Effective Listnening
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InterpersonalInterpersonal
ConversationsConversations ConversationsConversations
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ConversationsConversations
• A locally managed sequential interchange of thoughts and feelings between two or more people. Interactive and extemporaneous.
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Conversations (cont’d)Conversations (cont’d)• Locally managed: only those involved
in the conversation determine the topic.
• Sequentially organized: have openings, middles, and closes.
• Interactive: Involve at least two people.
• Largely extemporaneous: Participants have not prepared or memorized what they will be saying.
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Spontaneous interactions between people, with no planned agenda
Conversational episodes in which at least one participant has a communication goal
Casual Casual SocialSocial ConversationsConversations
Pragmatic Pragmatic Problem- Problem- Consideration Consideration ConversationsConversations
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Pragmatic Problem-Pragmatic Problem-Consideration ConversationsConsideration Conversations
Skippinga stage
may provide
lesssatisfaction
1. Greeting and small talk
2. Topic introduction and statement of need for discussion
3. Information exchange and processing
4. Summarizing decisions and clarifying next steps
5. Formal closing
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RulesRules
A prescription that indicates what behaviors are required, preferred, or prohibited in certain contexts
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Examples of Examples of Communication RulesCommunication Rules
• If your mouth is full of food, then you must not talk.
• If someone is talking, then you must not interrupt.
• If you are being spoken to, you should direct your gaze to the speaker.
• If you can’t say something nice, then you don’t say anything at all.
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Discuss what communication rules you think are important.
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Cooperative PrincipleCooperative Principle
Conversations will be satisfying when the contributions made by conversationalists are in line with the purpose of the conversation.
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Conversation MaximsConversation MaximsQualityTruthful
information
QuantityNot too
much or too little
RelevancyRelated to the topic
Manner Specific and
organized
MoralityMeet
moral/ethical guidelines
PolitenessBe
courteous
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Effective Effective ConversationalistConversationalist
• Present quality information.• Provide free information to enable
others to talk.• Ask questions that are likely to motivate
responses.• Credit sources.• Practice turn-taking.• Maintain conversational coherence.• Practice politeness.
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PolitenessPoliteness• Politeness -- relating to others in ways that
meet their need to be appreciated.• Positive face needs– desire to be
appreciated and approved, liked and honored.
• Negative face needs – desire to be free from imposition or intrusion.
• Face-threatening acts (FTAs) – behavior that fails to meet positive or negative face needs
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Engage in Ethical Engage in Ethical DialogueDialogue
• Authenticity - direct, honest, straightforward information and feelings
• Empathy – understanding another’s point of view (without giving up yours)
• Confirmation – affirming others as unique individuals (does not imply approving of their behaviors)
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Engage in Ethical Engage in Ethical Dialogue Dialogue (continued)(continued)
• Presentness – taking time, avoiding distraction, being responsive, risking attachment
• Equality – treating conversational partners on the same level regardless of status differences
• Supportive climate – encourage participation by praising efforts
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Cultural VariationsCultural VariationsLow Context Cultures Include categorical
words such as certainly, absolutely
Relevant comments that are directly to the point
Speaking one’s mind Silence is seldom
good
High Context Cultures Include qualifiers
such as maybe, perhaps
Indirect, ambiguous and less relevant comments
Creating harmony Silence indicates
truthfulness, embarrassment, disagreement
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