EPIP and Lupita Gonzalez Microaggressions Webinar

MICROAGRESSIONS’ EFFECT ON YOU & SELF CARE TOOLBOX

EPIP Webinar January 20, 2016 EPIP Host: Biz Ghormley Presenters: Lupita González

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Lupita González, MS, CPC

MICROAGGRESSIONS’ EFFECT ON YOU Set Your Healing and Self Care Toolbox

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Lupita’s 3 Main Specialties

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EQUITY & INCLUSION

Inclusion Auditing

Board Diversification

Anti Oppression

Training Equitable Internal Systems

Multicultural Coaching

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LEADERSHIP DEVELOPMENT

EXECUTIVE COACHING

TEAM EFFECTIVENESS

BOARD DEVELOPMENT

TALENT DEVELOPMENT

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ORGANIZATIONAL DEVELOPMENT

Organizational Assessment

Strategic Planning

Change Management

Succession Planning

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Setting the Context

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Who’s on the Call? Identity & Intersectionality

!  Social Identities regarding: " Race " Gender " Ethnicity " Sexual Orientation " Gender Identity " Ability " Age " Religion

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Overview

!  Defining Microaggression !  The State of Microaggressions in the U.S. !  The Effects of Microaggressions !  Tools to Heal and Shield !  Microaggression Interventions !  Q&A

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History of “Microaggression,” the Term

!  Insults and dismissals by non African Americans toward African Americans

1970, Harvard University Professor Chester Pierce

!  Similar insults directed at women 1973, MIT Economist Mary Rowe

!  Casual degradation of any socially marginalized group present day

!  “The new face of racism” !  2007, Sue, Bucceri, Lin, Nadal, and Torino (social scientists)

Sources: Derald Wing Sue (2010). Microaggressions in Everyday Life: Race, Gender, and Sexual Orientation. Wiley.pp xvi Sue, D., et al. (2007). Racial Microaggressions in Everyday Life: Implications for Clinical Practice. American Psychologist, 62(4) 271-286. © Lupita González

Microaggressions

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Microaggressions Explained

Position the dominant culture as normal and the other group as not.

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Three Kinds of Microaggressions

!  Microassault – verbal attack, name calling, avoidant behavior or purposeful discriminatory actions

!  Microinsult – an unconscious insult demeaning a marginalized person’s heritage or identity

!  Microinvalidation – communications that exclude, negate, or nullify a marginalized person’s thoughts, feelings or experiential reality

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Microassault Examples

“Oh, Mami, I’d like to tap that!”

Being followed by a harasser for blocks, and blocks.

“You’re a f**king lesbian?! What a damn shame, bi**ch!”

*Explicit, conscious and deliberate © Lupita González


#  Microassault – verbal attack, name calling, avoidant behavior or purposeful discriminatory actions

!  Microinsult – an unconscious insult demeaning a marginalized person’s heritage or identity


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Microinsults

Microinsults are commonly subtle, ambiguous, and are presented as compliments.

Don’t FEEL like compliments at all.

“Sometimes I think I’m making things up!” – Juan, on experiencing microaggressions

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Microinsults Examples

“You’re Mexican?! But you seem so… educated and American!”

“You’re Mexican?! But you don’t look Mexican! You’re beautiful!”

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#  Microinsult – an unconscious insult demeaning a marginalized person’s heritage or identity


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Microinvalidations Examples

Situations when you are in a board room, and your comments go unheard.

When colleagues of dominant culture take your ideas, work or IP, and get all the credit.

“Nice to meet you. What’s your name?” he said. “Lupita,” I said. He said, “Oh. (pause) How bout I just call you Libby?”

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#  Microinsult – an unconscious insult demeaning a marginalized person’s heritage or identity

#  Microinvalidation – communications that exclude, negate, or nullify a marginalized person’s thoughts, feelings or experiential reality

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“Microaggressable” themes:

!  Sexual objectification !  Dehumanization !  Second-class citizenship !  Racist and/or Sexist language !  Assumptions of inferiority !  Denial of sexism and/or racism !  Traditional gender role assumptions or racial stereotypes !  Social invisibility !  Denial of individual sexism and/or racism !  Sexist and/or racist jokes

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Identity & Intersectionality

!  Social Identities regarding: " Race " Gender " Ethnicity " Sexual Orientation " Gender Identity " Ability " Age " Religion

*The more marginalized groups you identify with or are a part of is proportional to number and kinds of microaggressions for which you’ll be targeted.

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Microaggressions in the Media

“When we’re talking about diversity, you do it in the casting of the film, not in the casting of the show.”

– Matt Damon speaking over Effie Brown, Project Greenlight

“Who gave this guy his green card!” – Sean Penn awarding González Iñárritu, 2015 Oscars

“The first mainstream African-American who is articulate and bright and clean and a nice looking guy.”

– Joe Biden of Barack Obama, 2008 presidential elections © Lupita González

Overview

#  Defining Microaggression !  The State of Microaggressions in the U.S. !  The Effects of Microaggressions !  Tools to Heal and Shield !  Microaggression Interventions !  Q&A

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The State of Microaggressions in the U.S.

