EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCEDOWNING, SKIP (2011), ON COURSE: STRATEGIES FOR CREATING SUCCESS IN COLLEGE AND IN LIFE.EMOTIONAL SELF-AWARENESSEMOTIONAL SELF-MANAGEMENTSOCIAL AWARENESSRELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENT

EMOTIONAL SELF-AWARENESS

Recognize own feelings and how they impact thoughts and behaviors.Having self-confidence.Recognizing blind spots.

EMOTIONAL SELF-MANAGEMENTAbility to handle change.Ability to resist impulsive thoughts and behaviors.Ability to take initiative. Having stick-to-itiveness.

SOCIAL AWARENESSHaving empathy.Having the ability to understand the emotional needs of others.How you work in a group.

RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENTAbility to develop and maintain relationships.Ability to communicate clearly and listen attentively.Ability to inspire.Ability to manage conflict.

KNOW YOUR EMOTIONSBuild a vocabulary of feelings.Be mindful of emotions as they are happening.Understand what is causing your emotion.Recognize the difference between a feeling and resulting action.

IDENTIFYING STRESS FEELINGS

Overwhelmed

Angry

Depressed

Anxious

GROUP DISCUSSION AND EI TEST

OVERWHELMED

Life is complicated, you are spread too thin

You may feel tightness in your jaw, back, neck, and/or lack sleep.

BEHAVIORS TO WARD OF FEELING OVERWHELMEDSeparate from external stressors.Say NOExerciseGet enough sleepList priorities and put in categories A: Important and Urgent Tasks (delegate, if possible)B: Important and Not Urgent Tasks (delegate, if possible)C: All unimportant Task (omit from list)

THOUGHTS TO WARD OFF FEELING OVERWHELMED

Elevate: Will this problem really matter a year from now?

Trust a positive outcome.

Take a mental Vacation.

ANGER AND RESENTMENTAsk this question, will I benefit from releasing my anger, or will it cost me dearly?

CHOOSE THESE BEHAVIORS TO LESSEN ANGER AND RESENTMENTSeparate. Get alone time to regain your ability to make rational choices.Exercise.Relax.Journal.Channel your anger into positive action.

SHRINKING ANGER AND RESENTMENT BY THINKINGReframe. Look at the problem from a different perspective.Distract yourself. Watch a funny movie, read an uplifting book.Identify the hurt.Forgive. Not necessarily because the person deserves forgiveness, but because letting go of the anger will help you to move on.

FEAR AND ANXIETY

Gives our bodies a message that we are in danger. FLIGHT vs. FIGHT!

May feel shallow breathing, increased pulse rate, and butterflies in the stomach.

BEHAVIORS TO LESSEN TEST ANXIETY.

Prepare thoroughly. Confidence will decrease anxiety.

Relax.

Breathe deeply.

THOUGHTS TO DEBUNK FEAR AND ANXIETYDetach. Visualize SUCCESS!Assume the best.Face the fear. Develop and repeat your affirmation.

SADNESS AND DEPRESSIONLoss of something we care deeply for.

May feel low energy, constant fatigue, and lack of positive will to perform meaningful tasks.

POSITIVE BEHAVIORS IN RESPONSE TO SADNESS AND DEPRESSIONDo something toward your goals.Exercise.Listen to uplifting music.Laugh.Breathe deeply.Help others in need.Journal.Socialize with friends and loved ones.

POSITIVE THOUGHTS TO WARD OFF SADNESS AND DEPRESSIONDispute pessimistic beliefs.Distract yourself.Focus on the positive: Identify your blessings.Find the opportunity in the problem.Remind your self, that This too, shall pass.Identify others who may have more to be sad or depressed about.

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CHOOSE YOUR ATTITUDE

Do you manage your emotions, or do they manage you?

CREATING FLOW

What are you doing when you feel the most happy to be alive- when you become so absorbed that time seems to disappear?

BELIEVING IN YOURSELF Nurture yourself physically.Eat right.Exercise.Avoid habits that harm your body.Get enough sleep.Have regular check-ups.Play

BELIEVING IN YOURSELFNurture yourself mentallyUse positive self-talk.Develop a positive affirmation.Read uplifting books.Visualize your success.Listen to uplifting music.Teach someone else.

BELIEVING IN YOURSELFNurture yourself emotionallyTreat yourself with compassionFeel your feelingsShare your feeling with a friendWrite about your feelings in your journalSee an uplifting and inspiring movieSpend time with loved onesListen to inspiring musicDo something special for yourselfRemind yourself, that strong feelings will pass.Mistakes do not define who you are- there are growth opportunities.

LETS BE MORE COMPASSIONATE ON OTHERS