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The Beacon February 2015 / A Newsletter of Clearview Church FEBRUARY at a Glance 2/1 New Member Class Part 1 2/1 Super Bowl Party - Illuminate & Converge 2/5 Empty Nester FISH Group 2/6 The Art of Marriage Conference 2/7 The Art of Marriage Conference 2/7 Singles FISH Group 2/8 New Member Class Part 2 2/10 JOY Ministry @ KLNR 2/11 AWANA Store 2/13 Valentine Banquet 2/14 Happy Valentine’s Day 2/15 Men’s Prayer Breakfast 2/16 Kindle Kids Club 2/20 Kerr Lake FISH Group 2/25 AWANA-Disney Night 2/28 Y NOT? THE HEALING PROCESS Some marriages have stress, breakdown or they have deep wounds that have never healed. Sadly, the hurts get passed down to the next generation. Just like a physical wound, the sooner the proper healing begins the better it is for all in- volved. How can this healing take place? Let’s begin with what does not heal. 1. Guilt or blame casting do not work. Our grandparents, Adam and Eve, blamed one another and the rest is history. 2. Half-hearted or brief efforts do not work. Understand that healing is a process that takes time, right guidance and willingness to change. Next, understand the main causes of marital wounds: 1. Differing expectations of marriage. Shaunti Feldhahn conducted hundreds of surveys with men and women and documented the results in her books For Women Only and For Men Only. One result was that the greatest need in a woman is affection but the greatest need in a man is respect. It’s like going to the auto parts store and ordering a ham- burger! 2. Failure to expect selfishness in marriage. Our natural bent is to look at things from our own perspective. Instead of becoming the right person, we are always trying to change the other person. 3. Failure to work through difficulties and trials. As Ephesians 4:26-27 reminds us “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.” Remember, your marriage has an enemy and it is not your spouse. 4. Failure to recognize the changing seasons of life. In his book Seasons of a Marriage, H. Norman Wright devotes a chapter to each season – season of expectation; season of the twenties and thirties; season of mid-life; and season of the empty nest. Lack of understanding and preparation can be serious. Healing can happen if the following three ointments are applied. 1. Intimate understanding and acceptance of yourself. Many marital conflicts stem from a poor self-image and insecu- rity. Most self-help books only lead to more selfish thinking. The Bible will give you the right image of yourself from God’s perspective, as seen in Psalms 139:14 says “I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” 2. Intimate relationship with your mate. Dennis Rainey of Family Life gives a short and to-the-point premise of his book Staying Close – “Your marriage will naturally move toward a state of isolation.” The goal of every marriage should be oneness that leads to a growing understanding and appreciation of one another. 3. Intimate relationship with God. This is the most essential of the three. It begins when we make the Bible a priority in our lives. As we hear, meditate and obey His Word, the Holy Spirit comes in all fullness to occupy our inner being. As a result the life of Christ becomes real in us and “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”(Philippians 4:13). Now we can change, forgive and accept our mate as God’s gift to us. The hurts don’t stop but we have someone who helps us heal and keep growing towards oneness. How about those cases where one partner is no longer available for healing? Ask God to heal you. His grace is sufficient.
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The Beacon February 2015 / A Newsletter of Clearview Church
FEBRUARY at a Glance
2/1 New Member Class Part 1
2/1 Super Bowl Party - Illuminate &
Converge
2/5 Empty Nester FISH Group
2/6 The Art of Marriage Conference
2/7 The Art of Marriage Conference
2/7 Singles FISH Group
2/8 New Member Class Part 2
2/10 JOY Ministry @ KLNR
2/11 AWANA Store
2/13 Valentine Banquet
2/14 Happy Valentine’s Day
2/15 Men’s Prayer Breakfast
2/16 Kindle Kids Club
2/20 Kerr Lake FISH Group
2/25 AWANA-Disney Night
2/28 Y NOT?
THE HEALING PROCESS
Some marriages have stress, breakdown or they have deep wounds that have never healed. Sadly, the hurts get passed
down to the next generation. Just like a physical wound, the sooner the proper healing begins the better it is for all in-
volved. How can this healing take place? Let’s begin with what does not heal.
1. Guilt or blame casting do not work. Our grandparents, Adam and Eve, blamed one another and the rest is history.
2. Half-hearted or brief efforts do not work. Understand that healing is a process that takes time, right guidance and
willingness to change.
Next, understand the main causes of marital wounds:
1. Differing expectations of marriage. Shaunti Feldhahn conducted hundreds of surveys with men and women and
documented the results in her books For Women Only and For Men Only. One result was that the greatest need in a
woman is affection but the greatest need in a man is respect. It’s like going to the auto parts store and ordering a ham-
burger!