Number of People Counted in the Last U.S. Census: 322,851,770

Avg of 10 microaggressions monthly = 3,228,517,700

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People Microaggressions

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Overview

#  Defining Microaggression #  Microaggressions in the U.S. !  The Effects of Microaggressions !  Tools to Heal and Shield !  Microaggression Interventions !  Q&A

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Effects of Microaggressions on the Recipient

!  Immediate Effect " Anger " Frustration " Exhaustion

Source: Sue, D., Capodilupo, C.M., & Holder, A.M.B. (2008) Racial microaggressions in the life experience of black Americans. Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, 39, 329-336.

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Social Pain & Physical Pain

Source: Eisenberger et al, 2003, Science; Eisenberger et al., 2004 © Lupita González

Social Pain & Physical Pain

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What is the Cost of Microaggressions to the Giver?

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Effects of Microaggressions on the Recipient

!  Cumulative Effect " Diminished Self Confidence " Poor Self Image " Depression " Anxiety " Trauma

Source: Sue, D., Capodilupo, C.M., & Holder, A.M.B. (2008) Racial microaggressions in the life experience of black Americans. Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, 39, 329-336. © Lupita González

The State of Microaggressions in the U.S. a.k.a Estimate of Trauma Production by MAs, U.S.

Number of People Counted in the Last U.S. Census: 322,851,770

Avg of 10 microaggressions monthly = 3,228,517,700

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People Microaggressions

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Overview

#  Defining Microaggression #  The State of Microaggressions in the U.S. #  The Effects of Microaggressions !  Tools to Heal and Shield !  Microaggression Interventions !  Q&A

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Tools to Heal and Shield Self – Step 1

Acknowledge that the microaggression happened!

Trust your intuition. If you feel uncomfortable or hurt. You’re uncomfortable. You’re hurt.

Trust Your Body Intelligence. You’re not crazy or making things up! ☺

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Tools to Heal and Shield Self – Step 2

“You Are Powerful.

It is not what happens to you but what you do with it.”

Obstacles … Creativity Suffering … Empathy Setbacks … Wisdom Trauma … Post Traumatic Growth

Source: Norman Rosenthal, Gifts of Adversity. © Lupita González

Tools to Heal and Shield Self - Step 3

!  Preserve Your Spirit "  Reach Out for Help, Vent, Tell a Friend. "  Express Yourself! "  Indulge in Fun "  Journal

!  Preserve Your Mind "  Meditate "  Learn New Things "  Find and Practice Your Flow!

!  Preserve Your Body "  Strengthen Your Circadian Rhythms, Get Sleep! "  Regular Healthy Meals "  Exercise

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!  Preserve Your Spirit "  Reach Out for Help, Vent, or Tell a Friend. "  Express Yourself! "  Indulge in Fun "  Journal



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Overview

#  Defining Microaggression #  The State of Microaggressions in the U.S. #  The Effects of Microaggressions #  Tools to Heal and Shield !  Microaggression Interventions !  Q&A

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Microaggression Interventions

!  Ask Open Ended Questions "  He’s acting like a sissy. "  How’s he acting? And why is that sissy?

!  Find out the Experience Motivating the Comment "  Why can’t they just speak English around here? "  It must be hard not to understand what people are saying around you.

!  Use Exaggerated Humor to Highlight What’s Going on "  That movie is so gay! "  That movie is attracted to other movies? I didn’t know that was possible!

!  Join the Person "  She got that award because she’s black and female. "  You know, I hear that a lot. I’ve been trying to figure out why we seem

to think when a black woman gets recognized it must be because of diversity stuff rather than that she earned it.

Source: Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee (http;://tiny.cc/rosettalee) © Lupita González

Lupita’s Preferred MAs Interventions

!  MicroAssaults " Stay calm and Report to Highest Ups! " Form Your Team of Allies " Start a Movement!

!  MicroInsults " Call It Out. Name it.

!  MicroInvalidations " Do it in a manner in which they can’t ignore you.

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When You Are Told That You Said or Delivered a Microaggression !  I really appreciate you telling me this. I’m really sorry.

!  I’m so embarrassed and sorry that I did that.

!  I’m so sorry. I’m going to take some time and reflect on this.

!  Man, that was pretty insensitive and stupid of me. I’m so sorry.

!  My bad. I’m making a note in my head not to think or behave like this cuz it’s uncool.

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Ck these out:

!  Websites: !  The Microaggressions Project !  Tool for Recognizing Microaggressions, Definitions

!  Books: !  Microaggressions in Everyday Life: Race, Gender, and Sexual Orientation by Dr.

Derald Wing Sue !  Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

!  Videos: !  Brene Brown on Empathy !  How to Tell Someone They Sound Racist by Jay Smooth

!  Articles: !  The Neuroscience of Social Pain, Psychology Today !  Can Meditation Make Someone More Compassionate? Psychology Today

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