En Clair Summer 2015

The Quarterly Newsletter with Soul

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Editors Note....   Hi  again!!  What  an  overwhelming  and  amazingly  positive  response  to  the  7irst  edition  of  En  Clair!  Thank  you,  I  am  so  grateful  for  the  thought,  effort  and  time  so  many  of  you  have  put  into  expressing  your  gratitude  through  the  numerous  emails  and  messages  that  I  have  received  over  the  past  couple  of  months.     It  has  been  not  only  validating  but  has  served  as  inspiration  as  I  develop  my  own  voice  through  the  written  word.  I  thoroughly  enjoyed  the  whole  process  and  anticipate  that  with  practice  and  nurturing,  as  with  anything  in  our  lives  it  will  become  more  natural,  7luid  and  stronger  in  time.     I  trust  that  for  the  most  part,  you  all  have  had  a  break  from  the  monotony  over  the  Christmas  and  New  Year  period  and  hope  the  bringing  in  of  the  New  Year  also  saw  you  7ill  your  cup  with  a  fresh  vitality  so  you  are  ready  to  face  the  year  with  energy  abound.     I  raise  my  hand  and  join  with  those  who  are  not  quite  feeling  abuzz  with  vibrance!  Just  go  with  it  for  the  time  being  and  remember  that  it  will  pass.  Be  sure  to  read  the  article  on  Summer  Storms  page  7!       I  must  apologise  for  the  major  delay  in  releasing  this  edition!  It  has  been  a  hectic  time  in  which  much  has  unfolded  and  juggling  everything  all  of  the  time  is  not  always  possible!

   I  know  this  will  ring  very  true  for  so  many  of  you  as  this  has  been  quite  an  unsettling  and  challenging  time  for  many  over  the  last  12  months.  Most  people  who  I  spoke  to  were  very  grateful  to  see  the  back  of  2014.  The  main  theme  that  I  have  seen  arise  in  the  past  few  months  has  been  one  of  individuals  developing  a  deeper  sense  of  inner  strength  through  listening  to  and  following  their  inner  truth.  This  can  be  seen  with  so  many  of  us  who  are  being  tested  in  our  beliefs  and  our  lives  and  for  some  it  seems  to  be  coming  from  absolutely  every  angle  at  the  same  time.     Inner  strength  exists  within  you  it  never  leaves,  it  is  with  you  at  all  times.  Recently  though  there  has  been    a  deepening  of  awareness  of  the  limitlessness  of  your  individual  inner  authority  and  wisdom.     Cultivate  your  inner  strength  and  you  will  get  through  the  changes  that  have  been  unfolding  within  you  and  all  around  you,  know  this  is  truth  and  hold  it  deep  within  your  heart.     In  the  meantime,  open  up  to  those  who  you  love  and  who  love  you  and  ask  for  the  help  you  need.  Know  that  there  is  no  shame  in  reaching  out,  it  is  an  absolute  sign  of  strength.  Shower  yourself  with  the  same  love,  compassion  and  forgiveness  that  you  deserve  and  so  readily  give  to  others.     Redirect  your  mental  energy  to  think  positively,  even  if  it  means  having  little  notes  set  for  yourself  on  your  phone.     Do  something  to  help  your  spirit  sing  and  support  yourself  to  feel  good  about  yourself.  Go  out  and  have  a  good  laugh  with  a  friend  or  even  watch  a  funny  movie  to  get  you  giggling.  Love  and  laughter  are  the  best  medicine  and  they  are  free!

  Get  your  body  moving  doing  something  that  you  love,  dance  in  the  kitchen  or  take  a  walk  at  the  beach.     Constantly  re-­‐focusing  on  the  positive  will  help  to  build  your  energy  reserves.  It  will  get  you  out  of  the  doldrums  and  actually  get  things  moving  in  a  more  positive  direction.  You  will  be  able  to  experience  more  motivation  and  success  when  you  are  able  to  strike  the  balance  right.     Through  focusing  on  the  positives  in  life,  on  what  gives  us  joy  and  pleasure,  what  makes  us  feel  good  we  divert  our  attention  from  any  perceived  source  of  the  discomfort/pain.  We  empower  ourselves  instead  of  depleting  ourselves.  A  simple  choice  that  we  all  have  the  power  to  make  bringing  profound  shifts.   Feeling  discomfort  and  pain  are  normal  human  experiences,  so  know  that  you  are  not  alone,  you  are  being  supported  in  your  life  and  that  trying  times  bring  the  greatest  gifts  to  us,  be  patient  and  continue  to  seek  out  the  silver  lining.       You  can  choose  to  live  the  life  that  you  want  to  live,  the  life  that  you  deserve  but  hold  back  from.  Let  go  of  all  that  is  holding  you  back  and  take  some  little  steps  in  the  direction  of  your  dreams.  Nurture  them  and  watch  them  grow.   I  invite  you  to  come  along  for  the  ride  with  me  as  we  continue  to  enjoy  the  season  of  Summer!!  Even  if  you  are  already  back  in  full  swing  make  sure  to  set  some  time  aside  for  the  lighter  side  of  life,  share  your  smile  and  some  laughter  today  with  those  around  you.  You  might  just  lift  them  up  a  bit  and  it  wont  cost  you  a  cent.  

