$

    Cry for the pain of parting$ Cry for the sad mornings thatwill greet you without your lover's arms$ Cry for the wordsthat shall remain unspoken and unheard$ Cry for the placesyou will never be able to walk together anymore$ Cry for thedreams that will remain as dreams$ Cry for the memoriesthat will remain as memories$ Cry for the hand that can no

    longer caress you$ Cry for those eyes that can no longer see

    your tears$

    Cry your heart out$ /ecause the truth is % it hurts, and itreally hurts so much6

    2. Forgive

    here are many things we don't want to admit in times likethese2 things we believe would only dishonor the memory ofour loved one, or things that would dishonor us before theirmemory$ /ut unless we deal with these things, we wouldalways be burdened by things that should have been buriedwith passing of our loved ones$

    a. Forgiving our loved ones

    People are not perfect$ 5o matter how much we love themor no matter how good they are, they may have hurt us atone point or another$ hey may have .udged us anddisappointed us$ We have to admit how they failed us, andthen forgive them with a forgiveness that comes out of thegenerosity of our hearts$ We know that we do not have time

    anymore, we can no longer wait for them to see their faultsand ask our forgiveness$ !o we forgive them$ We let themgo with no bitterness in our hearts$

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    b. Forgiving ourselves

    When our loved ones pass away, there is always a feeling ofguilt left in us % how we haven't loved them enough, how wecould've saved them, how we could've made them happier$/ut when we come to think of it, how much more could wehave really done though- "ven if we could've made adifference, could we be able to turn back the hands of time-

    Forgive yourself$ Admit your faults, go to confession, slapyour face hard, observe fasting for a week, shave your headeven6 /ut don't punish yourself forever for being unable tomake the proper retribution$ 4ou can no longer do that$ #t'snot your fault anymore$ /laming yourself could never earnfor you the forgiveness you so desire$ #f you can't becontent in praying for forgiveness alone, if you really believeyou still have to do something to be forgiven, then do this %love those people still within your reach$ 7o this, and you'dhave earned more than forgiveness2 you'd have loved$ 3oveheals$ 3ove forgives$