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  • Grief and Loss Counseling 1

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    Grief and Loss Counseling: Biblical Foundations

    GLCO 501

    Module 1

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    Module One

    Table of Contents

    Grief and Loss Freda Crews, D.Min., Ph.D. ......................................................................................................................................... 3

    Theology of Suffering and the Crisis of Faith Ron Hawkins, D.Min., Ed.D. ................................................................................................................................... 14

    When God Doesn't Make Sense Ed Hindson, Th.D., D.Min., D.Phil. .... ..................................................................................................................... 17

    BIBLICAL FOUNDATIONS OF GRIEF

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    Description

    Years ago, a national Gallup Poll revealed that most Americans thought grief over major loss should be resolved in three weeks to three months at most. No wonder, then, that those commonly grieving for years over the loss of a spouse or a child feel so lost in our society. Grief counseling is a major part of lay helping ministry, and this important lesson will guide counselors in its practice.

    Learning Objectives:

    1. Gain an understanding of the problem of grief.

    2. Develop an understanding of the process of grief.

    3. Gain an understanding of the paradox of grief.

    GRIEF AND LOSS

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    Freda Crews, D.Min., Ph.D.

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    Introduction

    Grief and loss are an ever present and universal reality. Since this is true, it isn’t a matter of

    how to avoid grief and loss but how to cope with it. Careless and unwise advice and

    direction can complicate a person’s grief. Grieving people need clear-cut directions for a

    healthy response to their grief. This lesson is divided into the problem, process and

    paradox of grief.

    I. The Problem of Grief

    A. Grief is Inescapable and Universal

     Job 1:7

     Job 14:1

    B. Definition of Grief

    C. Origin of Grief

    D. Painful Process of Grief

     Acute psychological pain 1. Emotional turmoil

    2. Guilt

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    3. Depression

    4. Anger

    5. Sadness

    6. Helplessness

    7. Rage

    8. Loneliness

    9. Resentment

    10. Hopelessness

     Physiological symptoms

    1. Eating disturbances

    2. Sleep disturbances

    3. Sexual disturbances

    4. Somatic complaints

     Relationship problems

    1. Family

    2. Marital

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    II. The Process of Grief

    A. Stages  Shock

     Denial

     Anger

     Bargaining

     Depression

     Acceptance

    B. Kinds of Grief  Acute

     Anticipatory

    C. Course of Grief

     Factors 1. Emotional stability

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    2. Social support system

    3. Age of deceased

    4. Psychological and spiritual state of deceased

    5. Troubled/untroubled relationship with deceased

     Recovery time 1. Normal: 12-18 months; varies with each individual

    2. Abnormal:

    i. Psychotic immediately following loss

    ii. Completely disown pain

    iii. Enshrinement

    iv. Persistent physical symptoms

    v. Angry withdrawal

    vi. Obsessing over the loss or loved one

    vii. Lingering depression

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    D. Intervention and Treatment

     Goals

    1. Healthy grieving

    2. Recovery

    i. Acceptance

    ii. Adjustment

    iii. Re-entry

    c. Personal growth

     Process

    1. Exploration: Ask probing questions about …

    i. Relationship to the lost person/object

    ii. Specifics about loss

    iii. Personality variables

    The ultimate goal of grief is always spiritual maturity. God has a plan

    with the grief people experience. He uses it to mold us into what He

    wants us to be.

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    iv. Social variables

    v. Loss and grief history

    2. Evaluate and/or Interpret

    i. Continuing desire for recovery of lost object

    ii. Inability to express negative affect

    iii. Difficulty expressing anger over the loss

    iv. Pandora’s box phenomenon

    v. Covert contracts with the lost person or object

    vi. Unfinished business

    vii. Secondary gain reinforcement

    viii. Lack of social network

    ix. Lack of social network

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    3. Understanding

    4. Support

    5. Refer when appropriate and necessary

     Intervention: Empower counselee to: 1. Believe the loss has really happened

    2. Allow themselves to experience the pain of loss

    3. Gradually adjust to environments associated with the lost relationship

    4. Let go of the lost relationship

    5. Integrate the experience into one’s life

     Treatment plan

    1. Think

    2. Write

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    3. Talk

    4. Weep

    5. Practice spiritual disciplines 6. Stay active

    7. Travel

    III. The Paradox of Grief (Promise of Grief)

    A. From Hopelessness to Hope

     Ending brings new beginning

     Death before life

    B. From Grief to Joy

    C. From Separation to Eternal Reunion

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    Bibliography Collins, Gary. Christian Counseling: A Comprehensive guide. Nashville, TN: Word Books,

    1980. Detwiler-Zapp, Diane and Dixon; Caveness, William. Lay Care-Giving. Philadelphia, PA:

    Fortress Press, 1982. Hewett, John. After Suicide. Philadelphia, PA: Westminster Press, 1979. Huntley, Theresa. Helping Children Grieve: When Someone They Love Dies. Minneapolis,

    MN: Augsburg Fortress, 1991. Jackson, Egar N. The Many Faces of Grief. Nashville, TN: Abingdon, 1977. Oates, Wayne E. Pastoral Care and Counseling in Grief and Separation. Philadelphia, PA:

    Fortress, 1976.

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    Study Questions

    1. Define grief. What are some of the emotional and/or psychological responses to loss and grief? What are some of the physiological symptoms grieving people may exhibit?

    2. Name and explain the six stages of grief generally experienced by most people.

    3. Differentiate between a normal and abnormal grief process. What are the two types of grief and how does each affect the recovery process?

    4. What are the five things that are necessary for a lay counselor to do before structuring a treatment plan for a grieving counselee?

    5. Explain what is meant by the “paradox” of grief. Why does God allow grief?

    Soul Care Notes Job 5:7 Job 14:1 Psalms 30:5 Ecclesiastes 3:1-4 II Corinthians 1:3-5 I Corinthians 15:19 I Corinthians 15:50-55 I Thessalonians 4:13 I Thessalonians 4:16

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    The Bible does not ignore suffering or simply deal with it through theodicy. There are extensive theological foundations for a biblical understanding of suffering, as well as examples of how suffering and loss can result in a crisis of faith. In this lesson, Dr. Ron Hawkins examines what the Bible teaches regarding this important issue, and offers insight into how students can biblically help those who are suffering from loss.

    Learning Objectives:

    1. Understand the concept of a theology of suffering.

    2. Identify biblical reasons why people suffer

    3. Be able to explain how suffering can cause a crisis of faith, and best practices for helping and counseling those suffering.

    THEOLOGY OF SUFFERING AND THE CRISIS OF FAITH

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    Ron Hawkins, D.Min., Ed.D.

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    Introduction

    How do people feel and think about suffering? There are always at least two people

    involved in the counseling or intervention process and how both parties feel about

    suffering will affect the progress they make together. A crisis of faith is when you feel like

    God has aband