Angelette

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EN CLAIR

Create Space...

Create Balance...

Life is undoubtedly full of extremes but there is a centre, a balancing point. Ultimately it is up to us individually to prioritize what is important to us in our lives. To also know our own personal limitations and boundaries, to find the equilibrium within ourselves. When we are able to find that centre point within ourselves, we find ourselves walking the middle path.

In life though sometimes things are not as simple as they seem on paper and in theory as the demands,

responsibilities and peripheral noise of the physical world going on about us finding the balance is nothing short of a challenge. In fact at times it can become an illusive and seemingly insurmountable and unachievable task.

So wouldn’t it be so much easier if we could just pack up and hide ourselves away in a mountain and just turn our back on everything and everyone who didn’t please us?? Yes, possibly it would be easier but is this really the answer?

Our world is getting faster and louder with more ways than ever before to grab at our time and attention. Our phones are now computers which go ping and buzz in the night, strapped to us perpetually so we are available and reachable, traceable at every moment. We have so many more distractions to fill our time all of which scream for our attention that it is easy to loose all sight of finding the balance within ourselves when we live in such an externally focused world.

It is understandable that we negate and deny our needs or entrust our needs to be filled by another, absconding from our true responsibility as we rush about trying to do it all... in an attempt to have it all.. at some point we have to ask ourselves “What for?”

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Dear Abusive Car Park Stranger Page 6

spiritual guidance and insights to inspire and uplift

GOT BALANCE??Learn to recognize

your triggers so

you can maintain a

greater sense of balance within

yourself and your life.

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Harmful or Helpful?? Resolutions

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many people

as we start the new year. So is the

Summer Storms Nature is our greatest teacher of ourselves.Page 6, continues page 7.

EDITION 2Summer ISSUE: 2015

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For years I deluded myself. Ignorantly, I believed that balance would be achieved through the rearranging of external circumstances and situations. I have to admit that I must be a slow learner as for much of my life I manipulated my external world in an effort to find the balance that I was seeking to attain.

Seriously though, please take my word for it that this is an exhausting and pointless pursuit which is akin to choosing to use a colander as a life-raft.

It’s just not going to work as a sustainable solution!!

Slowly I have learnt, very slowly in fact and now I have more of an awareness of when I am in balance. Essentially for me it has been about making the time and space available to listen within.

I know what my centre feels like and for me it is a definite feeling of calm, a deep sense of peace within myself, an unshakeable grounded-ness. I can maintain it within most situations but on occasion, I still go spinning off centre. I know what this feels like too. It is a scary blur, a whirling, falling feeling of not knowing what is up and what is down. Confused and overwhelmed would be the best words to describe my state of mind when I am not centered.

We all have a different view, a different concept of what balance means for us in the context of our lives. As one person’s balance point could possibly be another person’s breaking point. It is an interesting observation and I suppose one that is part of the human condition that we quite often tend to overlook. I see it as being part of the acceptance of our individuality, our character, that line that we draw in defining you as you and me as me. As even though we are made of the same stuff, we are all individuals each of us unique.

We must firstly have awareness of what our own sense of balance feels like. We will thereby be able to sense when it is that we are no longer feeling in this state of balance and in knowing these things we are able to gather some very important information about ourselves. With practice we are able to spend most of our time in that space of internal balance.

Firstly we can anticipate what situations may trigger us and send us off center and by knowing this information we can be more aware of our thoughts and feelings during these moments. With practice, this enables us to bring our awareness back to a central point faster. So instead of something or someone setting you off and it lasting for a whole day, you are more likely to be able to catch yourself from staying in that energy or from it affecting you at all.

So, how can I find my sense of internal balance?

It definitely requires patience and persistence as it is a process of mapping your own mind. Learning how our thoughts, behaviors and feelings can spin us off our axis. Unlearning any of the negative coping mechanisms that we may have been using without any

real consciousness and then relearning a new way to function in the same or similar situations. We know our triggers that send us spiraling and we know what we can do for ourselves to dig ourselves out.