2. Failure to expect selfishness in marriage. Our natural bent is to look at things from our own perspective. Instead of
becoming the right person, we are always trying to change the other person.
3. Failure to work through difficulties and trials. As Ephesians 4:26-27 reminds us “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not
let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.” Remember, your marriage has an enemy and it is not
your spouse.
4. Failure to recognize the changing seasons of life. In his book Seasons of a Marriage, H. Norman Wright devotes a
chapter to each season – season of expectation; season of the twenties and thirties; season of mid-life; and season of
the empty nest. Lack of understanding and preparation can be serious.
Healing can happen if the following three ointments are applied.
1. Intimate understanding and acceptance of yourself. Many marital conflicts stem from a poor self-image and insecu-
rity. Most self-help books only lead to more selfish thinking. The Bible will give you the right image of yourself from God’s
perspective, as seen in Psalms 139:14 says “I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”
2. Intimate relationship with your mate. Dennis Rainey of Family Life gives a short and to-the-point premise of his
book Staying Close – “Your marriage will naturally move toward a state of isolation.” The goal of every marriage should
be oneness that leads to a growing understanding and appreciation of one another.
3. Intimate relationship with God. This is the most essential of the three. It begins when we make the Bible a priority in
our lives. As we hear, meditate and obey His Word, the Holy Spirit comes in all fullness to occupy our inner being. As a
result the life of Christ becomes real in us and “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens
me”(Philippians 4:13). Now we can change, forgive and accept our mate as God’s gift to us. The
hurts don’t stop but we have someone who helps us heal and keep growing towards oneness.
How about those cases where one partner is no longer available for healing? Ask God to heal you.
His grace is sufficient.
February 6th & 7th
Friday 7-9:30 pm
Saturday 9 am-4 pm
Marriage Conference at Clearview
Contact: Nicole Shah: [email protected]
Y NOT ? For Ladies This month we will have a presentation on thriftiness by
Jennifer Connell. (She is Sue Kisgen’s daughter and is
known to her family as the “queen of cheap”). This does
not mean settling for inferior products or services, but hints
and tips to make the most of your money.
Join us Sat. 2/28 at 9 am for brunch in the Fellowship Hall.
Please bring a brunch dish to share.
Also please bring canned good(s) to donate to ACTS;
(Area Christians Together In Service).
We will have a spot for a coupon swap.
Bring any unexpired coupons you won’t be using.
Sunday nights at 5:00
Where Life and Faith in
Christ Come Together.
Cole Badstein: [email protected] Rebecca Shah: [email protected]
Kindle Kids for inner city kids
The Gathering Room 6pm every 3rd Monday (Feb. 16th)
Contact: Mike - [email protected]
FISH (Fellowship In Someone’s Home)
Fun, fellowship, food, friends. Everyone Welcome, a group for everyone!
—Empty Nesters will meet at 6:30 Thursday 2/5 at Golden Corral/Henderson. Contact: Dwight or Betty 717 413-8574/[email protected] —Singles Group meets the 1st Sat. (2/7) of the month @ 7:30 pm. in the Fellowship Hall. Contact: Arnett Lambert 252 430-7651 / [email protected] Please bring finger food to share.
—Kerr Lake Group will meet on Friday 2/20. Time/location TBA in future bulletins. Hal & Joie Mahler - 252 820-0421 or [email protected]. Please bring a dish to share. —A Great Place to Start - Contact Chris/Renee Jackson for meeting information. 919 339-7989 / [email protected] or [email protected]
Valentine Banquet
Friday, February 13th at 6 pm in the Fellowship Hall
Everyone Welcome! (not just for couples)
Illuminate Youth will serve. Tips help fund their mission trip.
