FEELINGS & EMOTIONSFEELING: AN EMOTIONAL STATE OR REACTIONEMOTION: A NATURAL INSTINCTIVE STATE OF MIND DERIVING FROM ONE'S CIRCUMSTANCES, MOOD, OR RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERSMEET YOUR FEELINGS

EMOTIONAL DEVELOPMENT

At the age of 2:

Can begin to label basic feelings (happy, sad, mad, scared) Identify when they feel theseManaging emotions still difficult

At the age of 3:

Learning to name their emotions & feelingsNeed adult help & support as they learn to manage their big emotions & feelings

At the age of 4:

Start to recognize what causes them to feel certain waysCoping strategiesSelf-confidence and independence

At the age of 5:

Can talk and share about why they feel certain emotions & apply strategies to control their impulsesNeed continued adult support when they become overwhelmed Self-confidence and independence continues to grow

PBS Kids emotions and self-awarenesshttps://www.pbs.org/parents/learn-grow/all-ages/emotions-self-awareness

IMPORTANT CONCEPTS ABOUT FEELINGS & EMOTIONS

Everyone has feelings

Feelings belong to the individual, we canʻt tell someone else how to feel

Our understanding of feelings & emotions develop over time , connection & attunement

Increasing emotional literacy & feelings expressiveness is what we want to help our keiki build

FEELINGS DURING PANDEMIC • FEELINGS ARE ESPECIALLY IMPORTANT RIGHT NOW!

• SO MANY BIG FEELINGS RIGHT NOW!

• ALL FEELINGS ARE OK

• FEELINGS COME AND GO! ESPECIALLY FOR OUR KEIKI

• FEELINGS ARE MEANT TO BE FELT SO FEEL ALL YOUR FEELINGS

• EMOTIONS AND THE BRAIN

• Recognize the Feeling• Acknowledge and Label it• Allow yourself to Feel it• Decide what to do with it

• Let go • Shift your attention

OTHER TIPS TO MANAGE ALL THE FEELINGS•RECOGNIZE WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL AND WHAT YOU CAN’T CONTROL•SHARE YOUR FEELINGS•SELF-CARE & SELF-COMPASSION•TAKE DEEP BREATHS•CONNECT & HELP OTHERS•EMPATHY

WHY ARE FEELINGS SO IMPORTANT? • UNDERSTANDING OUR FEELINGS HELP US UNDERSTAND OURSELVES

• FEELINGS, THOUGHTS, BEHAVIORS• RECOGNIZING HOW WE FEEL CAN HELP US GET THROUGH WHAT IS OCCURRING

• KEIKI FEELINGS OFTEN COME OUT THROUGH THEIR BEHAVIORS• BEHAVIOR IS A FORM OF COMMUNICATION• WHAT ARE THEY TRYING TO TELL US?

WHAT CAN WE DO WHEN KEIKI HAVE BIG FEELINGS?

• STAY CALM• PUT INTO WORDS HOW YOU THINK THEY ARE FEELING• HELP THEM FIND A WAY TO GET THE BIG FEELING OUT

• IN AN APPROPRIATE AND HEALTHY WAY• PROVIDE SUPPORT• HELP THEM SHIFT THEIR ENERGY INTO SOMETHING POSITIVE• OFFER CHOICES

HELPING KEIKI TO LEARN ABOUT FEELINGS

Identify and label feelings: keiki feelings and yours too!

Read and watch about feelings & emotions

Play Feelings Games

Engage in Feelings Activities

FEELINGS BOOKS FOR KEIKI• GLAD MONSTER, SAD MONSTER BY ED EMBERLEY AND ANNE MIRANDA• MY MANY COLORED DAYS BY DR. SEUSS• THE WAY I FEEL BY JANAN CAIN• THE FEELINGS BOOK BY TODD PARR• HOW ARE YOU PEELING? BY SAXTON FREYMANN• TODAY I FEEL SILLY & OTHER MOODS THAT MAKE MY DAY BY JAMIE LEE CURTIS• THE COLOR MONSTER: A STORY ABOUT EMOTIONS BY ANNA LLENAS• IN MY HEART: A BOOK OF FEELINGS (GROWING HEARTS) BY JO WITEK

And there are so many more! These are just a few of my favorites

FEELINGS MOVIES FOR YOUR ‘OHANA•MOVIES THAT INVOLVE FEELINGS AND EMOTIONS

•INSIDE OUT•THE EMOJI MOVIE•THE LEGO MOVIE •DANIEL TIGER•MANY KIDS MOVIES AND SHOWS! TALK & RELATE TO LIFE

FEELINGS ACTIVITIES• SESAME STREET FEELINGS CLIPS AND ACTIVITIES

• FEELINGS HAVE NAMES

• FEELINGS GAMES• MATCHING/MEMORY • DICE (HOMEMADE OR ACTUAL)• ADAPT GAMES YOU HAVE AT HOME

• FEELINGS POSTERS• HIT THE FEELING• MAKE INTO MATCHING/MEMORY GAME

Feelings Printables

‘OHANA RESOURCES ON FEELINGS •CENTER ON THE SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL FOUNDATIONS FOR EARLY

LEARNING •CONSCIOUS DISCIPLINE FEELINGS RESOURCES•SESAME STREET EXPLORING EMOTIONS

PLACES TO GET HELP IF YOU NEED IT •IF YOU NEED HELP FOR YOU OR YOUR KEIKI PLEASE REACH OUT TO SOMEONE!

•KUMU AND/OR SCHOOL COUNSELOR•YOUR LOCAL HEALTHCARE PROVIDER

•PRIMARY CARE PHYSICIAN•HEALTH INSURANCE PROVIDER

•CALL CRISIS LINE OF HAWAII AT 211 OR 877-356-9211•800-753-6879 (TOLL FREE OR NEIGHBOR ISLANDS)•808-832-3100 (OAHU)

OTHER SUPPORT THROUGH HELPLINES• THE NATIONAL DISASTER DISTRESS HELPLINE IS AVAILABLE TO ANYONE EXPERIENCING

EMOTIONAL DISTRESS RELATED TO COVID-19. CALL 1-800-985-5990 OR TEXT TALKWITHUS TO 66746 TO SPEAK TO A CARING COUNSELOR.

• THE NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE HAS HIGHLY TRAINED ADVOCATES AVAILABLE 24/7 TO ENSURE SERVICES AND CONTINUE TO SUPPORT SURVIVORS.

• FOR 24-HOUR CRISIS COUNSELING PLEASE CALL: 1-800-273-8255. A CRISIS TEXT LINE IS ALSO AVAILABLE BY TEXTING ALOHA TO 741741 OR ANSWER TO 839863

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