In theory on paper this sounds like a very simple and straightforward concept and it is but, like most things it is just a jumble of useless words unless action is taken and it is all put into practice.

Practice means we give it our best but we can expect to make some mistakes, we will sometimes get it wrong, we may also fall back into our old and comfortable habits that have seen us through those tough times or uncomfortable situations for so many years. Keep in mind though, all of that is normal. It also means that we keep moving forward and don’t allow any setbacks to hurl us into self destructive behaviors. Never ever give up on yourself.

I have to say that in my perspective it is a part of everyone’s personal journey. In a world where we are spoilt for choice to the extent of being overloaded with information, it is especially so in the realm of self help and personal development. There are so many different schools of thought, so many gurus, so many individuals all claiming to know many presenting conflicting advice.

My path towards balance was made possible through meditation. This does not mean that it is by any means the ONLY path as there are many. Neither does it make it the best path. It is merely the path that I chose and I have found success. It has enabled me to open up a sacred space within myself for myself. Through it I have found a clarity that has cascaded into all other areas of my life.

At all times, remember that there is no “right” path, whatever works for you as an individual is the right path for you and to find what works, it is sometimes necessary to try a few things that don’t work. There is no race, there is no finish line so there is no need to fret. Nothing is ever a waste just as nothing of value is ever lost.

Creating balance within opens up a doorway to a way of living that you may not have thought possible. When we have balance within our external environment naturally follows suit. So give yourself some time and some space to invest in yourself, you will thank yourself for it. I promise. S

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!It is still early in the New Year and as with every passing year there has been a whole lot of talk about it. I have heard and read so many different people encouraging their own version of the ultimate plan for the ultimate success plan, of how you can find your perfect existence, and create your perfect life.

! It has actually got me thinking about this strange but very popular tradition. For years I have tried many methods, from resolution lists, to elaborately set out time maps, to personal contracts, vision boards and collages and guess what the main theme of all of these annual year maps are? They have all depicted what I believed that I lacked in a personal or physical sense and the purpose to fix said shortcomings.

Mostly focused on material goals like loosing 10kg (which I could still do with) or renovating the house (yep, I should get that happening...) Cutting addictions Coffee, cigarettes and sugar... (OK,/ok I know) Exercising more (Enough already!) Getting out more socially (OK stop it I have had enough!!)

I’m sure that you get the picture! Resolutions are about giving ourselves a direction for the year but more often than not they become a measuring gauge of our self dissatisfaction. An act of self abuse camouflaged as an honest attempt at self improvement.

A list of self perceived failings and shortfalls which imply that last year wasn’t good enough and maybe I am not good enough. A set of goals that will make me more like I think I should be and if I don’t measure up to all of my expectations I will feel guilty, repeating the whole process year after year.

The interesting thing is that all of these things are focusing our attention on how it is that we are not satisfied with ourselves and how it is that we are not able to accept ourselves and our life. It’s a little like squeezing a zit, you are guaranteed to be left with a mark larger and more noticeable that the initial problem, but how often do we go ahead and squeeze anyway.

These resolutions all leave me feeling somewhat discouraged and with a bit of a bitter taste in my mouth. Because in reality would I necessarily be a better person for loosing 10kg? No not at all, it doesn’t make an ounce of difference to who I am as a person. !Also in my experience even the most well intentioned of us with our ‘hit list‘ to start the year can so quickly run out of steam when the reality of our life kicks in and takes hold and somehow all of the well devised plans begin to deteriorate and quickly fade into the background.

You also find that once you find one thing that is unsatisfactory, there are ten or fifty other things that quickly join the list. We may think that we are doing our work by trying to improve but when we start picking out the faults and highlighting them we are not giving due attention to how far we have come. As a recovering perfectionist I am well versed in being my own best critic, but isn’t it time that we looked at it from a different perspective?

Now although I know that it sounds like I am contradicting myself, I am not against goals in any way and I think we all need a good boost of motivation from time to time. Tell me though, what harm would be done should we nurture ourselves a little more by accepting where it is that we are? What if we spent less time trying to improve and build

on ourselves and more time just learning to accept and what if we were to show ourselves a little more love and compassion.If we whip ourselves do we get to our destination any faster or do we just miss out on the gifts along the way?

This year for the very first time I have decided to do away with a New Years Resolution entirely. Initially I resisted the idea but after the panic subsided I realized that I still have dreams that I am working towards, I have a direction and a purpose but I am doing things a little differently.