Sign up in the Foyer by 2/8
Please meet us February 10th at 2:00 for one-on-one time with the residents of
Kerr Lake Nursing Facility
1245 Park Ave. / Henderson
Larry & Donna Bower 252 430-0876 or [email protected]
Israel is a land of beauty and contrasts. It has big, urban cities and beautiful ancient
ruins. It has beautiful beaches and deserts with a beauty all its own. It is a land where many miracles have occurred, and we have record of them in the Bi-ble. I have heard all the arguments about why not to go to Israel. The first is always that it is not safe. I saw many young girls jogging by themselves at night. I asked our guide, and he said that Israel takes crime very seriously; and there are plain clothed police eve-rywhere. Because of the threat of terrorism on so many sides, Israel is on its toes, so to speak. I felt safer walking down the streets of Tel Aviv than I do walking down some streets in the United States. The next excuse is Israel is a foreign country. Just because it is a foreign country does not mean that it is not modern country. I went to several malls while in Tel Aviv and Eilat, and they have all the same stores we have in the United States. You have to go further into the cities to find authentic Jewish merchandise. Israel also has internet, computers and cell phones. In fact, most Israelis speak English along with Hebrew. The last excuse is that it is such a long trip. Any-
thing worthwhile takes time. You meet such interesting
people while traveling to Israel! Imagine standing on
the banks of the Jordan River and visualizing the Jor-
dan River parting for the Levites as they carried the
Ark of the Covenant across to conquer the land of Ca-
naan under the leadership of Joshua. Imagine getting
on a boat to cross the Sea of Galilee and visualizing
Jesus walking on the water. Imagine standing on the
banks of the Red Sea and visualizing the children of
Israel crossing on dry land under the leadership of
Moses. Not to mention walking where Jesus walked!
Why would you let these things hinder you from experi-
encing the Holy Land when you could have these ex-
periences for yourself? – Nicole Shah
Please check out the table
in The Gathering Room. Many jackets, bibles, umbrellas, etc.
Wednesdays at 6:00 pm
For ages 3 years-6th grade
Join us as we have fun
learning God’s Word.
2/11 - AWANA Store
2/25 - Disney Night
Contact: Nicole Shah 252 432-7167
CHILDREN’S CHURCH Ages 3 - 1st Grade are dismissed
from 10:45 Worship Service.
New & exciting
Children’s Sunday School format is starting soon!
Volunteers needed for music, skits,
teaching, material prep, and other
“behind the scenes” activities.
Contact Chris Jackson: [email protected]
Sunday School - 9:30 Pre-K ages 3-5 - Room 5 Shelia McCall - [email protected], Carolyn Patterson
Grades K-2 - Room 7 Angela Towne - [email protected] Monica Reigner - [email protected]
Grades 3-5 - Room 8 Chris Jackson - [email protected]
Youth Grades 6-12 - Room 11 Ryan Hill - [email protected]
College & Career - Room 9 Josh Towne - [email protected]
Class led by John Robinson in The Gathering Room
Ladies Class - Room 6 Beth Edwards - [email protected]
Men’s Class - Room 1 Ken Brown - [email protected]
Couples 2 -Fellowship Hall Mark & Amy Dickens - [email protected]
Men’s Prayer
Breakfast and
Bible Study
3rd Sunday monthly
at 8 am
February 15th
Fellowship Hall
Church Supper
2/4 - Beef Stew/Rice/Peas/Carrots/Rolls
2/11 - Ham/Green Beans/Potato Salad/Rolls
2/18 - Chicken Casserole/Mixed Vegetables
2/25 –Taco Salad over chps/Corn on the cob
Wednesdays 5 pm Fellowship Hall
$4 ($3 for 10 years or under $17-Family cap)
Sign up sheets in foyer and fellowship hall
For planning purposes, please sign up each week. Help in the kitchen is always appreciated, please
contact Annette Goyette 252 492-3820
New Member Class 9:30 am in Pastor’s Office
Sunday Feb. 1 Part 1 Sunday Feb. 8 Part 2
Find out more about Clearview — Our past, our principles, our doctrines and
our mission.
Contact Pastor Shah to attend.
YOUTH CORNER
So, it’s February, and if you’re like most of us, your mind turns to the big pile of mush that is Valentine’s Day. Don’t get me wrong, I like romance just as much as the next person. It’s good to spend time showing your sweetheart how much you care. I just wonder if, in the process of buying flowers, candy, expensive dinners, and elaborate gifts, we have missed some fundamental truths about what
love actually is. Song lyrics are always a good gauge about what our culture is thinking and believing as a whole. Check out some of these lyrics from last year’s most popular love songs: “Won’t you stay with me, ‘cause you’re all I need. This ain’t love, it’s clear to see, but darling stay with me.”, “It’s my right to be hellish. I still get jealous.”, “Everybody wanna steal my girl.” Wow. Not a very pretty picture of what love is, huh? There are hundreds of thousands of books, articles, songs, and other media on what love is, isn’t, and how we can get it. However, I’d say that God should be the one who decides what love is and how we should respond to it, wouldn’t you? God’s word tells us that His very nature is that of love (1 John 4:16) and how He has expressed that love toward us (John 3:16). Our feeble minds have difficulty comprehending this kind of radical, game-changing love that chases us even while we are running away from it. Romans 5:8 says that “…God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” While we were still sinners. Let that sink in. We were wicked, hateful enemies of God. We deserved nothing but death. Yet Christ came into our broken world and lived a human life in order to die a horrific death, all to reach us with the grace and love of God. I weep when I think about my life and how it often doesn’t reflect my gratitude for this great act of love that I definitely did not deserve (and still don’t). This Valentine’s Day and even the rest of February, as you are celebrating the ones you love and holding hands and watching romantic comedies, re-member the greatest love story of all. It’s one that has echoed through the centuries and one that you are a part of. While you were still a sinner, Christ died for you. Praise God for His great love and mercy toward us! In Our Daddy’s Service, Ryan, Youth Pastor
Coming up— 2/1 Illuminate/Converge Super Bowl Party. Guys bring drinks, girls bring snacks. Fellowship Hall 6 pm.
