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Fireproof Your MarriageFireproof Your Marriage2009 Marriage Seminar of International Church of Christ, 2009 Marriage Seminar of International Church of Christ,
Lagos.Lagos.
Class Delivered byClass Delivered byGeorge OputaGeorge Oputa
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Fireproof Romance?Fireproof Romance?
“Don’t leave your partner behind”
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Romance: DefinitionRomance: Definition
• Men: Sex
• Women: love, warmth, closeness, attention, communication, dedication
• Your definition defines your understanding
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Fires that destroy romanceFires that destroy romance
• Wrong attitude to sex- “it is meant to be enjoyed (More women than men need more help on this)
- Fact? Sex is meant to be enjoyed
- Gen:2 (God sees man and woman together as very good)
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• Past Guilt- Did you mess up with the same woman in the past?- Carry over guilt leads to loss of dignity- Good news! We have grace!- You can’t change the past, learn to deal with it.- Learn to put out the fires of past guilt and other past
relationship junk memories
Fires that destroy romanceFires that destroy romance
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• Marital Unfaithfulness- Raging fire that can destroy- Breads endless list of negative behavior (rage,
bitterness, murder, anger)
Note: There is no justification for marital unfaithfulness
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No matter how long you’ve been married, always go back to the following passages
• Proverbs 4 (25-27)• Proverbs 5 (1-23)• Proverbs 6 (27-29)
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• What the world is saying:- “ There is something wrong with you, if you’re not having
extra-marital sex”- Sex with several people is thrilling, you’re simply locked
out on the boring stuff.
NB: have you noticed how confused “love songs” are? One point, they are hailing immorality, the next, they talking of heartbreaks and how terrible things are!
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• Pornography- do you need a check on your computer?
• Financial Matters
• Bitterness, rage, anger, resentment- Words that are said put distance between man and
woman- How can you be warm, when there is no caring attitude?- Learn to say I’m sorry and mean (Proverbs 12:18)
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• Changing Bodies- Study out Songs of Solomon’s description of man and
woman.- As we get older, our physical structures change.- The body might change, but the person you married still
remains. You’ve got to love that body!- If you need to get in shape, then work at it. Don’t
demand what you can’t give
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• Using sex as a tool or weapon to punish the other- selfishness (1 Corinthians 1-5)
- Each man should have his wife because?- Discourse selfishness- Fulfill your marital duties to one another- The Bible encourages regular sexual relationship (come together
again)- Never turn each other down- Satan knows us well
NB: “ it is as wrong to say yes to the wrong person as it is to say no to the right person”
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Two Perspectives of SexTwo Perspectives of Sex
• Women: Security
• Men: Entertainment
- It is a unique part of human relationship reserved only for Married people
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What Kind of Man do you want What Kind of Man do you want to be?to be?
• A Sensitive Man =S• An undivided Man =U• A Prayerful Man =P• An Extra-mile Man =E• A Romantic Man =RIf you do all these, you’ll be able to withstand the heat and
extinguish the negative fires that consume and burn down many marital relationships. For short, you’ll become…..SUPERMAN
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Thank YouThank You