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GOOD PARENTING
Dr. Prasanna P. KhatawkarConsultant Psychiatrist
Aadhar HospitalSolapur
HOW DO CHILDREN LEARN ?!
WATCHING THEIR PARENTS PEER GROUP SCHOOL AND TEACHERS MEDIA SELF EXPERIENCES
WHAT IS NORMAL DEVELOPMENT ?
AGE APPROPRIATE SOCIALLY APPROPRIATE INCLUDING ALL MAJOR DOMAINS RESPECTING OTHERS MAINTAINING GOOD SELF IMAGE GOAL DIRECTED
COMMON PROBLEMS OF CHILDHOOD
REFUSAL TO EAT SCHOOL REFUSAL BED WETTING AND PASSING
STOOLS IN CLOTHES SIBLING RIVALRY STEALING HYPERACTIVITY
COMMON PROBLEMS OF CHILDHOOD OPPOSITIONAL BEHAVIOUR SHY OR DISINHIBITED CHILD PHOBIAS CHILDHOOD DEPRESSION DISSIOCIATIVE DISORDERS OF
CHILDHOOD MENTAL RETARDATION STAMMERING / CLUTTERING ETC.
COMMON MISTAKES PARENTS MAKE
BEATING COMPARISONS MAKING CHILD JUDGE IN THE
PARENTS ARGUMENT PARENTS DEBATE IN FRONT OF THE
CHILD SUBSTANCE USE IN FRONT OF
CHILD
A – B – C – DA – B – C – D OF CHILD PSYCHIATRY
A = ANTECEDENT B = BEHAVIOUR C = CONSEQUENCE D =
BEGINNING OF SCHOOL
SCHOOL REFUSAL FREQUENT CRYING NIGHTMARES SEPARATION ANXIETY
SIBLING RIVALRY
USUALLY AFTER BIRTH OF YOUNGER CHILD
FEELING NEGLECTED / LEFT OUT CHANGE IN BEHAVIOUR IRRITABILITY
MY CHILD DOESN’T LISTEN !!
COMMON PROBLEM GIVE A GOOD LISTENING TO THE
CHILD INTROSPECTION BY PARENTS IS
ESSENTIAL RULES SHOULD BE SAME FOR ALL
FAMILY MEMBERS
STEALING
TRY AND UNDERSTAND WHY THE CHILD DID THE ACT
PUNISHMENT ESSENTIAL
BED WETTING & PASSING STOOLS IN CLOTHES
BED WETTING – COMMON PROBLEM USUALLY CAN BE TREATED EASILY
PASSING STOOLS IN CLOTHES IS AN IMPORTANT FINDING
PARENTS / FAMILY NEED TO BE EVALUATED
HYPERACTIVITY
DOESN’T SIT IN ONE PLACE THOUGHTLESS IMPULSIVE DIFFICULTY COMPLETING TASKS DISTURBS OTHERS ACCIDENT PRONE MEDICINES PROVIDE MAJOR RELIEF
ROLE OF MEDIA
LIKE IT OR DON’T LIKE IT, IMPACT OF MEDIA IS GOING TO BE THERE
BETTER, WE USE IT FOR OUR BETTERMENT !!!
LIMIT THE TIME SPENT PARENTS TOO SHOULD FOLLOW
THE RULES
QUALITIES OF GOOD PARENTS
ALWAYS AS A UNIT CARING AND STRICT CONSISTENT RELIABLE PROTECTIVE FLEXIBLE INNOVATIVE
ROLE OF ELDER SIBLINGS
SUPPORTIVE CARING TEACHING BE A GOOD FRIEND SMALL MISTAKES – HANDLE AT
YOUR LEVEL; MAJOR MISTAKES – TELL PARENTS
ROLE OF GRAND PARENTS
NOT TO INTERFERE TOO-MUCH ROLE SUPPORTIVE TO CHILD’S
PARENTS NO PUNISHMENTS !!!
HOW ARE TEACHERS EXPECTED TO BEHAVE ?
TREAT EACH CHILD AS UNIQUE DO NOT COMPARE IDENTIFY NEEDS OF EACH CHILD AVOID PHYSICAL PUNISHMENTS DO NOT INSULT THE CHILD IN
FRONT OF OTHERS APPRECIATE GOOD BEHAVIOURS
KEEPING YOUR CHILD MOTIVATED
SET SMALL GOALS TOKEN FOR COMPLETION OF EACH
SMALL STEP APPRECIATION BE PART OF HIS TEAM !
WHAT TOYS / GAMES WOULD BE HELPFUL AGE APPROPRIATE CONSIDERTHE MOTOR AND COGNITIVE
DEVELOPMENTAL STAGE OF THE CHILD BOTH INDOOR AND OUTDOOR ENCOURAGE PARTICIPATION IN
COMPETITIONS EXPLORATION AND NEW LEARNING
IMPORTANT
HOW DO YOU DEVELOP A GOOD PEER GROUP FOR YOUR CHILD ?
BIRDS OF A FEATHER, FLOCK TOGETHER !!!!
TEACH THEM WHEN THEY ARE YOUNG
ENSURE THAT YOUR CHILD STAYS AWAY FROM BAD COMPANY FROM THE BEGINNING ITSELF
BE OPEN SET AN EXAMPLE
IMPORTANT DOMAINS WE HAVE TO WORK INTO LANGUAGE DEVELOPMENT SPORTS MUSIC DANCE OTHER AREAS OF INTREST (ABACUS,
YOGA, TRAVEL, SUMMER CAMPS ETC.)
…………. THIS IS IN ADDITION TO ROUTINE ACADEMIC WORK !!!!
BASIC PRINCIPLES
PUNISH THE BEHAVIOUR, NOT THE CHILD
GIVE YOUR CHILD AGE APPROPRIATE RESPONSIBILITIES
IGNORE SMALL MISTAKES, APPRECIATE EVEN THE SMALLEST GOOD DEED.
BASIS PRINCIPLES CONSISTANCY IN APPRECIATION AND
PUNISHMENT PATTERN AVOID CRITISISING THE CHILD IN FRONT
OF HIS FRIENDS OR WHEN IN A GROUP APPRECIATE IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY,
SCOLD / PUNISH IN PRIVATE NEVER DEBATE IN FRONT OF THE CHILD MANAGE YOUR DIFFRENCE OF OPINIONS
BASIC PRINCIPLES
SHOW RESPECT TO ELDERS AND LAW (ATLEAST IN FRONT OF THE CHILD!!!)
AVOID SUBSTANCE USE IN FRONT OF CHILDREN
MONITOR YOUR CHILDS FRIENDS ROLE OF MEDIA
1. SELF IMAGE
A – GOOD B – BAD
2. SELF CONFIDENCE
A – GOOD B - BAD
3. LISTENING TO COMMANDS
A – GOOD B - BAD
4. SOCIALISATION
A - GOOD B - BAD
5. ENURESIS
A - ABSENT B - PRESENT
6. ENCOPRESIS
A - ABSENT B - PRESENT
7. TEMPER TANTRUMS
A - ABSENT B - PRESENT
8. RELATION WITH SIBLINGS
A - GOOD B - BAD
9. SHARING
A - GOOD B - BAD
THANK YOU
DR. PRASANNA P. KHATAWKAR
93 26 81 30 48 93 72 70 71 00