2/13 Valentine Banquet, Youth will be servers.
3/20-22 D-Now. We need host families for the D-Now weekend to house and feed the students Friday & Saturday night.
Hosts will be responsible for dinner on Saturday night and breakfast Saturday and Sunday morning.
If interested in hosting, contact Ryan Hill- 843-270-7247 or [email protected]
RISE ‘N SHINE Café
Sunday mornings 8 - 9:30 The Gathering Room
Coffee, Tea, Hot Chocolate, Breakfast Snacks
Proceeds support Converge College & Career Ministry
Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday
1
8:15 Worship Service
9:30 Sunday School
9:30 New Member Class
10:45 Worship Service
6:00 Illuminate &
Converge Super
Bowl Party
2 3
9:00 Ladies Book
Club & Prayer Group
4 5
6:00 Praise Team
Practice
6:30 Empty Nester
FISH group @
Golden Corral
6
Colton Steffensen
Birthday
The Art of Marriage
Conference 7-9:30pm
7
Cherissa Stokes Birthday
The Art of Marriage
Conference 9 am-4 pm
6:30 IGNITE Worship
Service
7:30 Singles FISH Group
8
Lacie Steffensen Birthday
Scott & Angie Phipps
Anniversary
8:15 Worship Service
9:30 Sunday School
9:30 New Member Class
10:45 Worship Service
5:00 Illuminate &
Converge Worship
9 10
9:00 Ladies Book
Club & Prayer Group
2:00 J O Y @ Kerr
Lake Nursing & Rehab.
Center
11
5:00 Church Supper
6:00 Ladies/Men’s
Bible Study
6:00 SS Teacher Trng
6:00 Awana - Store
12
Janet Stevenson
Birthday
6:00 Praise Team
Practice
13
6:00 pm Valentine
Banquet
14
J.M. Dickens Birthday
Mike & Michelle Breedlove
Anniversary
Happy Valentine’s Day!
6:30 IGNITE Worship
Service
15
8:00 Men’s Breakfast
8:15 Worship Service
9:30 Sunday School
10:45 Worship Service
5:00 Illuminate &
Converge Worship
16
Kim Simmons Birthday
6:00 Kindle Kids Club
17
Ellie Sipfle Birthday
9:00 Ladies Book
Club & Prayer Group
18
5:00 Church Supper
6:00 Ladies/Men’s
Bible Study
6:00 SS Teacher Trng
6:00 Awana
19
Kiara Simmons
Birthday
6:00 Praise Team
Practice
20
Kerr Lake FISH
Group
Check bulletins for
time and location.
21
Holden Hedgepeth
Birthday
6:30 IGNITE Worship
Service
22
Cody Edwards Birthday
Paul Parrish Birthday
8:15 Worship Service
9:30 Sunday School
10:45 Worship Service
5:00 Illuminate &
Converge Worship
23 Angela Ragland Birthday
James Ragland Birthday
24
9:00 Ladies Book
Club & Prayer Group
25
5:00 Church Supper
6:00 Ladies/Men’s
Bible Study
6:00 SS Teacher Trng
6:00 Awana-Disney
Night
26
6:00 Praise Team
Practice
27
28
Craig Askew Birthday
Brandon Edwards Birthday
9:00 Y Not? Brunch
6:30 IGNITE Worship
Service
Clearview Staff
Lead Pastor - Abidan Shah Blog: abidanshah.com
Email: [email protected]
Worship Pastor - John Galantis [email protected]
Youth Pastor - Ryan Hill [email protected]
Pastor’s Secretary - Sue Kisgen [email protected]
3485 Hwy 158 Business
Henderson, NC 27537
252 438-8433
www.clearviewbc.org
Office Hours: 9 - 5
Tuesday - Friday
www.facebook.com/ClearviewHenderson
Please contact Sue Kisgen with corrections or additions for calendar.
[email protected]/or church: 252 438-8433