This year, my dreams are set in my heart and not on paper and many of them cannot be achieved within the short space of a year. None of them have a used by or a best before date. I know that they will come into being when the time is right.

I have let go of tormenting and forcing myself into making things happen as I think they should happen and am allowing things to unfold as they are meant to. I must admit that being quite a control freak at times, this whole process has started off quite confronting! With practice there has been some improvement and already I am finding myself being more flexible, less stressed and actually more able to go with any uncertainties that life throws my way.

Life as they say is all about the journey not the destination. So often we get it all around the wrong way focussing too much on the destination and miss out on the entire journey. Or we spend so much time planning our ultimate journey that we miss the one available to us. If nothing else, make the promise to yourself to enjoy your journey for the year of 2015 and allow it to be your best year yet. You deserve it. P

2015..... Resolutions or no resolutions....

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Dear Mr Aggressive Abusive,

I wasn’t expecting to meet you. I didn’t wake up this morning with the knowledge that we were going to cross paths but I am grateful that we did. For if it wasn’t for you, I wouldn’t have been able to see how far I have come.

In my heart I know it was not my intention to set you off into a fit of rage. I am sorry that is what you choose to believe to be true. It saddens me that the pain you carry is so great that you avoid it by projecting your pain onto others. Because we all know that hurt people hurt people. In your case maybe anger was your chosen avenue to express your hurt. !

I have no idea of the burden you carry from the past or what is currently going on in your life to make you feel that verbally abusing anyone is acceptable. That is all none of my business unless you are sitting in front of me for a reading.

But don’t you dare for a second pretend that I caused your anger or your pain for that matter. I don’t care who you are. Those wounds that you are carrying lay far deeper and it is from those you are running. Those very wounds are ruling your whole life experience, colouring your perspective and creating your reality.

I was minding my own business as I stood beside my car on the phone with my own child seated in air conditioned comfort.

Mr Aggressive, unless you are a master at telepathy or are highly attuned to the spirit world then I am assured that you had no idea of the motivations behind my actions. That my phone conversation was not to be overheard by small ears, that I too have stuff to deal with in my life and if it so happens that it’s standing outside of my parked

running car when one of these occasions occurs then that is where it is.

I apologize for my ignorance to the carpark etiquette that exists in your mind. I do not own a copy of your rulebook to life and was actually not even aware that rules exist about the length of time I was permitted to park for, nor that once you approach your car, there is a specific time allocation before you vacate said parking space. In fact I was not aware that I was under any obligation to you what-so-ever.

Because in reality, I am not. I was for you just a convenient target to attempt to dump some of your hurt. An object who did not comply with your rules but instead stood up to your verbal tirade and fought back for what I believed in.

It was your expectations of my behaviour and not my behaviour which set you off. I feel for you and the pain you carry. I feel for your family as with so much anger there can not be much space left to experience joy in your home. The young child who witnessed your outburst and your wife sitting in the passenger seat experience living in that energy permanently but hopefully one day they too will stand up for what they believe in. You may just be one of their greatest teachers.

I can see you Mr Aggressive, in all of your colours, even though our interaction was less than five minutes in duration. I can see you. I find it challenging to keep a straight face when I am presented with the child within an adult who is having a tantrum. Because you don’t see the child, you see the grown up who just hasn’t yet grown up.

Luckily for me I have kids and I know that sometimes you don’t give them what they want. They don’t like it and they buck back but sometimes not getting what you want gives you what you need in life. So it is my hope that you can take what you need from that experience today to help you on your path.

I thank you for the opportunity to stand up for myself, for showing me that I believe in myself. That although less than half your size in stature, my spirit still shone in its strength. I haven’t done this much in my life, choosing to play small instead, shrinking myself into the shadows and playing dead. But something has been changing within me and I’m not playing small anymore, I am no ones victim. I have a voice and I’m not as little as I look.

I didn’t play into your game, I didn’t let you be my bully. I didn’t play your victim. Mr Aggressive, You gave me a wonderful gift today and I am grateful.

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SummerStorm!! ! ! ! !! ! !

