Fime Dimensions for Bachelors

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The Best Cor,lntyy,e Fairy TaleOn the islandof MaIaiIa there s an inn. lthasbeen here or manygenerotions.Whenthisstorystarted,t wasrun by a couplewhotook good careof it and made heir guestsfeelat home. oreignuestswouldcome ackyear after eor andsend heir riends.Thecouple ad ivedaughters howent oschool nd enjoyedmeetingheguests f theinn, who told themabout oreign onds.Onweekendshe family wouldholdo por\r fortheguests,where he ivegirls wouldsingonddance.

Whenthe oldestgirl, Sotu,had finishedschool hestartedo helpat the nn.A youngforeigner,who had stayedwith themseveroltimeswith his amily, eII n lovewithherandshewith him. lrVhen ecomebock o the nnthenext ear, heymarried, ndshe ollowedherhusband ack o hiscountry.By hot ime hesecond aughter, ua,hadjust completedchool, nd she ookhersister'splaceat the nn.Some ime ater sheolso eIIin lovewithayoungmon whowas heirguest.Shemarriedhim ond wentwith him to hiscounlry.

The hirdgir[ Tigo, ook Duo'splace, utIikeherolder sisters,he also eII n lovewitha foreign uest, ndaftera time sheoo wentabroadwith hernewhusband.And so it went with the fourth ond fifthdaughters, mpat and Lima.The nnkeeperand his wife werenow olone, heir fomilyspreadaII around heglobe.Thedaughterssent heir riends o the nn, which heirpar-entscontinuedo run.3o

Many years later,when the daughtersthemselvesad adultchildrenn theirdiffer-ent countries,he old innkeeper ied.Thedoughters II lewbockwith their amilies orhis funeraland weptover heir belovedo-ther.And after he funeral hey sat ogetherwith their mother. t wos decided hot theirmotherwould seII he nn to a young couplewho had presentedhemselves nd wouldcome nd ivewith oneof herdaughters. utwith whom?Eachdaughterond son-in-Iawoffered heir house or Grandma o retire o.And Grandmaoskedher five eldest rand-childrenodescribeo herwhat ife n each fthe foreigncountrieswouldbe like.Satu'sdoughter oid:"Grandmo,ou wiIIIoveour country.We believen the rightsofthe ndividual.Webelieve II people redif-ferent,and theyhaveo right to bedifferent.canpursuemy own nterests,omyownthing,andnobodywiIIstopme.l canhovemy ownopinions, nd nobodycan preventme fromexpressinghem.lconchoosemy ownfriends,and I canvote or the eaders like,and no-bodycon ellme otherwise.""Buthow anyoube nybodynyourcoun-try?"askedAunt Lima. Doesn'twhoyou aredepend n where ou came romandon thegroupsyou belongto? How canyou expectyour people o be loyal to you if you are notIoyal to them?And who wiII takecareofGrandmawhensheneedshelp?Who takescareofyour fother'soged elotives?"And don'tyou et ntomanyconflicts?aidAunt Ampot. "Doyou reallysay everythingE X P L O R I N G U L T U R E


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"ln our country,we believe hat honest" people peok heirmind,,, oidSotu,sdough_

that is on your mind?Didyou forget thatytyinyining ormonyith 6ur etoirriorafriendssthe oundoiionfociviLz;d ;;;Iy?Howcan ou work ogetherreven oi"ri_nels.rlyiththerpeoplef you hore noi irstestoblishedormony ith hem?,,

equoLAII have hesame ights,nobodvhosspe.cia_Irivileges.obody"isrryifr, ordyo\dSt.isety oor.We lecturiro,arlo,natheeadersolkthe treetsiker,yi"ai,,t r.You on oup o hem nd olk*itn liri. rmostpeoplehink thato leaders noteffec_tiveanymore,he eoderwittstrp i"ri'""athepeoplewiII electomeone lse.,,^ "lt.slundslikeyouhoveweak eaders,,,saidnunt.Jotusharply. ,Thatwouldbe tine f alllt:49 were ood.B.utwhotaboutbaLdeople?l..thinkpeopleneedstrong troarrr;ott)r*irctheywiII misbehave.,,

,^ .ro* doyou gducgte-youngoysandgirlstnyour country?,,skedAunt Tiga."ln ourschools, tudents ndieochersreat?:, :,, orh,: Iikeequols,Duo'sson exploned.tn closs,studentsmoy speokup whenevertheywonto,ond eocheriprrfir.-'iiuar*,tokeosmuchnitiativen ,io'-s r-rJornrodo.'^ 'ls.tlereno respectnyourcountry?,,aid

