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Friending Stress
Introduction to Research ID 6020
18th April, 2013
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How heavy is this?
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Demystifying this Fellow!
STRESSStress
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Demystifying this Fellow!
Just to stress you
Definitions of stress ..
“The adverse reaction people have to excessive pressure or other types of demands placed on them.” (Health and Safety Executive)
“Stress is not necessarily something bad – it all depends on how you take it. The stress of exhilarating, creative successful work is beneficial, while that of failure, humiliation or infection is detrimental.” (Selye, 1956)
“Stress is a condition or feeling experienced when a person perceives that demands exceed the personal and social resources the individual is able to mobilize.” (Lazarus, )
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So what is…???
The greatest obstacle between you and happiness is stress.
Comes from the way we relate/react to events or situations.
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Need to befriend this Fellow!
Anger/Frustration/ Depression /
Boredom
Sleeplessness
Fatigue / Burnout
Lack of Appetite / Binging
Indigestion / Diarrhea
Personality Disorders (diffidence, anxiety, worry, loneliness, moodiness, indecisiveness)
Obesity / Weight Loss
Alcochol/ Smoking
Computer Games / Internet
Memory LossSuicidal Tendencies
Reduced Productivity
BP , Ulcer, Migraine
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Here I come…..Does my perception affect me?
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The Window
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A young couple
moves into a new
neighborhood.
The next morning, while they are eating breakfast, the young woman sees her
neighbor hang the wash outside.
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Her husband looked on, but remained
silent.
.
“That laundry is not very
clean. She doesn’t know how to wash
correctly. Perhaps she needs better
laundry soap”, she
said
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Every time her neighbor would
hang her wash to dry, the young woman would
make the same comments.
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About one month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her
husband:Look! She has learned how to wash correctly. I
wonder who taught her this.
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The husband said: I got up early this morning and
cleaned our windows!
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And so it is with life:
What we see when watching others,
depends on the purity of the window
through which we look.
Before we give any criticism, it might be a good idea to check our state of mind and
ask ourselves if we are ready to see the good rather than to
be looking for something in the
person we are about to judge.
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“ we don’t see things as
they are, we see things as
we are.”
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The true man sees what the eye
sees, and does not add to it
something that is not there.
He hears what the ears hear,
and does not detect undertones
or overtones.
He is not busy with hidden
meanings…
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Here I come….. The stimuli
Ticket waiting list, traffic jam, queues, ATM, tatkal Exam results, Job Family: Household chores, Illness to near/dear ones Academics: Time pressure, deadlines, ‘show results’ syndrome
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Understanding the Root Cause
What are your beliefs?
Helpful or limiting?
Readiness to change?
Realistic vs. Unrealistic
change
Stress Audit-Routine or Specific?What reality do
you create?Shoulds, Musts..
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Arrival Patterns in IIT Life…….
Selection of Guide
Identifying Research Problem
Zeroth DC / GTC
Grades in Course Work
Comprehensive Viva
Hostel and Food
First DC / GTC
Data Collection
Delays in Thesis Correction
Scholarship stopped
Journal / Conference Papers and deadlines
Thesis Writing (IIT Format)
Job!! (No job, Joining date)
Synopsis
Post-IIT Stress
Data Analysis, Results
Expectations of Guide
Family and Financial Issues
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Welcoming Stress with RED CARPET…..Adhyatmika Adhibauthik
a Adhideivika
Multi-tasking
Procrastination
No Personal Hygiene
Neglecting Health
Swallowing more than you can chew
Lack of order and planning in life
Staying away from work until last minute
No proper diet and exercise regime
Improper Communication Not openly communicating with people who are stressors
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Stress and My IIT Friends
Workload given by Guide Differences
in Expectation
setting
Fear to communicate or discuss
Family Issues
(Separation, Marriage)
Took to alcohol/smoking – 8 years
PhD
Running around for
data collection
No Journal / Conf Paper
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Striking a chord with this fellow…
Benchmark Use Humor
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TIPS n TRICKS!know your limits and thresholds of pain and knowledge – I Know that I Know Nothing – The Buddha
Use TO-DO Lists, POST-IT Notes, Outlook Calendar
See STRESS as a Challenge / Opportunity
Be Realistic
Lean to SAY NO!
Take ONE STEP at a time
Discuss with Friends Forgive and Forget
Have a Personal Health Plan – Diet, Nutrition, Exercise, Yoga, Meditation, Sleep
Feed Your Mind – Hobbies, Interests, Sports, Relaxation, Start something New
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Pearls of Wisdom
Meditation
Detached witness
Visualize and invoke
peaceSurrender
Equanimity
When we are angry, step back from the wave of anger and try to see and feel, “anger is happening in me, but I am not in it; I am untouched by it. I watch it raise, fall and pass away like waves at the surface of my being.”
To find perfect composure in the midst of change is to experience ‘nirvana’, bliss.
I treat both success and failure as one and the same…
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Your Sun Diagram
Feeling engaged
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“To relieve tension, minutes of real calm, inner and
outer, are more effective than all the remedies of
the world”.
SHAKE hands with STRESS
Way forward……….