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  • EQ: What is the difference between grief and mourning?

    andwhat difference does it make?

  • Our goals: What are common reactions to grief?

    Why do we need to mourn?

    How can I take care of myself ?

    How can I support my friends?

  • Relationship Bank Account (RBA)Reflection on Tuesdays with Morrie Your moodle comments encouraging, sharing with one another.

    Your RBA is not for money, its where you store your emotional well-being and self-esteem.

  • RBA Register - where you store your emotional well-being and self-esteemThe HIGHER the balance in the Relationship Bank Account, the happier you will be. Sean Covey, Seven Habits of Highly Effective Teens

    WithdrawalDepositRBA BalanceHelp someone++++++++++++Being honest++++++++++++Being Mean to someone_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _++++Cheating_ _ _ _ _++

  • Personal Mourning Account, PMAGoal: Is to grow your PMA balance, slowly and over time and with the support and love of those around us.

    WithdrawalDepositBalanceExpress thoughtsOr feelings related to grief++++++++++Repress your thoughts or feelings- - - - - _ _ _ _ _Doing drugs- - - - - Hurting yourself- - - - -Huge deficit

  • Building your PMA accountIt is OK to make withdrawals once in a while - -

    We all repress our feelings.We all do stupid things sometimes.However ---

    We need to make more deposits than withdrawals.

    Result: Grow to reconcile your loss and find meaning in life and living again.NO ONE can cope with grief alone!!!!! (not even adult)

  • A Shield

    Strong, Protector


    Protects us from getting hurt

    When feeling our weakest we may need help from others to keep our shield up.

  • A ShieldCommon Reactions to Grief

    Physicalupset stomachEmotional shock, numbSpiritualangry at GodCognitive (Intellectual)not really dead, just goneBehavioralavoid reminders

  • Understanding Grief-Common ReactionsUnderstandinggrief.pdfUse the provided shield, to write in your common reactions to grief.

    Share your ideas with one another.

    Walk around the room and record an idea on the large shields.

  • What is the difference between grief and mourning?GriefMourningGrief is what you think and feel on the inside when someone you love dies. Its numbness, sadness, anger, guilt and sometimes relief all rolled up into one. Its a pain in your gut and a hole in your chest.It hurts.Mourning is expressing your grief, letting it out somehow.

    Your mourn when you talk about the death, write about it, punch a pillow, cry.

    Everybody grieves inside when someone they love dies. But only people who mourn really heal and move on to live and love fully again.

  • Life Function

  • Grief takes time.You wont get over it in a month, Or even a year.In fact you never get over it.You blend it into your life,And make it part of you.

  • The Six Needs of MourningWhy do we need to mourn?

  • 1. Accept the reality of the deathYou will come to accept the death intellectually with your mind. Only over time, will you come to fully accept it with your heart.

    It make take weeks, months to really accept the fact that the person is gone.THIS is NORMAL.

  • What can we do to help accept the reality of a death?

  • 2. Let yourself feel the pain of the loss.You will probably need to dose yourself.

    You will need to let just a little in at a time.

    Avoiding is easier than confronting but confronting tames it.

  • 3. Remember the person who diedDeath ends a life, not a relationship. MorrieNever let anyone try to take away your memories.Remembering the past makes hoping for the future.

  • Remember the person who died helps!Memory box full of itemsLook at it when you feel the need

    Brainstorm a list of characteristics or memories of the person who died. Write as fast as you can for 10 minutes, then put it away and look at it again, another day.

  • 4. Develop a new self-identityThe person who died was a part of your identity.Son, daughter, classmate, friend, teammate

    The way you defined yourself and the way society defines you has changed.

    Re-anchor yourself!!! This is hard

  • 5. Search for MeaningWhy do people die?What happens to people after they die?Why am I still alive?

    These are hard questions ask adults that you care about and trust.

    Listen you do not need to agree, but listen

  • 6. Let others help you, now and always.

    Grief isnt an on your own kind of deal.

    Talk to adults, join a support group, email thoughts and feelings you dont have to look at every day.

  • So, what am I going to do to take care of myself?ExerciseSleep 8 hoursShower, brush teethEat well avoid sugar, high fatMassageTalk to othersPamper yourself

    Bill of the Rights for the Bereaved.