::::ypit yilng shocked,HowianyouTor:ltomdisciplinehiswoy?HowwiII thesestudentsehoven their oik *hrn inrr'i"r,Ieftschool?ndhowdo heynri"rr'|"'tnri,porents fhome?,,"Ofcoursewehavemostersndservantsondbossesndsubordinotes, o,r, ourltry,"soidDuo'son.,'Butsubordinater r"t *"rtnI,esslon.theboss,nd_ifairogrr, ii,rh"yboss,wiII eIIhim so. s or os"ow ro^iUf,gr?!):.!-,,!!i!t our.parentsikeequats,nd heyorscusshrnqswithusossoonoswearebigenougho understond,hen*, oi, tl*o'o,three ears ld.,'

ter. Wedon'twasteime nsociol hitchatorharmony'soke.ndwebelieve,or'iou orcwlat you make ourselfo be. ir'orc no,yloyl1u, tomily sor what our friends re.rnot otsomeonshotwedo notoutomati_callyexpecturfomily o take r, oi rr.Uyfother'selotives ill notexpect, ," t""X of_ter them.Wewill be happy o loii onerGrondmo,ndof course e akecareof our,!!!:i, "t rons s hey re^ott,ii by her1ry tn!! oregrown, heywiII hove earnedotooKotter themselves.nd we do not expectthem o lookofterus when*, orcold.)'But do children 'reorntopioy;;;;:;":,Ir,io"::;,:#,::"!;:;iTigo ookedshocked."Ourchildren eornto bethemselves,,,aid,Jatu'sdoughter.'lftheywont oplaywiih their?ymert ndsisters,itey reri ti i"'rl,'"rar tney wont to makeother friends, hev areoko free o do that.Eoch hildnor'nir1, nnown toys; hot is the way they eornto be re_sponsible o them elvei.,,"Whoto borboriccountry!,,oidAunt Dua,b,utlirtenb mysonnow,-Grond;,;:;;;"r,I tfunk wereally ive n agood o"ltr;'

_ Duo_'sonsoid, 'youwlL loveour iountry,Grondma.Our people treot everyioO'r'o,

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"Discussing ith a childof two?" aidAuntLima. Nowcome n,nephew, ren'tyouok-ing? s that parental ove?We oveour chil-drenand protect hemand make them feelsafe,but we do not discussdult topicswiththem.But et'sheor rom Tiga's aughter boutIife n her country."And Tiga'sdaughter aid, Comeive withus,Grandmo.lnour countrypeople are orothers egardless f whether hey ore friendsor strangers.f someone eeds elp,shewiIIget it.lf someone annotprovide or himself,thecountry rovidesor him. We eel espon-sible oreverybody.""Doesn't hot make people azy?"askedAunt Dua. Whot'she useof doing our bestif the countrywiII takecareofyou anywoy?""l don't hink so," aidTiga's aughter.Weexpect eople o do their bestbut not to tryoverly ard o be hebest-or o believehem-selveso be better han others.We hink thatsmoll s beautiful, nd wedo not likepeoplewho make hemselvesmportantand asser-tive.As childrenwe learn to be modestandunassuming.""Even oys?" unt Satusounded erysur-prised. Caringor the weakand beingmod-est s naturol orgirls.Girlsshouldbesoft;wealsodo thecrying,don't we?Shouldn'tboysIearn o be oughand assertive nd o fight?'"Funny ou would say that," said Tiga'sdaughter.Wedon'tmakeso much of a dif-ferencen educating oysor girls. We don'tIikeany child to fight-girls or boys.And inourcountry oysmaycryust asmuchasgirls;their porentswiII comfort hem n the samewav. lle believet makes verybodyappier."

"Do fathersalso comfortchildren f theycry?"askedAunt Lima."lsn't hat foryou todo, Tiga?""Theycome o whoever'sclosesf y,"saidAunt Tiga, omewhat pset. What s wrongwith that?When hechildrenwerebobiesheirfatherplayedwith themust asmuchas did.No,wedo notmokesucha big thingaboutaperson eing monor a womon.lfmydaugh-ter wants o learn corpentry, he s free o doso.lf my son wants o playwith dolls,we wiIIno tstophim.Menandwomenwear hesameclothes, o to thesomeplaces, nd have hesame ightsand duties.Many of our leodersare women,and they are respectedust osmuchos he menare.""Whot o decadent ountry!"Aunt Ampotcriedout."Myson wiII teII ou whot a goodcountry londed n, Grandma."AndAmpat's onbegan,lnour countrywebelieven orderandself-discipline.here reclear ules hateverybody as o respect. omeof the stories ou told aboutyour countriesmakeme verynervous.What f our childrenwon't earnhow to behave?""lsn't he woyyou educote our childrenrigid and dogmatic,hen?" aidAunt Dua."lsn't the waJ/)/ou educate our childrenwishy-washy?"ounteredmpat's on. Oursis a principledcountry, hat is true.We ike toknow heTruthand oteach t to thechildren.Wedonot ikepeoplewhodo otherwise. hosewho do not think or behaveike wedo poseathreot o our wayof life.""Youseem o forget hatyou aredifferentyourself;yourmothercame n os o foreigner.How did that go?How couldo stranger ver

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beacceptednyourcountry?",4untig Iookedvery urprised.'Jiue,thot wasnot eosyi' onfesseduitAmpaL l had o eama lotof ruIes nd obevery arefuIto ehaveikeeverybodylse. utmy husbondelpedme."Andyou,children-howwereouacceptedyourmother eingoreign?"skeduntTigo."No,wewerent utomaticallyccepted,hotisso"saidAmpat's on, isibly neasy.,'Everynowondthen omebodymborrasseseandmysisterorbeing ifferent-ut henwemai


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