Growing up with Queensland summers fills my mind with memories of mangoes, melons, beaches and zooper doopers but the smell of an impending afternoon thunderstorm transports me instantly to my childhood faster than anything else. ! ! The walk home from primary school was a lone adventure everyday. Passing the “haunted” timber shack always shot my imagination into overdrive and I would scale the school fence to trespass the overgrown yard, weeds towering over my head as I would to try and peek into the dusty boarded up windows. Searching for clues to the secrets that the walls kept. ! During the long, hot summers, every afternoon walk was accompanied by the rolling in of the storm clouds. I would smell it long before I would see it, metallic and earthy, a promise of imminent rain. The beauty and magnitude of the green/grey/black clouds as they rolled over each other, blanketing the sky with an eerie luminescence. Blocking out the sun’s blistering heat in their eagerness to share their nurturing bounty. So quickly the afternoon was transformed into a mystical vortex where time slowed down. The distant grumbles which slowly grew near accompanied with the subtle shakes of the solid earth underfoot and the spectacular light show streaking across the blackened sky. The first few drops of rain, so large and cool they stung at your face and arms. ! It was the buildup before the storm that has always been a most sacred time, I can’t help but stop to take it in. There is an electricity, an excitability in the air. Every cell and pore of my being can feel it, even the birds all become more active, more vocal and frantic as they take their perch and then all go still and silent just before it lets go.

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The anticipation of the brief moment during a storm where you know that the entire storm is encompassing you. As far as you can see, only heavy dark clouds span the horizon and the noise of the thunder begins to shake your very being, almost as if you are at the very epicenter. It is in this moment I have always felt an unmistakable and awe inspiring stillness within the turmoil. An experience completely beyond words and vision but centered within the realm of feeling. ! There is an overwhelming sense of vulnerability when faced with the raw and unleashed unpredictable true power of Mother Nature. A reminder of our utter insignificance and our complete dependance upon her. She shows me my smallness in the face of her grandness but also my own grandness in her small gifts and offerings. ! She is so destructively and passionately powerful yet so nurturing and gentle in her expression. A paradox unto herself, exquisitely and unmistakably beautiful. From the destructive capabilities of the wind, the hail, the lightning and the rain, there is born life and peace again presides. ! The world feels cleaner, fresher and more alive, infused with a boost of life giving energy. A new zing in the air that has no equal which leaves the earth nourished and fertile, abuzz with hope of the new growth which will emerge

from the chaos and destruction. How alike these storms of nature are to the storms we all face in our lives! The buildup, the release and the new growth all steps within a cycle. ! ! I’m not talking about the teacup storms or the little bumps in the road but the true storms of life which come and bring with them drastic changes. The huge and oftentimes scary ones that turn your world upside down, whip the rug from beneath your feet and leave you bewildered, wondering where to step next or in fact if you even can. ! These storms of life are ones that we all will face at some time or another. Perhaps it is walking through these storms that makes us who we are or at the very least gives us the chance to be able to see who we are truthfully. Most storms bring the opportunity for change. ! The life storms build in a similar way to those spectacular Summer storms that Mother Nature shares with us. They can be instant, with little warning although sometimes they take time to brew. ! ! When in the midst of a life storm, we can be filled with an underlying anticipation and uncertainty of our future, commonly having more questions than answers. We may be aware that something is not quite “right” and then as a result we start to look deeper, asking ourselves and others questions to build on our knowledge and understanding. !

! During these times in our life it is important to distinguish between what is fact and what is fiction. What we have taken on as truth and what it is that our hearts tell us is truth. ! When finally the storm clouds open up to release their bounty we find ourselves more focused and have most of our questions answered, we begin to allow ourselves to express what we are experiencing within the situation. ! We find we have more clarity and may even be starting to feel a stronger sense of resolve and generally are well positioned to make an un- emotionally charged decision. This is the time where taking action is important and through gathering all of the knowledge together we are able to make a sound move in the right direction for us. ! We finally have the clarity and the impetus to effect change. Our lives are once again filled with hope, energy and new life. We step through our storm and are able to acknowledge the gifts that it brought. ! Please remember when you find yourself in the middle of one of life’s storms, that it will pass, that you are safe and at the end of every storm, there is a brilliant rainbow. The rainbow is you, the full spectrum of you and with every storm, it becomes bolder and more vivid and who knows, one day you might even get to uncover your very own pot of gold. u

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In Conclusion...Thank you for joining me for this Summer edition of En Clair. Again I have thoroughly enjoyed the whole process and I trust that you have been able to take something from my words that will be of use for you on your journey.

I am still open to any requests that you may have in regards to content that you would like to see within the newsletter, please send me an email with your details and suggestions. My website is currently undergoing construction and is

not operational although will be in the near future so I will keep you posted on how that project develops. I have a temporary email that I will be using until my new one is fully operational also. Current contact details are on the

bottom of this page and I apologize for the inconvenience that this may cause. The new webpage will streamline everything that is related to my healing work and will include everything in the one place!! something that I am looking forward to

immensely as it should make my business life easier! Next edition is due out in only a few short weeks so I had better get a wiggle on!! Until then all the best to you and your family.

Much love, Angelette xox

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